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i have an old friend that i had for about 3 years in middle school and we were very close. almost like sisters. wel we had a few fights like most friendships and that was fine and wed stop talking every once in a while. she would get mad at me for talking to ANY other girl and thats what bothered me the most. i dont know if i should let it bother me so much that we r not friends anymore. but i am a little scared on her reputation now. shes been smokng and shes only in 7th grade and shes becoming a WAY different person
now that i have new friends though it doesnt btoher me that much. but it wouold be nice if i could talk to her and just be cool
any advice?
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If she's smoking and becoming something you don't want to be, don't hang out with her. This doesn't mean you can't still talk to her, though. You can still talk when you see her in the halls at school, or at the store, etc.
I would just back off a little bit, and hang out with her less and start spending more time with your new friends. Friends come and go, that's life. And sometimes it's hard to let go, but this might be for the best.
-Laura. (16-f)
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Your concern for your friend, even if she isn't right now-- is admirable. That's why this situation is going to be a bit harder to bear. Losing a friend is hard enough as it is, but actually showing genuine care for them, is even harder after the friendship is done.
My advice-- is to talk to her. Tell her that you miss your friendship and that you think about how much fun you used to have. Leave out the part about her changing into a different person that you're not happy with with. Because no matter how nicely you say it--it can come off insulting, and almost like you're attacking her. Save that for another day, and just work on the friendship, and not the person. Chances are, even though you don't like who she is now, changing for you won't be what she wants to do.
Just be real. Honest- and friendly. It'll work itself out.
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Wow, that is really rough. Things are only going to get worse for this girl. I suggest talking to her. Let her know exactly what you are feeling - that you are concerned for her well being and that you would like to be her friend again. It might not work, and it will definately be scary to talk to someone who isn't really your friend anymore, but trust me: when this girl's life becomes really horrible (which it sounds like it will), you will feel better knowing that you did whatever you could to help her.
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