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how should i tell him?
Im 14 years old and a female. theres this boy and he likes me a lot and wants to date me. i kind of have been leading him on and i likED him a lot. so basically i dont like him as any more than a friend any more, how should i tell him? is texting him okay?
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You probably already know deep down that the best thing to do is tell him in person. How would you feel if someone texted you something so personal? It sounds like something anyone would want to hear in person. Things like that should not be conveyed through a text or IM.
If you still like him as a friend, there's nothing wrong with hanging out with him. But you should be honest with him first, and preferably let him know how you feel in person. It might be difficult and awkward, but in the end, it's the best thing to do.
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aww, i hate to hear this kinda story, i've been there and it suckss. haha. but owch, don't do it over text. if you have to.. kind of hint that you like someone else, or that he's like a brother. he should get the point. if not, aim should be alright, but everything is better and more personal when you're face to face. just flat out ask him about how he feels about you, and say how you feel (be honest, never use excuses, guys aren't dumb, lol) and explain why it would be better for you two to be friends.
if you're scared to do it in person, you could always write a note. at least it offers more explanation than a text, and is much more personal.
just make sure you let him know that you two can always be friends, and who knows what could happen in the future. make sure he's alright, and make sure if he kind of avoids you, that you don't really 'ditch' him. sure, he might be a little bummed, but if you two still talk, he'll be fine.
best of luck :)
xoxo
kat
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Oh wow, the same situation happened to me. But this isn't about me. It's about you! :)
And if i were you, I'd probably IM him or something, text messaging is fine too, because despite what a lot of people say, doing this in person or especially on the phone can be quite awkward!!! And you don't want him to feel any unnecessary embarassment either. So just try to bring it up kindly, by saying "hey, can i talk to you for a sec?" and then just tell him that it's been a little awkward for the past few days/weeks/etc. ...much more than it used to be. and that you like how it used to be, but be easy - don't tell him straight out that you don't like him at all. I mean, of course don't leave him with the impression that you might change your mind soon, or that maybe someday you can go out.
Basically just make sure you're both on the same page.
Good luck.
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It is best if you do it in person, as opposed to the cowardly way out. but I guess some people just can't do it that way.. so if txting really is the best way for you, then do that.
Or if you chicken out of the txt, just back off him. He will soon realize and ask you what's up. Then you have no choice but to tell him.
Remember though, he is the one being hurt - the least you could do is break it to him gently and in a decent way.
As long as you tell him and make it 100% clear you don't want to date him, he can get on with his life and stop waiting for you.
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texting him would be fine if you guys are having a long convo. JUst be like
"i can't date at all right now, i got so much going on i can''t even deal with a boyfriend,and right now all i need is a good freind by my side like u"
hopefully it will work!
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texting is bad! the best way to deal with things is in person. texting should only be a last resort if you can't see him or can't call him on the phone or if he's violent (i hope not!). just be honest, but calm. just say that you understand his feelings for you and you appreciate it but you just don't feel the same way. say that you don't want this to ruin your friendship because it's really good right now. that should make him understand, just be honest and gentle.
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