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I'm a freshman in high school and turned 14 about 5 months ago. Over the summer I started dating this guy, whose name will be X for the sake of saving space and keeping my identity somewhat hidden. X is my first boyfriend and he's a great guy. Our problem is that we go to two different schools. I barely get to see him. The last time we hung out was about 2 months ago. We've been keeping our relationship a secret because my parents are extremely idiotic and think that their daughter (me) shouldn't have a boyfriend until she's 16 at least. So because of this I can't leave my house to see him because I know they won't take me anywhere. A few weeks ago my dad found out about me and X because my brother was a snitch and told him. My dad yelled at me for a while but never told me to break up with X so I haven't. I love X but its pretty much impossible to see him unless he sneaks over like last time. What the heck should I do? (link)
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wow thats crazy i had the same situation. im 14 and i just ended a two year relationship with a guy because he moved an hour away. I had gone through a lot with him and our color differences and my parents. so it was hard to go see him like i never couldbecause my parents would make an excuse. i was and still am totally in love with him. but i ended up breaking up with him from that long. honestly i think that if you really think you love him you should stay with him because in the end your going to look at it and say wow i can't believe the mistake i made. hope i helped a little :)
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this is my friend rapping.
please tell me if you think he is good.
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http://www.showcaseyourmusic.com/chino908nj (link)
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hmm ive heard this before..
haha
yea hes great!
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*sigh* ugh ok so I wasn't going to even ask this on here because I thought I had it figured out. Well at least sort of, or I thought I could do it on my own but now I'm not so sure. Ok soo here's the situation [i apologize in advance, it's gonna be long]:
This past Sunday I was supposed to go to this screenwriting seminar in the city. And if you know me, you'll know how much this would mean to me and how important it is to what I want to do in the future. Put that on top of the fact that it was FREE. But anyway I was pretty excited for this for a while. This was my chance to hone in on my craft and actually get the chance to at least do something meaningful this summer. The only problem is that I'm not the best when it comes to finding my away around the city, so I wasn't really willing to go alone. So I asked my friend, we'll call her L, if she wanted to do it too (she's into creative writing and we could make a fun day out of it) and she was totally down. So I made the reservations for myself AND for her. I had them sent to her e-mail address and all. Now it's the night before, and I realized I had to plan out what time we should go and whatnot. So I sent her a text at about 1 am (I realize that sounds late, however she got out of work at 12 am so it wouldn't have been) but she didn't respond so I just figured "oh well, she's asleep, I'll get in touch with her tomorrow." So tomorrow rolls along and I texted her first at 10 [to give her enough time to get ready - the seminar was at 1] and I got no response. Then I proceeded to call and text until 12 for nothing. By then it was too late. I wouldn't have made it down there in time and it was too late to get anyone else to go. I WAS SOOO UPSET. I spent the day in bed crying. Partially because I missed out on something important, and also because my friend had completely forgotten about me. Then I started to get nervous, because I couldn't reach her at all and she wasn't online or anything. So then on top of my anger I was worried about her. Needless to say, it was a bad day.
Then I get a text from her the next day. And what does it say? "Omg I'm sorry I forgot about Sunday and I left my phone in my locker @ work." Excuse me ? That's it? All I get is a half-assed apology - IN A TEXT ?! I was pissed. Then she texted another half-assed apology later and just sorta brushed it off with a joke. I just felt as if she didn't even care about what happened, esp. since she didn't even care enough to CALL.
Now this might not seem like the biggest deal in the world, but keep this in mind. This is some background on her and our friendship: She's one of my best friends in the whole world and I'd do anything for her, and have, but whenever she meets someone new, or she grows close to a certain friend, she pretty much forgets all about me and makes her life about that person. She's done this to me twice. She kinda makes me feel as if I'm second rate. And on more than one occasion she's messed up my plans or made me late or screwed up my schedule because of her other friend at the time. She'll change her personality and act like them, drop everything for them and go all these places w/o inviting me (or if she does, it's something so ridiculously expensive I could never go to it anyway), not forget about their plans and occasionally even be a bitch to me [that's what happened last time.] Then when something goes wrong with them, or they screw her over, who does she come back to? Me. And I'll drop everything and be there for her, just because that's my nature and I do still care. Until, of course, someone else comes around for her to cling on to. Then the cycle starts all over. And the last time she had a fight with her friend (the one she choose over me) one of her main reasons she was pissed at her was because the girl had a fight with her OVER TEXT MESSAGES, and because "she didn't even care enough to call" -- wtf ? And she texted me just now saying "I know that you're angry @ me, but do you wanna go to the beach tomorrow?" How the hell do I respond to that ?
I spoke to my other best friend "M" about this, and M said that I should just respond to her texts by calling her and letting her know how pissed I am. And I think she's right, but at the same time I'm really reluctant to be the first to call. I feel like she should be the one to make the first move and call me, to show that she actually cares. And obviously I know that she probably won't, so I guess I should just suck it up and do it right? So I guess I'm asking if I should just call her and get it over with, or maybe text her and let her know why I'm pissed and give her an incentive to call me? I'm not really sure. I'm fed up with being the "fall back friend" who she can easily forget about, but at the same time I don't want to lose her. As I said before, ugh. (link)
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omg ive been in this same situation! ugh. i know exactly how you feel and its terrible. it sucks to be the fall back friend because its like o well im here when shes bored. but i would just call her and explain to her how you feel. and let her know that it really does bother you with what shes done! if she doesnt understand how upset she made u then thats not that great of a friend
i hope everything works out!
-mrscarter
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Hello, im 14/female. Well, today is teen night at this one club, and im usually allowed to go, but right now im grounded.. And ive been really behaving lately and i just cleaned the house... How can i get my parents to let me go?! I need advice asap pleaseeeeee!! (link)
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haha i wonder who you are?
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Okay so I have a bf that I really do love.
But I'm not quite sure if he does back.
He says he does but then he does this.
He called me his ex's name
(but they were with each other for 2 years)
We also went to a theme park together and all these girls were hitting on him and he flirted back ALOT
and heres the worst..
HE ALMOST MADE OUT WITH A GUY
He means so much to me and I don't want to lose him but i don't know what to do. (link)
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well i see what you mean seems like you got a little player on your hands ha ha.
but sometimes guys just say it, ive experienced that before alot! and maybe he jusst still hasnt gotten over his ex- girlfriend which really sucks=[
but i wouldnt fall too much in love with him because i did that before and that guy ended up breaking my heart with 6 other girls! so just dont get to deep with him
hope i helped any!
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I have this crush on this guy and everybody thinks he likes me back, like he acts all sweet around me and all my friends say that he acts like a jerk around them ok the thing is that he always acts like a jerk( he is always over sarcastic) but he acts like a normal guy around me! He is also really shy and i think that he is too shy too ask me anything so that is why my guy friend who has a crush on me so he asked me to dance. my crush got all jealous looking and i felt bad.before i started dancing i gave him chances like talking to hi on the dance floor and he was TOTALLY flirting he just didnt ask me... i gave him lots of chances but i really like him and i am too shy to make the first move. i dont want to hurt my guy friend either so if nothing happens betwen me and my crush soon i might have to give my guy friend a chance...
Alysonwilow f/14 (link)
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ive totally been here before! ha ha
but i wouldnt give your guyfriend a chance if you dont like him. but the guy you DO like i would talk to him and just start a really good conversation and then just kind of bring up the subject of a relationship. i know how it is like girls dont like to ask guys out, trust me thats how i am too.
but if you really want to make it work i think you 2 should talk about it
hope i helped!
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My boyfriend & I made plans for last night on Sunday. He called me after work yesterday & asked if I had any ideas of what to do. I said no. He said his friends wanted to hang out with him so he would call me if he got bored. I got so mad, I just had to hang up. We had plans for last night for days, and then he says he'll just call me when he gets bored??
Then he asked me later in a text "Why do you make me feel so guilty when I see my friends?" When I explained that he basically blew me off, he just said that he thinks maybe we should just be friends because I'm too sensitive lately. Then he revealed that he was drunk with friends while he was texting me.
I don't understand this at all. I know he likes me because we've almost broken it off before but he always wants to stay together. Am I being oversensitive? :( (link)
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13/f
you are deffenitly not being sensative!
i think this guys a jerk just by seeing this. he obviously doesnt care what your feelings are, and hes not trying to make it better.
im sorry for how hes treating you, honestly i would just do the same back when he really wants to see you and then dump him ha ha
but if your not like that then just tell him how you feel and try to make things work=]
hope i helped at all
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so my hair is about 3 inches from my butt.
its on think side but not majorly.
and its kinda wavy more on the straight side
its pretty straight near the roots.
i wanna get really short layers about to my chin or so and get my hair thinned.
will that make the short layers uberly curly and make my hair have maximum volume?
thanksssssss (link)
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hmm well my hair wasnt that long ever but i did have long thick hair and got a bunch of layers then cut it short
if you thin it out it shouldnt be a problem!
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me and my mom never get along i feel like she doesnt even care aboout me, like yesterday for instance i was sick and wasnt feelin good but did she care no. i wait on her hand and foot almost all the time when she was sick which is a lot but when i just asked her to get me one thing she said no she was to busy paying attention to her stupid cat who she acted like he was sick when he wasn.t and if i even moved she would be like, did she scare you im sorry to the cat. were not rich or anything but she cares more about that stupid cat than anyone else.also there was another time i was sick and i asked her to help me find the thermometerbut she was to busy watching tv so i had to find it myself when i was sick! please help! (link)
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wow this must really suck.
i wouldnt know how you feel because me and my mom have a good relationship, but maybe you could sit down with her one night and just tell her how you feel. maybe she'll be kind of rude but really explain to her that it bothers you so much that it seems like she doesnt care!
i hope i helped and good luck!
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my boyfriend and i are in love and we are perfect for eachother, we have so much in common and we agree on everthing.. well almost everything
the only thing we don't see eye to eye on is sex.
we both want to have it, we've been waiting a long time for eachother until we were both ready and everything. the only problem is i want him to use a condom and he refuses. he claims he can't keep the erection if he uses one. i want to protect myself from possible std's (he's had 7 partners in the past and obviously does'nt use protection) and from pregnacy because at this point in my life i am in no way ready to have a baby. his swares he doesn't have any diseses and claims he'll pull out ebfore he ejaculates.
what should i do?? thans so much (link)
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13/f
1. i can tell your the good guy in this one because your trying to be safe so i understand what your going thorugh, it could easily take away your life AND future.
2. how does he know hes tested? thats risking a big part of your life, and itd suck if he were to just want that from you, if he really loves you then he would understand where your coming from.
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usually i can't keep a relationship because i get bored with boys i date within the first two weeks and i dump them.
this time everything feels different. i've never felt this way about anyone before. the feelings seem to be mutual. he can't get enough of me and visa versa. I'm only around three of four days a week but we spend every possible second together when i am around. our kisses are perfect, our hnds fit perfectlty, and we have so much in common. I feel safe and needed when i'm i his arms.
am i in love or is it just the temperary fuzzy feeling that fades? should i try to keep a level head and not get too wrapped up in it, or is it worth it? (link)
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trust me its worth it, ive been throught that
and finally you have someone that you need. try to keep this relationship but not make it too crazy about eachother, just incase something happens.
hope i helped
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I've been wanting to get my hair braided for awhile now, However I do not have nappy hair. My hair is thick, and wavy. Does anyone know how long it would last? and where I could go to get my hair braided? I mean we have a fantastic sams, some barber shops and some salons in the area but that's it. Hm.. Oh and I don't have many friends who know how to do it.
Thanks
BahaiMa22 (link)
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just go to a barber shop!
let them work theyre magic!
haha
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Hi all.
My girlfriend found out that her father had been cheating on her mother a few months ago, and it terribly affected her emotionally. And recently she keeps finding more proves that he had several other extramarital affairs. Recently I found out that she had been rather indifferent to our relationship. (We had been REALLY tight together and planning to get engaged soon) I asked her about her indifference yesterday (July 15) and she said she has been indifferent to everyone, and everything. She thinks this is because of her worries about her father's cheating.
She also said it could be because I feel so much more love for her than she does feel for me, and she is frustrated, having tried in vain to love me as much as I love her. She had been putting this in prayers for some time now, in vain.
Her 3rd reason was that her indifference about things could be because of her mood swing, for her period will be due in a few days.
I suggested that we give our relationship a break for a while. She said that what was she had been thinking of, and wants us to spend the break praying to God to give us directions. (She is very religious and had got me in the line too)
Now we haven’t communicated since yesterday. How long do you think we can let the break last for? And in what manner can we call it off? Our 11th month anniversary is due on July 19th. Should I send her an SMS or not? We jointly have a leadership training class together on Saturdays. Should I go or avoid it? It’s the very last class, after 8 months of it. We normally wait for each other at the parking lot of the church we attend on Sundays, sit together in church, and hang out with her friends after the church service. (I dount if she would be able to tell her friends that we decided to take a break, lest they get a heart attack! And probably crucify her up-side-down:-) Should I wait for her this Sunday and subsequent ones? Wow, lots of questions, right? :-) Looking forward to your assistance! CHEERS!!!
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i think if you show her you still care, say by going to the church things. then it will show you love for her. depending on that i think the break wont last too long. if she sees that you love her and you would never hurt her like her father did to her mother, she will probably realize what you bring to her.
hope i helped at all
`mrs. carter
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Okay...so all of a sudden, i've become annoyed by every single thing that my best friend does. she's seriously the best friend i could ask for, she's honestly such a good person and just a sweetheart... but lately, she's just been getting on my nerves. we've been friends for years and i don't know what the hell has come over me. its not anything she does..its just her in general. her personality, the way she talks, the things she say are all driving me crazy. i feel so much anger and frustration towards her... and now shes just torn apart because she can tell i'm pissed and she has no clue why. she actually started crying the other day because she feels how distant i've suddenly become from her. what the hell is wrong with me?!?! every idea she has, i shoot down. everything she says i prove wrong.
i guess the main problem i have with her is that she just never uses her brain and does/says all these dumb things, and i've always thought it was funny all these years and now i'm just seriously pissed off and annoyed can't even stand looking at her anymore.
if it was any other problem, i could talk to her, i have no problem telling her when i'm mad at her, we're very very close and very open with each other. but how the hell do you tell someone you're mad at them because of who they are???? because they don't ever use their brain????? has anyone else ever felt this way, and do you think it will go away or will it just get worse? because it's been going on for about 2 months and now it's just gotten horrible and i can't even take being in her presence. is there any hope for our friendship??? (link)
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13/f
i know exactly how you feel
if i was in this situation i would just not be around her as much as you normally are now. if you guys are around eachother alot then it makes you tired of eachother. and it feels like you guys are coming apart. i would just say to talk to alot of people and not exclude her totally but still not be with her as much.
hope i helped a little!
`mrs. carter
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ok, yea im a cheerleader. woooo, yea whatever. ok, but anyways. ive been cheerleading for almost 7 years now and i loveeeee stuting and tumbling. im a flyer and ive been working on my heel stretch. i have it, but im not sure if i can do it in the air. and PLEASE EXPLAIN HOW TO DO A FULL DOWN, ive done one like 2 years ago but now im scared and forgot how. (link)
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haha im not a flyer but im on the varsity cheer team. but yea im sure you could do it in the air just give it a try and trust your bases. and a full down.
if your in a high V, then when they dip put your right arm in the front and left arm in the back or the oppisite if your going the other way.
then just twist in that direction
it definetly will take a few tries. but im sure youll gett it!
hope a helped at all=]
-mrs. carter
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I love to act and I'm gooda t it.
I love to sing to, but i'm not that good.
**I think i'm bad, people think i'm good, siblings think bad
My big dream is to be on Broadway, but I don't know if i'm going to be able to do that.
I'm GOODD, at dancing, like REALLYYY good.
I have a deep voice, so its hard to hit high notes and to be on broadway, you have to be able to hit those.
What should I do?
Change my dream?
Keep practicing?
Any information on this would be EXTREAMLY helpful
14/f (link)
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13/f
i know exactly how you feel. but you cant judge your voice by what u think. trust me i think im bad at singing but not everyone else! i think if you keep your dream it could come true! you just have to believe in yourself. just dont doubt youself. and with the high pitch note, if u practice im pretty sure it will work
hope i helped in any way!
-mrs. carter
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