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19/f
okay so a three sum, yeah i know what it is but what exactly would happen if you had it with two guys? like i dont understand how that would work! i probably sound really stupid for asking, but i think it would be kind of fun ;) (link)
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I have heard a few things from people who have had threesomes. Honestly, Make sure this is what you want to try and think long and hard about it because sometimes it does not always go as exspected and it. If it were to be 2 guys one girl one of the guys would have sex with the female and the other guy could either do the same to the guy or the girl can give oral pleasure.
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21/f. He's 24/m. We've have been involved for four years. REALLY long story short, it's been a rough road for us. He used to be emotionally abusive, but he made a conscious decision to change. I agreed to let the past go, and forgive him. It was great for a long time, and despite his family hating me, we were happy.
Recently, I got a job in my field. Instead of being happy for me when I told him about the pay, he said, "That's it? You should turn it down."
Now when I try to tell him funny stories about work, he says "sweet" with no inflection, and changes the subject. He makes a point of letting me know I'm "not funny" when I try to joke around, or he thinks I'm serious when I'm not. He suddenly doesn't understand me anymore.
It's become increasingly obvious to me that he doesn't care. About anything, including himself. He's studying for the MCAT, and it's all he CLAIMS he ever does. I have absolutely no objection to him studying, and I'd be happy he was doing it if it was really what he wanted. Instead, he's doing it to appease his parents, and I hate him for it. He doesn't have the balls to stand up to them and say he doesn't want to do it. Of course, he doesn't know what he wants to do anyway.
I've lost respect for him, I'm becoming less attracted to him. He's starting to say little nasty things to me, and I just don't want to put up with it.
I think he just doesn't belong in my life anymore...but how do I tell him? In person, I know, but I have to get him to stop "studying" long enough for me to say something. How do I do THAT when I never see him?
Should I give him a chance to redeem himself? (link)
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Doesn't sound like he has changed that much, I hate to say it but people who have a history of verbal/physcial abuse don't always change and the chances are slim unless they seek professional help. The whole job thing sounds like he is not happy for you and doesn't wish you success. It is not right of him to be putting you down he is your boyfriend and he should be happy and supportive of you. I don't blame you for have little respect for this guy I would be the exact same way. It sounds like this guy needs to take a hike you deserve so much better. You have done something for you and all he can do is step all over it and shrug his shoulders. If you do not think he doesn't belong in your life anymore than you need to tell him and DON'T let him try the sympathy story. Here is an example you could use "I've given it a lot of thought lately, I am not happy in this relationship anymore you have said nasty things too me and you don't seem to be supportive and understanding I also feel you don't respect me in the way I should be respected I think we need to go our seperate ways therefore I no longer wish to be in a relationship with you" That is pretty straight foward and honest and he should get the point. I do NOT think you should give this guy another chance this is already his 2nd chance and he has made it pretty clear that he is not going to change his ways. If you stay with him and keep giving him chances you are only in the long run going to drain yourself out and become stress. You deserve better than that
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I also wanted to say, Anything is possible to overcome. I am also a victim of an abusive relationship only mine was both verbal and physical. I found it really helped me to use all the things that he said and did to me that upset, hurt or angered me. Whenever I had my doubts about leaving I made myself think of all the times I was crying and heart broken I dwelled on it too move forward and do what was best for me. In the long run, I'm free now and I'm happier than I have been in a really long time. Family and friends will be your support along the way.
Hugs
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I was at sea world and i met brooke shields. I took a photo with her and i want to email her or whoever answers her email to see where to send the picture to have it autographed. if you know her email or fan email or whatever PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE! let me know i checked everywhere. and it has to be official email, because i dont want to email a stranger pretending to be Brooke. thanks! (link)
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More than likely Brooke Shields does not have an email address. I can almost garrantee that if you were to email "Brooke Shields" you are either going to get a poser or someone who just has a fan site/email.
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Sorry in advance if this is a bit long.
16/f
I was with a boy for 7 months. Our relationship was great. We loved each other. However, he told me that he felt like he couldn't make me happy and I deserved better and dumped me. He broke my heart, however eventually I moved on and got over it. 5 Months pass by and he decides to re enter my life! Wanting to give things another try. I lost my virginity to this guy, therefore I feel so attached to him. I take him back and give him another try.
The 2 months we're together is awful. He didn't treat me nicely and refused to tell me he loved me. I told him we should end it. Another 2 months goes by.. and guess who decides to enter my life AGAIN! I was firm with him and told him I couldn't do this again. However, like an idiot I give in.
He told me things i've never heard him say before and that he really did love me blah blah blah.
We hang out again.. and he decides we should be "together" He told me he wants to take it slow to avoid hurting me again. Every time we hangout it gets sexual and we've been "together" now for 2 weeks. He doesn't text me too much. I wonder if
anything will change. My mind is so confused and
I just feel so attached to this kid. Any suggestions of what I should do? (link)
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Sounds like he is taking advantage of you, Not only does he like to toy with your feelings but he likes the sexual part of it too. I wouldn't take him back, Infact I would leave him he doesn't sound worthwhile. Remember this is about your happiness, You said the two months were awful therefore it's pretty clear that nothing is going to change. Dump him and move on you deserve better and if it didn't work out with a second shot then forget any future trys.
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hey im a 14 yr old boy and i like this girl named haily. every time we hang out i feel that she can do so much better than me. its weird because i have no self confedence problems. she is really cute.
p.s. im not a shallow boy who just like girls for their bodies, i like haily for her personality. i want to pour out my feelings for her because i reallllllllllly like her but i don't think she wants anything to do with a relationship. what should i do? please help me. (link)
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Ask her, Talk to her about it. Afterall communication is the key. If she isn't ready for a relationship then you two can be friends maybe somewhere down the line she will be ready and you two could try again. Also, You need to start having some confidence in yourself because if you doubt the relationship and you doubt yourself too much you are going to find it going down the drain...
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i want to burn a cd but i dont have the song how do burn it (link)
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Limewire is free, You can download a song from there also you could try Frostwire. Once you download the song drag it over to window's media player after you've created a playlist and then when you hit like 13 or so you can burn the playlist to a blank cd
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Okay, well i jus got a boyfriend and my best friend is actin really jealous. I jus got my 1st kiss by him and she was happy for me yet upset at the same time. She older than me and hasnt had her 1st kiss yet and acts mad cause i got mine b4 her. Im jus busy worrying about her and how she feels instead of being happy about my new boyfriend. what should I do?
Well since im wrinting i have another problem, i am terrified to tell my dad about my boyfriend becuase he is two years older than me. My dad likes him, but im scared he is going to hate him after i tell him or he wont let us be together, but i kno if i dont tell him it will jus make matters worse. What should I do?
From,
CLUELESS
P.S. my mom knows
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You friend needs to stop acting so immature and get over it, It is not a race on who gets a boyfriend first, a first kiss, it's about when the time is right.
If the age difference is illegal than I would be nervous to tell my father too, Why are you nervous?
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Im 21 and female. I broke up with a guy about 2 years ago and ive had feelings for him ever since. I basically broke up with him because of another guy and regreted it after. Weve kept in touch and im pretty sure im in love with him and have been even since we broke up. I recently found out he is going to propose to his girlfriend. This really upset me and i dont want him to marry her. I guess my question is, is it wrong for me to tell him how i feel about him since hes planning on marrying this other girl? Should i tell him or should i just leave it alone and try to move on?
thanks! (link)
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Move on, If he is getting ready to propose obviously he is in love with someone eles and has moved on. It would not be right for you too exspress your feelings too him 2 years later, He has a girlfriend/fiance now. Think about it, What if someone did that too you?
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Ok!! Well I just broke up with my boyfriend!! And about 5 minutes later after we broke up he called me beggin me to take me back!! And I Love him But im talkin to another guy right now that i've been with before!! I dont know what to do PLEASE HELP ME!!! (link)
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Make up your mind, Who do you want to be with? You can't have both
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i like my friend but she doesnt like me im pretty sure but shes just dissapointed in what i did and she doesnt want to get over it, im not sure if its a jealousy thing she just feels let down cause she says she thought i was a different person and im being a hypocrite cause ive said i dont like kids that take advantage of girls (link)
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You need to be A LOT more specific, Exactly what you are needing advice on?
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hey i was wondering do you know the code in ms dos to start a complete restore of the computer? i know the one to do from a certain date and time but i want the complete restore. (link)
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Hi,
I am really not good with computers in that categlory, Wish I could help you more but I think the best columnist to ask is Theymos. :)
Good Luck
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There is this particular song that I keep on hearing in either Nordstroms and Bloomingdales. I have asked people who work there what the name of the song is and they had no idea of looking up. It is a woman singing in a soothing voice and the chorus goes something to the extent of
oooo we can, we can, we can (or maybe she's saying wicked)
and then talks about the ocean
Does anyone have any ideas what the name of this song is? (link)
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Janet Jackson - When we oooo
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ok. well i have this bf and he is like the type who will keep asking for sex but he seems pleased if i don't talk about it that much. So I am wondering is he having sex with other woman or does he respect my desicion and doesn't do anything with other girls???
P.S. Every night we hang up the phone, when we don't get into a fight which we barely do, he tells me he loves me... (link)
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You've just about listed all the signs of someone cheating. If you ask him and he is cheating more than likely you will not get right answer as most guys deny it anyway. I cannot tell you for sure if he is cheating or not you need to decide based on where your relationship status is. If he isn't interested in sex like someone said below me than more than likely he's lost interest in you or he is getting it somewhere eles.
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well i am 15 and my gf is 24 and we had sex for 1st time and i used a condom but the 1st time we did it it was for maby 60 sec top and then after a bit we tryed agin and it was for a bit (with a comdom) and then we stoped for like 30 sec and she took the condome off and then she wanted 2 go agin but she didn't want me 2 put a condom on and i asker her like 3 times and she sed its fine i won't get pregnat and she sed that there was only 1 day a month a chick can get pragnat and its rite befor they get there pearoid...but i never busted in her wile the comdom was off but i know quite a bit still got in there and now i am kinda scared...
p.s. the reason we didn't do it for like no time at all and then stoped and then did it agin is beacuz it was bolth of out 1t time and i know i popped her cherry beacuz it blead a bit... (link)
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It is Illegal to have a relationship with anyone that is over the age of 18, You are a minor she is an adult. Therefore, She could go to jail for a very very long time. There is NO time of the month where a woman can't get pregnant that is a complete lie. Not being mean here but what is she a complete idiot?! You are a kid, Yes at fifteen you are still a kid a teenager AND in High School. Guess what, Sex with a minor is statutory rape even if you agree with it. Don't let her fool you buy listening to hear say "Well I love you!" trust me, She don't love you. If she did she wouldn't of dated you because not only is she putting herself at risk by rotting in prison but you also will have a reputation that will stick with you. Your best bet, Is to report her and END the relationship right away. From now on stick with people around your own age and this doesn't mean go out and date someone who is 19 either STILL ILLEGAL and WRONG!
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i just told my boyfriend that I've been with for a year and three months that i made out with my ex who he hates and he broke up with me he took me back but still doesn't know how he can ever trust me again what should i do?
i was with him yesterday and we were having a great time and then he just got all down
i hate the fact that i cheated on him and i know he would never do it to me
i don't know why i did it
i don't have any feelings for my ex anymore i lost those feelings when i broke up with him
please help me? (link)
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Well,
If your ex cheated on you how would you feel? Would you ever trust him again? Sounds like he deserves better.
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14/f
I've been asked out more than plenty of times in my life (I'm not going to complain about it) but I've never said yes to anyone. I never actually thought that the reason why was because something didn't feel right...until awhile ago a boy a really liked asked me out. And I totally blew it by the way... I totally freaked out when he asked me...I told him maybe and then I let it off for like a week...and then he told me he was moving so it would be too hard. So that was like a total slap in the face...
I think I might have commitment issues. I think my problem is that I'm really afraid to be in a relationship with someone, as much as I would love to. All my friends go in and out of these wonderful relationships and everything, and I'm so jealous of it...but even though I've had more chances than all of my friends' put together, I've turned down everyone (with that one exception...).
I don't know what to do about it. I seriously would love to have a boyfriend but I'm just too...scared. And the weird thing is I'm really good around guys, too. It's just when relationship stuff comes up...yeah....
Can anyone help me? I'd really appreciate it. (link)
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You are young, I'm assuming you still have a lot to learn about relationships. It's not about who is dating first or how many relationships you or your friends have had. Commitment is a huge word it means a lot of things and not everyone is ready to settle down and date. It's about you and when you are ready there is no rush. When you do decide to date remember you are young, You should date people and that meaning more than one. It is not healthy to lock yourself in just one relationship at such a young age unless you are truely happy. Relax, This isn't a contest of who gets who and how fast someone can date. It will come when you are ready and one day you will be.
-BahaiMa22
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19-female.
why is it that i feel the need to act subtle and shy around my best guy friend who i also have a crush on?
i'm not myself when i'm around him. i know we would have soooo much more fun if i was myself, because usually i'm crazy, i never think before i speak, i'm a craaaazy lady. i talk loud, i dance and sing like a mad woman (: i just love to have fun.
but when i'm around him i barely talk, i always think before i say something to make sure i'm not going to sound stupid. i don't sing or dance, in fear of looking dumb!
but if i do start acting like myself i'm afraid he will think its a little werid and out of the ordinary, yah know? i always feel like i have to impress him, i always have to look in the mirror.
why cant i just hang out with him in my sweatshirt and sweatpants with no make-up on and my hair thrown up? i know he wouldn't care! we love each other! we've been friends for like 6 years now.
yeah i know, 6 years, crazy! and your probably thinking, "how are you not comfortable with him yet?" but he does something to me that when everytime i see him, my heart skips a beat, and i get super shy and don't know what to say!
oh, yah forgot to say, he has a girlfriend. which makes things more difficult.
he is very outgoing, he's funny, he makes me laugh like no other. i wish i could do the same for him. i remember once i said something like i'm not myself when i'm with you and hes like why? and i was just like i dont know! i'm different when i'm with other people and he was like why arent you like that with me! so i know he wants me to be myself, but i can't let myself go.
how can i overcome this? anything is appreciated (: (link)
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If you two are best friends than you should have no problem just being youself and he should have no problem excepting who you are. I know what it's like to like someone the feeling of always having to look your best and put on the best impression but again you should be who you are. If he likes you even as a best friend, Then there must be a reason why. Just be yourself, Relax.
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In a long distance relationship, basically we talk everyday & last night it was silent & I had to leave, when I left he sounded kinda mad. All day today I had the feeling he didn't want to talk to me, but I knew if I didn't call him, he'd be more mad.
So I called, wanting to fix the situation/ask whats up, and his brother answered. I talked to his brother for 2 1/2 hours, then it was time for my track practice again. My bf was there next to him the entire time, on xbox, and talked to me for basically 30 seconds said hey how are you, then left. Haha, so I left. I was furious, I've cooled down now.
But I dunno, should I just have no contact w/ him for the next couple days? He's told me before his biggest fear is me just 'disappearing' since we are long distance, so I dunno if that'd make him mad. I don't think I want to break up with him..and I do already miss him, but I feel like I need time to think. It's like my intuition was right, he didn't want to talk to me today for some reason. Ugh, please any advice would help. (link)
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I'll be honest, Long distant relationships are hard as hell and normally do not work out there is a very slim chance that it will. I myself had one for five years..I've tried just about EVERYTHING to make it work and in long term it just didn't work out. I don't know what his problem is but if he talked to you for 30 seconds my opinion he basically brushed you right off. I'd be pissed too. I think I saw another posting by you about silence on the phone..? Maybe it was another person. However, it doesn't sound like he cares to put enough effort into the relationship every relationship should be 50/50 if it is long distant than you can't put the 50/50..I really don't know exactly what to say here but I think maybe talk to him again and see what he says if he gives you the shoulder and brushes you off and it continues.. Then girl I don't think he's trying hard enough and it might be time to move on.
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I am a 28 year old male, and I am still letting my parents control my life. They demand alot of my time, and have no consideration for the fact I am now a man, and have a family and career of my own. Recently, My dad expressed to my three year old daughter that he did not want her around, then proceeded to tell my wife that we may think our daughter is the greatest thing since sliced bread, but she's not. This made me extremely upset, and I have not gone back to my parents house or spoke to my father since that happened three weeks ago. They are not interested in reconciling with my wife or daughter, but want things to be the same. I don't want that. What do I do? (link)
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You could try to sit down with your parents and let them know that you do not apprechiate what they have said and done. You are now a man, You are free to live your own life and make your own choices. The fact that your father would turn to your three year old daughter and tell her he doesn't want her around is highly innapropriate not to mention I can only imagine what she was thinking she is just a child. I would sit down with both Mom and Dad and let them know that you are happily married now and you are not going to change things for their sake of happiness. They need to learn to except all of you as your wife and child are family also. If they are not interested in excepting them or at least try to get along with your wife and daughter than it is up to you on what you should do. You can continue to keep in contact with them but it will only cause stress on your marriage because it is something that will always sit in the back of your mind, Or you can tell them where it stands "You, Your wife and daughter" or none of the above. As hard as this might sound this is your choice to make. You are their son it is only the right thing for them to do is to except your family and be happy that you are happy and a successful man they are your parents and they should be proud. This isn't about them, It's about YOU.
Anything eles feel free to message me
BahaiMa22
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I messed up and I fingered my g/f before I removed my hand wart. It was fairly recent. What is going to happen? What should I do? How can I help her? (link)
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Well,
I don't think anything is going to happen but that wasn't exactly a smart thing to do only because warts are full of bacteria. I wouldn't finger her again if you have a wart on your hand and I would wash your hands frequently and put a bandaide on it.
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