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flirting and such
16/m
so, i'm a lifeguard at the local pool/waterpark. it's outdoor, so it's a popular place during the summer, and of course it's full of beautiful girls in bikinis.
so, recently i've had a lot of these girls start trying to talk to me. they usually are just like "heyyyy. what's your name?" and such. . . it's kinda nice to get the attention.
however, i always get way too nervous about it and just reply and keep walking. i'm always too afraid that i'll embarrass myself or something. i don't really know what it is, but i'm afraid to go up and start a conversation with these beautiful girls. . . i don't know what it is.
how can i work up the courage to talk to them?
thanks in advance
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Hm...it is nice getting the attention! Lucky boy! A lot of girls get nervous talking to guys, so your not alone.
1. Smile! Everyone loves a guy with a great smile. It's warming and welcoming.
2. Look interested. When you talk to them, don't be shy to look at their faces.
3. Be yourself. Don't be fake because girls hate that.
4. Tell them your name. It's a good start off conversation. Ask what their names are and how their day is going. Ask if they need any assistance. Good way starting.
5. Don't concentrate embarssing yourself. Cuz you probably will if you concentrate thinking that. Yes you will be nervous, but it's normal.
6. Be sure there's nothing in your teeth and such. Don't freak them out.
7. Let them walk up to you. Your the lifeguard so they probably will walk up to you.
GOOD LUCK!
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Just relax! Guys can get really nervous about this kind of stuff, but I've read a lot on here that girls get ten times as nervous.
Like Laura below said, smile and just act natural.
Here's some flirting tips that may or may not help you:
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1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the girl won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let her talk about herself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;]. Just talk how you would with one of your friends. have confidence in yourself and the girl will definitely notice ;]
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen guys be jerks. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Girls don't like jerks.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the girl if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The girl will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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Laugh Out Loud is right. The biggest thing is to stay calm. A lot of guys 'overthink' the approaching girls scenario. Remember you just want to start up a conversation, not marry them. Like 'LOL' said, ask about the waterpark (or pool) that you work. Even joke with them..chicks love that (well the ones I know lol). For instance..if it's someone that you see there often maybe say something like "They should start paying you, you're here more than I am." It's just something to lighten the mood a bit. You wouldn't believe after the initial 'start' of a conversation how easy it is to continue it. Starting is the hardest part. Good luck and I hope I've helped out a little.
<3 Leslie
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First, don't be nervous! Obviously, the girls are interested in you, or they wouldn't spend their time talking to you.
Second, smile! Not a cheesy nervous kind of smile, but a genuine, welcoming smile.
Next, when they ask your name, reply and ask theirs. Then, strike up a conversation! Ask if they come here often, where they're from, if they like the waterpark, etc.
Girls really aren't that hard to talk to, and chances are, they're JUST as nervous as you are. So, just start talking to them and don't let your nerves get the best of you. Good Luck! =]
-Laura. (16-f)
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