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I want to be a theatre major in college & I have known that this is what I want to do for a very long time. However, my parents do not seem to escept the fact that I can get a job at all with a BA or BFA in acting or theatre. I really want to be a theatre teacher, even if I can't be an actress, which is what I dream about doing. However, my mom started screaming at me that for me acting is not a career & just a hobby & she will not pay for a private school education for me to major in theatre. I told her I would go to a public school & at first she said "fine, if that's what you want to do" & then she changed it & told me that it would be a retarted thing to major in. It seems like she has absolutely no support for my DREAM and GOAL in life. It's not even like I am beng unrealistic & saying "I want to be a famous actress"... I just want to be a drama teacher! She has no idea that she really hurt me in saying that I could never make a career out of this. It's not even like we can't afford it either...we are a pretty well to do family, but even if I say I will go to a public school, she tells me this goal is absurd. I don't knwo how to convince her that I can make money with a degree in theatre & that it is okay to major in it. Any ideas? also, it really hurts me that I have seen a few other kids whose parets support their talents (i have won many awards for acting & been in many productions & go to acting training in & out of school) while my mom just sees it as nothing more then a "hobby". How can I convince her that a theatre major is good for me & that it is more then "just a hobby"?
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Aww...this makes me sad since I'm a theatre kid and can completely empathize. The only thing I can really say to you is... try your hardest to do what makes you happy. Learn to ignore your mom and just do it anyway. That's really hard since she's your mother and of course you want to make her happy and respect her opinion, but this is your life and not hers. She thinks what she wants to think.
I don't realistically believe you can force her to believe that theatre is a good major for you, but if you keep pushing and pushing toward it she might give in eventually and let you just go with it. Remember, the first couple of years of college are mostly GE classes anyway, so you have some time to get her to soften up. You may also be able to compromise and see if you can double major. It will suck to double major in theatre and then in something else you're not as passionate about, but if that's the only way to get your theatre degree, it's the way to go.
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You shouldn't have to convince her of anything.
This is YOUR DREAM, and not hers. So there is her first fault for putting your dream down. Why should her thoughts about it influence you? Why should any person try and take your dream.
Your goal is actually realistic as well. You have that goal and you have made it a realistic one. If you really want to show her you are dead serious, then don't budge an inch on what you want to do. Let her know this is what you want and you will be willing to do whatever it takes to get there. If she truly loves you, she is going to atleast be supportive of you in someway, even if she doesn't approve of it.
Don't budge and inch and let your parents know this is what you want. Send them a very clear message about this by not moving at all from it.
They just need to realize it is about what you want with the rest of your life, and not what they want.
I hope I helped, and I hope that they will atleast support you in some way. Someway.
-Ryan
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You may not be able to convince your mother of anything. You can, however, pursue your dream. What you should do is apply as an undecided or liberal arts major. One you get into college your mother will have little control over what you do. Saying she's not going to pay is probably an empty threat. Once you get to college, go to the office of records and registration and choose your major (theater). That way your mom will already be paying and in all likelihood she's not going to stop. Your mom may not agree with your decisions, but she'll realize in time that she has to at least accept them and support you as best she can. If it really isn't an empty threat (which I doubt, but could happen) many students go through college and pay all on their own. I am doing that right now. It's not that big of a deal. There are other ways you can approach this. You can apply as an education major (or something else your mom approves of) and take a bunch of theater classes on the side to get a minor in theater, you can apply as an education major (or something else) and change your major altogether. Once you get into college you will have an academic advisor. Talk to your advisor about all this and your advisor will be able to give you the best advice. You could even try calling the advisement office now. Good luck!
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