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How do i ask her??
OK When I was about 14 my mom told me that when I wanted to go on birth control that all I had to do was ask her about it. Well its been over a year and I dont know how to bring it up. We're not really that cloce. She meant when I'm 'in love' and I want to do it with that special person. Well thats kinda not the deal rite now I'm not in love at all. I dont even have a bf. But I want to go on it .. how do I ask her ? I cant just bring it up out of nowhere..
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lol to be frank, being it up outta nowhere was actually my suggestion! it puts her at the spot and surprises her a little. but at least she knows how to answer the question.. =P -Rei
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Just tell her your cramps have been really bad lately and going on birth control has helped some of your friends a LOT, and you'd like to see if it'd help you too. It might not be completely HONEST, but it'll be easier than explaining going on it for sex when you don't have a boyfriend or anything.
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its a very sensitive subject.. SEX there we've sad it ..well even though u dont want to have sex and if u are single then why do u want to go on the pill? talk about it with ur mom remember parents are there for u...
..*Cassandra*..
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well gurl...i think you shouldnt confront your mom about it when you find someone you really want to do this with...someone you really care about...you should never lose your virginity to anyone that sooner or later you might regret...but when you do find someone...talk to your mom about it...and just be honest with her
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you from the future: "Hey mom remember that prosmise you made me like a year ago?"
your mama "What promise is that?"
you "the one about the birth control...
mom "oh do you think youre ready?
you "yes"
mom "ok then"
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Well,if you don't even have a bf,I wonder why it is you want to be on the pill.If it's a case of you want it for your skin,then just approach your mom with that,no problems.But I get a feeling you want to be on the pill "just in case".Personally I believe in being with someone you love and that it should be special when you are "with" someone.But,since I'm not here to preach,I would reccomend going to your mom when she's alone and when there's no interruptions(like TV or the phone or other people).Say something like "hey mom,you remember when you told me that I could come to you when I was ready to discuss going on birth control,I think it's time we talked about that." Maybe even do your homework on the pill,by going to places like www.plannedparenthood.com and getting as much info as possible about your options.That way,you are showing your mom some responsibility and maturity in this.If your mom made that statement to you,she obviously wants you to trust and confide in her.Perhaps this could be the chance for you guys to get closer,kind of a starting ground.If you still feel uneasy about it,leave me a message in my inbox and we can exchange SN's.I'd be more than happy to talk to you about this situation,and about any questions you have about the pill.I'm 20-yrs-old so you know! :)
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Umm..there is no reason to go on birth control if you havent had sex or isnt even thinking about it. Really!! Its just kinda an added hastle to take it. When your thinking about having sex that is when you should ask her about it, just casually say something about it! She'll get the hint!
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hey! i know exactly what you mean--its hard for you to tell your mom things when your not very close.. i know from experience, cause i'm not close with my mom either. its normal to be afraid-but if its really in your heart to do it.. then just gain confidence in yourself and sit down in private when no ones around and just say "mom i think its time for me to go on the pills" or something.. just let her know whats on your mind and she'll understand!
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juss tell her u want to go on it! u can tell her its for ur period too cuz birth control makes ur period better...juss tell her tho.
*jesikuh
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that could be kinda hard and even uncOmfOrtable..i kinda dOubt that ur mOm will put u on birth cOntrOl cause u dOnt have a bOyfriEnd, etCetC..i dont think u should like sit her down n make it like a big deal and have like "a talk" with her about it, cause then she will think that ur prolly gunna go and have sex, etcetc..so id just randOmly, in a TOTALLY casual way be like...hEy mOm i think i wanna be on birth cOntrOl..ofCoUrSe im nOt having sEx, but fOr sOme reaSon id feel alOt mOre cOmfOrtable being on it...say it like TOTALLY casual..and if she like freaks up...make a joke outta it and be like haha mom not like that, ill just feel more comfortable if im on it...i know thats hard to do, but i think thats the best way..
love kristin
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