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how do i tell her?
So.. me and my ex broke up. he fucked up a ton, but its been 7months since we broke up, and its been three months of him non stop trying with no mistakes to get me back.. My parents dislike him. they do, and right now for thre months ive been hiding that ive been hanging out with him. One time i got caught at a party with him, about 4 months ago, they FLIPPPED. like hardcore. My moms i hope your not talking to him, and back then i really hardly was. Now this time hes trying realll hard, and im thinkin about maybe giving it another try. My mom and dad do not know weve been hanigng out, and when we were together, they never let me go out or do anything and were strict cause they didnt want me going to parties or staying with him. ILl be 18 in a couple months, and hes 19. Ive been hiding us hanging out for awhile, and i dont like lying i have bad anxiety and when they do find out it'll be way worse. First off. cause now he has his own apartment.. so they'll think ive been styaing there. How do i ever tell them... once they know were talking though, my life will be cut off again, and i just dont want that, but i dont wanan lie to them
i just need advice really bad, and from any parents or kids whove been through this, itd help a lot.
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O.K. firstly Do you really want a guy your folks don't like They dislike him for a reason he's not your type. So you think you know this guy o.k. well you don't. Your folks knew you before you were born. They love you & want the best for you There are plenty of pebbles on the beach. He's not the one if there is already conflict within the entire family. when you hang out behind mum & dad back you give that guy power over you & direspect your folks advise. This cannot be a good foundation for a life long relationship at it's best it's just a fling. not love it's a rocky road not one I would travel on for too long because you get hurt sooner or later you fall.
Why are kids hell bent on doing the whole nine yards before the graduate. it will all still be there when your kids are going through thier lives put yourself in mum & dads place & your daughter was doing what your doing how would you feel just like your folks I presume. Give a nice guy a chance to be in love with you darling you deserve better than this guy can provide a rented flat is not providing for you it's providing for himself.
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You can sneak hanging out with him but when they do find out concidering the fact that they have already once flipped out it will probably be much worse the second time. In this case I suggest you to let them know ahead of time. Right now you live under their roof which means you need to follow their rules. Until you turn 18 in a few months you will then become an adult and you are free to do whatever you want as they no longer can and cannot tell you whom you can hangout with. If you want to move in with him that is your choice but I certainly wouldn't do it before you turn 18 because right now at this time you are still concidered a minor. Make sure you also think long and hard about moving in with this guy the last thing you want to do is make a irrashional decision. The questions you should ask yourself..
1. WHY do your parents not like this guy? There must be a reason
2. WHY did you two break up already once before? Will it happen again?
3. Do you two have a bond strong enough to live with each other?
Mom and Dad are just looking out for your best interest
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