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disagreement
my boyfriend and i are in love and we are perfect for eachother, we have so much in common and we agree on everthing.. well almost everything
the only thing we don't see eye to eye on is sex.
we both want to have it, we've been waiting a long time for eachother until we were both ready and everything. the only problem is i want him to use a condom and he refuses. he claims he can't keep the erection if he uses one. i want to protect myself from possible std's (he's had 7 partners in the past and obviously does'nt use protection) and from pregnacy because at this point in my life i am in no way ready to have a baby. his swares he doesn't have any diseses and claims he'll pull out ebfore he ejaculates.
what should i do?? thans so much
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Keep it up! You should'nt give in to what he wants. Especialy if the concequences affect you negativly. Trust that what your doing is right, and sooner or later he'll just have to give in and wear a condom or leave. If he chooses to leave, he's simply not worth it.
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Stick with what your saying now, Use protection or no sex.
Simple as that.
Your very smart. =)
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dont do it, stick with what you said ..
if he really wont do it with a condom then he doesnt really care about what your saying and he should.. and if he does really care about you, he will use a condom
tell him
NO GLOVE; NO LOVE
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I agree with Jack and scootermclisle, stick to your stance. Don't give in to him. If he's had that many partners, and you really don't want a child, don't let him win.
Tell him that you are NOT ready for a child and that you want to take any precautions you can against STD's. Tell him you will not have sex with him unless he uses a condom.
-Laura. (16-f)
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13/f
1. i can tell your the good guy in this one because your trying to be safe so i understand what your going thorugh, it could easily take away your life AND future.
2. how does he know hes tested? thats risking a big part of your life, and itd suck if he were to just want that from you, if he really loves you then he would understand where your coming from.
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STICK to your stance.
You can get pregnant even if he "pulls out". That's the stupidest excuse a guy will use to get you to have unprotected sex with him. In fact, many people get pregnant despite that method. It just doesn't work. Plain and simple.
Let him know that. If he still refuses, tell him that he can shove it. Okay, don't be that rude, but he CANNOT force you to have sex with him- that's rape.
His stupid excuse for not wanting a condom really kills me. That's the lamest thing I've ever heard. And as far as STDs go, I wouldn't completely believe that until he's been tested. He's had SEVEN other partners. What if those seven people each had seven partners and then those other partners had seven partners each? My point is that at least one of them, statistically, has come into contact with some type of STD, and I wouldn't fully believe your boyfriend until he's tested.
Tell him no condom equals no sex. Giving an ultimatum is probably the best thing you can do.
--Jack
(16/m)
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Absolutely do not listen to him. If he slips up and pulls out a second too late by accident, you will be in serious trouble. If he is wrong and has an STD that he is unaware of, you will be in serious trouble. Condoms are really the only way to go unless you are trying to get pregnant.
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