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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!
chat it up yo.
ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)
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What are some good conversations to have with guys (on the phone, in person, or on the computer)? I am always at a loss for words and conversations with them.
My guy friends and I usually talk about really random things online. Sometimes we talk about normal things like music, sometimes we talk about TV shows, or school. But then sometimes we'll talk about random things like tacos, or dogs, or whatever.
Also ask him about things he likes. Like HIS favorite band, or his hobbies. One of my friends is in a band, and that always gives us something to talk about. So, just get to know him. It's really not that hard ;]
-Laura. (16-f)
okay so my crush asked me if we could hang out together just the two of.....and he knows i like him i told him so.....but him and his gf just broke up like two days ago but even before they broke up he knew i liked him but anyways
i just wanna know what we could do were gonna be at his house so what are some things we could do???
ya see hes not all torn up about him and his breakup so can you someone tel me what i could do to like you know tell him that i wanna be more than just friend????
specifics would be great and like things i could say or they way i should act would be awsome!!!
please and thank you!!
Give him signs.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532578
From there:
Smile, touch him [not sexually...], include him in things, make an effort to talk to him and see him, talk to him seriously.
Be yourself, don't act differently. Just be yourself and give him subtle hints. Don't overdo it. Flirt a little! My friend answered a question on how to flirt, and I think it'll help you out.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543909
From there:
"1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the guy won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let him talk about himself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;].
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls be complete bitches. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Guys don't like bitches.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the guy if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The guy will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]"
-Laura. (16-f)
Hello. I LOVE photography, and I wanted to start taking pictures of my own. I was just wondering, what kind of cameras (if you take pictures) do you use? Or does anyone know of any cameras used for photography? Id appriciate it very much! Thank you.
I took a photography class, and used an actual film camera. I don't know why you say it wouldn't work, because it actually works better than most digital cameras. If you want to do serious photography, I'd actually recommend getting a NICE film camera to take pictures with.
Anywho, for fun, I use my digital camera and I just change settings. For example, I'll use the portrait setting to take a picture of a flower, because it focuses it really nice. You can use really any camera for photography. It's more about HOW you use the camera than WHAT camera you're actually using.
Good Luck!
-Laura. (16-f)
does limewire cause really bad computer viruses? cuhz im on my laptop and i really dont want it to crash. and on my old computer, when i did virus scans, it said limewire was the most dangerous.
and one more thing, is limewire illegal? cuhz if it is, i dont want to do anything illegal.
-Anonymously
Limewire is crap and crashed my computer...twice. I would recommend just using iTunes like you're supposed to =]
-Laura. (16-f)
whos bonnie and clyde?
This could easily be found on Google, so it use it next time. You'll get a quicker answer, too ;]
-Laura. (16-f)
17/f
Can anyone send me pictures of bangs that are in between side swept bangs and straight ones?
I can't seem to find any. I have sideswept bangs at the moment and i need to keep my hair out of my eyes but i dont want a straight fringe.
Can anyone help?
I'm not totally sure what you mean, but I think you're kind of talking about hair like mine. Do these help?:
http://i119.photobucket.com/albums/o148/screamlouderx3/Pictures/Me/jkfbsjdbfkjsd.jpg
http://i119.photobucket.com/albums/o148/screamlouderx3/Pictures/Me/sonotperfect.jpg
http://i119.photobucket.com/albums/o148/screamlouderx3/Pictures/Me/fick2.jpg
-Laura. (16-f)
Hi, I'm kinda poor in studies, especially in languages and math. Could you please provide some advice on how I can do better? Especially in languages because I can't understand the darn questions. Any help will be appreciated. Thanks.
You need to commit to your studies. Set aside some time each day to look over what you've learned that day, and you're having trouble on.
For languages, this might sound completely ridiculous, but I make up song. For my French class, I remember all the conjugations with songs. For example, I use The Mexican Hat Dance for one of them [Je vais, tu vas, il va *clap clap*] It sounds stupid, but it works, I promise ;]
For math, do some problems each day. Open your text book, flip to the page that has what you're learning, and do the problems.
Other than that:
If you're still really struggling, don't be afraid to ask a teacher for help. That IS what they're there for after all, and there is no shame in asking for a little help. We all need some once in a while.
-Laura. (16-f)
so im 14/f and i am trying out for volleyball this year.
i was on vacation and missed some of the clinics and captains practices.
I'm going to a clinic tomorrow but i have NO IDEA how to play volleyball. Like, absolutely no clue.
And i'm kind of out of shape and stuff.
I'm really nervous about going to my first clinic because i've never played a sport before and i'm just like shaking here.
So what can i do to calm my nerves, be productive at the clinic, and make the team?
thanks!
Volleyball really isn't that hard to learn. I played for 2 and a half years in middle school, and I loved it =]
First, calm down. You will be fine at the clinic. The point of clinics is to TEACH you the basics of the game, and I can guarantee you won't be the only one there whose never played before.
Next, start training. Running is a good way to help, because you do a lot of moving in volleyball.
PRACTICE. PRACTICE. PRACTICE!
Whatever you learn at the clinic, work on at home. Work on your bumps, serves, etc outside of the clinic. When at the clinic, give your all. Coaches like to see dedication, and there's not better way to show you're dedicated than practicing and giving it your all.
Which brings me to my next point, don't be afraid to ask for help from coaches/other people at the clinic. The coaches are there to help you, and getting to know to other girls who you could potentially be on a team with is always a good idea.
And most importantly: Have Fun! Practice and train, but don't forget to enjoy the time you spend playing! Volleyball is a really fun sport, and you should not only work on your skills at the clinic, but enjoy your time there.
Good Luck and I hope you make the team!
-Laura. (16-f)
my boyfriend and i are in love and we are perfect for eachother, we have so much in common and we agree on everthing.. well almost everything
the only thing we don't see eye to eye on is sex.
we both want to have it, we've been waiting a long time for eachother until we were both ready and everything. the only problem is i want him to use a condom and he refuses. he claims he can't keep the erection if he uses one. i want to protect myself from possible std's (he's had 7 partners in the past and obviously does'nt use protection) and from pregnacy because at this point in my life i am in no way ready to have a baby. his swares he doesn't have any diseses and claims he'll pull out ebfore he ejaculates.
what should i do?? thans so much
I agree with Jack and scootermclisle, stick to your stance. Don't give in to him. If he's had that many partners, and you really don't want a child, don't let him win.
Tell him that you are NOT ready for a child and that you want to take any precautions you can against STD's. Tell him you will not have sex with him unless he uses a condom.
-Laura. (16-f)
i have a wonderful friend that i love with all my heart. but her and her old friend became really good friends again. and im okay with her old friend but i think shes a bad person for her to be hanging out wtih. i mean she smokes and does drugs. and has a reputation as a hoe, and she lies ALOT to my friend. dont get me wrong i think shes cool and everything but i just dont want my friend to turn into her or get her reputation. any advice?
thanks
I think that if it bothers you this much, you should tell her how you feel.
Let her know that her old friend isn't exactly the best influence, and you're worried she might start rubbing off on her. Don't be mean about it, but be honest with her, and let her know how you're really feeling.
But definitely confront her. I once had a friend who started hanging with the wrong crowd, but I was too shy to say anything about it. To put it nicely- she's now kind of a loser =X
-Laura. (16-f)
Is it true that they all come in different shapes? Do guys love them no matter what? I'm kind of self conscious about mine..
Yes, every girls' boobs are different. I'm not a guy, so I wouldn't know the answer to the 2nd part of your question, though.
-Laura. (16-f)
I know stetching everyday improves your flexibility. Which i do. But what ones improve Heel Strecthes ?
=]
-Laura. (16-f)
15/F
For five months i've been dating this guy, and all has gone well!
He's really respectful, and sweet, and it seemed he really liked me for me.
About two weeks ago, we started making out on a daily basis.
Which is fine, because i really love him, and i love kissing him and stuff. But lateley everytime i try talking to him, or want to have fun, making out is all he wants to do.
Now, i said this before, i love making out with him, but i want to do other things too sometimes you know?
Yesterday, he brought me in the garage so we could do nothing BUT make out.
Theres more to realationships and love then just making out.
I know hes really into me and i know he loves me, but what are some very slight hints i can give him that will indicate that i want to do something else when i dont feel like making out?
Dont say change the subject because it never works, i tried it.
He'll just say "You're so pretty"
or
"You're so cute"
and then he'll kiss me.
what do i do?
Go somewhere public where he won't want to make out. Go mini golfing, or something that requires you to be doing something, so you won't have time to make out anyways.
Or just tell him you don't want to make out. One of the best things to have in a relationship is honesty. So just be honest with him, and tell him you want to take it down a notch. Tell him what you told us, that there's more to this relationship than making out.
-Laura. (16-f)
Just out of curiousity, is it considered wrong to wear a bikini at a public pool or beach if you are pregnant?
Everybody has different opinions. I, personally, don't have a problem with it. Just because a woman is pregnant does NOT mean she can't still be comfortable enough with her body to wear a bikini.
-Laura. (16-f)
me and my mom never get along i feel like she doesnt even care aboout me, like yesterday for instance i was sick and wasnt feelin good but did she care no. i wait on her hand and foot almost all the time when she was sick which is a lot but when i just asked her to get me one thing she said no she was to busy paying attention to her stupid cat who she acted like he was sick when he wasn.t and if i even moved she would be like, did she scare you im sorry to the cat. were not rich or anything but she cares more about that stupid cat than anyone else.also there was another time i was sick and i asked her to help me find the thermometerbut she was to busy watching tv so i had to find it myself when i was sick! please help!
I'd talk to her. It sounds like your mother and you don't have the best line of communication, but communication is essential in a good relationship.
Tell her you need to talk to her, and tell her what you told us. Let her know you feel as though she cares more about her cat than she cares about you, and that you don't like it. Tell her it hurts you and you want a good relationship with her, but you both need to make an effort. Tell her you just want to know she really does care about you [because I'm sure she does].
Good Luck =]
-Laura. (16-f)
Hello, im 14/female. Well, today is teen night at this one club, and im usually allowed to go, but right now im grounded.. And ive been really behaving lately and i just cleaned the house... How can i get my parents to let me go?! I need advice asap pleaseeeeee!!
Well, my advice is probably not what you're looking for, but I'm going to say it anyways.
I think you should just stay home tonight and accept your punishment. This shows maturity, which your parents will like. Also, you showed responsibility by cleaning your whole house. I think that showing both maturity and responsibility will help your parents to see that you don't deserve to be punished any longer. You can always go next time to "Teen Night" =]
-Laura. (16-f)
13/f
i have an old friend that i had for about 3 years in middle school and we were very close. almost like sisters. wel we had a few fights like most friendships and that was fine and wed stop talking every once in a while. she would get mad at me for talking to ANY other girl and thats what bothered me the most. i dont know if i should let it bother me so much that we r not friends anymore. but i am a little scared on her reputation now. shes been smokng and shes only in 7th grade and shes becoming a WAY different person
now that i have new friends though it doesnt btoher me that much. but it wouold be nice if i could talk to her and just be cool
any advice?
thank u=]
If she's smoking and becoming something you don't want to be, don't hang out with her. This doesn't mean you can't still talk to her, though. You can still talk when you see her in the halls at school, or at the store, etc.
I would just back off a little bit, and hang out with her less and start spending more time with your new friends. Friends come and go, that's life. And sometimes it's hard to let go, but this might be for the best.
-Laura. (16-f)
im going to ninth grade next year and im knida happy but i cant get over the horrer stories i heared of high school and i want to know is it really bad????thanxs
No, high school is NOT like the movies. Horror stories are just to scare incoming freshmen like yourself.
Here's something else that might help you:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=544383
-Laura. (16-f)
16/m
so, i'm a lifeguard at the local pool/waterpark. it's outdoor, so it's a popular place during the summer, and of course it's full of beautiful girls in bikinis.
so, recently i've had a lot of these girls start trying to talk to me. they usually are just like "heyyyy. what's your name?" and such. . . it's kinda nice to get the attention.
however, i always get way too nervous about it and just reply and keep walking. i'm always too afraid that i'll embarrass myself or something. i don't really know what it is, but i'm afraid to go up and start a conversation with these beautiful girls. . . i don't know what it is.
how can i work up the courage to talk to them?
thanks in advance
First, don't be nervous! Obviously, the girls are interested in you, or they wouldn't spend their time talking to you.
Second, smile! Not a cheesy nervous kind of smile, but a genuine, welcoming smile.
Next, when they ask your name, reply and ask theirs. Then, strike up a conversation! Ask if they come here often, where they're from, if they like the waterpark, etc.
Girls really aren't that hard to talk to, and chances are, they're JUST as nervous as you are. So, just start talking to them and don't let your nerves get the best of you. Good Luck! =]
-Laura. (16-f)
my friend and i are going to the Rascal Flatts/Taylor Swift concert in a couple weeks. We're tryin to think of stuff we can write on the back windshields of our cars that night on the way to the concert. Something cute & fun saying that that's where we're headed, and maybe having to do with some of their songs. We're not creative though haha, and we cant really think of anything. any ideas?
You can do something like:
- "I'm Only Me When I'm Seeing Taylor Swift!"
- "My Wish Has Been Granted...I'm seeing Rascal Flatts!"
- "God Blessed the Broken Road, and led me straight to Rascal Flatts!"
- "Play it Again Taylor Swift!"
Yeah I know those were cheesy, but they're all I've got ;]
-Laura. (16-f)