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Due to assholes on the site and people who have no idea what the hell they are talking about I have left the site. Ahem, Dangernerd...Who likes to make assumptions about people when they do not know them ;) Then has brass balls to go search up whatever information he can gather so he has back fire to use whenever he feels like starting a little hissy fit. Let me remind those who read this, Dangernerd has a nasty tendency of using what you post on the site against you if you where to ever have a problem with someone on the site. Mind you, He likes to gather false information in a way that he thinks will benefit him in the long run. This site is run by someone who doesn't have class, Who likes to pigeon hole people. The same guy who supposedly is running an "ADVICE" column but somehow has pre-teens asking about sex and how to do sexual things to their "partners" this site is also filled with people giving advice that is NOT helpful or use full in any form rather than most encouraging the young ones. Well lets get to the bottom of it, This site is a laughing matter. Dangernerd is a joke and couldn't be a bigger clown ;)
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so my hair is reallly long and i'm think about cutting about 5 inches off and getting some layers.. i also want to color it, but i'm not sure to go lighter or darker. any suggestions?
here's a picture of me:
http://tinypic.com/r/2vtuyj9/4
thanks!
I think you would look good as a brunette, Also may do long layers more fuller in the front. :)
If you like curls, I think a perm would look good on you too.
Today I found out that my boyfriend of 6 months had broken up with me for some other whore. I asked who this lucky lady was and he would not reply. I went home from school early and crying my eyes out and in a way looking forward to my mom there to comfort me in this difficult time. but as i walked in the door i noticed my ex. boyfriends car parked out side, in exitement i was thinking he might be here to talk to me about "us" but when i looked around the house no one was home. so i was on my way to my room sadly because me and he had, had sex in there so many times, but as i walked in i saw my boyfriend and my mom having sex no i cant sleep in there any more.
Wow
I am very sorry to hear all this.
I can surely tell you that your boyfriend is not worth the time if he had gone as low as being with your mother or even seeing another person. If your boyfriend is underage than he can get in serious trouble and so can't your mother as having sex with a minor is statutory rape.
Obviously your mother had broken your trust, Your boyfriend also broke your trust. Not only is what your mother did was wrong but if he is a minor than it is clearly disgusting. As much as you are hurting right now realizing that he isn't worth your time is a step towards a healing process nobody who cheats, lies, disrespects someone in a relationship is worth the time. If you really want to get dirt on them, Than I would report it. If I were in your shoes...Mom or not I would report it again...not only is it wrong but what was your boyfriend including your mother thinking?! Take a deep breath, As much as things seem in the gutter it could be a lot worse. Try talking to your mother, Ask her why?..Tell her how it made you feel. If she even has any sympathy and respect for you at all than she will at least listen too you. However, I suggest talking to a close friend someone you know you can trust and won't turn their backs on you. A good mother would never even think of doing such a thing to hurt their own kid like that. I'm going to suggest seeing a therapist.
can someone have just a regular flu now or if u get the flu is it swine? is it reg flu season yet?
The flu shot is supposed to help prevent you from getting the flu and if you haven't had the flu shot yet than yes now would be the time to get it. However, some doctors are saying that the H1N1 flu shot could be more of a health risk than the swine flu itself.
You can watch the video here..
http://vactruth.com/2009/09/26/doctor-admits-vaccine-is-more-deadly-than-swine-flu-itself-will-not-give-it-to-his-kids/
so there's this guy who i like for almost 2 years now, he's indian and I just found out the other night that he's going to have an arranged marriage. The relationship we have is kind of weird, were not friends but we talk sometimes on msn or facebook. So this all started from grade 11 business class, i use to see him staring at me constantly and i always wondered why he would. Then i started noticing him and then i had a little crush on him. so i told him through e-mail that i liked him but he didn't believe me then he told me that he had a girlfriend. But even after he told me that, he would still stare at me in the hallways when i walked by, or in class or sometimes when i walk by him, he'll act like he doesn't see me until i look back to look at him, i see him looking back at me at the same time. I started asking people he knows if he had a girlfriend and they said no. So i thought it was just the easy way out of telling me that he doesn't like me. In March 2009, i started to get over him because i didn't see the point anymore. But then when prom came around, i noticed that he kept on staring at me for the whole night, even when i was dancing with other guys. Then finally i was by myself and i was standing near him and i felt him coming closer and closer to me and all of a sudden he grabbed me by the waist and we started dancing. While we were dancing, he folded his hand into mine. He also asked me to slow dance with him and while we were slow dancing; he kept rubbing my lower back and butt. From that night, i honestly thought he liked me back because i was the only girl he danced with that night and there were so many other girls he could have danced with, and plus i said that i wanted to atleast dance with him at prom because i would never see him again. so 2 days later my friend and him were talking on facebook and me and him dancing came up in the conversation and he told me friend that he didn't want to give me the wrong intentions so i left him an offline message saying that he didn't give me the wrong intentions and that i danced with other guys and that he wasn't the one who made my night(which was obviously a lie). so i felt bad about the message so then the next day at school i told him how i truly felt and he was smiling for the whole time. I thought everything would end from there but in mid summer, he sent me a "poke" and a message on facebook saying "what's up?".After that, we haven't spoken to eachother. so now that i know that he's going to have an arranged marriage, how do i get over him? and do you think he atleast felt something from what i just wrote? sorry it's so long, just had to get that out
If he is going to have an arranged marriage than I would start to think that maybe it'd be best to move on. Marriages that are arranged are ususally organized by a member of the family usually being the parents.
I found this on wiki...
Arranged marriages are usually seen in Indian and African cultures, and are usually decided by the parents or an older family member.
If he was staring at you then he probably finds you attractive but on the other hand if he is getting married than maybe it'd be best if you stayed friends.
So I did something to make my husband not trust me (FYI, I have been married for 10 years and am having a significant b-day soon; perhaps I am in mid-life crisis mode). Actually more than one thing, two things. (1) I had two flirtations on FACEBOOK; strictly 2-dimensional, but definitely behaviour inappropriate for a married woman. Got caught, with one, fessed up to the other in an effor to be truthful. Deactivated my FACEBOOK; that was 3 1/2 months ago. (2) I sent an e-mail to an ex of mine admitting some unresolved feelings and wondering if we ever could have made it together; my husband found this e-mail {yes, by poking thru my personal stuff}. I maintain that ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, and that these were thoughts conveyed in the e-mail with no interest in acting on these thoughts. He maintains that I had an 'emotional affair', (yes from one e-mail) and says he wants to forgive me but needs to takl about it 5x a week. What should I do?
A married woman should not be telling an ex that she still has unresolved feelings for him. It wasn't right of your husband to be going through your private information but on the other hand you must of raised the suspision that you were doing something that wasn't right. You did not once admit that you were wrong in what you said instead it seemed like you were looking to blame your husband for going through your information. You said he probably wants to forgive you and needs to talk about it 5 times a week. I will say if you didn't want a divorce I would think you wouldn't take the risk in the marriage. I do not know your husband but I can say if he wants to talk about it that much you have clearly broke his trust and as much as he wants to forgive you it could take a long time before he fully trust you again.
What should you do?
YOU have given your husband a reason to not trust you, Admit you were wrong and take the fall for what you did. The saying "actions have consequences" is true. If you do not want to stay in the marriage than it's only fair that you let your husband know instead of leading him on.
Well I'm 16 and a female, for my 7th, 8th and half of 9th grade I had a bestfriend...lets call her Max, well Max and I became friends in 7th we had one class togther and lunch, in class we never really spoke but then slowly around October she started speaking to me, then we later found out my friend June was her bestfriend. So the three of us hung out, Max and I got to know each other and what not. But then June moved away ad Max was horribly depressed. :/ Her grades even began to drop. Well her and I continued to hang until we eventually became bestfriends. I'd always go to her house, she'd go to mine, we were unseperable. Then 8th grade came we were just closer we'd tell each other everything there were no secrets. I'd never met someone like her she was funny and fun, and ugh I ended up crushing on her, but what ever. I never made my feelings known since moraly I was told it was wrong plus, I was scared that'd push her away. Our friendship wasn't worth it. But anyways once came freshman year, I got sick really bad and barely attended school. So we'd still talk on the phone online, she'd visit me and everything. But she began to change and distant herself. :[
When I returned to school I was very happy to see her and she acted like she was very happy to see me too, although she was cold toward me at times and I didn't know why. Then I found out she became friends with these two other girls, lets call them Terry and Petter. (._.)
Well I was friends with Terry since I knew her from one of my classes but Petter didn't like me she actually hated me, not sure why. I think cause my friend ummm...Lauren hated her and ugh so much drama. Well anyways, as the year went on I continued to be ill and switched into night school. Halloween came around and we still went trick-or-treating together with Lauren and Max and I. But I saw she was changing, she then gained a bf and I knew him too from another class, we'd talk she found it odd I think but never told me much. Well then summer came me and her stopped talking all together, I went to summer school and ran into Terry and Petter somehow Petter tried talking to me and well we became "friends" I guess. I don't know...well I'd hang with Terry and Petter alot, so then Lauren didn't like it since she was now my bestfriend basically, and well somehow I got them to speak to each other. Now Terry and Petter weren't friends with Max anymore, Petter hated Max actually now, they both told me and Lauren that Max would speak shit about us behind our backs.
I acted as if it didn't bother me, but infact it really did, like alot...I don't know why. :(
I just couldn't believe the horrible things she'd say about me, I was pissed off and very upset. Those 2 years when we were so close, what had happened?! I didn't get it, but what ever I justed tried to forget her. Then there was some drama when she came back this summer from Mexico, she found out Terry and Petter and Lauren and I were very close friends now. I don't think she liked it. >.>
So Terry stoped talking to Max and so did Petter, Idunno...I had deleted Max along time ago from my friends list and well, a month or so back she sent me request so I accepted we only spoke once, very briefly. So my question is, will I ever get over her? I miss her as my friend and nothing else, I know she's not into girls and I have a boyfriend so that's not an issue. But why can't I seem to forget her. I miss her very much, what should I do. I'm affraid to talk to her since she said she disliked me so much, basically...I'm lost.
She had changed alot when she began to hang with Terry and Petter, they got her to smoke weed and she just doesn't seem to be the same person.
Usually if someone changes and or distance themselves from me well I'm like what ever, their lost. But with her...I miss her, I feel like I lost something...Well there yah have it.
Sorry it's so long, and sorry for any typeos but I'm to lazy to check them :T
First of all this is not your fault, When people get older and they start to enter high school almost everyone changes in one way or another. It sounds like your friend is hanging with the wrong crowd and we don't always realize it but our friends also play a part in who we are and how we act. You said that your friend is smoking weed, Weed has it's downfall and it effects different people in different ways.
Here are some of the causes from marijuana
http://www.nadapp.gov.tt/forum/faq/marijuana.html
I know you don't want to hear it but I think you need to make new friends.
Haha, sorry about the Topic name, anyways this is what's up.
My boobs are fine when they're in a bra, but as soon as I take it off they just are saggyish, and in my opoinion I think it's absolutely gross. I heard push-ups help rais them back up, and so does losing a little weight? But I don'tknow where to turn. So does push ups really work? Or what will? Because this is killing me! Haa. Thanks!
Try putting your hands together up towards your chest going to say a prayer or something. Then squeeze the palm of your hands together.
Here is a link to show you what I mean
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CReZF4-PjO0&feature=related
heyyy
I've been really bored lately on the internet, does anyone know any good sites other than My space and face book? Thanks for whoever respondss♥ :)
You could try Twitter but it is just another version of facebook and myspace mixed together.
There is also Bebo, Myyearbook, Hi5, Tagged, Xanga, Yuniti, Friendster, Orkut, Orbitz.... and that is all I can think of right now. =)
My Friend Ricky is going through a lot in his life right now. I want to help him out...
1.) He lost his full scholarship to a college
2.) He started smoking weed a lot
3.) He broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years
4.) He lost his grandmother
I tried telling him I was here for him but he's not taking any help from anyone. He's not working and he's unhappy...he needs to be pushed...I WANT to help him I can't let him fall through the cracks he doesn't deserve that!
What should I do? Please help!
I understand that you want to help your friend but there is only so much a person can do for someone when they don't want to accept the help. If he did accept the help even then is there only so much a person can do. If smokes weed often you can support him but he the one who needs to kill his habit, If he broke up with his girlfriend technically you can support him but again it was his choice to make. If he is not accepting the help right now than all you can do is tell him if he needs a shoulder to lean on you will be there to listen and eventually he will come around.
So.. me and my ex broke up. he fucked up a ton, but its been 7months since we broke up, and its been three months of him non stop trying with no mistakes to get me back.. My parents dislike him. they do, and right now for thre months ive been hiding that ive been hanging out with him. One time i got caught at a party with him, about 4 months ago, they FLIPPPED. like hardcore. My moms i hope your not talking to him, and back then i really hardly was. Now this time hes trying realll hard, and im thinkin about maybe giving it another try. My mom and dad do not know weve been hanigng out, and when we were together, they never let me go out or do anything and were strict cause they didnt want me going to parties or staying with him. ILl be 18 in a couple months, and hes 19. Ive been hiding us hanging out for awhile, and i dont like lying i have bad anxiety and when they do find out it'll be way worse. First off. cause now he has his own apartment.. so they'll think ive been styaing there. How do i ever tell them... once they know were talking though, my life will be cut off again, and i just dont want that, but i dont wanan lie to them
i just need advice really bad, and from any parents or kids whove been through this, itd help a lot.
You can sneak hanging out with him but when they do find out concidering the fact that they have already once flipped out it will probably be much worse the second time. In this case I suggest you to let them know ahead of time. Right now you live under their roof which means you need to follow their rules. Until you turn 18 in a few months you will then become an adult and you are free to do whatever you want as they no longer can and cannot tell you whom you can hangout with. If you want to move in with him that is your choice but I certainly wouldn't do it before you turn 18 because right now at this time you are still concidered a minor. Make sure you also think long and hard about moving in with this guy the last thing you want to do is make a irrashional decision. The questions you should ask yourself..
1. WHY do your parents not like this guy? There must be a reason
2. WHY did you two break up already once before? Will it happen again?
3. Do you two have a bond strong enough to live with each other?
Mom and Dad are just looking out for your best interest
My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now 9 on October 14th. He's 18 and I'm 16, we clicked the instant we met, only thing was he was a bit of a flirt. I've know him for about two years now, we'd flirt around and what not but I never took him seriously because of all the other females that were after him. He said he'd give up his flirtatious ways if I agreed to be his girlfriend. So I did, I liked him a great deal.
We "fell in love," or I did atleast. Everything was going well, we ended up having sex 5 months after we started going out, I sortah regret it he was my first.
Anyways, we've been having small problems. Well I think he thinks everything's ok, but he doesn't call me much. I'm always the one to call, usually.
At night, after 9 when he has free minutes. :/
Anyways, sometimes he acts as if I bore him, or he doesn't like me or love me...he gets annoyed and irritated with me for no apparent reason.
I want to know, does anyone think he's with me just 'cause of sex?
I mean he lives in chicago and I live in Aurora, he sees me once a week or so, we talk every night usually.
When we're together he seems to push onto sex fairly quickly.
I don't know what to do most of the time, I want to make him happy so I go through with it most of the time, we use protection of course.
But afterward I sortah feel sad, I feel kindda upset with myself, not sure why. Has this happened to anyone else?
I kinda get the feeling that's all he wants, but I do think he loves me, or did atleast at one point, but lately I been feeling as if he only likes the sex.
What should I do?
Am I wasting my time?
I love him alot, but (is this wrong?) love me more, and I've been hurt many times before and don't want to get hurt in the end.
He began to change since he recently started college...I don't know, could he be stressed?
Any help would be useful thanks. :T
It sounds like the guy may not be into you for you anymore or is loosing interest in the relationship. If he pushes into sex when you see him that should give you the idea that all he wants is sex. If he recently started college that isn't really a good enough reason to not even call you, On the other hand I'd also start to concider the possibility he might also have someone on the side?
ok so i recently became really good friends with this guy. and i really really like him. the thing is that he told me he's still in love with his ex. but then last time we meat up we ended up snuggeling up in his bed (cause i was cold) and in the last 10 minutes he layed his head on my shoulder and i layed my head on his
If you to fancy each others ex than clearly you both have unresolved feelings for someone eles. If he is still talking about her in a way that makes you jealous then obviously the guy still cares for her. The truth is you can't truely love someone and devote yourself too a person if you are thinking and you fancy of someone eles.
Clearly he still likes his ex, now you said she may like him back again. It is up to the both of you if you want to try and have a relationship but concidering the fact that he cares for her and she may possibly care for him as well should raise the red flag.
I got out of a relationship 10 months ago and found a girl online and we've been dating 8 1/2 months and things are getting serious. She's slept with waaay too many guys for me to be comfortable (21) but I didn't find this out until after I was emotionally attached (3 months in). The chemistry is there between us and I have true feelings for the girl, I just want a higher quality woman for a longer term thing. I'm 22. Should I leave her and be single for a while and take the heart break of a break up, start looking for better girls in church etc. or keep trying to forget about her past, hoping I will be able to let it go?
Thanks
Do you know this girl in person or just offline? If you only know her offline I would let her go, Relationships lasting off the internet have a low percent rate. Have you seen this girl in person?..How far away does this girl live? Do you see each other having a successful future? If she is in one state and you are in another than to tell you the truth it more than likely will not be successful in the long run. Not only can you not keep track of just how faithful one is but the distant between the two of you will eventually take it's toll in time. I don't know what too tell you about her past only because you did not give any pacific details but if this is strickly an online relationship I'd look eles where.
Is it normal for an 18 year old guy to be thinking about marriage and kids? My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and at the begining of the relationship he knew he wanted to get married and maybe have some kids but he never put much thought into it and now suddenly this week he's been asking how I would want to be proposed to in the future and kids and what our house would look like. I didn't know teenage guys thought about this. I know we wouldn't get married for years but I love knowing how committed he is. Any other guys like this?
18 is a bit young to be thinking about getting married in my opinion. It's okay to talk about future plans but actually going through with them at 18 is another thing. If you dont' feel comfortable about it then talk to him and tell let him know you'd rather wait until you two are a bit older and at a more steadier pace.
17/F
Would it be dangerous for me, as a female, to masturbate with a vacuum?
Interesting...
I would never suggest using objects around the house only because it doesn't belong down there. If you want to satisfy yourself you might want to look at other options maybe such as your hand for masturbation. If you use a vacumm your risk for infections would be a lot higher as vacuums are used for cleaning and pick up all sorts of things.
How do you know if you're pregnant two weeks after you've had sex? Are there any for sure symptoms?
Not all woman have pregnacy symptoms. The only way to really know for sure is too take a test.
These are some of the symptoms of pregnacy
Delay in Menstruation, Swollen/Tender Breasts, Fatigue/Tiredness, Nausea/Morning Sickness
You can also see here for more symptoms..
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/earlypregnancysymptoms.html
My mother is a narcissist and used to abuse me emotionally and psychologically. I just came to college a few weeks ago hoping to heal somewhat from that by being in a different environment. However, my roommate has similar issues with her mom, and when she calls her on the phone I can hear a lot of their conversation. It brings back memories and makes me feel the feelings all over again and it is very uncomfortable. I don't know how to make myself feel better when instances like this arise.
When I found out that her family was like mine, I thought it might be nice because we could share our experiences. We did that once, and I didn't even say a lot. But I started panicking and my hands were shaking. I had to go to the bathroom and calm myself down.
If anyone has any advice on any of these issues, I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks!
I'll agree with Matt, I think you should see a therapist. As far as your roomate goes sometimes it helps to have someone you can talk too that is going through the same things you went through in life.
See a therapist, Everything will be just fine
ill try and keep this short.
- met a guy here where i live. we get along fine, but sometimes we don't much to talk about nor do we seem to have much fun.
- met a guy online (never internet dated before/kind of against it). real sweet, we webcam all the time, we always have things to say, we make eachother laugh, etc.
i'm so confused, what do i do!?!? i like both guys, but obviously one over the other. but he lives in a different state/havent even met him in person. the other guy lives by me but doesn't fit me like the other guy does.
help! D: thank you guys so much.
It all comes down to what you want in a relationship. Do you want a guy that you can't interact with in person or someone that might not be the one but you can still see and do things with? When I was younger I used to do the whole internet thing but to tell you the truth I got bored very fast. Overtime I wanted someone I could share my memories with, laugh with and be around. You can do these things with the guy on the internet but when you really need someone to talk too he will be there but he will only be there from a screen. The other guy not only is he in person but you have more stability over the relationship than you would if you were to have an online relationship. If you chose the guy from the internet you never really know where the relationship is going on his end for all we know he could very well be lying to you as the internet is full of liars.
I was wondering if there are any jobs that I can apply for before I am 16.
I agree with the person below me, Most fast foods will hire anyone of the age 15-16.
You could also try to get working papers for a better try at a better job.
How do you know if you're ready for sex?
Everyone has different ways of thinking. I believe you are ready when you trust your partner 100% and you love them and have been with the person for a good amount of time and you know them very well and the relationship is strong. Also, I believe you are ready when you are ready to take on a possible parenthood.
Having sex for the first time should be special, As it only happens once than you are no longer a virgin anymore. Many people nowadays have sex because they "think" they are in love or they find it a way to kill boredom and sometimes end up being pregnant.