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My wife and I have been married for 7 years. When I met her she was very reserved and shy acting. Our sex life was good but she never wanted to deviate from normal foreplay and intercourse. I had told her that I had 5 sexual partners before I met her (including an ex wife). She never said anything about her past other than having sex at 17 and then having not dated for 3 years prior to when I met her. After we were married she told my brother at a party that during 1 year at college she had sex with 27 guys and that she was proud of it as she had used them for sex. When he told me I was shocked. I married a slut as far as I was concerned. She is very religious and plays the good Baptist part well. I have told her that I am having a hard time dealing with the fact that she had so many partners in such a short time, the average total partners for a wome of 39 is 7. She has had sex with over 35 total partners. I told her that I need some details about why she had sex with so many guys and the details of what happened. She says it is none of my business, but I now just think about all of these guys fucking my wife every which way. We have not had sex for 4 months now and it is driving me nuts. I just can't get excited about her. I wonder were these guys great at sex, did they have bigs dicks did she do things with them that she will not do with me.
What should I do? Am I wrong to have an open conversation about the details of her sex capades? She also says she does not remember any details, yeah right?
She seems happy to not have sex now. Now that she does not have to work and I earn over $300,000 a year. I ask her how she could fuck all those guys who gave her nothing and not me the guy who has given her everything?
Please help.
Jimbojoe
She should have told you this before you are married because now you are having doubts. The mistake was hers, but the problem is yours. Whether you want to admit it or not, the things you said and the way you are handling the situation is the classic sign of having doubts. I have felt this way before and the last thing I wanted to admit or even consider was that I was having doubts, but, looking back, I definitely was. Stop thinking that way right now. Just forget about it completely. She is your wife and you love her for better or for worse. She has matured and she loves you. Out of all the guys out there she picked you, so that makes you something pretty special. Sex to her then, was just sex. It doesn't matter one bit if those guys were good at it. She has something with you that she never had with them. That's all there is to it. It's probably going to be very very difficult for you to just forget it judging by the way you were talking about it. My advice would be for you to see a counselor right away. It doesn't matter if you bring her or not, but bringing her may help. Your marriage is going down the drain. Do something to save it right away. I wish you the very best of luck.
ok so im a virgin and im 17 never had sex! but ive become ill and for 3 years now ive kept getting urinry tract infectins and this time the doctor said its cythlis or something and im thinking ive not had sex ever why do i keep getting them and what is the doctor thinking? I have to questions one is they have sent some medicine so i need to start that but im really worried because my pubic area feels all tingly. Also when im older if i have sex i heard that the man can catch it and im really worried. Also will i get better and will this go away someone help me please. thank you in advance.
Figure out what it is that you have - how to spell it. Then add that as additional info to your question. When I read your question I thought that you were referring to syphilis, not cystitis. Two completely different things. Cystitis has been explained already, so I'll cover syphilis. It's an STD. You don't have to have sex to get it. You can get it by kissing. This website explains a lot, but you should be asking your doctor these questions not us! If I was wrong about it being syphilis, I'll change my answer and give you info about what it really is.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Syphilis
Good luck.
What advice do you have for a gay couple...one being 17 and the other being 26?
It's okay under some circumstances. You will have to face more ridicule. Large age differences when one of the people is still a teenager are difficult because of the younger individual's, lack of maturity, lack of life experiences, and possible committment issues. Then there's the whole thing with statutory rape. I don't know where you live so I don't know if that is a problem, but since the person is 17 it could be. The last thing I want to say is, why is this relationship happening or about to happen? Is it because you really love each other and want to be in it or is it because you are having a hard time finding other gays and are desperate in a way? Don't just date someone because of opportunity. It's got nothing to do with age, but age is often linked to a lot of other things. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that everything works out the way you want it to.
Can u get an S.T.D. or any kind of disease from giving head?? i never had sex b 4 but i gave head b 4 and for like the past year i have this red bump on my vagina its on and off? I havnt told any one dont knwo what it is or what to do..
Yes you can. Many STD's are transmitted through body fluids. This website explains what kinds of STD's you can get from oral sex. However, I doubt that one bump on your vagina is an STD. It's probably an injury (cut or scar) or a pimple.
http://www.parentsandkidstalking.com/KidsQuestions/pdf/OralSexQ&A.pdf#search='oral%20sex%20std'
I'm having a sleepover soon, its not a big one or anything, only a couple of friends. Its just, they're new girls at school and i dont know them very well, so i dont want it to be awkward. Does anyone know any good things to do at sleepovers so we wont get bored?
Games like truth or dare are a good way to have a lot of fun and get to know each other. Just be sure to keep it safe. Flashlight tag is always a good one if you have a big enough yard. Other people have given good ideas too. One thing that you should make sure you do is have a few movies as back up. Everybody loves movies and it'll keep everyone from getting bored. If all your other plans fall through you can always just pop in a video. Probably a comedy or chick flick would be best. Some people can't handle horror and drama might get boring, but everyone likes to laugh. Try not to worry so much. Everything will come together. Good luck!
well, the girlfriend and i were havin sex last night...i came in the condom i was wearing, then pulled out....but she kept things goin till i got erect again about 15 minutes later...still wearing that same condom with the cum in it, we started having sex again...the condom then broke a few minutes later...i pulled out as soon as i noticed...but im worried that the cum already in the condom could still possibly get her pregnant??...id really appreciate an answer. Thanks ppl.
Yes she could. The morning after pill is effective for up to about 3 days so make sure you get it soon! It's very important that you do. Depending on what state or country you live in, you might not be able to go into any drug store and buy it over the counter. I would say to just go to a health clinic or an emergency room. You'll definitely be able to get one at either of those places. Good luck!
Alright.. My computer like shuts down after like every half an hour.. so i'll leave it alone for a little and then i'll go back on it and hten it shuts down again and again andddd again! its so annoying.. and i have a wicked nice computer.. does anyone know how i can fix it without spending 43897598476 dollars?
Thanks =)
What you should do is get all the files off of your computer that you want to keep (put them on floppy disks or something). Then go to the control panel and click on "add or remove programs". Write down everything on that list that you use. Then, look up online how to reformat your computer. Print out the directions and reformat it. Reformatting is basically erasing the whole thing and starting completely over. It's a pain in the butt and takes awhile, but it will solve pretty much any problem that your computer may have. After reformatting it, reinstall all your programs. The first thing you should install is a virus scanner. It's a good idea to run a virus scan on your files even before putting them back on your computer. So do it before you reformat, or on a different computer before you put them back on yours. The second thing you should do is go to windows update and download all the critical updates since all the ones you've ever downloaded are now gone. I've had to reformat my computer a few times and it's pretty easy. The first time, I called Dell customer support and they told me exactly what to do. The instructions on the internet are very good, but if it makes you feel safer to call, go ahead and do that. If, after reformatting, your computer is still acting up, you'll probably have to get it checked out by a professional. Good luck!
so ive been seeng this guy for a little while now and i totally do wanna wait to have sex with him but sometimes i just get so tempted! my morals dont seem near as strong and my promise to myself that id at least wait till im 18 seems harder and harder to wanna keep. (btw im a virgin) so what i wanna know is does anyone regret there first time? like it wasnt special or they wish they waited? any tips or advice is truely appreciated.
I think that you should most definitely wait. Sex has so many negative consequences. You can do other sexual things with him that are safer and produce the same results. That said, try not to be so set in your morals. You are still a teenager. This is the time when you're supposed to be figuring things out. Everything shouldn't be set in stone. When I was thirteen or so I set all these silly rules for myself of things that I would never do. I have broken most of them. People grow, things change, and it's not so much temptation as it is realization. Something that seems so gross or so stupid when you're thirteen, you may find a good reason for doing when you are twenty. If you set rules for yourself you will feel all kinds of negative feelings when you end up breaking them. There's no reason to feel guilty. Sex, and most other decisions you will make, don't have as much to do with morals as they do with consequences. Try not to rely on your morals as much and try to focus more on the potential consequences. Things like regret, guilt, and pain are what shape our morals. Morals come through life experiences. It's silly to say "I won't ever eat at Burger King" if you have never been to one. So instead of asking yourself if it's okay within your morals, which at this point in your life are very undeveloped, ask yourself if it is worth the risk. Don't say that you will never do something, it's just a bad idea. Notice though that I never said to forget your morals completely. Relying on them is what's bad. Make your final decision on your evaluation of the potential consequences. For your actual question, my fiance and I are both virgins and are waiting until marriage for sex. We talked about it and included our Christian morals in the conversation, but made our final decision on how awful it would be if I got pregnant. I'm sure that it'll be really special our first time and I have no regrets at all. I hope that I helped you and good luck.
Hey, I need help quickly! I'm sick from school and I'm making cookies. Is 4 tablespoons of butter a cup? Thanks.
16 tablespoons is a cup. 4 is a quarter of a cup. Good luck!
Ok so this has gone on so long could someone please tell me how i can remove my pubic hair from down below. I tried shaving and it leaves it all with wiskers its like a mans beard!! I mean the other day i went to the doctors and he had to feel my bladder and it was all like wiskers i was so embarassed if i see him again im going to be so embarassed someone help please! is there any products i can get that won't hurt? someone told me to use nair! but it said not to use it on pubic areas now all i got is wiskers and its embarassing what if i meet a nice boy when im older and he sees wiskers and runs. Help someone please.Im 17/f thank you and i will rate high
My guess is that you have a really nice razor. The more expensive razors protet you from cutting yourself as much, but they tend not to be as sharp and not work as well as the cheaper razors. When you have a lot of stubble like that it's usually because you aren't pushing hard enough when you shave, or because the razor isn't sharp enough. My suggestion is to go to the store and get one of the cheapest, crappy, single blade, disposable razors you can find. They are very sharp and might help with your problem. Be very careful when you shave though since there's a bigger chance of you cutting yourself. I hope I helped and good luck!
I have 5 tiger barbs and 2 xray tetra's all in a ten gallon tank. I know i have to many for that small of tank. But there is no problem they are all buddies, that's not what I wanna know though. Last night when I was watching them.....from a distance, the two biggest ones had there top fins up all the way and at the end was super orange. All the other fish backed up and was at the back of the tank watching the two. The two tiger barbs then put there lips together, several times for a second or two. then they would put there lips together and spin like a top both of them. I don't know if they were hurting each other or breeding, playing, or what? So could you please tell me what they were doing? Thanks so much, Samantha.
My guess is that they were just playing. If they were hurting each other or fighting, their fins would be torn. What I do know is that you don't have too many fish for your tank. I think the ratio is one fish per gallon. So you can have up to ten or probably even twelve fish and it would still be fine for your tank. I hope I helped.
well there is this guy alex he is 13 and he is showing the signs of liking me but its wierd he is a nice guy and all and he talks to me and cares about me but he has this friend a and today at school we had a party and the boy sits next to me and you know when boys try to spill something on you and try to wipe it off just so they can touch you well alex spill a few drops of soda on my leg next to my knee and tried to wipe it so his fiend a comes along and says dam you should spill that on her pussy and then alex says o ya and laughs. But i thought alex was nice. but i do understand that he would like to touch my pussy. what should i say? should i still like him?
need help soon thanx
tl
Remember, it wasn't Alex that brought up your genetalia. It was his friend. Guys, especially those in middle school, want to impress their friends and sound cool. Just because Alex laughed and agreed doesn't mean that he thinks that way too. You should definitely still like him, he sounds like a cutie. Good luck!
I want to be a theatre major in college & I have known that this is what I want to do for a very long time. However, my parents do not seem to escept the fact that I can get a job at all with a BA or BFA in acting or theatre. I really want to be a theatre teacher, even if I can't be an actress, which is what I dream about doing. However, my mom started screaming at me that for me acting is not a career & just a hobby & she will not pay for a private school education for me to major in theatre. I told her I would go to a public school & at first she said "fine, if that's what you want to do" & then she changed it & told me that it would be a retarted thing to major in. It seems like she has absolutely no support for my DREAM and GOAL in life. It's not even like I am beng unrealistic & saying "I want to be a famous actress"... I just want to be a drama teacher! She has no idea that she really hurt me in saying that I could never make a career out of this. It's not even like we can't afford it either...we are a pretty well to do family, but even if I say I will go to a public school, she tells me this goal is absurd. I don't knwo how to convince her that I can make money with a degree in theatre & that it is okay to major in it. Any ideas? also, it really hurts me that I have seen a few other kids whose parets support their talents (i have won many awards for acting & been in many productions & go to acting training in & out of school) while my mom just sees it as nothing more then a "hobby". How can I convince her that a theatre major is good for me & that it is more then "just a hobby"?
You may not be able to convince your mother of anything. You can, however, pursue your dream. What you should do is apply as an undecided or liberal arts major. One you get into college your mother will have little control over what you do. Saying she's not going to pay is probably an empty threat. Once you get to college, go to the office of records and registration and choose your major (theater). That way your mom will already be paying and in all likelihood she's not going to stop. Your mom may not agree with your decisions, but she'll realize in time that she has to at least accept them and support you as best she can. If it really isn't an empty threat (which I doubt, but could happen) many students go through college and pay all on their own. I am doing that right now. It's not that big of a deal. There are other ways you can approach this. You can apply as an education major (or something else your mom approves of) and take a bunch of theater classes on the side to get a minor in theater, you can apply as an education major (or something else) and change your major altogether. Once you get into college you will have an academic advisor. Talk to your advisor about all this and your advisor will be able to give you the best advice. You could even try calling the advisement office now. Good luck!
im taking birth control, but i haven't had sex in over 7 months now. i missed 2 periods already with being on the pill. whats going on?! im a little concerned..
Talk it over with your doctor. In all likelihood you're not pregnant, it's just a side effect of the pill you are on. You might have to try a different pill. Good luck!
i just started going out with a kid form elementery school (now where 8th grade) but i haven't like really talked to him since 6th grade, my friend hucked us up. the only tyme we see each other is on the way home(we go to different school) from the bus stop.Anyways i'm kinda shy what should i do? what should we talk about? i want him to love beindg around me? ~Please Help!!!!!!~
He'll love being around you if he knows you better. So, get his e-mail address, phone number, screenname, or something of the like so you can talk to him outside of the time that you can be together. Good luck!
I'm 16/female and the guy im talking about is 16. He has always been there for me and i think that i love him. I've known him since grade 8 and now we are in grade 11. He has a girlfriend that he tells me he's going to dump. Every time i see this guy he is with a different girl. He knows every girl and every girl i talk to likes him. But, i don't think that he likes them in that way. But then he tells me he likes me and that he always has. He tells me that he can't resist the urge to make out with me. meanwhile he has a girlfriend. So, what should i do about this guy that i love because there are so many other girls in his life. Even if we start dating he will still be all over his other friends that are girls. I'm desperate, i love him and he doesn't know, and i cant tell him either. Please help i need to know if this guy is playing me and these other girls or are his feeling are real for me.
I don't think dating him would be the right choice. If he's really that into you, he wouldn't be dating other girls and he would ask you out. He's apparently had a lot of experience with that so it wouldn't be hard for him. You said that you were desperate. When you are desperate you are much more prone to making poor relationship choices. It sounds like all this guy wants is a physical relationship with no commitment. Whether you love him or not, if you go out with him right now, he's just going to break your heart. Wait a few years and see if he matures any. That gives you time to explore some of your other options too. There's no need to feel desperate. You've got lots of time, you're only 16. Try not to pay so much attention to the people around you. How many of their relationships do you think will really last? Maybe one, probably none. I hope that everything works out for you and good luck.
Do hickies hurt when people give them to you? I'm so confused about it...
A lot of times people don't even notice until they look in the mirror. Talk about an awful surprise. Try sucking really hard on your own skin for a second. Don't do it for very long, or in a particularly sensitive area, or you'll give yourself a hickey, but you'll get an idea for what it feels like.
what kinds of food help make you fell full longer. I'm tryin to loose weight????
Fat makes you feel full. No joke. Sucks doesn't it? That's why most diets tend not to work. People stop eating fats, but since they don't feel full, they eat more food, which defeats the purpose of the diet. The Atkins diet draws from this. If you eat all fatty foods and no carbs, you'll eat much less and lose a lot of weight quite quickly. This diet, however, isn't exactly good for you. What you need to do in order to lose weight is eat healthily and exercise. Exercise is just as important as eating right. That's where you will lose most of your weight. Exercise is what burns calories. Eating healthy doesn't always mean dieting. It means watching how much you eat and eating a wide variety of foods, most of which are good for you. Try to regulate how much you eat by including some fats in your diet. Good sources of healthy fats are avocado, nuts, olive oil, canola oil, peanut oil, salmon, tuna, trout, dark leafy vegetables, walnuts, and flaxseed. So, when you have a salad use romaine lettuce instead of iceburg. Include fish and nuts in your diet. Cook with olive oil. Those types of things. You can also have some unhealthy fats every once in awhile too. That will help. :)
Good luck!
ok i just wrote a preivious question yesturday askin wat i should do aobut my boyfriend n today we like got in the "moment" and we had sex and weve been only dating for awhile and then like 2 hours after it happened i finally got the nerve to call him and break up with him because i dont have feelings for him like sum one should if there in a relationship, now i feel like a whore like i just slept with him n now i broke up with him.. wat r people gonna think wat are my friends gonna think... that shouldnt matter but it does to me n i just dont kno wat to do its all just so confusing i just dunno wat to do i cant even talk to my ex now cuz of wat just haoppened he probably thinks its cuz we had bad se(it wasnt) oh if i just uused him and this is all running througfh my head n i just dunno wat to do or think will sum 1 please please help me!!
thanx
Okay, so you made a mistake. We all make mistakes sometimes. :)
The good thing about this is that what happened was just between you and your ex. People aren't going to think anything because they can never know what really happened. If your boyfriend blabs about it, there's no proof. It's just your word against his. You don't have to tell your friends what happened and you can lie about it if it comes up. I don't think it's the greatest of ideas to tell them the truth just yet. Protect yourself from even more pain. You know what you did was wrong, you don't need everyone else telling you that too and making it into something it's not. Just try to relax and be prepared to defend yourself by lying. Other people have a hard time understanding this kind of thing. They don't know what it was like to be in your situation so they can't know what you went through and what you were thinking at the time. There is a good reason why anyone does anything. You had a good reason too, at the time, and other people just won't get that. What you need to do is feel better about what happened, accept it, and be able to take ridicule for it before anyone knows the truth. I hope that you feel better soon. What you did wasn't that terrible. Good luck.
Where I can purchase it from?
How much will it cost?
Side effects
Is it sold at CVS?
I need it as a back up contraceptic (sp) for when I have sex tuesday (b-day) I will have condoms but I want to be safe cuz my sis is already preggie n I don't wana b. The thing is, I still wana have sex, ima nympho lol!! But seriously, any help is appreciated!!!!
It depends on where you live. In some states you'll need to go to a health center or the emergency room to get one. In others (such as New York) it's available over the counter so you can get it at CVS. My suggestion is to just go to the emergency room. Get someone you trust to take you. It's not that big of a deal. What is a big deal is that you get one so make sure you do and make sure that you use protection every time. Good luck!