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taking a break in a relationship
Hi all.
My girlfriend found out that her father had been cheating on her mother a few months ago, and it terribly affected her emotionally. And recently she keeps finding more proves that he had several other extramarital affairs. Recently I found out that she had been rather indifferent to our relationship. (We had been REALLY tight together and planning to get engaged soon) I asked her about her indifference yesterday (July 15) and she said she has been indifferent to everyone, and everything. She thinks this is because of her worries about her father's cheating.
She also said it could be because I feel so much more love for her than she does feel for me, and she is frustrated, having tried in vain to love me as much as I love her. She had been putting this in prayers for some time now, in vain.
Her 3rd reason was that her indifference about things could be because of her mood swing, for her period will be due in a few days.
I suggested that we give our relationship a break for a while. She said that what was she had been thinking of, and wants us to spend the break praying to God to give us directions. (She is very religious and had got me in the line too)
Now we haven’t communicated since yesterday. How long do you think we can let the break last for? And in what manner can we call it off? Our 11th month anniversary is due on July 19th. Should I send her an SMS or not? We jointly have a leadership training class together on Saturdays. Should I go or avoid it? It’s the very last class, after 8 months of it. We normally wait for each other at the parking lot of the church we attend on Sundays, sit together in church, and hang out with her friends after the church service. (I dount if she would be able to tell her friends that we decided to take a break, lest they get a heart attack! And probably crucify her up-side-down:-) Should I wait for her this Sunday and subsequent ones? Wow, lots of questions, right? :-) Looking forward to your assistance! CHEERS!!!
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i think if you show her you still care, say by going to the church things. then it will show you love for her. depending on that i think the break wont last too long. if she sees that you love her and you would never hurt her like her father did to her mother, she will probably realize what you bring to her.
hope i helped at all
`mrs. carter
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Me and my boyfriend took a break awhile back, and it helped us tremendously. It made us both realize how we care about each other, and etc. So, the break was a good idea. =] Now for your questions, lol.
1. The break could last, a long time, a short time, or somewhere in the middle. You can't really tell. If she tries to talk to you, go for it. If she doesn't, lay back and wait for her. When me and my boyfriend took a break I felt so bad about it I couldn't talk to him, but then I came to him. So, try that out and see how it goes.
2. Send her something, small, but sweet.
3. You should go, it's the last one and whether she's going or not, you should go. =]
4. On Sunday if she's not sitting with you and sits kinda far away from you, don't wait to long for her. Wait a little, maybe 5 minutes, otherwise, just go home.
hope i helped, let me know. =]
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