|
Fight with long distance boyfriend!
In a long distance relationship, basically we talk everyday & last night it was silent & I had to leave, when I left he sounded kinda mad. All day today I had the feeling he didn't want to talk to me, but I knew if I didn't call him, he'd be more mad.
So I called, wanting to fix the situation/ask whats up, and his brother answered. I talked to his brother for 2 1/2 hours, then it was time for my track practice again. My bf was there next to him the entire time, on xbox, and talked to me for basically 30 seconds said hey how are you, then left. Haha, so I left. I was furious, I've cooled down now.
But I dunno, should I just have no contact w/ him for the next couple days? He's told me before his biggest fear is me just 'disappearing' since we are long distance, so I dunno if that'd make him mad. I don't think I want to break up with him..and I do already miss him, but I feel like I need time to think. It's like my intuition was right, he didn't want to talk to me today for some reason. Ugh, please any advice would help.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
i rekon hes in the wrong here..u havent done anything wrong so he should b the one calling you and trying to fix things. my advise would be is that you have some time to think and clear your head see if hell call you if he does itll show how hes missed you but if he doesnt then id b very angry and call him to see what his problem is
]
If you want to continue in this relationship, call him and talk out the negativity of the last few days.
If he felt neglected, and then neglected you for Xbox the next day, that's an important thing to acknowledge and talk about. If you just start playing those games with one another, you'll both just get angry and resentful. It will become a game of one-upmanship where you are both trying to prove that you can neglect the other more than they can neglect you.
That would suck. And if you stop calling him and change your normal contact behaviour, that's the game you'll be starting. Don't do it. Call him like you normally would and say 'Dude, yesterday you did something totally different from normal. Why did that happen? How are you feeling about it?’
]
I'll be honest, Long distant relationships are hard as hell and normally do not work out there is a very slim chance that it will. I myself had one for five years..I've tried just about EVERYTHING to make it work and in long term it just didn't work out. I don't know what his problem is but if he talked to you for 30 seconds my opinion he basically brushed you right off. I'd be pissed too. I think I saw another posting by you about silence on the phone..? Maybe it was another person. However, it doesn't sound like he cares to put enough effort into the relationship every relationship should be 50/50 if it is long distant than you can't put the 50/50..I really don't know exactly what to say here but I think maybe talk to him again and see what he says if he gives you the shoulder and brushes you off and it continues.. Then girl I don't think he's trying hard enough and it might be time to move on.
]
More Questions: |