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I have two main problems with sex with my boyfriend

first, he waits for me to finish, pulls out, then takes off the condom and finishes.
at first I respected that he liked it, and its his bed, so whatever
but now its getting gross. is this normal? should I ask him to finish in the condom?

second, he's never gone down on me. hes fingered me and ive done everything to him, but hes never done it to me. ive tried gently pushing his head down but he doesnt get it. is this normal? should I be less subtle?

Basically, if you don't want him finishing in you, just tell him. He has to respect your decisions.
You can talk to him about going down on you, but if he doesn't want to, you can't force him. You have to respect his decisions, too.

is it safe if a guy cums in you, but he's wearing a condom? will you get pregnant? if it doesn't break nor leak, would you still get pregnant?

If it doesn't leak or break and NONE of it goes inside you, then no. That is the point of condoms - to catch it.
but remember, accidents do happen so it's best to use another form of contracepton, too (pill/injection etc).

okay, everytime when i wake up in the morning for school, and it's really cold.. and i didn't get enough sleep or something. i feel like throwing up, but i just don't throw up, and i don't feel like eating. my dad says that i felt like throwing up cause i didn't eat cause i was hungry, i wasn't hungry. and my sister says it happens to people when they're pregnant. and my friends, that are guys, says that it'll feel better later cause it happens to them also, and they said that they're not pregnant cause it happens to them. because i wake up and didn't have enough sleep, it's also cold, so i kind of shimmer up and tighten up a little bit, and i start to feel like throwing up. is that natural? or what is it?

Happens to me all the time, too. Lack of sleep is enough to make anyone nauseous, not to mention being cold as well.
I never feel like eating either, but I know it's the best thing for me to do, because I don't eat late at night and not having food for so long adds to the nausea feeling by making me weak. So I drink (tea, milk, juice) and once that's gone down and the sick feeling is going, I eat something light.
An hour or two before you sleep, you could try eating something light. Then get enough sleep. Once you're awake, don't get up too fast and you should be okay to eat breakfast.
If there's no way of you being pregnant, you shouldn't worry about that, although if it's nothing to do with lack of sleep/being cold/hungry and it persists, you might want to mention it to your doc.

i saw you asnwer a girls question about a problem she had with this boy and shes not exsperianced and i thought i would ask you, im nearly 14 years old and my bf nd me have been together for 2 years and we are thinking of starting a sexual relashionship. He thinks i have done it befor but i havnt and im scared that if he knows i havnt done it befor and i lied he would break up with me. im also scared that my frist time with him will be very painful. well last week we done it for 2 minutes but realised the condom had split. but tht isnt enough for him to know ive never exsperanced it and it really hurt event hough i didnt show it. what do i say to him?

Why do young teens feel the need to lie about what they have and haven't done. It will always catch up with you in the end!
I'm rather confused here. You're 14 and have been with him for almost 2 years, yet he thinks you've done things you would do in a sexual relationship before? Wouldn't that make you 12?
Anyway;
14 year olds aren't supposed to be experienced. You shouldn't even be having sex. Wasn't the condom splitting enough for you to understand that? but a random advice giver on the internet is hardly going to stop you...
If I were in your position right now, I'd just come clean. He should understand and be happy you told him the truth. What were your reasons for lying to him? Tell them to him to make him understand. If you happen to try sex again, don't be afraid to tell him it hurts and if you can get hold of any, use lubrication - it will make it alot easier. You should be able to talk to him about things like this.
Remember, coming clean is the best thing to do (whether you tell him face to face, write him a letter, email, txt, phone..) and it will make it better for you - you won't be worried about him finding out and being scared to tell him what hurts.

So i like this guy and hes really experienced and i have never kissed a guy and he likes me but thinks im experienced. I never lied and told people i did stuff, but everyone just assumed...what do i do? He asked me on a date, but were not together. AHH

14/f

What do you do? Stop panicking for a start!
You are 14 years old. Most 14 year olds aren't "experienced" at anything.
It's good you haven't lied. Noone should feel the need to lie about things like that, because they'll probably get found out in the end.
Just go on the date (if you want to), be yourself, be relaxed. Don't worry over if you're going to kiss, because I promise, it won't be as bad as you think if. Just keep calm and follow his lead. and if you want kissing tips, there will be tonnes here.

If you go, I hope you have a great time. :)

My supposed best friends are acting like biotches. For science, every quarter we switch partners. We made a plan, me and 1, 2 and 3,then me and 2, 1 and 3, then me and 3....etc.

The night before we switch when i am with 3, she ims me, when my away says: Out dont im, "hey is it okay if i am with my boyfriend for the third quarter? He asked me, and i dont want to turn him down...sorry!" then signed off! THE NERVE! it was the day before we picked partners and i was sick so i wasnt going to be in school. I was mad at her and she imed me, "are you okay? you seemed mad on saturday" I said, "Well you left me stranded the day before we picked partners, yeah im mad." then walked away

DO i have a right to be mad at her? Thanks in advance!

You should be quite annoyed because you made plans with her before her boyfriend asked her.
Try not to blow it out of proportion, though. Yes, she was wrong to let you down at the last minute, but now she knows how it made you feel, I doubt she will be doing it again in a hurry!
Talk to her, let her know it annoyed you, but then make up. It's silly to get in petty arguments when they can easily be resolved.
Good luck.

is it weird for a 10 year old girl to be so interested in biolagy and health because my sister is 10 and she is a huge tomboy and all she does on the computer is look up stuff about brain surgery and other stuff that has long names and is hard to pronounce is that weird should i be worried for any reason i mean she is always talking like a retierd doctor all sientificly or whatever is that weird for a girl her age thanks in advance to whoever takes there time to read this PPPPEEEAACCEEE

Why would it be weird? It's a fantastic thing, for a person her age. It shows great enthusiasm and proves one day, she could make something of herself.
Leave her to it if it annoys you.

Im 14 years old and a female. theres this boy and he likes me a lot and wants to date me. i kind of have been leading him on and i likED him a lot. so basically i dont like him as any more than a friend any more, how should i tell him? is texting him okay?

It is best if you do it in person, as opposed to the cowardly way out. but I guess some people just can't do it that way.. so if txting really is the best way for you, then do that.
Or if you chicken out of the txt, just back off him. He will soon realize and ask you what's up. Then you have no choice but to tell him.
Remember though, he is the one being hurt - the least you could do is break it to him gently and in a decent way.
As long as you tell him and make it 100% clear you don't want to date him, he can get on with his life and stop waiting for you.

Why do girls use the word Love so much?
Im friends with a bunch of girls and they always use it. Im good friends with them but do they like me or sumthin? Its also really akward becuase i dont use it unless its actuall love,

I'm the same as you most of the time, and I'm a girl.
It's just the way it goes. People feel comfortable saying the L word more freely than others.
They could love you in a friendly way. it's impossible to tell whether it's more than that, though, because noone here personally knows them etc. If you want to know if they *like* you, look out for other signs.

is it good to have sex during period time?

It's totally up to you and your partner. Some will think it's good, whereas others won't...

argh! i'm so bored!
i've done everything like a million times
anal sex, oral, casual, EVERYTHING
and it's not that i've only done it with like 1 or 2 people
loads of guys and girls
i guess you can call me a whore yeah... but fuck it

i'm bored!!!!
nothing excites or pleases me anymore

i've even had like 3 girls and 2 guys in an orgy before!

what is there to do that will excite and please me!?!?!?!

Try a dog

would i need liquid eyeliner for this: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v342/MostOpenHeartBrk/010.jpg

Yes, it's better if you do.
Using pencil will just smudge everywhere when you blink.
You also don't have to reapply liquid eyeliner throughout your day. :)

ok my two best friends Becca and Cody started dating and i got a call from Becca and she asked me to call Cody to break up with him for her and i started balling bc i love Cody more then any one in this world like i tell him everything! and hes like babe its not your fault plz stop crying and im like how can i do this to u Cody your lie my best friend!and hes like i know and hes like well im going to go ok?and im like mkay love you and hes like love you two.

so should i feel bad and if i shouldn't how do i stop feeling bad?

Why on Earth did your "friend" make you do her dirty work?
Asking someone else to break up with THEIR boyfriend is absolutely ridiculous and you should have said no, told her to suck it up and do it herself.
You shouldn't feel bad. Cody knows it's not your fault. Although he's just lost his girlfriend, he knows you're there for him. After all, you told him he's like your best friend and you love him.
You'll stop feeling "bad" as time goes on. Remind him you'll always be there and if he ever needs anything.. just give you a call.
In future, don't get involved in things like this. Just say no. Because at the end of the day, it wasn't your relationship and although you love them both, it has nothing to do with you and you shouldn't have been made to feel bad.
People need to learn to do things themselves.
I hope you feel better soon.

ok first of all im a tomboy so i belive that its not about looking all cute i think you should be confertable and happy and yourself when it comes to dressing i dont tease other girls or anything that would be mean but i just wanted to know why teenage girls get all dressed up every single day and all they care about is clothing and make up i dont think its really that inportant i dont want to ask them because they might get offended im just really courious why they waste all there time worrying about the way they look i just really want to know why thank you in advance sorry i im wasting your time

I agree - it is about being comfortable and happy with yourself. That's probably why those girls who feel the need to look glam every day do it - because it makes them feel better and more confident in themselves. Everyone is different. You don't feel the need to dress up, but obviously you still feel good about yourself. They clearly don't.

im ganna say quotes i made. can you tell me if there good. ill list then so when you tell me what you think about each one you can just go like 1. good but too corny. 2. i didnt like it. etc...
=)

1. nothing more, nothing less, nothing inbetween.
2. love is all you need.
3. never give up because if you do you will never suceed.
4. do what you can do, thats all.
5. you make shake shake and get butterfly when you around, so stay away! dont come near!
6. love is for the weak minded.
7. love is love hate is hate but friends are best friends!
9. dont steal my spotlight, because then there is no spot light!!
10. life is amazing. life is swell. life is better then the computer from dell.

thanks guys! i wanna enter these in a quote competion at school. and i just want some feedback on them.! THANKS A BUNCH!

Not all of them make sense, have already been done, or aren't "snappy" enough. Quotes should have a good meaning behind them, not just a couple of random words thrown together.
Just take your time. It can take days to come up with the perfect one. One good one is better than 100s of not very good ones. ;)
1 is ok.
2 is a line from a song.
3 has been done 100s of times, it can work if you shorten it down, rearrange the words.
4 Change it to something about trying your best, not doing something you can do. Just to make it a bit more clearer. If you make it a little better, this one can turn out being quite good.
5 really doesn't make sense to me.
6 doesn't either. Why is love for the weak minded?
7 is okay but again, needs work for it to make sense - although I can see what you're trying to achieve and the message you're trying to get across.
9 Doesn't make much sense to me, again. Change it to something like, dont steal my spotlight - it's a one man show.. etc etc along those lines.
10 is okay if you're a fan of Dell computers, lol

Did you miss out a number 8 by the way?
Anyway, I suggest searching quotes if you haven't already. You'll find thousands here:

Just to give you an idea.
Do you have any phrases you live by? Personal experience will help you alot and give you a starting point.
Remember, take your time. Don't put yourself under so much pressure to come up with some amazing quote, because if you do.. then you probably won't come up with one :)
Very best of luck in the competition by the way.

Edit:
Of course I don't mind. and thanks alot for your feedback!

is it possible to get climax during period time?

You certainly can.

my bf cheated on me. i should dump him because he made me cry and really hurt me
but i'm scared to dump him because he will get angry,
what should i do?

You're scared HE will get angry? Even though he cheated on you and made YOU angry and upset?
If you want to stay with him, you might be able to work it out.. but if you're only staying with him because you don't want him to get angry, that's an awful sign and it shows you're in a crap relationship basically.

stay with him or break it off i have been with him for 3 weeks almost 4 weeks but yeah i have kiissed him twice.and i want to take it reaklly slwo but guys from my past our comeing back in my life my ex boyfriend!is like i want to be with you again i miss you what should i do???
stay with this great guyor with the guy that i broke up with befor??ahh im so confuseing!plz help me

You and your ex boyfriends broke up for a reason. They're only coming back into the picture because they're jealous you have a new boyfriend.
You said your current boyfriend is a "great guy", so stick with him.

So i have been researching belly button piercing cause i want mine done. I was looking at videos on youtube and in all of them they like stick a mettal needle in i was wondering if they can just peirce you with a gun like they do your ears?

NO.
ALL piercings should be done with a needle. Never, ever use guns. They shouldn't even be used with ears.
To be perfectly honest, needles hurt LESS because they are sharper and don't force the jewelry into your body. You are also guaranteed good placement, better healing and lower risk of infection.

Guys and girls awnser plz!If a guy asks if you have a boy friend or not, dose that means he's interested?like i was talking to this a guy that i know on msn and he was like "soo do u have a bf?"It was so random... it had nothing to do with the conversation...

Well, it really does depend. He may have just been making conversation/trying to get to know you better or he IS interested. I'd say most of the time they are interested.

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