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15/f I want my arm hair removed, but I don't want to shave it off, because I heard it comes back thicker and darker and faster, and I also hear these stories about people who have shaved their arms really regret it. Since waxing your legs after a while, it doesn't really grow back would the same technique happen to your arms? I've tried bleaching and stuff and its not like I have a lot of arm hair its just long pieces of it, I even tried trimming my arm hair lol.

So my question is has anyone had their arm hair waxed and how did it work, cause I really want to wax it, but I don't want to regret waxing it. (ps. I'm talking about arm hair not arm pit hair)
thanks so much!!

i've never done anything with arm hair removal [except for the pits! lol] but one of my good friends swims so she shaves her arms.. and it's no big thing for her.. but if you just want it gone, then there's no need for it really.. everyone has hair on their arms and its really not a big deal.. its one of those things that no one notices but you =) but i would imagine it grows back like leg hair.. so do what you want =) and waxing your arms doesn't seem like it would hurt too badly.. but my friend shaves them and she says she doesn't mind ♥

do some punk rock guys like black girls? just wondering.. ive been flirting with this boy for like 2 weeks now. hes a skater and im a black girl..i wouldnt say im ugly but idk. one day hes like super superr sweet and walks me to class and gives me long hugs and the next day hes all bleeehh. idk anyway are punk guys into black girls at all? or does it depend..

it really all depends on the people.. and if he's not into you just because of your color, then i'm pretty sure it's his loss.. just keep on doing whatever you're doing, maybe on his 'blah' days, he's just tired.. or busy =) don't fret hun ♥

do guys have like an opening like girls do between their legs..? like what exactly is there?!! :]

lol no.. girls have 3 holes.. and boys have one [theyre butt] and of course the purple helmet warrior is down there too.. but just one hole

i live in the USA and my friends are going to europe for 8 days starting tomorrow. if they take their cell phones, will they still work? would they get reception?

i went to ireland and i have verizon.. mine didn't work. but my friend that i went with has cingular, and her phone switched automatically to some other european company.. and amazingly she had reception.. but it cost a bundle. so what i did, was i bought these 'planet' cards.. and they're like payphone cards.. i found them at most local stores.. and you just use them with payphones. or they can buy a prepaid phone when they get there =) ♥

ok well i have to questions in mind
14 female

the first question is about my stomach. so when i flex and everything i have a 4 pack, not a very defined one, but a 4 pack none the less. ok but after i eat and stuff my stomach gets big (obviously) but it looks like it's lower then everyone elses stiomach because it really gets like big below the belly button. and then like when my stomach gets big and stuff it goes up to a little below my belly button, then like gets pointedish, then slopes back to be flat. it's weird, it looks like i'm pregnant when i do that. so could it be possible my stomach is lower then most people, because i have heard of something like that

the second question is kind of odd, ok well after softball practice yesterday i got into the shower (at my house) and i smelled B.O. and i thought it was my arms, but it wasn't, it was the crack in my boobs, and i find that highly repulsive, is there anyway to like stop that because it's gross, and i'm goin on vacation soon and i don't want to be running or something in my bathing suit then my boobs start to smell, so any ideas what i can do to prevent that?

an answer on either would be appreciated =]

it could be possible that your stomach is lower than most peoples.. mine does that too though sort of.

and for the other one, there's really no way to prevent it, other than to put deoderant between them lol. i know it sounds weird, but it's the only way. or just keep wiping them with your shirt, but then your shirt might smell. i would just put a mild, clear deoderant on them.. don't feel dumb, i've heard of people doing that before =)

good luckkk ♥

16/f and my bf is 16/m we have been going out for almost two years now and when he fingers me i dont like moan, shake, or anything...is that ot normal? like he doesnt go "fast" he does it at a moderate pase. please dont tell me to masturbate and find out where i can moan beause i do that. and when he "eats me out" which hes only done once my legs started shaking but nothing else and that lasted very shortly. and when i masturbate i only get to my legs shaking then stop like i really dont know what an orgasim is and i really need some help here?

thanks so much

well i don't think that everyone moans or makes noises or anything like that.. people have all different ways of 'getting off'.. but if you're doing anything that might cause you to moan and you feel like you want to, then go ahead.. cause you shouldn't be embarrassed to make noises or shake or whatever in front of the person you're doing things like that with.. like, if you're too embarrassed to make sounds or whatever in front of the person you're fooling around with, then why are you even doing anything?. so to answer your question, it's perfectly normal =) and everythings fine.. not everyone shows their orgasms like that, and some fake them. so yes- you're perfectly normal and have nothing to worry about =) idk, but i've always heard that when you have an orgasm you know.. like you really REALLY know.. but i'm not really sure.. haha but don't worry hun, you're fine =)

"Nothing’s worse than watching a friend in pain and knowing there is absolutely nothing you can do about it"--- what does this quote trying to say? sorry im just a exchange student from japan.

it means that there is nothing worse than watching someone you care about be hurt really badly and not being able to help. like lets say your friends mother dies, there's really not much you can do.. since nothing can bring her back. so you feel really bad because you want to help soooo badlyy, but you just can'ttt. =) hope i helpeddd ♥

"never take someone for granted hold every person close to your heart cause you might wake up one day and realize that you've lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones"-- what does this quotes trying to say? is it about friendship? or what?

it means exactly what it says. it means to cherish everyone you have no matter what. the diamond stone analogy means that you weren't really paying attention to the important things [diamond], because you were too busy worrying about the non-important things [stones]. so for example, let's say you're running around worrying about silly things- like who's going out with who, what's the latest fasions, or whatever it is that you do lol. while in the meantime, you haven't been actually looking around and realizing how lucky you are to have everything.. such as your parents, and close friends and family. =) so it's just trying to say, to be thankful for every SINGLEEE thing you have. even right down to the fact that you can walk and breathe.. cause those too are treasures.. and to stop worrying about things that don't really matter ♥

13/f. There is this guy that I have liked for a while. I think he might like me because he always asks to hang out, and i talk to him a lot. Also, my friend talk to him about me and it seemed like he was interested, but nothing is really happening. I know i should just give it time but I want him to know that I really like him, but I don't want it to be totally akward. thanks.

just hang out with him =) and if you already do, go to the movies and more secluded places.. then, once you've gone on a date or two, just when the time seems right, say "i think i like you" and if you don't want to be too forward about it, just say "you're cute =P" or something more causal =) hey, you never know.. he could be waiting to tell you too! just tell him how you feel, and let it out.. life's too short to wait =)

hope i helpedd [♥]

if your ex asked you to go to the movies with her/him - as friends - and you have a girlfriend/boyfriend, would you still say yes or no?

i'm thinking of asking my ex to go to the movies during our spring break, which is in about 2 weeks, but i don't know if he would say yes or no since he has a girlfriend. all i really wanna do is see him since i haven't seen him for like, 2 years. so i was wondering what YOU would say.

thanks.

well there's no harm in wanting to see him again, but i'm sure his girlfriend won't be too happy with it. but if you decide to do so, i wouldn't invite him to the movies.. because that usually implies the fact that it's a date.. invite him to your house, or a get together with friends- yours and his. but make sure he knows everyone. then, if that goes well, invite him on something less casual- like going out to lunch, or hanging at your house. good luck =)

Is it normal if your straight to have dreams like your gay? And your a girl.
Please help.

i got this information from http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/ hope it helpss!! =)

Homosexual

To dream that you are homosexual (but you are not in your waking life), represents a union with aspects of yourself. It is symbolic of self-love, self-acceptance, and compassion. If, in your dream, you are not comfortable with homosexuality, then it suggests some fears/anxieties about your masculinity (if you are male) and femininity (if you are female). You may be experiencing some insecurity in your relations with the opposite sex.

To dream that the guy you like in real life is gay, represents your anxieties and fears that he won't like you back. If he was gay, then it would be easier to dismiss your feelings for him. And it would be easier for you to say that you have no chance with him.

On a side note, it is common for expectant fathers to have dreams of homosexual encounters.

If you are homosexual in your waking life, then the dream is simply a reflection of your own self.

I wanna give my friend a cool nickname with something to do with her name. Her name's Victoria and her middle name's Nicole. What are some nicknames I could call her besides Vic, Vicky, Torie, and Toria?

v-nic =) haha i always do that wtih my friends names.. like danika clevenstine became d-clev.. and my boyfriend tylor mutton i sometimes call him t-mutt.. haha but only when i'm being stupid lol. and billy murray became bill-murr.. lol and so forth. just be creative =)

any idea where i can get a dress similar to
http://www.toywebb.net/images/spice-girls-logo.jpg
the girl infront wearing like the british flag?
its soo cute! and i live in america..
unless i have to go to england to get it.
thats okay, too.

http://www.mydivascloset.com/britflagspan.html

http://www.pierresilber.com/britflagdres.html

http://www.flirtylingerie.com/britflagmind.html

well, they're all the same dress.. but the prices vary and some of the websites seem more reliable than the others.. so you can choose =) hope i helped, and good luckk ♥

O.k. so every time I went to the mall I used to love going to the store Delia's. But the last time I went back Delia's was closed down. Then I went to another mall nearby and that Delia's was gone too. So my question is: is Delia's out of business for good? Or is it only in my area? I live in New Jersey if it helps but if you live somewhere else, do you know if the store Delia's is still open for business where you live? Thanks so much in advance =).

yeahhhhh.. it's still open =] i live in easton pa which is right on the nj border.. and ours in the lehigh valley mall is deffinitely still open.. you can shop online in your wanna at www.dELiAs.com =) & the next time you go one, pick up a magazine and get the little subscription thing out of it and you can subscribe to the catalog =) or you can probably sign up for the subscription online.. i'm not sure though =) hope i helped ♥

I hate my family. There all a bunch of #$@%&*$#(@%^(#&^…everytime I get on the computer..they always suspect I’m doing something wrong like..i’m on myspace or aim or e-mail….my dad always think that…everytime I’m on the computer he’s always saying “ o are you on myspace or aim or e-mail…and I get angry b/c I’m not and he always suspects that and it gets on my nerves and when I say “NOOOO!!!” he says “ yea rite your lying to me” then I get mad and say “WHAT THE HECK!!”…Why’d you ask if you don’t believe me!!”…. Then my mom is just a bigger annoying one!! she’s always nagging to me about my grades…. I try my hardest but she never accepts it!!…. She’s always saying “if your trying your hardest…your grades would be higher”…I hate talking about my grades b/c my mom is always like look at everyone else…their grades are high, why can’t you be like them…everytime she says this I feel stupid, and I wanna just ignore her…then she says you never want to talk about this but look at your grades!!!…. Then I’m on aim sometimes and then she comes and beats me because she thinks I’m talking and not doing my hmrk…. When really I’m talking to a friend or my cousin to get help…but she never believes me…then I get beat for noo reason…and everytime she gets mad she always talks about my grades..And says print your grades out and let me see them…then there bad grades then she gets mad at me more…sometimes I wish I can just kill myself (no joke)…but then I say no bc don’t want to die in pain(if there was a easier/ painless way of dieing I would do it)…it’s really getting close to me doing that…I know I won’t ever do it but I really wish I can …sometimes I just tell my mom that maybe I’m stupid and this is the best of my ability but she never believes me….sometimes I wish I can hurt her really badly emotionally w/o hurting myself physically…I just can’t stand her…sometime I wish I can just run away….and we also have this neighbor who is he biggest momma’s boy ever…he listens to his mom and everything he’s like the “perfect son”…he makes my life even worse…b/c my mom will be like “look at his grades and look at yours he has better grades than you…he’s in all honors classes and your not!!…you just in 2 classes”…and this makes me feel even more stupid…and I’m really bad in math and my mom makes me go to this tutoring class for math every Saturday morning…and he’s there…b/c everything I do he has to do!!…and he does his hmrk every single day and asks questions and be a good student… then he makes me look bad….then I don’t get anything we learn in that class so I asks questions and sometimes she’ll get aggravated b/c I’m not getting it..and then we’ll take a test and I’ll maybe miss a lot and she’ll call my mom and be like she doesn’t do my hmrk(maybe b/c I don’t get it!!) and she missed a lot and she never does anything in class(she lies!!)…I try my hardest to pay attetion..It’s not my fault I’m stupid and don’t get it!!…sometimes I hate going home from something just cause it’s soo bad…I get in trouble or yelled at everyday!!…then my sister is the worst of them all!!….she’s sooooo annoying..she’ll always up in my business!!….i’ll be on the computer and she’ll always run out of no where and “check up on me”…then b/c she comes so fast then I get scared I then I think I’m doing something wrong so I have to exit out of everything then she’ll be “OOOO!!!….your on mypace/aim/e-mail!!!..i’m tellling!!.” And she’ll yell it so that my mom or dad can come can come and accuse me and be like “GET OFF THE COMPPUTERR!! YOUR NOT DOJNG YOIUR HMRK!!” Then I can never finish my hrmk…so then I have it sneak on at night just to finish it then my dad’s like…I know you were on the computer on myspace/aim/e-mail last night so you can’t get on today!!…then I can never do my hmrk…then that’s probably another reason that I’m not passing all my classes!!….then sometimes I’ll be on and my sis will come and then be like I no you were on something you were’nt supposed to be on..click on the history!!…then I’m like no I’m tired of you accusing me …then she accuses me for no reason with no proof and yells “OOO!!…mommy/daddy she’s on myspace/aim/e-mail..then my mom/dad comes and says CHECK ON HISTORY!!….then I do and there’s nothing wrong there!!…and my sis walks away saying I no you deleted it…I get sooo mad when they accuse me for no reason!!…I hate it!!….and everytime my sis and me argue my mom comes and break it up and she listens to my sis’s part of the story and not mine…so it’s like I’m the bad guy!!….it’s sooo annoying!!….then of course I get yelled at…..my sis has an attitude and she never gets in trouble she treats our parents with no respect…and she never gets in trouble!!…she scratches me and it leaves marks on my hand and my parents don’t says anything…but if I do something like call her stupid or push her down I get in trouble they always say you should know better she’s younger….I’m like what the heck!!….she’s 11 she’s not little!!!!…. And I’m not “allowed” in her room…if I stand by the doorway she gets mad and says “get out!!” then slams the door in my face….I don’t know what to do with my family..sometimes I wish I can just run away…and everyday when I go to sleep I wonder how it would be like if I was never born…..it would be the “perfect family”…I try to make everyday a good day but it always comes out bad..b/c of something I do…so I just gave up…I know it’s gonna be a bad day so I just go along with it…there’s no point of trying to make it a good day…..also I’m doing really bad in Spanish…and I pay attention in class and do my hmrk and go to tutorials…and I can’t tell anybody b/c if I tell my dad then he’ll tell my mom…and if I tell my mom then she’ll yell at me and I don’t want that anymore….so I have to keep it a secret and pray that I pass at the end…..

14/f

sorry it's so long but i did'nt want to leave anything out...

okay.. i can see the problem right away. you just need to be more positive! life is so much more than school and getting yelled at.. yeah i mean i'm not saying school isn't important, hell yeah it is.. but you don't need to get so upset and not do your homework 'becasue you don't get it' make yourself get it. ask questions, try harder, study more.. if something's not going how you want it to go, then change it. ask your teachers for help or just focus more. everyone has the potential to be amazing, but only people with the proper mindset are amazing. it's not that you're 'stupid' you just don't realize your potential. you have to realize that you can do anything you set your mind to. like me for instance, i am a flaming idiot when it comes to chemistry.. so everyday, walking into class, i was ready to fail and i became satisfied with D's because that's what i always got. so i was always just like, ok no biggie.. another F.. it's ok, cause it's chemistry.. right? WRONG-O!!!. not right. just because you're not good at math, doesn't mean that you can't be. just because you're having trouble in spanish, doesn't mean you can't pass.. there's no curse put on you saying that you'll fail in school forever. you have the power to change that, and no one else. i'm going to quote something that the anarchist kids grafittied on the side of my middle school.. "your life is in your hands" now even though the little anarchists are kinda weird, that is very true. it's not your teachers job to make you learn.. it's yours. if you want to succeed, that's your job. now i'm going to quote my softball coach, "you're the one who has to go to sleep every night and look yourself in the mirror knowing what you did or didn't do today. i sleep like a baby knowing your accomplishments, it's not my responsibility it's yours." what he was saying was, that if we completely sucked at practice that day, he doesn't care cause it doesn't bother him.. he doesn't have to live with that, we do. just like you and your teachers.. it's not their fault you're not learning, i know that some teachers don't teach well, but you can always get help if you really care that much. and about your parents, just tune them out when they call you names or whatever they do.. you're a kid like me.. and unfortunately, we have to kiss ass until we're 18. so only a few more years, and we don't have to take their yelling and compliaining anymore. sisters will be sisters, and do anything to bother you.. so ignore her too. just be really quiet in your house, and never forget your friends.. cause they'll always be there. just ask the teacher for more help and get a different tutor if this one isn't working.. you need to study and do practice problems too.. it helps. so good luck with everything =) and pleeeeeeeasee shut uppp about the suicide stuff.. it could be so much worse. you said it your self.. 'your neighbor' which means you have a house. which probably means you have food. and you typed this, right? so you have fingers. some people don't have the ability to do any of that. so stop saying you hate your life, you're alive.

when girls wear girl boxers or boy shorts, do you guys wear underwear underneath? i'm just wondering. i know it sounds stupid. haha. but yea. i was just wondering. anyways. yea. and is it weird to wear girl boxers and stuff?

it depends..if they're the underwear kind like these-

http://www.ae.com/web/browse/category_aerie_guide.jsp?rcid=aerie&scid=cat520021&navroot=aerie

or

http://www.ae.com/web/browse/category_aerie_guide.jsp?rcid=aerie&scid=cat520019&navroot=aerie

then no, cause they're underwear.

but if they're like these-

http://www.ae.com/web/browse/category_feature_item.jsp?rcid=aerie&scid=cat520035&navroot=aerie&WT.ac=MainAS2W2ShowNowBoxers

then yes, for sure lol =)

hope i helped!! ♥

People always say like "you know what a guy with big feet means." and other things. Is there really a way to tell how big a guys penis is without seeing it?

Please let me know as much as possible.

-Alex

well, not unless he gets a boner or tells you lol.. but the average for teenage boys is around 5.5 inches, fyi. KEEP IN MINDDDDDDDD*** that that's the AVERAGEEE, so some can be like, 2 or 3 inches.. and some are 7 or 8. =) it has been said that the distance between the guys thumb and pinky finger when he opens his hand up is about the length, that's sometimes true.. but that's not scientifical or anything, so yeah haha. ♥

Okay, last night my boyfriend popped my cherry, but I still have vaginal bleeding today. I know it's not my period because I finished my period a week ago. Is this normal?

yes it's normal.. i know who someone who bled for several days; about 3 or 4.. maybe even 5. so yes, it's normal =) don't worry ♥ if it bothers you and persists on for any longer than about a week or so, you might want to consider having it checked out.. he could have also scratched you, but i wouldn't worry- it's normal =) ♥

Uhmm..ok, well im 13 and i have starting babysitting for neighbors & people like that for over a year. Recently my neighbor asked me to babysit for her 2 girls ages 4 and 12. Im close friends with the 12 year old, but she acts really mean to her little sister. I want to disciplne her when I'm there, but I don't want to be like bossy or anything cause after all...this girl is old enough to be a babysitter! THANKSS SOO MUCH I KNOW THIS MIGHT BE A CONFUSING QUESTION!!!

well you can't really worry to much about being bossy, since you're a year older than you, she probably looks up to you a little bit.. so if you just say random things when she's mean to her sister be like 'wow, that's not cool..' or just talk about how you think it's so immature when older siblings are mean to their younger one and how dumb it is.. and see if that works. thats how i usually go about doing things =) hope it works! if it doesn't, you can always resort to telling her parents and finding out how they disipline her.. or there's always the reward method, like let her hang out with you when she's nice and things like that =) hope i helped! & sorry it took me so long to answer!!!! ♥ good luckkk =)

My uncle just died and I really don't know how to get past it, move on and start my life again. PLEASE HELPP!!! THANKS!!!

AW! hey well i'm really sorrry.. that is a horrible thing to go through, and i completely understand your grief. There's really nothing that can heal a wound like death except for friends, family, and time. You need to surround yourself with normal activity and the people who care about you and who you care about. Unfortunately, you'll probably never be able to go on completely normall again, but that's just natural.. in time, it will get bettter i promise ♥ Just keep on doing what you would normally do and you have to know that it's okay to talk about it with people. Talk to your mom, dad, other family members, your friends, whoever you want to. A really good thing to do is go to your schools guidance counselor, or if you're not in school, your work might have one.. or you could probably find one if you look online or in the yellow pages. Just trust me, it's gonna be hard as hell for a little while, but you WILL get through it. My uncle died a little over a year ago, and I was absolutely heartbroken. But it will get better.. I SWEAR ♥ =) and if you ever need to talk about anything, you can IM me at ONExLOVE09 on aim or leave me an inbox.. or email me at saraemilyx09@yahoo.com hope i helped =)

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