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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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ok i have 4 dogs:
-Irish Setter
-Golden Retreiver
-Beagel
-Yorkie
And I have 3 cats:
-Siamese
-Sphynx
-Pursian

I need ALL different kinds of toys for these pets! just 1 toy wont be enough they all fight over it! Do any of yall know ne good cat & dog toys??? in need of help b4 pets go boring and sad!

Blue_Fusion

I dont know much about dogs. but i know cats like those mouse toys and scatchin post.

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There is this guy that i like alot! And i've hooked up wit him before but we never went out! and one of mmy best friends i was hangin out wit her and i introduced her to him and when ever i was on the phone wwit her he would ask who it was and once he grabed the phone from me and told her that she has the biggest ass he has ever seen! and a couple days ago she said that they talk on the phone every nite and he was hangin out wit her one nite when her parents were gone and she claims thatthey didnt do anything and he claimed that they did stuff that i do not need to know about! this is really pissing me off and she knows how i feel bout him and a couple days ago she told me she liked him and he liked her and that i shouldnt be jealous if they go out becaz they go together and she made me feel bad and i waz pissed and now there're goin out and i exploded when i found out caz i just really really like this guy and now shes goin out wit him and im really mad at her wat should i do????

Your friend is not your friend. She knew you liked that guy and she went for him anyway. Thats just wrong. And that guy, hes just as bad. I'm sure he knew you liked him if you guys were hooking up and stuff. Plus by hooking up with you, he made you believe he liked you back. Going and seeing your friend is just disrespectful. He probably just wants his cake and eat it too. If he had it his way, he'd probably mess around with the both of you. This guy is no good. You can do way better. Be happy your friend is stuck with a jerk like him, her sleezy ass deserves him, you don't.

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My best friend goes out with this boy, She loves so much that no matter what he does she wont leave him. He could cheat on her, beat her, ANYTHiNG !! She wont leave him, But now shes confused, hes acting to diffrent he acts like shes the greatest thing in the world WHEN THERE ALONE ! But when hes with his friends, its diffent. Like if you see them in the hall alone he has this look that "wow i love her so much shes the greatest thing in the world,i dont know what i would do with out her" but when hes with friends its like "oh yeah , i "love her" no she just thinks that shes just another girlfriend" but everyone knows he really does love her. And now shes confused she loves him and she doesnt want to leave him, but she crys all the time other it, does she just stay with him and cry? Or cry because she lost him and its all her fault. i NEED TO HELP HER BEFORE SHE DOES SOMETHiNG STUPiD !!! HELP ME TO HELP HER !! GiVE ME ADViCE !!

Well if I knew how old your friend and her boy friend were it would be easier to answer this question...
I dont think your friend is really in love with this guy. I think she is just so used to him that she thinks she is in love with him and needs to be with him no matter what. If her boyfriend cheats on her, she does not need to be with him. If her boyfriend beats her she definitely does not need to be with him. No woman needs a man like that. If he cant be real about how he feels about her in front of his friends, then chances are he doesnt really love her. When a guy really loves a girl he will want to express it in front of the world. Your friend needs to stop crying. This guy may be a good guy, but he doesnt seem like the right one for her and she needs to stop believeing he is because she can do way better. She doesnt deserve to be crying. She isnt doing anything wrong. He is.

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should i lose weight to make a guy like me? i mean i AM little overweight and my parents think so too and ive gained like 10 pounds, so im like 15 pound overweight! so i am wondering because i think guys havent asked me out yet is becuase of this! i know 2 guys who already liked me but they thought i was funny and nice and everything.. im not wow fat, but should i lose weight now? because is this the last straw?

NO. You should not lose wieght so that guys will like you. Never chnage yourself for anyone. If you are happy the way you are then stay that way. People will just have to accept that and if they dont too fuckin bad. But if YOU are unhappy about how you look, then go lose the weight, but, only do it for yourself.

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ok first of all im not going to amifat.com or any website like that bcuz i dont trust them, i'd rather get advice from real people my age etc. so don't tell me to go to any website.

I've always been really skinny. People always think im anorexic and all my friends are like where do u put ur food? But i dont get my period every month probably because of it so i don't know how healthy my weight is. I'm about 5'6 and weigh about 103. Do YOU think thats healthy. Some of those crazy sites have told me it's not, and i wanna no what u think. thanx

103 is underweight for you. try drinking some protein shakes, and increasing on your dairy foods. go for about 118-119. trust me you will still be thin. and if you do feel a little big, just do some toning exercises to trim up, but dont lose the wieght.

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ok so my x-best friends ruined my life for the past couple months n now they wanna be friends again.. do i say yes n get hurt again or hold a grudge?? or neither... HELP!!

Neither. be friends with them. but dont put your all into it. keeps your eyes open and dont put all of your trust into them just yet. that way if they do fuck you over, youll be ready, and you wont feel so bad.

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OK-
last year was the bomb but this year sux. i have a new bestfriend and i love her to death but ok lastyear all of the guys kinda liked me and now they don;t like me anymore. i was talking to my best guyfriend and he said guys are scared to get regeted by me. CAN you believe that they are scared of me! so0o0o0 stupid! so now they r moving on to the new best thing, my best friend. I dont know but i kinda miss knowing guys like but i am trying to get over it but i miss knowing that someone likes me. I dono im so0o0 confused. But if you think about it either way i was screwed... if i went out with all of them id be called a slut or hoe but now that i regeted them they are all scared of me. i need help!! plzZzZzZ

SIGNED,
I DON'T WANNA BE SCARY

haha! you are NOT scary. Those boys are just idiots. If I were you i wouldnt sit around worrying about how many guys may like you. You should be worrying about what guy you like. no one is saying that you should say yes, to every guy who asks you out, cuz youre right, that would look bad. But there is nothing wrong saying you can see just one guy. If you dont say yes to one of them, youre never gonna have a guy of your own. so who ever that guy is that you might be crushing on, you should start paying more attention to. he may be scared of you right now, but once he sees you are intrested and knows that he has a chance he wont be scared anymore. and maybe once you are with someone you will only focus on him and forget about what those other boys think.

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I want to gain weight. No matter how much I eat, my weight doesnt go up. By the way, I am a vegetarian. Please suggest, whether there is any medication/tonic avaialble to gain weight.

I dont know what type of vegetarian you are but if you drink milk. you should start drinking more of it. eat alot of dairy, or drink those nutrition shakes. dairy foods are very fatty. and those nutrtion shakes are like a meal in a can, so if you drink alot, its kinda like overeating. you could also try vitamin b12, that stimulates muscle growth. you try to be less active as well. you probably dont gain weight because you have a high metabolism. so be a couch potatoe for a while and just pig out on everything. good luck!

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Okay this a very weird question. When I woke up this morning, i couldn't find my glasses. Thinking I went to bed with my contacts on, I touched my eyes looking for the edge of the contacts. In one eye I felt it and in the other I didn't. When I checked my contact case, both contacts were sitting in the solution. Is it normal to be able to feel your eye lens? Because that's starting to freak me out.

because you had just woke up, and normally everything isnt completely apparent or visible to us when we just wake up, you probably only thought you felt your lens but you didnt. i really dont think its a big deal. but if you do, take you contacts out and touch your eye again and see if you still can feel your lens. If you can, then maybe you see your eye doctor.

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what are some good ways to let a guy know you're interested? or some good ways to flirt?

i really like this guy, but i may need to step my flirting skills up a few notches, so any help you all could offer would be great!

just tell him you like him, and stop beating around the bush... thats the best way to go. get it off your chest.

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my bf and me go to diff skools and we see eachother mostly lyke ery other day or something but we havent seen eachother for a week...well hes at the mall with his frends...and the mall is about 6 blocks away from my house...and hes walking around with his friends and hes like @ this church thats 3 blocks away frmo my house..he knows where i live n stuff but he "cant cmoe see me bc his friends will only come if i hav friends for them" and none of my friends r home....so ther goin bak 2 the mall....it really hurts my feelings bc I ALWAYS go 2 his house hes been to my house TWICE and i go to his EVERYTIME...so he called n was like uhh idk ill call u later if something comes up n we happen to go by ur house again and iw as like watever have fun at the mall bye nd i hung up on him...im realllly mad at him.....wat do i do? hes gonna b online tonite i kno that for a fact n hes gonna b all sweet 2 me....and if he calls bak....do ii answer?? wat do i say? =\

if he calls back, of course you answer. dont play little immature phone games. but look, how he is being with you is not cool. relationships are 50/50 and he is not paying up to his half. you need to explain this to him. if doesnt understand or is not willing to make a change then lose the loser. i understand that a guy needs to chill with his friends, but not coming to see you (HIS GIRL) because you have no friends around for his friends, is just plain messed up.

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(16/F) Alrighty then, there is this guy that I've liked since last year. (name is...Frank) I have told Frank that I like him three time to his face, and we are not going out. I was wondering if it would be weird if I got him a Christmas present. I know its not Christmas yet, but I want to figure this out before hand. Please tell me what you think. Thanks in advance.

Signed-
Just Wondering

if i were you... i wouldnt get this a guy a gift. if you already told him 3 times that you like him and you still arent going out, it probably means he is not intrested. telling a guy so many times that you like him and not getting a reaction makes you look desperate. so if you go and get him a christmas gift, its just gonna make you look even more desperate. and desperate girls is a turn off to guys. also, do you think this guy is a stressing as much as you are over getting YOU a gift? probably not. now if he does get you something, then sure, get him something in return. otherwise, dont even bother.

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I am a fourten year old female.

How many times a week is it healthy to mastrubate? If you do it everyday, is it unhealthy then?
Thanks for listening

XxLostxAndxConfusedxX

You're 14! You should not be playing with yourself, any damn way. Thats some nasty shit. Fast ass little girl. I hope you stick something in there and it gets stuck.

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ok these TWO guys like me..... well im not sure about one of them but im definite on the other .... the first guy's name is lets say mike well he likes me... but hes kinda a loser.... plus hes a big jerk.... ya this is the guy who likes me and i no that he does. the second kid lets call him tyler.... im not sure if he likes me but all of my friends say that he flirts with me... but i dont even try to flirt with him!!! so the real question is does he like me??

o ya by the way i sorta have a crush on him but i dont wanna tell my friends bc last yere he wassa humongous loser and now hes all hot and sexy lol!!

plz dont delete this i really need advice!!

~*l0sT aNd CoNfUsEd*~

First off, if you like a guy it shouldnt matter what anyone else thinks. If your friends are your real friends they will be happy that you are with someone who makes you happy. And I can't tell you if this "tyler" guy likes you or not, but if YOU like him, then you should go for him. Find a way to approach or talk to him and let him know that you like him. If you don't do it, you will regret it later, so just get it over with.

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ok, i have a boyfriend. and i thought i loved him to death. but the other day i was at this club thing. and me and this other guy who is a good friend, we started flirting like crazy. and i realized i have feelings for him. and then later he told me he had feelings for me. he doesnt know i like him too though. but i don't know if i should stick with my boyfriend cause i truly do adore him or should i give this other guy a try bcuz hes so nice and everything.

If I knew your age, it would be better for me to understand this situation. But I'm guessing your kinda young. Look, when your young, you will experiment, and like many boys. You will probably think you are "in love" a million times, before you find the right one. If you really think you like this friend of yours, then you need to atleast have some respect for your current boy friend and let him know that you are still young and want to see other people. As for who you should be with, only you can make that decision. Sit back and think about the consequences you will have if you pick one or the other and think about what you could deal with better and what you want more.

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my best friends mom is realy rude. Liek we were supposed to meet up w.her @ the mall bc we were shopping and she was @ the movies. She called and left a message on my phone since my friends was dead to say she'd call us @ a quarter to six because the movie started @ 4..by the time we got the message it was past 4 so we didn't call bak. @ 6 we were heading to the front of the mall to get picked up and she called and was being really rude to me and was like "I want you guys at the front of the mall NOW" and stuff and made up something about my friend was supposed to call her @ 5 oclock..but the message said 6!! i erased it too..so we didn't have proof..and like she constantly argues w.my firned and her sister when i'm in the car or @ their house and shes nice sometimes but other times shes just so rude and i don't feel welcome and we were watching a movie that i brought over and her mom started it and wouldn't rewind it so we didn't get to see the begingin! and it was MY MOVIE! i wanted ot leave her house..but anyways my question is..i wanna go places w.my friend and go to her house and have her come over mine..but i don't wanna ride in the car w.her mom or go over her house..so what can i do! my parents won't drive both ways and i can't ALWAYS have her coming over my house and making excuses not to go over hers..

SORRY THIS IS SO LONG! i'll rate yall 5's just for reading it

ps- whenever i'm riding in the car w.them either going somewhere or coming back...her mom always makes me feel like i'm troubling her

tell your friend that you like being her friend, but her mom is driving you crazy! let her know you are not trying to be rude. you wanna spend time with her, but you cant deal with her moms stank attitude. ask her to talk to her mom, and let her mom know that her friends are avoiding hanging out with her daughter at the house because they think shes mean, cuz shes always yelling and it makes them feel unwanted and nervous. maybe your friends mom doesnt know that you or her other friends feel threatened by her, so she should tell her mom about it.

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I've had my period for almost 10 months now and it still doesn't come on the same days or "schedule" or whatever. I don't know when I am going to get it, because it's such a bad frequency. I don't want to leak in school, and I'm always scared that I did leak, and I didn't notice, and like people are laughing behind my back. I just don't know what to do. I don't wear pads either so..please help?

it is normal that you dont have a regular pattern yet. most girls dont until like the second year. im pregnant now, so i dont get my period right now, but i'm almost 18 and ive had my period since i was 11, and when i was getting it, i still never got it on a regular schedule. so dont worry. but yeah, if your scared your gonna get it in school, to avoid accidents, just wear a panty liner to school everyday. they are thin, and they dont bother like pads. if you wear a panty liner you wont get any blood on your clothes, and youll feel more secure, instead of parranoyed that someone will see something and laugh.

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Okay well this is what happened..My boyfriend and me were best friends before we went out and so then I had another best friend who went out with him and she still liked him. So, I liked him and he liked me but my friend was getting his whole grade against me (they are a grade older) and meanwhile i was practicaly in there grade, or acted like it. We are going out and people got mad, a lot of them aren't mad at me anymore but some are and so is she..I don't want to dump him but is there anything that you think I can do to make forgive me?

*Now I sort of like another guys they are my best friends..and they are twins and they are in my boyfriend and best friend's grade but I can't tell the difference to them..and I don't know if they like me..but they are SUPER HOTT, NICE, and SMART!*

girl you are CONFUSED! you like one of your best guy friends, which is causing all this drama AND you like TWINS! how can you be crushing on both of them. you say you can tell them apart, thats makes it even worst. it would atleast be a little understandable if you didnt know them individually. but you do, so that means you like brothers, and that is just the wrong way to go. plus these twins are in your current bfs grade and they are friends with him and your friends, you are just asking for MORE DRAMA. if i were you, i would just cool it for a while. find sometime with yourself to get your head organized. and then worry about guys.

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Last night i went to the movies with this guy i like. He didnt make a move on me so i desided to just hold his hand. Well after the movie he walked me to my car and i kissed his cheack good night. He texted me later and told me how hott i looked. I'm not really sure if he likes me or is just kinda using me. I want to be more than just friends with him, i want to be his girlfriend. But i dont know how to, what should i say to him or ask him to move to the next level?

stop and think for a second... did this kid put any moves on you? NO. so then how could he possibly be using you? he probably really likes you and just gets shy around you. tell him you like him and want to be more than friends, and see what he thinks about it.

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hi, im 13/m i have this gf we started going out like 2 months ago and its been really cool and i really like her alot but now i found out shes been smokin pot and drinken and shes only 13 though it was her first time it was kinda shocking cuz i expectede more from her i still like her but i sont kno if i wanna handle this i dont know what to do should i keep going out with her.

talk to her. find out if she is gonna keep doing this. 13 is pretty young to be doing that kinda stuff. if she continues you might not wanna be around that kind of an influence, cuz let me tell you peer pressure is a bitch. but if you can handle it, then just dont be around her when she is doing it.

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