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morals
so ive been seeng this guy for a little while now and i totally do wanna wait to have sex with him but sometimes i just get so tempted! my morals dont seem near as strong and my promise to myself that id at least wait till im 18 seems harder and harder to wanna keep. (btw im a virgin) so what i wanna know is does anyone regret there first time? like it wasnt special or they wish they waited? any tips or advice is truely appreciated.
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I actually waited until I was 18 and had been with my boyfriend for 4 months before we did anything. It was very special and I'm still with the guy nearly 3 years on.
I'm a firm believer that you need to be sure you are in a stable relationship before you sleep with someone because too many girls end up being used and cast aside by men who are too willing to take advantage, especially if they think they are a virgin or 'easy'.
I know that I have friends who had sex at 15 and regret it and half the kids I went to primary and middle school with now have children already. One of them was a Dad at either 14 or 15. It's just not worth the risk unless you KNOW you're in a stable relationship.
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I think that you should most definitely wait. Sex has so many negative consequences. You can do other sexual things with him that are safer and produce the same results. That said, try not to be so set in your morals. You are still a teenager. This is the time when you're supposed to be figuring things out. Everything shouldn't be set in stone. When I was thirteen or so I set all these silly rules for myself of things that I would never do. I have broken most of them. People grow, things change, and it's not so much temptation as it is realization. Something that seems so gross or so stupid when you're thirteen, you may find a good reason for doing when you are twenty. If you set rules for yourself you will feel all kinds of negative feelings when you end up breaking them. There's no reason to feel guilty. Sex, and most other decisions you will make, don't have as much to do with morals as they do with consequences. Try not to rely on your morals as much and try to focus more on the potential consequences. Things like regret, guilt, and pain are what shape our morals. Morals come through life experiences. It's silly to say "I won't ever eat at Burger King" if you have never been to one. So instead of asking yourself if it's okay within your morals, which at this point in your life are very undeveloped, ask yourself if it is worth the risk. Don't say that you will never do something, it's just a bad idea. Notice though that I never said to forget your morals completely. Relying on them is what's bad. Make your final decision on your evaluation of the potential consequences. For your actual question, my fiance and I are both virgins and are waiting until marriage for sex. We talked about it and included our Christian morals in the conversation, but made our final decision on how awful it would be if I got pregnant. I'm sure that it'll be really special our first time and I have no regrets at all. I hope that I helped you and good luck.
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I'm 15 and I'm still a virgan. There's nothing wrong with it. It's something to be proud of. Anyway, if you feel strongly about and it's something you believe in, then wait.If the guy your with doesn't respect your decision, then you know he isn't the right one for you. If you start feeling this way again then explain to him how you feel. He should understand. Another option; when you start feeling this way leave the room your in, tell him you need some time alone to think. You'll usually start feeling this way after you guys are getting really hot and heavy. Like making out whatever. Go for a walk, listen to music, whatever you enjoy doing, and just think things over. Even if you can't control your urges and you guys wind up having sex, make sure you use protection.
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Well i wish i had waited but thats just because it was w/ a guy i wasnt going out w/ or anything but if you really like the guy than ya i think you should go for it.
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Definitely wait, because you want it to be special for sure. I don't regret my first time at all, I was nearly 18, but I do wish I had waited longer, because it's a really big responsibility, one that I'm not even really ready for now! I'm nearly 19, but with sexual activity comes the burden of knowing that you could get pregnant or get an STD. You have to be able to deal with this if it does happen, and I'm still not equipped for it, so I'm wishing I had waited longer, even though I've really cared about the guys I've been with.
Congrats to you for waiting, though, because it is hard, but it's worth it :)
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i sometimes regret my first time, not so much the person it was with, but where and how it happened. it happened when i was 17, and it wasnt as special as i would have hoped. my current girlfriend and i are waiting, not just because it would be her first time and she isnt ready, but because i want it to be more special than my first time as well. anyways only you can know if its the right time and the right person to do it with.
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