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Q: So i will sum this up for all of you out there. I got a computer and have had it for not to long, maybe half a year or so, and it just stopped working. It turned off one day and now when ever I try and turn it on it makes a kind of buzzing/beeping sound and its in bursts so it could be code of some sort but anyways when it is turned on before the buzzing you can hear the fan boost on really loud. It is a dell desktop if that helps. So thanks for your help and have a nice day.
Without knowing what model of computer you have or what pattern the beeps are sounding in, we really can't help you.

You're right that it's a code of some sort: the manufacturer programs it so that if there's a hardware failure, the computer will let you know what kind of problem it is. Take note of how many times in a row it beeps, and indicate your computer model and we may be able to give you a push in the right direction.

Q: im sick and tired of that retarded sitcom its still on Disney Channel and the jokes are super ignorant and Dez is the dumbest character on the show even though Ally Austin and Trish are also dumb but Disney Channel keeps making new episodes worse thing is that Ross Lynch is becoming a big name and when you mention Disney people will think that youre talking about crap like Austin and Ally im tired of that show if you have any information on when the show will finally end post me a link to it thank you .
Generally they don't release when they're planning on taking a show off the air. In my experience, they'll usually milk a show for all it's worth, then run it in reruns for years after.

If it bothers you, don't watch it. If people think that when you talk about Disney, you're talking about this show, correct them. It's not worth the effort of getting all wound up over a show you don't like: much as I may dislike most programming these days, I avoid them by sticking to Netflix.

Q: you know topix that evil website that allowed trolling trash talk spam and rumors i used to go on it in 2006 2007 2008 and 2009 when things really got worse on it and in a couple of months i stopped using it and i found its exipration date which says march the third 2015 what will happen then hopefully it will finally be closed down .
I'm afraid I don't know anything about the website. It's possible that when the license expires, the owners may renew it and keep things going.

If the site offends you, don't visit it. There's a whole wide internet out there full of people who aren't trolling jerks.

Q: i have searched it but i found none of the questions i recently asked did Dangernerd quit advicenators or is he still using it and this is to Ninjaneer let me know if Dangernerd is still on here .
DangerNerd owns the website, so I doubt that he's quit! He just gets a lot of inquiries, so it sometimes takes him a while to get back to you. He also does his work on this site in his spare time and has to deal with his own life on top of that, so it's pretty understandable that admin requests can take a while. I've waited for up to a month before getting a response to an admin query before.

If this is a technical question, you'll need to wait for his response. If you're experiencing abuse on this site, report the abuse using the correct link in the left side bar: an upper level moderator can help you. If it's a question seeking advice, you can ask an open question or direct questions to individuals.


Q: why is trail mix good for keeping up energy?
It's good because a relatively small amount of it has a lot of calories in different forms.

The sugar in fruits is quickly processed and gives you a short, but fast burst of energy. The protein and fat in nuts and seeds helps keep your energy levels up over time. It also replenishes salt that you lose during exercise. All in all, pretty effective!

Q: this is to Ninjaneer i really did not like your answer to my question called How to Ban Criticism it was useless no offense but also i would like to see the expiration date for this website if you have a link to it post it to me so i can link on it thank you
I find it kind of ironic that you're criticizing my answer to your question on banning criticism ;)

Just know that I'm not making things up. I used to take criticism really poorly, and I've had to learn the hard way how to take it gracefully.

I'm not quite sure what you mean by the expiration date for the website. If this is a technical question, you might want to forward your inquiry to DangerNerd.

Q: I did not read it but my English teacher who was gushing about it and how excited he was for the movie said it was much better than youth targeted books today like those two and also I have read that the reason the movie is not doing good is because Lions Gate films targeted their marketing towards the Twilight/Hunger Games type audiences but they were not the right audiences to market it towards
I'm writing this as a person who liked the Hunger Games books but who can't stand Twilight. I found that the Hunger Games had well-developed characters and a compelling storyline, while Twilight came across as very two-dimensional and poorly written. So that's where my perspective lies.

Ender's Game is a science fiction novel, but more of a drama set in space rather than a pure science fiction (like Star Trek!) I think the movie did badly because to people who have read the book, they cut a lot of the material out, material that really contributed to the effectiveness of the story. I would strongly suggest reading the book, as I think it's one of the best books I've ever read. I've probably read it over 10 times now, and each time I end up devouring it in a day or so because I can't put it down.

The other problem with the movie is that it's about child soldiers. It's going to be hard to market a story like that, because you have to make sure that families aren't going to show up.

All in all, I suggest reading the book and then watching the movie if you want to. The book has a lot more to it and is much more compelling than the movie.

Q: i understand criticism now and i really cant stand it its very offensive i remember in 2003 when my stupid younger brother used to criticize my reading and call me stupid and boss me around like the little smartmouth he was but he has already passed away but saying things like puncutation is sort of calling someones grammer stupid which is really igroant to do some people do that becuase they wont expect that their grammer is great or becuase theyre stupid and wont admit it that makes me angry seriously you shouldnt do those things anyway how can you punish those who criticize you to make you feel bad so it might teach them a lesson .
I know it feels right to want to punish people who criticize you, because criticism makes you feel bad. However, as the others have said, that's a response you have to squelch.

You are going to face criticism all the time, and you'll have to learn how to take it gracefully, even when it's not necessarily given in the nicest of ways. It's a big part of being an adult, and to get by in the working world it's an essential skill.

The best way to avoid criticism is by looking at what you need to improve and working on it. If someone corrects your spelling or grammar, work at not making that mistake. If you're still in school, have a smart friend or your English teacher check your written homework for spelling and grammar errors. Not only do you silence the haters, but you also learn a skill that's going to carry you far into the working world.

If a person of authority is giving you criticism, you need to be able to take it gracefully. If your boss tells you you're doing something wrong, you can't "punish" them for making you feel bad! Practice taking criticism of that sort with a smile and a "Thank you for bringing that to my attention. I'll try to work on that." It's difficult, but it shows a great attitude and a willingness to learn that will help you get ahead when you're working.

Q: I'm a thirteen year old (nerdy) girl, and it's been pointed out to me that thinking nerdy boys are cute is atypical. I simply don't find what people would consider "normal" boys my age attractive. I think nerdy boys are very cute, especially boys with glasses (I've also been told this is odd), and I've never had a crush on anyone who isn't as smart or smarter than I am (I realize this may seem somewhat rude, as that's saying I think myself to be very intelligent, which I do not- just somewhat competent). What do you think? Is this weird? I never thought of as being so, just not the dominant opinion.
Here's the thing: when you date someone, you spend a lot of time with them. Does it really make sense to spend a lot of time with a guy who is pretty, but dumb as a post? Would you be able to carry a conversation with him? Could you respect him?

Chances are you couldn't. That's why it's completely normal for a smart person to only be interested in other smart people. Your friends may not realize that yet, but they will soon enough, after they waste their time on pretty boys with nothing to say. Those nerdy guys make great boyfriends, usually, and are often overlooked.

Q: Today i came home happy but then when i went to remove my makeup i felt the stress and i started to cry for no reason at all.
I'm going to say right now that that is not a symptom of bipolar disorder. As a person who lives with it, I can tell you that it's a lot more severe than just crying randomly. It's periods of low energy and depression accompanied by periods of reckless behaviour, rapidly cycling thoughts, or even hallucinations.

There are a few things that can make you overly emotional. One of them is just being a teenager. I can't even tell you how many times I would randomly burst into tears as a teen: there's a lot going on both mentally and biologically. Your hormones make you crazy, and you're still trying to figure out who you are as a person.

Speaking of hormones, I don't know if you're on birth control, but if you are that could be the culprit. My sister had horrible crying fits for months before they found out that it was her birth control causing it. She swapped it out for a low hormone dose and that did the trick.

It's also possible that it relates to the point you're at in your menstrual cycle. Is it a week or less before you're due? I find that almost exactly a week before my period starts, I have a crying fit that you can time like clockwork.

So there are lots of things that can make you have a random crying fit. If you find yourself having suicidal thoughts on a regular basis, or becoming constantly depressed, get in touch with your doctor.

Q: i tried sending them to Dangernerd asking him to remove them all but when i asked that question i could not find it in his advice colum so if this comes to you as a private question can you delete the questions im talking about for example is MissyMeliss Gay Rape MissyMeliss and Attack MissyMeliss if you see them delete them if youre able to thank you .
Unfortunately, I'm only a level one mod, so I don't have the power to do that. If DN hasn't responded yet, the question won't show up in his column.

Also, I would strongly recommend sending an abuse report. You can do this in the side bar to the left, under "Report Abuse". Then any high level mod can take action.

I hope this clears up for you soon! Don't let it get you down. Some people are just jerks.

Q: I'm in middle school and i know a lot of people change in middle school but my friends have changed a lot. A lot of them curse now and it's really annoying because I HATE unnecessary cursing! And the just curse for know reason! And then one of my friends who actually goes to church with me used the f word and then put god right after it. I was like "REALLY?!?!". I mean I understand there's a lot going on with her parents and stuff and I've been supportive of that but know she curses and it's really annoying some of my friends have stopped when I don't them I don't like it but I would hate to loose a friend because the curse. :(
Cursing only has power when you give it power. Sure, it's uncouth and distasteful, but it's typically just a phase that young people go through. Heck, when I was 16 I dropped F-bombs like nobody's business. Eventually I stopped when I realized that it just didn't look good on me.

You can't change another person's behaviour. Sure, you could give up a friendship over this, but it's just a word with an arbitrarily assigned meaning. I'm sure you curse in your own way: even saying things like "fudge", "sugar" or "darn" can be cursing depending on how you say it and what meaning you assign to it.

It's good to maintain your own set of values, but you can't push them on other people without a lot of backlash. You've got to decide whether or not it's worth losing a friend over a few words.

Q: So my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We have a great relationship and we plan to keep it that way for forever.

We are in a really great spot right now. I am 25/f and he is 28/m. He just graduated with his masters degree, and I finished my program certification last year. I have a great job and he's got tons of people interested in him with the degree that he has. We just moved in to a new apartment, and in short, our lives are good.

I've always said that I wanted to wait until we are in a stable spot to get married, and I think right now we are. I'm just not sure how to bring it up. There's always that stereotype that girls are just supposed to wait and let guys decide when it's time to get married because they are the ones proposing. If my boyfriend would allow it, I would propose myself (lol) But I know that eventually, he would want to do that.

So anyways. I'm jsut not sure how to bring it up. I don't want to be the naggy girlfriend always bugging him to get married. I just want to know that he's thinking about it and that it's in our future.

Thanks for any and all input!
Something I really don't like is the idea that the decision to get married is a one time conversation. It's a huge decision to make, and it should be an ongoing dialogue so that both of you are on board and each person knows where the other's expectations lie.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking him what he thinks on the subject of marriage. You can let him know that there's no pressure, but that you want to know if both of you have the same priorities in the relationship. There's nothing naggy about that.

Your head is in the right place. You're not stamping your feet and pouting because you have the perfect princess wedding planned out in your head and your boyfriend isn't cooperating. You just want to know if you're wasting your time waiting for a ring when there isn't one coming. You want to know if there's an intent for lifelong commitment, which is more than fair after 5 years of a healthy relationship.

Q: recently i found a website called M8 Ball . com i asked a few questions but somebody on there criticized my questions calling them stupid and later i looked at the expiration date on it saying may the 5th 2014 so can you tell what happens after it expires
Since I'm not familiar with the site, your best bet is probably to contact the site administrators and ask.

In the past, I've had administrators remove old profiles of mine from sites, so it shouldn't be an issue for them to remove the questions you don't want up. At the very least, they should be able to tell you what happens when the questions expire.

Q: (Yes I'm aware this isn't a "food" site but this is really my only option. Sorry if this question offends/bothers anyone in any way.)

Hello, so I'm a new vegan and I don't really know what to eat... I know to avoid animal products such as meat, milk, etc., but I'm finding it very hard to find foods.

I'm not really much of a "cook" person, but I suppose I can be. Can you all help me with some recipes, vegan name brands, and stuff to eat? I already eat fruits and things. Thanks :)
You need to talk to your doctor or a nutritionist to make sure that you won't make yourself ill, especially given your age on this site. You're still growing, and malnourishment at this point in your life could cause stunted growth. It's possible to make yourself very ill if you don't take care of your needs. I'm no expert, but I know that veggie proteins are incomplete (compared to meat proteins which are complete) and that you have to balance them.

What I do know: steer clear of the processed garbage. Make friends with tofu, peanut butter (the all-natural kind!), lentils, beans, chickpeas, quinoa and other protein sources. Don't rely on fake meat for your protein... it should be a once-in-a-while thing, not your base. It's expensive, and not that great for you.

Learn to love veggies. A lot of vegans end up eating a ton of peanut butter sandwiches, which isn't exactly healthy! I have a vegan coworker, and I'm jealous of her lunch just about every day. She eats great salads packed with nutrients. I know you say you're not the cooking type, but you'll want to learn. It's easy to find simple vegan recipes online. For example, here's a Buzzfeed article with 30 recipes that take less than 30 minutes:

http://www.buzzfeed.com/expresident/easy-vegan-recipes

Most of all, make sure you're doing this right. Going vegan can be a very healthy choice, but it can also be very bad for you. It all depends on how you approach it.

Q: I am 19, and a female working FULL TIME and in college FULL TIME. I live with my boyfriend and three roommates. It is a decision through our house that we don't eat each others' food or share food.

With that said, I usually eat a lot of fast food. And I mean way too much. It hit me the other day when I bought breakfast at McDonalds- 5$, lunch at Tropical Smoothie- 9$ and finally dinner for my boyfriend and I at Taco Bell 12$
Talk about a heart attack.

So now I'm trying to change my ways, save money, and feel better but I have one major problem: I don't know how to grocery shop, plan meals, or even cook. Of course we go to the grocery store but we end up buying junk and microwavable meals that my stomach is now telling my brain it's right their next to puppy chow.

I have realized that I cant google how to do change my fast food habits, I have to make a lifestyle change.

Oh, I just wanna throw this out their that my boyfriend doesn't cook but maybe once a week, if that and its pretty much a can of green beans and then some random meat with some more random spices and that gets old real quick.

Please just give me any advice you have on how you eat healthy and plan meals.

I need a system that requires very little actual cooking and can apply for breakfast lunch and dinner. (I don't always eat fast food for breakfast- I eat cereal if we have the milk to go with it. And sometimes ill bring a sandwich for lunch but both those options are plain and boring and not really nutritious, either.

Sorry if this is too long, I just felt everything is pretty important to include in order to get the advice I'm looking for. Thanks in advance for the advice.

P.s....please don't just warn me of the health risks associated with my current diet. Thanks.
I learned how to meal plan out of necessity. At one point two of us were eating on $30 a week... it meant a lot of potatoes and carrots.

For breakfast: pick something easy that you like. Cereal isn't all that filling, and as you've pointed out it doesn't cover much in the way of food groups. I am a huge fan of quick oats (not the instant kind, but the kind that takes 5 minutes to cook) with some frozen raspberries or blueberries. I toss some ground flax seeds in to add some healthy fats to keep me full longer. In the summer, when it's too darn hot to eat oatmeal, I love to make smoothies. I take a couple of frozen spinach nuggets and blend with warm water until I have green water, then add plain 2% yogourt and whatever frozen fruit I feel like eating (Costco sells great frozen raspberries, mixed berries and pineapple)

Lunch: I hate sandwiches for lunch, so I tend to pack veggies and hummus and some fruit, or leftovers from the night before, or (my favourite) homemade soup. Canned soup is a rip-off, and homemade is always tastier and better for you. Here are two I use often:

Chicken Noodle:

Chicken or turkey carcass with some meat still on it (we buy roasted chickens from time to time, and they're great for this)
Water to fill pot
Carrots, chopped
Green onions, chopped
Celery, chopped
Chicken boullion cubes

Boil the carcass in a large pot of water for an hour or so until the meat falls off the bones. Strain it, picking the bones out and putting the meat back in. Add boullion, carrots, celery and green onions, then cook for about half an hour. This soup freezes really well and tastes great.

Split Pea Soup:

Ham bone with some ham on it, or ribs with meat
Water
Leeks, chopped
Green split peas (dried), 1 kg bag
Boullion cubes

Boil the ham bone in a large pot of water until the meat falls off. Add the leeks, peas and boullion and boil until the peas disintegrate (it'll turn really thick). The soup is now ready to eat!

Dinner: My basic dinner formula is as follows:

Meat or meat substitute - meat can often be swapped out for lentils, chickpeas or beans. Whenever I cook ground beef, I mix it half-and-half with lentils or quinoa to make it last longer.

Vegetable: Corn is not a vegetable, it's a starch. I also never use canned veggies: either frozen or fresh is best. You can get some fantastic frozen veggie packs, but watch the price.

Starch: Pasta, rice, potatoes or corn-based.

For more variety, I try to replicate what I eat in restaurants or online. Browsing recipes (aka food porn) is a great way to get ideas as to what flavours go with each other. Experimenting is always a good idea, too! I love to pick a new ingredient when I'm at the grocery store and learn how to cook it. It's important that you enjoy what you're eating, or else you'll fall right back on eating out all the time. Just keep in mind that you're going to have a low b.s. tolerance when it comes to fluffy recipes with a billion ingredients. Stick to simple recipes with less than 10 ingredients.

Also, if you don't have one, get a crock pot. Seriously, it was the best thing for me when I had to learn how to start planning cost-effective, healthy meals. There are lots of recipes online, or you can find simple crock pot recipes. I do my prep the night before, then in the morning I toss everything in and turn it on. Then you walk away and forget about it, and you don't have to worry about having the energy to cook when you get home.

Here are a few recipes that I love to use (I have a large slow cooker, and there are 2 of us. We freeze the leftovers for lazy meals later, or eat them for lunch):

Slow cooker oatmeal: I like to put in either apples, cinnamon and raisins, a can of pumpkin pie filling or peach slices and blueberries. It's super filling and it smells incredible when you wake up.

http://www.chow.com/recipes/30656-slow-cooker-steel-cut-oatmeal

Spaghetti sauce:

2 large cans crushed tomatoes
Green peppers, onions, mushrooms, zucchini, whatever else you like to throw in
1 lb ground beef, browned
1 bay leaf, italian herbs and lots of garlic

Toss in the pot, cook on low for 8 - 10 hours.

Chili:

2 cans lentils
2 cans kidney beans
2 cans black beans
1 lb ground beef, browned
3 cans Campbell's tomato soup
Fresh jalapenos/habaneros to taste
Chili powder and garlic to taste

Toss in the pot, cook on low for 8 - 10 hours (sensing a pattern here?)

Black bean soup (Makes great lunches!)

4-5 cans black beans (depends on how thick you like your soup
1 chopped onion
Fresh jalapenos to taste
Garlic to taste
Lime juice to taste
A couple of cubes of boullion
Water to mostly fill the pot

Toss in the pot, cook on high for 4 - 6 hours. Use an immersion blender (they're super cheap and worth it) to blend until it's the right consistency, then cook on low for another hour or so. Garnish with sour cream, salsa or fresh cilantro if you feel fancy.

Roast Beef (I do this in a medium-sized crock):

Roast - any cut will do. Even a cheap cut of beef will come out super tender in the crock pot.
1 can cream of mushroom soup
1 tbsp whole grain mustard
Pepper to taste
Mushrooms, leeks, mini potatoes, carrots, parsnips, whatever you like to eat with your roast

Sear the roast in a frying pan so that the sides are cooked. Toss it in the crock pot with everything else, cook on low for 8 hours or so. Be prepared for it to fall apart when you so much as look at it... it's that tender!

Hopefully that's a bit of a start. I'm not sure if my ideas will appeal to you at all, but at least it should give you an idea of what to look for.

Q: For some reason I was surfing and checked to see what was written about Ray Marcois and the kennel he owned when he died..........WHERE IN THE WORLD DID YOU GET THE INFO THAT HE AND DIANE WERE SHOT TO DEATH?????

Ray and I were married for a few years and he and I acquired Mandelyn Kennels from the prior owners during the time of our marriage. Diane was a friend of ours - and continued to remain a friend of mine after Ray and I split up - and for quite awhile after Ray died OF A HEART ATTACK while out on the training field talking to his head trainer Tony Barios. Ray was giving Tony instructions on what was to be taken care of while he was at the Air Force Base in Texas to work with handlers and canines. Ray was dead before the ambulance arrived arrived!!!! NO SHOOTING INVOLVED IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM.....and his wife Diane was still alive the last time she and I talked several months later.

Please let me know - and better yet, inform your "source" that he/she was WRONG/WRONG/WRONG. Ray was too good a man to have this stupid incorrect information on the net.



I'm really not sure who you are responding to. I have looked into the question history, and can't find any questions or answers relating to Ray Marcois.

This is an advice website, where people come to find answers to specific questions. If you have seen incorrect information on another website, then I would advise that you contact the administrators of that site with any complaints.

Q: I am a 20 year old guy and was taking classes at a community college for two years. I have now transferred to a university. But every Friday instead of going to my university to study I instead go and study at the community college. I prefer to study there instead. I just like the atmosphere better, I like to still say hi or chat with some of the math tutors, I like to have eat lunch at the Thai place or other restaurants around it and go to the Barnes and Noble right next to the place or go for a walk around. I realize I am somewhat attached to the place. Is this bad? If it is, how do I stop feeling this way?
There's nothing wrong with this at all. Heck, you spent two years at the place, so it's not unlikely that you would have formed an attachment there.

I spent some time at a university in my city before transferring to a college. I find that I prefer the smaller campus and friendlier atmosphere to the anonymity of a large campus. It's nice to find somewhere where you feel like you belong, and it makes studying easier on you.

As you make friends at your new school, you may find that your preferences change. Until then, there's nothing wrong with heading to your old stomping grounds.

Q: Well Im 13 years old and Im in 7th grade almost 8th . This boy who is in 6th entering 7th is like my bestfriend and I just recently got his number last week . I was texting him having a friendly conversation then he asked me what sexting was and I told him . He then said he would like to try it . He sent me a picture of his dick and I was too nervous so I sent a picture of my bent elbow . Yesterday , out of the blue he asked if I would ever have sex with him and I said yes . Then I asked and he said yes . hard . Next... He asked me to have sex in the bathrooms . and I said yes . Im very nervous and I don't want anyone to know about it because then Ill be called a slut and stuff . Should I do it ?
First of all, I have to tell you that I love that you sent a picture of your bent elbow. That made me laugh like you would not believe.

The sexting has to stop. I know it seems harmless (especially if you're sending pictures of decidedly un-sexy body parts) but it could have serious repercussions for both of you. If you were to send him a picture of you naked, or even semi-nude, there's no telling if it would make its way elsewhere. It's a sadly common story where a girl sends a picture to a boy, who sends it to his friends, and eventually the whole school has seen it. There's no taking it back once it's out there. Embarrassing as that would be, even worse is the potential for legal trouble. You could be charged with possession of child pornography right now. There are even minors who have been charged with the production of child pornography just for taking pictures of themselves. It's not worth the risk.

As for having sex with this boy... I would strongly suggest that you not do it. I know that when you're 13 you're basically flooded with hormones. You might want to have sex, physically. Emotionally, though, it's not a good idea.

The big issue when deciding whether or not to have sex with someone is trust.

Can you have a serious discussion about birth control and the very real possibility of pregnancy with him? Do you trust that he would have your safety in mind, and that he would stand by you if you were to get pregnant? I'm going to tell you right now: it would be very rare for a 13 year old boy to be that mature.

Can you trust him not to go telling everyone? You're worried about your reputation, and he's going to be more concerned with how awesome it was that he got laid.

STI infection is a concern, even if both of you are virgins. Is he worth the risk? Probably not.

It's also very important that you not look back and regret your first time (assuming this would be your first). Guys should have to put in at least a little effort, not just a picture of their junk and a "hey, wanna do it?" text. Effort shows that they respect you and care about you, and that they're not just in it for a quickie in the bathroom. You are worth the effort, and you'd regret it later on if you were to sell yourself short.

I know this is kind of cliched to say, but you have plenty of time ahead of you for sex. It complicates things, and could seriously damage your friendship with this guy, or worse, get you expelled. Hold off until you're emotionally mature enough to deal with all of the possible consequences.

Q: 16 and already giving up. thats sad. the best years of someones life is right after school when you go start your own life as far from your old one as possible. then it all goes down hill in mid twenties and thirties.
Even if this is in response to someone else's question, I have a few things to say for anyone else who happens to read this.

High school is nowhere near the "best days of your life". Anyone who says that peaked in high school, which is kind of sad. Those sorts of people usually have trouble moving on as people into adulthood, and try to ride their high school status through life. It drives me crazy when people say this, because it does absolutely nothing to help a young person who is struggling with depression in their teens. I remember being told when in the depths of depression that I was in the best years of my life: is it any wonder that I was suicidal, if the best years of my life were a living hell?

High school sucks because you have next to no say in your own life. You feel like an adult, but in the end your decisions are always subject to approval by parents, teachers, or other people over the age of 18. It's not surprising, then, that teenagers often feel helpless and hopeless.

I'm approaching 26 years old now, and I can say with complete honesty that life has improved every single year.

Every year, you'll find yourself having more choices to make. This is a two-sided coin: on one hand, it lets you have some control over your own destiny, but you also have to deal with the consequences of your own decisions. This can be hard, but it means that you have a chance to become a better person with every trial that you face.

At 16, there's still a lot ahead of you. When you're in high school, you're pretty much limited to dating, popularity contests and trying to get into a good college. Later in life you have bigger challenges to face, with a higher payoff for each one. You start to make decisions about your career, your long-term love life, your health and your home. It sounds like a burden, but it's actually pretty fun in a way. You start to get along better with your parents as you move from a dependent relationship into being an independent adult. You learn more about who you are as a person through trial and error.

At 16, I was miserable. I hated myself, I hated everyone else, and I couldn't see a future that was any different. It does get better over time, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

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My name is Amanda and I'm 26 years old. I'm currently studying electrical engineering. Armed with a fairly odd sense of humour and a sunny outlook on life, I'll take on just about anything. I'm also cussedly stubborn, which has its ups and downs. Things get tough sometimes, and I've never been one to run from it.

In my last 8 years with Advicenators, I've gone from honours student to failing out of university (and getting back on top again!), from single to married, from tenant to homeowner.

Until lately, I have been struggling with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and OCD, which had basically ruined my life and taken just about everything from me. I'm thankful every day for every experience I've had because of this ordeal, because it's helped to make me who I am today. Things like that really make you appreciate what you do have. Now that I'm back in work and school and starting to become myself again, I couldn't be happier. I credit Advicenators with saving my life back when I was a teenager, which is a big part of why I'm still here.

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