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Bestfriend ... with benifits ...
Well Im 13 years old and Im in 7th grade almost 8th . This boy who is in 6th entering 7th is like my bestfriend and I just recently got his number last week . I was texting him having a friendly conversation then he asked me what sexting was and I told him . He then said he would like to try it . He sent me a picture of his dick and I was too nervous so I sent a picture of my bent elbow . Yesterday , out of the blue he asked if I would ever have sex with him and I said yes . Then I asked and he said yes . hard . Next... He asked me to have sex in the bathrooms . and I said yes . Im very nervous and I don't want anyone to know about it because then Ill be called a slut and stuff . Should I do it ?
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Should you do it? No.
Sexting should definitely stop. That could get you into trouble. Especially sending pictures because then you could get charged for child pornography even for just having his picture on your phone. Plus if you send him one, since he's a young boy, he's going to be showing his friends.
Now about the sex, there are too many problems that come with it. Firstly, it's illegal since you're only 13. Besides that, you could end up pregnant. If anything goes wrong, like the condom breaking, you could end up pregnant. Then of course there is STD's.
And when he asked to have sex in the bathrooms, did he mean the school bathrooms? If so, you could end up way more trouble. It's the easiest way for people to find out. So definitely stay far away from that one.
You're only 13, you might really want to have sex because of hormones but your body is still growing. So it will hurt ten times more.
So the least of your problems is people finding out about you having sex with him. People will find out though, if that's truly the only thing you are thinking about. Since he's really young, and his hormones are going more crazy than yours, he's not going to keep this to himself. Sex is a big deal, it's better to wait till you are older so that you won't regret it.
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First of all, I have to tell you that I love that you sent a picture of your bent elbow. That made me laugh like you would not believe.
The sexting has to stop. I know it seems harmless (especially if you're sending pictures of decidedly un-sexy body parts) but it could have serious repercussions for both of you. If you were to send him a picture of you naked, or even semi-nude, there's no telling if it would make its way elsewhere. It's a sadly common story where a girl sends a picture to a boy, who sends it to his friends, and eventually the whole school has seen it. There's no taking it back once it's out there. Embarrassing as that would be, even worse is the potential for legal trouble. You could be charged with possession of child pornography right now. There are even minors who have been charged with the production of child pornography just for taking pictures of themselves. It's not worth the risk.
As for having sex with this boy... I would strongly suggest that you not do it. I know that when you're 13 you're basically flooded with hormones. You might want to have sex, physically. Emotionally, though, it's not a good idea.
The big issue when deciding whether or not to have sex with someone is trust.
Can you have a serious discussion about birth control and the very real possibility of pregnancy with him? Do you trust that he would have your safety in mind, and that he would stand by you if you were to get pregnant? I'm going to tell you right now: it would be very rare for a 13 year old boy to be that mature.
Can you trust him not to go telling everyone? You're worried about your reputation, and he's going to be more concerned with how awesome it was that he got laid.
STI infection is a concern, even if both of you are virgins. Is he worth the risk? Probably not.
It's also very important that you not look back and regret your first time (assuming this would be your first). Guys should have to put in at least a little effort, not just a picture of their junk and a "hey, wanna do it?" text. Effort shows that they respect you and care about you, and that they're not just in it for a quickie in the bathroom. You are worth the effort, and you'd regret it later on if you were to sell yourself short.
I know this is kind of cliched to say, but you have plenty of time ahead of you for sex. It complicates things, and could seriously damage your friendship with this guy, or worse, get you expelled. Hold off until you're emotionally mature enough to deal with all of the possible consequences.
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Quick answer to your question is no.
You are both way to young to be having sex. The risk of you becoming pregnant is way to high. Think about this; how would you feel being a mom at 14 or being forced by your parents to have an abortion.
You are to young to make your own decisions should you get pregnant and your parents wishes would be forced upon you. If they want you to have an abortion you would have one. If you wanted one and they disapprove of abortion you would be forced to have the baby.
It is really strange that you talk about sexting and sending of a pornographic picture. In today's Washington Post I read about 3, 16 year old boys living in Virginia who were convicted of sexting and child pornography. Sexting is illegal as is sending or receiving child pornography.
Your friend is guilty of, producing, since he took the picture, and distributing child pornography since he sent the picture to you. You as the recipient of the picture are now guilty of being in receipt of child pornography.
Being under age does not protect you from the charges I just wrote about. These charges are felony charges and carry among the punishment having to register as sex offenders for the rest of your lives.
The police are targeting young people as they are the main offenders. Social media sites such as Facebook and others are cooperating with the police to find people who are doing this. Not just because it is illegal but because some of the people doing so are not who you may think are. Some of these people are actually adults pretending to be teenagers, pedophiles who are out to hurt children.
You wrote; "This boy who is in 6th entering 7th is like my best friend and I just recently got his number last week." If this boy is your best friend how is it that you just got his number? This makes no sense to me.
Something does not sound right here. Do not agree to meet him anywhere. Do not text him any more. In fact if you have never seen this boy fact to face and talked to him face to face then I deeply suggest you tell your parents about your texting and what he is asking of you. Let them take it from there. There is something very wrong here from the way you have written it and you could be in danger.
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