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help please
i saw you asnwer a girls question about a problem she had with this boy and shes not exsperianced and i thought i would ask you, im nearly 14 years old and my bf nd me have been together for 2 years and we are thinking of starting a sexual relashionship. He thinks i have done it befor but i havnt and im scared that if he knows i havnt done it befor and i lied he would break up with me. im also scared that my frist time with him will be very painful. well last week we done it for 2 minutes but realised the condom had split. but tht isnt enough for him to know ive never exsperanced it and it really hurt event hough i didnt show it. what do i say to him?
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Why do young teens feel the need to lie about what they have and haven't done. It will always catch up with you in the end!
I'm rather confused here. You're 14 and have been with him for almost 2 years, yet he thinks you've done things you would do in a sexual relationship before? Wouldn't that make you 12?
Anyway;
14 year olds aren't supposed to be experienced. You shouldn't even be having sex. Wasn't the condom splitting enough for you to understand that? but a random advice giver on the internet is hardly going to stop you...
If I were in your position right now, I'd just come clean. He should understand and be happy you told him the truth. What were your reasons for lying to him? Tell them to him to make him understand. If you happen to try sex again, don't be afraid to tell him it hurts and if you can get hold of any, use lubrication - it will make it alot easier. You should be able to talk to him about things like this.
Remember, coming clean is the best thing to do (whether you tell him face to face, write him a letter, email, txt, phone..) and it will make it better for you - you won't be worried about him finding out and being scared to tell him what hurts.
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