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My friend (15/F) is definitely over weight. I know that nobody's perfect, and stuff. But she's at the point where it's a potential health risk! It could possibly be my fault for not helping her earlier, but I can't exactly change that now.

Her parents don't exactly help, though. Her dad makes unhealthy, meaty, casseroles almost every night. So, she isn't used to eating healthy foods. And I guess she's too oblivious to notice what she's eating.

Her parents also pressure her a lot. For example, there isn't a waking moment when her dad isn't nagging about some sort of walking. To be blunt, both of her parents are always reminding her of her obesity.

She has a short attention span, and gets annoyed by anything repetitive in the least bit. So, repeating exercises makes her walk away.

She recently bought a Jane Fonda exercise tape, which she used when she was younger to lose weight (which worked). She is convinced that only that exercise tape will work. After a month, she still hasn't received the tape (yes, I'm sure that she did order it).

My question is: how do I help her lose weight without being too pushy? Or should I just wait for the tape? But what if it takes months before she gets the tape?

Also: she will do almost anything I say, as long as it's not too harsh. So, obedience isn't an issue. She's just really impatient and ADD.

SORRY for the massive question! I tried to make it easier to read! Thank you for any answers! (link)
You may want to suggest Curves to her. SUGGESTING something while knowing she's trying to get fit is not an issue as long as you do not pressure her to do it when she clearly indicates she isn't interested.

Curves is pretty neat.

I am 21 and currently weigh 266lbs. I stand 5'11" so I'm pretty overweight.

Anyway, I've struggled with weight-loss my entire life. It really is hard to do, I know. The highest I've weighed was probably around 315lbs or so, maybe even more because there was a long period in which I refused to weigh myself.

Diets don't work. They just don't. If you are constantly denying yourself of everything you absolutely love to eat then you're constantly being tempted. She has to alter what you eat into something healthier, smaller proportions, or learn to find what is similar and satisfies her wants but is healthier. This takes devotion on counting calories and journaling her food intake so she knows what exactly she's putting into her body. She HAS to change her entire lifestyle if she wants to be healthier.

So, don't diet--change the entire lifestyle.

Next, she needs to get moving! Many people have excess weight because they do not exercise as much as they need to. I just recently began incorporating exercise into my lifestyle and I'll tell you it really makes me feel good after a good workout.

My suggestion is to find out if you have a Curves (for Women) in your area to suggest she check out:

http://www.curvesinformation.com/locations.php

Curves is for women only and is directed mainly to the older and/or overweight. We're not older but we (your friend and I) are both quite overweight. Actually, according to the chart at Curves, I am considered obese and that's no good.

In addition to the work-out, Curves also has healthy-eating lifestyle changes. The book you get when signing up has the whole method, week by week, on how to change your entire way of eating. It has recipes and teaches you how to eat what you want without gaining the weight you don't want. I haven't done the dieting (this is my second week at Curves and they recommend you wait at least one month to decide if you need to change your eating habits or not).

Curves is pretty nice. Yes, they weighed and measured me the first time I went but it really wasn't as embarrassing as it sounded. Let your friend know this:

"What you see in the mirror? Everyone else sees that. Everyone knows you're overweight, it's no secret."

The thin trainer didn't remark negatively about me after measuring/weighing. When I asked if my weight-loss goal was doable she said, "DEFINITELY! You can SO do this! This is not impossible." It's so positive and friendly there it really makes me feel comfortable.

This is how it works:

There are a set-up of a certain number of machines. Some curves have one or two more than others, depending on how long they have been opened. Anyway, you spend about 30 SECONDS on each machine. It really isn't hard to do--this coming from a girl that has never exercised in her entire life!

You spend 30 seconds on a machine and then you walk on this nifty little pad for 30 seconds to "rest" basically. The trainer teaches you how to do each machine properly and how to check your pulse rate, which you will check every 8 to 10 minutes. The trainer will always be there for you too so you don't have to worry about forgetting how to work a machine properly.

If you feel like you're too worked up or your pulse is racing then you take a 10 to 15 second break before continuing to let yourself calm down. There are a nice, upbeat music playing at all times and an overhead voice lets you know when it's time to move to the next machine or pad.

The total work-out lasts 30 MINUTES. Yes, that's all...half an hour for each workout session! In addition to that, there is no set times to have to show up. When your local Curves opens, you can show up whenever--even if it's 9:22am. You just show up and go right to working out so you never have to make a special time to show up or anything.

So, that's three times a week for half an hour each time. One hour and thirty minutes a week for good health, improved mentality, and a better body.

Pricing? Well, I think that varies from which Curves you join but mine was not very expensive for a fitness place. My sweetheart of a boyfriend paid $74 for me to sign-up (first 30 days free) and $34 a month after then.

She also can join Curves forums to help out on progress and see how she's are doing compared to other Curvers. There is:

http://www.curvesforum.com/

http://www.mycurves.com/

and

http://groups.msn.com/curvescommunity

I really, really like Curves and totally recommend it to your friend. If your friend simply cannot do it, she needs to find some way of exercising regularly. That's the only way she's really going to lose weight, keep it off, and remain healthy--learning to eat right without denying herself and exercising regularly.

As a note, Curves has given me MORE energy. Right after a work out I feel like I'm on top of the world and it doesn't drag me out either. I don't end up going to be crazy early that night or anything but I have noticed how much better I feel after going.

I hope you do well on figuring out how to help your friend lose weight and keep it off! Please feel free to ask me any questions on this subject :) I would happy to help you out if I can!


I was recently diagnosed with polycystic ovary disease. To help with the symptoms, I need to lose weight. I know that this means I need to change my lifestyle - the way I eat and how active I am. I don't have a lot of money and I live in the city. My apartment is fairly small. These aren't excuses, just information to give you an idea of my situation. I don't need anyone saying mean or obvious things like "don't eat as much" or "get off your ass" because that is in no way helpful.

Basically, any advice anyone could give about how I can lose weight, either to do with eating or physical activity, would be very much appreciated. Thank you. (link)
I've struggled with weight-loss my entire life. It really is hard to do, I know.

Diets don't work. They just don't. If you are constantly denying yourself of everything you absolutely love to eat then you're constantly being tempted. You have to alter what you eat into something healthier, smaller proportions, or learn to find what is similar and satisfies your wants but is healthier. This takes devotion on counting calories and journaling your food intake so you know what exactly you're putting into your body.

So, don't diet--change your entire lifestyle.

Next, you need to get moving! Many people have excess weight because they do not exercise as much as they need to. I just recently began incorporating exercise into my lifestyle and I'll tell you it really makes me feel good after a good workout.

My suggestion is to find out if you have a Curves (for Women) in your area:

http://www.curvesinformation.com/locations.php

Curves is for women only and is directed mainly to the older and/or overweight. We're not older but I am quite overweight, as you may also be.

In addition to the work-out, Curves also has healthy-eating lifestyle changes. The book you get when signing up has the whole method, week by week, on how to change your entire way of eating. It has recipes and teaches you how to eat what you want without gaining the weight you don't want. I haven't done the dieting (this is my second week at Curves and they recommend you wait at least one month to decide if you need to change your eating habits or not).

Curves is pretty nice. Yes, they weighed and measured me the first time I went but it really wasn't as embarrassing as it sounded. What you see in the mirror? Everyone else sees that. Everyone knows if you're overweight, it's no secret. The thin trainer didn't remark negatively about me after measuring/weighing. When I asked if my weight-loss goal was doable she said, "DEFINITELY! You can SO do this! This is not impossible." It's so positive and friendly there it really makes me feel comfortable.

This is how it works:

There are a set-up of a certain number of machines. Some curves have one or two more than others, depending on how long they have been opened. Anyway, you spend about 30 SECONDS on each machine. It really isn't hard to do--this coming from a girl that has never exercised in her entire life!

You spend 30 seconds on a machine and then you walk on this nifty little pad for 30 seconds to "rest" basically. The trainer teaches you how to do each machine properly and how to check your pulse rate, which you will check every 8 to 10 minutes. The trainer will always be there for you too so you don't have to worry about forgetting how to work a machine properly.

If you feel like you're too worked up or your pulse is racing then you take a 10 to 15 second break before continuing to let yourself calm down. There are a nice, upbeat music playing at all times and an overhead voice lets you know when it's time to move to the next machine or pad.

The total work-out lasts 30 MINUTES. Yes, that's all...half an hour for each workout session! In addition to that, there is no set times to have to show up. When your local Curves opens, you can show up whenever--even if it's 9:22am. You just show up and go right to working out so you never have to make a special time to show up or anything.

So, that's three times a week for half an hour each time. One hour and thirty minutes a week for good health, improved mentality, and a better body.

Pricing? Well, I think that varies from which Curves you join but mine was not very expensive for a fitness place. My sweetheart of a boyfriend paid $74 for me to sign-up (first 30 days free) and $34 a month after then. It is much cheaper than other gyms and is specifically designed for women so I think it's worth the money.

You also can join Curves forums to help you out on progress and see how you are doing compared to other Curvers. There is:

http://www.curvesforum.com/

http://www.mycurves.com/

and

http://groups.msn.com/curvescommunity

I really, really like Curves and totally recommend it to you. If you simply cannot do it, you need to find some way of exercising regularly. That's the only way you're going to lose weight, keep it off, and remain healthy--learning to eat right without denying yourself and exercising regularly.

If you end up joining Curves, I wouldn't mind keeping in contact with you about progress. It always helps to have a person supporting you :)

As a note, Curves has given me MORE energy. Right after a work out I feel like I'm on top of the world and it doesn't drag me out either. I don't end up going to be crazy early that night or anything but I have noticed how much better I feel after going.

I hope you do well on figuring out how to lose weight and keep it off! Please feel free to ask me any questions on this subject :) I would happy to help you out if I can!


ok so im 15/f/usa
i got a hemroid today...very painful let me tell you, especially when i sit down, like as im typing this actually. I ate more than i usually do yesterday, but not that much that I thought would give me a 20-30min. stomachache, where i was in the bathroom the whole time..then i realized i had pushed too hard and got a hemroid. I've been losing weight and haven't been eating as much as i used too. I'm just wondering maybe that my body has tunred a new leaf, like it just can't take tons of junk food anymore, ive changed it. And my mom bought me some hemroid cream, so I hope it goes away...soon. I dont even know if i can ride my horse tomorrow. Does anyone have any suggestions to get rid of it faster or to make it feel better?
Thanks. (link)
A hemorrhoid is like a very irritated bit of vein from your rectum. It can be very painful and can be caused by many things (pregnancy, heavy lifting, constipation). Roughly, 50% of Americans will suffer from having a hemorrhoid in their lifetime so it really isn't as gross or embarrassing as you first thought.

Up your fiber intake. You can buy products such as Benefiber, Metamucil, and ColonPure (from GNC) to help you get more fiber if you're not getting enough from fruits, vegetables, and grains.
Do NOT take laxatives for this though as diarrhea can upset the hemorrhoid further.

Make sure to drink your 8 glasses of water a day to keep hydrated.

Do not push as hard when you go to the bathroom. Pushing hard from constipation and lack of fiber is one of the main causes.

Try not to "hold it in" any longer than absolutely necessary. Go when your body says to.

Soak in a tub of warm water for about 10 - 15 minutes each day.

Many websites have suggested wiping after you poo with flushable wipes. There are many different kinds like the Kleenex Cottonelle, Charmin Fresh Mates, and Equate brand from Wal-Mart. These websites say it helps to keep the area clean and soothes it a bit.

Here is a little more information about hemorrhoids and it also has some tips to help relieve the pain (if you are experiencing any) in the meantime:

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/common/digestive/basics/090.html

There are creams (such as Preparation H) and wipes (such as Tucks Medicated Pads) you can buy for such a thing but personally I'd go see a doctor before doing anything like that just for confirmation. Most hemorrhoids go away in a few days so it's probably best you get checked out by a professional.

If left untreated, hemorrhoids may sometimes develop into a serious and dangerous condition that requires surgery for treatment. An internal hemorrhoid can become prolapsed where the inflamed vein extends outside of the anus. Usually this vein can be gently pushed back up inside the anus but there is the possibility that it will become further swollen and become entrapped. Once the vein is entrapped, the blood supply may get cut off and the vein will die, often becoming infected. Once infection sets in, it is possible that it will spread through out the entire body and cause dangerous illness.

Please try to see your doctor if possible to make sure everything is alright with you. It's better to be safe and well-informed about your body than to go down the road and find out it's progressed to something major.


Where do i get them.I dont want my parents to know i take them though cause then they'll ask me about sex..which is why i want to ge themjust in case??? (link)
To answer your question:

To purchase birth control pills one needs to see a doctor first and usually have a pap smear done. A pap smear is a routine doctor's visit a woman goes to once a year usually to make sure everything is healthy. Before engaging in sex it's very important you have one done any way just to make sure there isn't anything abnormal. They usually check for cancer, abnormal cells caused by HPV, and even cysts.

So, pick up the phone and make an appointment with your local gynecologist to have an exam (or see your regular doctor for a referral). You should be truthful and let them know if you have been sexually active before or if you are planning to become sexually active. They will write you a prescription (that probably will last for 6 months or more) for a birth control pill after the exam. You then take the prescription to your local pharmacy and they will fill it for you. Please follow the directions your doctor instructs exactly.

If you've read what I said above on how to purchase a birth control pill and you think you're not able to see a doctor in fear of parents finding out then you should really reevaulate what you're doing. You will be breaking a bond between your parents, risking your body of catching STDs or getting pregnant (who would you tell then?), and lying. Sex is an adult activity and if you can't be adult enough to tell your family that you are engaging in sex then maybe--just MAYBE--you're not ready to put yourself in that situation.

Before starting sexual activity you and your partner should both be very aware of all possible consequences. It is important to be informed so that nobody is hurt in any way at any time. You should really check out some photos of STDs/STIs and what pregnancy at such a young age does to a woman's body before rushing into things. Like I said, it's better to be informed than to trip into something you're absolutely clueless about.


STDs:
Many people now have STDs or STIs and don't even know it. Mothers can also pass their STDs onto their babies so everyone is pretty much at risk of having something they can pass along to others. It's important to be picky on who you have sexual relations with because if you contract an STD/STI from them then some really bad things can happen--including life-long illness, infertility, and brain deterioration.

No method of birth control is 100% effective. Even if you use two methods of birth control there is still a pregnancy risk. No matter what birth control you use, you also risk contracting an STD or STI.

Here is a list of some super scary facts about STDs. You'd be surprised at how many people now have some sort of STD and how much money we put toward trying to cure them. This is a really interesting link and it gives you a lot of think about and discuss with your partner:

http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_statistics.cfm

Here is also a link of photos of various STDs. Most of the photos are of males but there are a few female photos in there. Some are very scary. Don't worry about many photos popping up when you click the link, they're behind other links so you can choose which ones you might want to check out:

http://www.healthac.org/images.html

Pregnancy:
One night of sex can result in creating another life or living with a disease the rest of yours. I know many people who lost their virginity and became pregnant (or had gotten the girl pregnant) the same night. They weren't emotionally ready to have children but they made one mistake and they now have a tough road ahead of them trying to make enough money and time for their child. Having a child means being completely selfless because they need 100% of your attention 100% of the time. Having children means major sacrifices, especially in the emotional department.

Even if you think that you can have an abortion if there happens to be a pregnancy, consider the consequences of that action too. Some women suffer major depression for many years after having an abortion. There are cases of women committing suicide years after having an abortion because they couldn't deal with what they had done. Some women become infertile and can no longer have any children. Some really good men refuse to be with a woman who has had an abortion. Throwing a life away because you wanted to have some fun should be an unacceptable option.

You're aware you're not financially and emotionally ready to be a parent or you wouldn't worry about pregnancy. I'm sure you want to give your future children the best possibly life and if you contract an STD you may not be able to have children, may be too sick to raise them completely, or may pass something along to them.

It would be especially scary if your partner impregnated you and then left the relationship for you to handle all of the childcare. Being left with not enough income, time, or emotional support to offer a child is frightening. This scenario is happening like crazy all of the world now. People should try to be more pickier on who they reproduce with so they avoid such horrible situations.

Here are some facts about how much a baby costs within the first year of life; you should really check it out just for future issues as the knowledge could come in very handy:

http://www.surebaby.com/costs.php

Virginity:
Virginity should be more valuable than we make it. It's a special thing that we only get one of no matter what we do. The media feeds us a bunch of crap telling us that if we love someone we should give them our bodies. Instead we should be showing our love in other ways and making wedding night extra special for that person. Contrary to popular belief, sex does not make us attractive, rich, famous, liked, or popular.

Here is a link about some things you should think about before engaging in sex. Even if you've already lost your virginity or are definite on losing it, it's still really interesting to look at. The site really makes you think about things you overlooked before:

http://www.tagnet.org/adventist.fm/youth/virgin.htm

Communication and Knowledge:
Before engaging in any sexual activity you need to sit down and discuss everything with your partners. He needs to be just as informed as you are. He needs to know all of the little details--the good and the bad. Have him check out the links with you if possible so he knows the facts too.

So, sit down with your partner and discuss STDs/STIs (look at some photos), pregnancy expenses (just in case), and having a new sexual encounter (possible loss of virginity).

I wish you luck on becoming more knowledgeable about sexual activity so that we don't see you again here in fear of a pregnancy.


I have currently exclaimed to my mother that I am Bisexual. I am recently a virgin. However she says that 'bisexual' means to have sex with a guy and a girl. I think it means to be attracted to girls and guys (like liking them). But she says i'm wrong. I have a girlfriend(i am a girl), and she doesn't know about it. I am not a lesbian, i just like girls and guys. I ve had boyfriends, and now i have a girlfriend. Is her answer correct or is mine. (link)
To be honest, I think choosing a sexuality other than "straight" means you are after some sort of sexual activity.

Being homosexual doesn't mean you find the same sex attractive, it means you want a sexual relationship with those people.

Take for example this. When a straight woman is looking through a magazine she may see a woman she finds attractive. She thinks the woman is pretty and even wishes she looked like that woman. It's natural; however, the lady looking through the magazine has no desire to be intimate with the magazine woman.

If a lesbian is looking through a magazine and comes across an attractive woman she not only wishes she looked like the woman but wants to touch the woman and be sexual with her. She doesn't see simple beauty, she sees sex too.

The same applies for men; although, many men do not admit to finding another man attractive. Technically, if a man sees a very muscular man and it inspires him to become more fit (to be similar to the other man) then he thought the fit man was attractive in some way. Again, he doesn't want to be sexual with the fit man, he only wants to be attractive like him.

If a homosexual man sees a very muscular man he may not be inspired to work-out at all; however, in his eyes the fit man is still just as attractive. The homosexual man may become aroused and want to engage in sexual contact with the man because he is attractive.

In essence, being bisexual, lesbian, or homosexual means you are seeking a sexual playmate. You express to others that you find most people sexually attractive. Think of it this way, when you see a very attractive woman in a magazine do you want to have her beauty or do you think she's "hot" and wish you could do something with her (even as simple as kiss or touch)? If you truly are bisexual then you, most likely, feel the latter of the two.

These are facts. It isn't something to be upset at me over but it is how things work in reality.

It's like when someone claims to be asexual. This means when they see either gender they feel no attraction toward them. They are usually unable to classify any gender as "handsome" or even "pretty" like others are able to, let alone choose which gender to be intimate sexually with.

In the end, I would say your mother is mostly right. I know it isn't what you want to hear but it pretty much is true if you sit down and honestly think about it without being biased.


Um okay so this is gross but everytime I go to the bathroom (like, not peeing... you know.) it's like a lot of blood. & I don't know what it is. I have my period right now and I have real bad cramps but this was going on for about a week and my period just started today. It's really starting to worry me... please help? Do I need to go to the hospital? (link)
It sounds like you have some internal damage going on. It's probably best to see a doctor at this time before things get worse, and they usually do.

Rectal bleeding can be very serious, especially if you are also menstruating. The loss of blood may cause dizziness, fainting, weakness, low blood pressure, etc. People with signs and symptoms of a reduced volume of blood often require emergency hospitalization, and transfusion of blood. With there being much blood coming out of your rectum along with your normal amount of menstrual blood, I would probably be quite concerned for your health at this point.

Moderate to severe rectal bleeding, which I assume yours would be classified as since you say it's "a lot" of blood, is usually treated in the hospital. You may even need to stay a few days if it's severe while they check you and try to fix whatever has gone wrong.

Many diseases and conditions can cause rectal bleeding (varying in degree of severity, of course). Common causes include: anal fissures, hemorrhoids, cancers and polyps of the rectum and colon, diverticulosis, abnormal blood vessels (angiodysplasia), ulcerative colitis, ulcerative proctitis, Crohn's colitis, infectious colitis, ischemic colitis, and Meckel's diverticula.

Diagnosing rectal bleeding relies on the history and physical examination, anoscopy, flexible sigmoidoscopy, colonoscopy, radionuclide scans, angiograms, and blood tests.

Your age alone may offer an important clue to the cause of rectal bleeding. For example, moderate to severe rectal bleeding in teenagers and young adults is more likely to come from a Meckel's diverticulum. Moderate or severe rectal bleeding among older individuals is more likely to be due to diverticulosis or angiodysplasias. Mild rectal bleeding in an adult with prior abdominal radiation treatment may be due to radiation proctitis.

The absence of other symptoms also may provide important clues. Bleeding from diverticulosis, angiodysplasias, and Meckel's diverticula are usually not associated with abdominal or rectal pain. Rectal bleeding from ischemic colitis is often preceded by the sudden onset of lower abdominal, crampy pain. Fever, abdominal pain, and diarrhea often occur with colitis due to infection, ulcerative colitis, or Crohn's colitis. Mild bleeding accompanied by pain in the anal area during defecation (passing of stool) suggests bleeding from an anal fissure. A recent change in bowel habit such as increasing constipation or diarrhea suggests the possibility of cancer of the colon.

To actually treat rectal bleeding you must correct the low blood volume and anemia, diagnose the cause and the location of the bleeding, and stop active bleeding and prevent rebleeding. For this, a doctor is definately required.

Please make a hospital visit this evening if you can. This shouldn't wait any longer than it already has. You are not in a good state and things can become worse in no time. Please seek help now.


I'm obsessed with irish things so i wanted to know if anyone knew of some great irish movies. I dont care if the movie was made strait out of Ireland or made in America. All I want is a movie with something to do with Ireland! Please help!:] (link)
Here is a decent list of some Irish movies, older and newer:

The Departed
Road to Perdition
Patriot Games
Gangs of New York
The Crying Game
Far and Away
The Devil's Own
Blown Away
In the Name of the Father
Waking Ned Devine
Circle of Friends
In America
The Commitments
My Left Foot
Angela's Ashes
Michael Collins
The Brothers McMullen
Leprechaun
Widows' Peak
The Secret of Roan Inish
The Boxer
Miller's Crossing
The Playboys
The Magdalene Sisters
Into the West
The Dead
Hear My Song
The Matchmaker
The Snapper
Dancing at Lughnasa
Leprechaun 2
The Butcher Boy
State of Grace
Veronica Guerin
The Field
Evelyn
The General (1998)
This Is My Father
Hidden Agenda
A Man of No Importance
Intermission
The Miracle
Bloody Sunday
The Van
Some Mother's Son
The Opportunists
Traveller
Monument Ave.
One Man's Hero
About Adam
Agnes Browne
The Boys and Girl from County Clare
When Brendan Met Trudy
Frankie Starlight
Borstal Boy
An Everlasting Piece
Mad About Mambo
Nothing Personal
The Boondock Saints
Rory O'Shea Was Here
War of the Buttons
The Last of the High Kings
Black Irish

...this list was taken from the following link if you'd like to know more:

http://www.boxofficemojo.com/genres/chart/?id=irish.htm

These movies also may prove to be beneficial to you. These were picked out as personal favorites by an About.com writer named Ivana Redwine:

Angela's Ashes (1999)
Circle of Friends (1995)
The Commitments (1991)
The Crying Game (1992)
Hear My Song (1991)
In the Name of the Father (1993)
Michael Collins (1996)
My Left Foot (1989)
The Quiet Man (1952)
The Secret of Roan Inish (1994)

...to get a brief description of each of those movies from about.com please follow to this link:

http://homevideo.about.com/od/drama/a/aaIrish_Moviesa.htm

Speaking about about.com and their listing of Irish movies, this link on about has a different list of personal-picked movies having to do with Ireland (again, with brief descriptions):

http://goireland.about.com/od/preparingyourtrip/tp/irishfilms.htm

Here is also a link supplying movies regarding the Irish; the movies are listed under each letter of the alphabet if that is helpful to you:

http://www.lisashea.com/irish/movies/index.html

You can probably search around online if none of those movies seem to appeal to you. I found a bunch of links listing movies, such as this one:

http://web.ncf.ca/bj333/movies.html

I hope you find joy in some of these movies. There seems to be lots of movies that are based around the Irish or simply just Ireland itself. If you are looking for an informative movie then it may be a tougher search, as it was hard for me to find something around those lines.


This is continued from my previous question

First, I just wanted to thank you for your concern.

I also wanted to clear a few things up…I’m not lacking knowledge on sex or anything like that. I understand all the possible risks and the factors involved and everything. And to be quite honest, I don’t really value my virginity, I’d rather that I just wasn’t a virgin and this whole problem of mine would be gone. I’m not so stupid that I don’t plan on taking any precaution at all when I have sex. I’ve been on birth control for 2.5 years and I plan on using a condom and everything like that. Still, thank you for taking the time to provide all that information.

Now that I have that out of the way, I do still kind of have a problem. I mean, I understand what you’re saying, that in order to have a healthy relationship I need to be honest with him…

On one hand…I’m not so naive to think that I’m going to be with this guy forever. I love him and everything, but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m 17. That being said, it’s not like I’m going to have to live with this lie the rest of my life. If I lose my virginity to him, I’m the only one that’s going to know. And my lie will no longer be a lie.

On the other hand…I’m in love with him. So in love. I want him and need him and crave him. It’s that crazy kind of love that will make you do anything for someone. I feel horrible about keeping this from him. I wish I had never made that up. If I hadn’t, I probably wouldn’t have been feeling so nervous about it which would have led to me actually losing it before my current boyfriend. Then I wouldn’t be in this mess. But I’m afraid to tell him. After all, what he doesn’t know, won’t hurt him, right? And if he doesn’t know then at least he’s not going to think I’m a liar. I know, I am, but that doesn’t change the fact that I don’t want him to think that I’m a liar.

To me, it seems like such a little thing that it’s not worth causing a fuss over. If I don’t tell him and I have sex with him…then he’ll never know and be just fine and everything will be fine. If I tell him….then it’ll probably cause a big argument and he’ll think I’m a liar and he may not even want to have sex with me anymore and I’m left in the same position I was in before…only I’d be in a fight with my boyfriend and the only thing that I would have gained is having this off my chest.

And, to be completely honest…another option that I’m seriously considering…and I know this isn’t the best option but it’s a good way to have this all just blow over…is just having sex with him while I’m drunk. We’ve come close to having sex a few times…but he didn’t go through with it because he was less drunk than I was and he didn’t think he should. But if I wait until he’s more drunk than I am, then have sex with him…and I end up doing something that would give away the fact that I was a virgin…he’ll probably not notice because he’s drunk. Then, the next time we have sex…he would know for sure that I’m not a virgin…and the pressure would be off.

I hope that you can at least see the pros and cons that I’m seeing in all my options…
And I already know that you probably think I should just tell him…but I mean…it seems like more trouble than it’s worth, I guess. So what should I do? If I tell him…that’s like…risking everything that I have with him over something that I don’t even think is that big of a deal.

And...if you REALLY think that I need to risk this....how do I tell him? Like what's the best way to say something like that?

Thanks in advance and I’m really sorry that this is so long.
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You contradict yourself so much it's frightening. You really need to figure out where you stand with this guy.

See these two things do NOT go together at all:

"On one hand…I’m not so naive to think that I’m going to be with this guy forever."

and

"On the other hand…I’m in love with him. So in love. I want him and need him and crave him. It’s that crazy kind of love that will make you do anything for someone."

Love means wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone. It means you're willing to take the chances and withstand all there is to for the person. Love is opening all of yourself up to your partner and trusting that he/she will accept you. If you love the guy (and he loves you, of course) then you should EXPECT to be with him for the rest of your life.

See, this is where a lot of people go wrong. You degrade yourself in this manner. You tell yourself that it won't ever work out in the end because you're young when, in reality, it may very well have worked out if you had really stuck by it. By putting negative thoughts like this in your head you automatically doom your relationship.

Secondly, the lie will always be a lie. Yes, the lie about not being a virgin will change but that is not the entire lie. Your boyfriend deserves to know if he would be the one taking your virginity. Virginity is a BIG thing and it's not something you just casually throw around, regardless of what today's media tells you. You don't get a second virginity, this is THE ONE, the only one you'll ever have. Why should you have to lie about it? You love your boyfriend so you should be honest with him.

Don't doom your relationship. Tell your boyfriend the truth. Open up to him and let the relationship have a real chance. Even if there is a big argument, you can get through it if you two really do love each other.

How to tell your boyfriend is very, very simple. Tell him that you two need to talk privately about something very serious. Get alone with him and just tell him the TRUTH for a change. Let him know that it was a mistake that you lied and you've felt awful keeping it from him but you KNOW he deserves to know the truth. Let him know that you're aware he may be hurt and upset and that he has ever right to but you knew you had to tell him to prevent any further hurt. Tell him you want the relationship to work out and that's why you're telling him the truth. Be honest, let him know why the lie even started and why you felt you had to be dishonest with him.

Don't get the guy drunk before you two have sex if you're actually going to go through with it. Sex is a very, very special thing and it should be very memorable. It's silly to want him to be dazed. Please stop trying to deceive this guy.

Communicate with the guy you love.
Don't kill off the chance you have because the media tells you you're too young to last.

In addition, don't expect to have sex with your boyfriend. You two really need to talk some things out first. Your lie has been so silly, and you belittled yourself to fit in with people who aren't happy. You don't have to tell the truth to the world, but you really should to the person you DO end up having sex with.


I agree what you are saying. I honstely want to get over her but her flirting and body language just pulls me back in. i say to myself "dont let go from her just yet she might like you in return" but i push myself to not wait. i am tried of this game i am playing with her. i mean last year i told her my feelings. she said she not sure what genre she likes to be with and not ready for a relationship. months later i went to a party and met some guy. i told her about him and she got jealous. i told her nothing happen we just talked.

she then said "time will tell for the both of us"
she told me she was jealous of my last two boyfriends in high school. thats when i ask her 3 weeks later face to face if she likes me she keep ingoring the question and changing the sujbect till the 4th time i ask she then shook her head no.

NOW we are still playing that game of confusion. i ask her again over the phone texting her if she likes me and thats when she reply "not as of now..." (that was in early june.)i really am tried of these games i want to hear her say "NO" i want her to tell me why. but i am afriad she might ignore my question like she did before.

i think she is afraid to admit it and scared if we hook up what if it doesnt work out.(i agree)
our friend mandy hangs with us all the time and she always notices how lara flirts with me. she think that she likes me but in denial.

i am starting to not care anymore because lara and are close friends BUT i feel some space between us which we both ignore. i want to me other girls and still be best friends with lara but i think if i do she might get jealous again.

i need to talk to her about this but i dont know how to bring it up. i want to ask why she flirts with me and why she said not as of now.

i do want to ask her why she was jealous of my last two boyfriends but i rememebr i ask her that before she deny what she said that she was just being "over protective" and her relpy was "i want to know them first before you get with them" which doesnt make no scents because you get with someone THEN you interounce them to your friends and family.

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Do you feel that it is possible that your friend is only leading you on?

Many people are so selfish they actually lead an interested person on in case they cannot find anyone else. What I mean is, you may be the girl's back-up plan when she feels she NEEDS to be with someone and she cannot find someone "better" than you.

Many, many people do this. It's totally wrong and I think it causes a lot of pain in the end. I did answer a question like this before and you may want to check it out and give it some thought:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=539017

My question is located at the very bottom of the answers so you'll have to scroll down a bit to see it.

The girl you're interested in is probably really not interested in you. I think it's wrong if she's stringing you on for back-up purposes, and if this is true you need to tell her that you won't be used for such things.

Flirting with you is only causing you distress and I'm sure she knows it by now. It sounds like she doesn't want you to date so you will always have to be stuck on her. Seriously, some people are just like this--I know a few myself.

Her stating that she is jealous over your boyfriends and such but is not interested in you is to keep you confused. She wants you to not date so you cannot get over her and she doesn't have to worry about not having you if there comes a time that she feels she MUST have someone. Like I said, she doesn't REALLY want you but if it comes down to it, she'll "settle" for you instead of being alone. That day may come soon or it may be YEARS--that's why she's playing this game of jealousy and flirtatiousness.

I hope you figure out what's going on with your friend. I know you're so confused, as I would be, but you need to see what she really is. She's causing you a lot of problems that you shouldn't have to deal with at your young age.


I know this sounds stupid, and I'm not like going to have sex or anything but could someone please tell me like, okay How does birth Control work? When are you supposed to take it? And what does it do for you? like someone said something like it clears your skin? And also do you take it everyday and you can have sex whenever? I'm just kind of confused here. Please help! (: (link)
Hormonal birth control is to make you stop ovulating (releasing eggs) actually. It tricks your body into thinking it has already released an egg from an ovary. Of course, sometimes the body doesn't really care and releases another one anyway (yes, it happens fairly often, believe it or not) so birth control pills are not 100% effective on preventing pregnancy (or STD/STI transmission).

With TYPICAL use of the hormonal birth control, a woman is about 92% protected from pregnancy. However, one should take into consideration that even with a 92% effective rate, there is an estimated 8 in every 100 women who will become pregnant from typical usage.

Usually when you receive hormonal birth control you will be given a packet of pills, usually somewhat like this:

http://birth-control-pills-online.net/images/20060511-pill.jpg

Usually there will be 28 pills in the packet. You will take one pill each day, at the same time of day until you completely run out. Below each pill will have a number to help you keep on track too (number 1 through 28, obviously). When you run out, you will pick up another packet and start all over again. There won't be any day that you do not take the pill, no matter what.

You have your period on the last 7 days of taking the pills. The last 7 pills are placebos (sugar pills) that you will take to remind you to continue taking the pills each day. The drop in hormones during this week will cause your body to shed the lining of the uterus, causing you to menstruate.

Hormonal birth control can clear your skin and many people use it for such things. There is not guarantee that it will but it does help keep your hormones in balance so it does tend to help you cut down to pimples.

It is correct that the hormonal birth control pill is 99.7% effective when used in perfection; however, it is unlikely that you are using the pills as perfectly as one hopes. This means that you should be taking your pill at the EXACT SAME TIME every single day, no alterations to your body or lifestyle. Even if you're only a couple of hours off, you have increased the chances of a pregnancy.

Let's face it, we are not perfect beings. Many things can lead to an imperfection in taking hormonal birth control pills. Antibiotics, mis-scheduling, herbs/supplements, major stress, and even weight gain/loss can cause issues in the quality of pregnancy prevention (it can render your Hormonal Birth Control completely ineffective even).

It is still not acceptable to allow a male to ejaculate inside of your body. Birth control pills are not completely effective and we are not perfect beings. Please protect yourself as much as possible if you are going to engage in sexual activities. I know you would not want to have to face the hardships it is to become a young mother (or face the guilt of an abortion).

Hormonal birth control does not protect against STDs/STIs at all so you are still at high risk for those if you engage in sexual activities. Please protect yourself to the best of your ability if you choose to engage in sex. Condoms are also not effective on preventing STDs/STIs; however, it does less the risk slightly, which is better than nothing.

I hope I've answered your questions clearly so you can better understand how HBC works with your body.


Advicenators!

Ive started taking dance clas for an hour every morning, & its intense & my whole bodys sore! Especially my legs. We streth before & evrything so im assuming its good soreness. Anyway, how do i ease the pain? I dont want to be sore all summer! Advil/heating? Any tips, let me know! Thanks! (link)
I've started a new exercise routine and I totally understand your pain!

First off, along with stretching/warm-ups before starting you should also stretch very well after. It helps to lengthen the muscles for one. Another reason to stretch well after is because your muscles will have tiny air pockets in them after working them out good and stretching will help the muscle pull those out. Hold each stretch steadily for 15 seconds.

I know you haven't joined Curves or anything but they have an excellent stretching routine at the end of work-outs. Here is a nifty link on how to pose for the stretches:

http://www.curvesforum.com/documents/flexchart.jpg

You could print that out and take it with you if you think it's a good idea. It may also be beneficial to the other dancers since I'm sure you're not the only one that is sore!

In addition to stretching afterward, you may find comfort in taking an aspirin for the soreness and putting a cold pack on the painful area for awhile. Cold packs have helped me a lot. You may also want to think about getting a massage if the pain is not located in one or two areas (meaning: all over pain).

Also remember to be drinking enough water to keep yourself hydrated. Water will help your body heal more efficiently so you won't be as sore as long. It's recommended you drink 64oz of water each and every day.

I hope I've helped you out a little in relieving your sore muscles!


i have literially all of the symtoms of pregnancy yet i havtn had sex and never have.I got fingered 2 weeks ago i really dont know what to do iv missed nearly 2 periods. If i was pregnant then i would deffinatly have an obortion without my parents knowing but what are the effects of this? also do you taske a pill for it? and its over with? (link)
I suppose it is possible to become pregnant in this manner if your vagina had contact with the guy's semen so I'm not saying you're not pregnant or that you should not worry. However, I am saying that you should be more careful and cautious of your body and what happens to it.

In addition to taking home pregnancy tests you may want to schedule an appointment at your local doctor's office to have a pregnancy test done by professionals. Home pregnancy tests can show false-negatives, saying you're not pregnant when you are. (Note: There are NO such thing as false-positives so if it ever shows positive you are DEFINITELY pregnant). The doctor's exam won't be wrong, most likely, and you'll know for sure if you are expecting or not. Simply call your doctor or local clinic and ask to be scheduled for a pregnancy test and they'll get you all set-up.

I really, truly understand your fears about being pregnant; however, you really need to realize that this is your fault and that you should have been more educated than you were. You made adult decisions and now it's time to deal with the adult consequences that have trailed behind it.

Now, I definately do not think abortion is right for you. You are young and I really don't want to see you screw up your entire life because you felt a baby was going to cause you issues. The problem should be in finding the right ways to raise your child than trying to find a way to get out of the mess you've put yourself in.

Abortion can really harm your body just as much as giving birth to a child. I understand your body may not be mature enough to handle pregnancy but no woman's body is truly ready to abort a fetus. A baby can deplete your body of nutrients (which is why pregnant women need to take their prenatal vitamins) but an abortion can leave you scarred physically and/or mentally.

Women who have had abortions can experience problems later on. Many women suffer from major depression for years after having an abortion because, in the end, they come to realize that they have completely stopped another human life. The dates of conception, abortion, and the estimated day the child would have been born haunts many women for years. Some woman can't deal with this so much that they end up committing suicide. If that isn't enough, many women experience difficulty conceiving years later after an abortion--yes, it can render you infertile for the rest of your days.

I found a VERY interesting site for teenagers on abortion. These girls had abortions when they were your age and have gained courage to write about their experiences for other teens to read:

http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/abortionhome.cfm

Most of them regret that they had an abortion. Many of them cannot get over that fact and have the dates stuck in their minds. I'm sure that when that date passes each year they are reminded of what they went through to rid themselves of a life they were developing inside of their wombs.

I also want to direct you to a site that shows a live abortion. It's in different parts because the speaker gives you a lot of information on what the fetus and the mother will be going through. The video shows the ultra-sound as the procedure happens. It is important you see this before having an abortion so that you know fully what will be happening--it is best to inform yourself well. Before clicking the link to watch the video, prepare yourself because it is real life:

http://www.silentscream.org/video1.htm

...Part 3 really starts to show the actual abortion happening. The speaker does add that the doctor that did the abortion never did another one and that the woman filming it never spoke about abortion again, though she was previously for it.

Yes, that is a real baby, really feeling pain and maybe even fear during such a procedure. You can see that it was fully aware that it was being harmed and was not oblivious to the foreign object as many people would like you to believe.

Just as a note, some states will not perform an abortion past 4 months, most are done before the first 14 week mark. Abortions after 24 weeks are only performed because of health complications just as another note. The further along you are, the more expensive it will be. Here is also some information on how different types of abortions are done and what the baby is like during certain stages of development when these practices are performed.:

http://www.lifesitenews.com/abortiontypes/

Here are some REALLY, REALLY good videos that explain the different kinds of abortions:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBOAPleF1t0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDj12ffvpgY

Abortion is also a very risky procedure for the mother of the fetus as well. The woman does not just pee out some blood and experience pain--the mother bleeds out the lining of her uterus as it contracts strongly to expel the fetus. The baby, placenta, umbilical cord, and the thick lining of the uterus will come out of the vagina. Even if the doctor suctions all of the "matter" out of the uterus, the woman will still bleed and may suffer some scarring in her uterus (preventing her from EVER being able to have children).

Many women have even DIED because of hemorrhaging, infections, and other complications. It's usually a very painful process for the woman and she is usually let in physical pain for days/weeks following. As another note, the woman usually bleeds for WEEKS after the abortion so it honestly isn't just a little blood in the urine.

Here is a super great website that has links to all sorts of abortion-related issues:

http://www.eadshome.com/AbortionUgly.htm

...and they even have a section (and a couple of links) of women who have passed away because of an abortion:

http://www.eadshome.com/AbortionDeaths.htm
http://www.prolife.com/marlas.htm

...as a note, MANY women are dying because of abortions:

http://www.revver.com/video/824430/daughter-died-in-abortion-procedure/
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1331962/posts
http://www.prolife.com/DEADWMN.html

Please know that abortion is not your only option. Please give yourself plenty of time to decide what is the best choice. Even if your parents are upset that you are pregnant they will eventually get over it. Some parents can be really hurt in the beginning that their son or daughter disobeyed but, in the end, they still love you. Many parents later realize that the unborn baby IS their grandchild and help their son or daughter to figure out how to raise the baby when it comes.

Please do not put your body through the mess that is abortion. Please do not end a life that you have been helping grow. If both of your parents are not aware, take your chances and open up to your parents about what has happened. Like I said, even if they are upset they WILL get over it. If you're scared, there is help out there for you. You've learned the hard way about sexual consequences but it doesn't mean you can easily throw away the result.

Think about the life the child now. Yes, you were selfish and did not consider this major consequence (pregnancy) but you don't have to be any more selfish than you already have been. Even if you're not able to give him/her the best life, someone out there can. When couples look to adopt, they tend to look for infants anyway. By taking this child's life and ending it before it even gets started, you destroy what chance they had at being something. The baby did not do anything wrong here and should not be punished by death.

Adoption is always an option of yours if you are not physically, mentally, or financially capable of caring for another human life. Please look into it if you feel you can carry the child but not raise it properly. You can contact an adoption agency in your area or you can relinquish your rights of your child and place it in the custody of the state for adoption. I've read something about Volunteers of America for adoptions being really good but I have no personal experience with them myself. Here is a link directing you to their site:

http://www.voagno.org/Services/ChildrenYouthFamilies/AdoptionServices/tabid/1238/Default.aspx

Just as another note, some agencies actually let the expecting party interact with possible parents to ensure they are giving their child the best chance at life as possible. You may want to look into those agencies to help find your child good, loving parents. It may even be possible for you to work out a way that you can still be in the child's life lightly as they grow so you're aware of their progress.

Please give your child the best life you are able to. It's so stupid and unreasonable for you to end a life because you were too scared about your own. You CAN find a way to let this baby live. Don't let others pressure you to murder an innocent life because they are afraid for you. Many women go through this same battle every day and are able to raise a child successfully.

I hope that you take enough time to decide what choice is the best before rushing into things. If you have any more questions regarding this subject, please feel free to ask me. :)


Okay, so I’ve kinda lied about my sexual experience. Not just to one person, but to everyone I know. When I was 14, some of my friends started losing their virginity. And I didn’t want to be the odd one out, so there was this guy that they knew I liked, and he was moving. So I told them (untruthfully) that I had sex with him the night before he left. They didn’t have his number or anything so I knew they wouldn’t ask him. Anyway, so all my friends thought I wasn’t a virgin anymore. And whenever people would ask me I’d always say I wasn’t, usually because I was with my friends.

Now I’m 17 and I’m still a virgin. I’ve just never had a boyfriend that I was serious enough with to have sex with him. Well now, I’m really serious with my boyfriend and I’m totally into him, and given the chance I would definitely have sex with him. We’ve come very close a couple times, but I was drunk so he wouldn’t go through with it. The problem is he thinks I’m not a virgin, but I am.

I’m afraid that I’m not gonna know what to do when the time comes that we actually do have sex. I mean, if he knew it was my first time, I wouldn’t be so worried, but he’s probably gonna expect that I know what I’m doing, and he’s not a virgin so he’s gonna know.

I don’t want him or anyone else to know that I lied about it, so I need to find a way to make it work so that he doesn’t know I’m a virgin. I know I might bleed and that’ll give it away, but if he says anything about that then I know I’ll just say something like he’s bigger than the last guy I had sex with. So anyway my questions are: (they may be dumb but bear with me)

1. What should I do with my hands while he’s actually thrusting? Like what’s gonna be the hottest for him?
2. Should I kiss him during?
3. Should I give him a blowjob first?
4. How do I subtly let him know that I want him to lead? (most important) Because if he’s leading, that’ll probably take the pressure off me a little bit.
5. I’ve heard that sometimes the guy doesn’t fit…how do I make sure that doesn’t happen to me?

Please don’t give me any of that lecture “if you’re not ready…” stuff. I’ve been ready for a long time I just haven’t had the right guy.
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Honestly, it sounds like you've put yourself into a world of mess.

For any relationship to work properly you have to communicate. This means not lying to your partner. When you lie to your partner and he/she later finds out there is going to be a lot of betrayal issues.

Trust me, lies always come out somehow, usually in hard times too.

This being said, I honestly don't think it sounds like you're ready to lose your virginity to this guy. If you cannot communicate honestly to him then it's unlikely you're prepared to let him really in your life. Lying to someone keeps them away from the real you and if you're going to give something as cherished as your virginity to him then he needs to know the REAL you.

This being said, you need to stop planning out how to make your relationship "go further" sexually and start figuring out how to open up and let your partner see the true you. He doesn't know who you are if you're telling silly little lies like this to him.

It almost sounds like you've started to believe your lie yourself. You're going through a lot of effort to hide the truth when you should be spilling your guts about all of your deepest, darkest secrets to your partner. Sex is a HUGE step, are you willing to make that HUGE step when you cannot even tell him the truth about your sexual (or lack of) past?

You know it isn't right to deceive anyone and that's what you're looking to do. Please be honest with your partner. He deserves to know the truth about you if you plan to make this relationship last.

Next, your virginity is really something very special. A lot of things can happen when engaging in sexual activities with others. You may end up with a STD/STI, pregnant, or left with emotional baggage years later. Please be true to yourself in figuring out if you can handle the responsibilities sex comes with.

Be prepared before you make this huge step in life. Make sure you can handle what may come along with it. Make sure this is exactly what you want. For your sake, I am going to link you to a few sites below for you to check out:

Here are some facts about how much a baby costs within the first year of life; you should really check it out just for future issues as the knowledge could come in very handy:

http://www.surebaby.com/costs.php

For some insane, shocking STD facts, check this site out:

http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_statistics.cfm

Here is also a link of photos of various STDs. Most of the photos are of males but there are a few female photos in there. Some are very scary. Don't worry about many photos popping up when you click the link, they're behind other links so you can choose which ones you might want to check out:

http://www.healthac.org/images.html

Here is a link about some things you should think about before engaging in sex. Even if you're dead set on losing your virginity, it's still really interesting to look at. The site really makes you think about things you overlooked before:

http://www.tagnet.org/adventist.fm/youth/virgin.htm

...and here is a link about virginity too. It gives good examples of what they're talking about so you're able to understand them clearly:

http://www.prolife.com/LICKONA.htm

I apologize for not answering your question in the manner that you wanted but I'm really concerned about you and your partner's relationship. I want things to work out and you not be left, hurting because you didn't do the right thing.

The sooner you tell your partner the truth, the sooner you two can start growing together again. Expect him to be upset because this is a big deal but know that this is the right thing for you to do. I'm sure Advicenators can help to give you tips on telling the truth to your boyfriend about what you've been hiding.

I hope I've helped you figure out that your relationship needs to be worked on before going any further. I wish you well and if you have any question relating to this, please feel free to ask me! :)


how many days do you ovulate? is it only like about three? and if you have unprotected sex a couple days after your done ovulating, should you be fine? (link)
A woman ovulates, roughly, 14 or 15 days from the beginning of her last period; however, if your period is not a perfectly exact 28 day cycle then this can be thrown off. Ovulation lasts only a few days meaning about two or three) each cycle. Your body's temperature slightly changes during this time and you secrete more cervical mucus to ensure there is enough for sperm to travel in properly. During this time sperm that entire your body are able to live slightly longer than usual. Sperm typically can live in a woman's body for 5 - 7days, though it is not unheard of to find a few still alive at the two week mark.

It only takes ONE sperm to fertilize your one egg. Sperm are well equipped to find their way to their goal and they will do anything to ensure fertilization. A man's pre-ejaculatory fluid can be hard to distinguish after engaging in unprotected sexual intercourse because it is a smaller quantity and is thinner. Yes, it is likely it contacts sperm that can still impregnate you just the same.

Also, ovulation is actually when you are at your peak fertility zone. Basically, you are equally fertile every day of your cycle, including the days you are on your period. The only time you are more fertile than usual is when you are ovulating (when the egg has been released from the ovary and begins traveling down the fallopian tubes). So, this means you can get pregnant during ANY day of your regular cycle equally and you have more chance of becoming pregnant during ovulation.

Ovulation tends to last a couple of days. Usually sometime during this travel is when the egg becomes fertilized and it attaches to your uterine wall when it reaches your uterus. Sometimes the egg is fertilized in the uterus; sometimes the egg is fertilized in the fallopian tube way too early and a baby begins to grown in the tube (which can cause MAJOR issues and can be very dangerous).

It can be extremely difficult to tell if you're ovulating or not if you're not keeping a very close track on your daily discharge and internal temperature. Many things can also throw off your regular ovulation cycle such as: stress, hormonal birth control, antibiotics, weight loss and gain, and major diet changes.

I hope I've helped you out in understanding how your body works. If you have any other questions regarding this matter feel free to ask me :)


well here goes.... this guy n i have been flirtin alot l8ly i know he has a gf and have to say was abit upset however he pays me alot off attention he is 5 years older than me but that has never seemed to matter, we have become sex buddies do u think this is a good thing or bad ? i feel sorry 4 his gf but there is no strings attached its just sex. ??? (link)
I think you know if it's slutty or not and you really need to reach inside of yourself to discover this.

Obviously, it feels very wrong to be doing this or you wouldn't have been concerned about being perceived as a slut. From here, you should take the time to decide if you want to do the right thing and discontinue these activities or if you want to disregard your gut feelings and pretend it is acceptable behavior.

It is a fact that when people feel slutty/dirty/whorish they reach out to people they feel will accept their actions and tell them that they are not doing anything wrong. The fact that you are questioning this tells a lot and I hope you do understand that. I also want to note that just because someone here claims it is not slutty behavior does not make it alright--YOU know what is really going on. To put it simply, your conscience is screaming at you.

You obviously have been jumping into some things you are not well-prepared for and your conscience knows it. I suggest you take time to look at yourself and where you are now headed in life. It is not healthy or intelligent to rush into sex knowing that your sex-partner is attached to another person. It is not right to help someone betray their partner, of course.

What I'm saying is, the next time some guys says he really likes you or loves you it doesn't mean that sex needs to follow. It doesn't matter if he gives you attention or not because this is the WRONG type of attention you need to be able to blossom into a wonderful human.
Prostitutes have sex every single day with various men/women and never feel any emotion for them so that alone tells you that sex doesn't mean anything.

When you interact sexually with a person without getting to know them at all then it does put a stigma on you. The person will perceive you as sexual and empty. They see that you will make them feel good physically but have nothing else to really offer them. Most, if not all, of these sort of relationships burn out quickly.

So, yes, it is slutty behavior. Yes, you should discontinue sleeping with this guy because it is totally wrong. Yes, you should start listening to your conscience and following what you KNOW is right and not what the media and your peers try to feed you. Yes, if you are questioning your actions then they are, most likely, very wrong and you should discontinue them.

In addition, people do care if you're a slut. I care. I don't want you to become a statistic. I don't want to see you here feeling worse about yourself, falling deeper in the hole. I want to see you grow as a person and KNOW that you are better than these activities.

You'll feel better about yourself when you know you have changed. Work on yourself and don't fall into this dark hole of having sex whenever a guy seems interested and pays attention to you. You are worth something right now, don't make yourself worthless to others. Resolve this with yourself, make sure it never happens again, and learn your lesson from these experiences. With all of those met, you will be able to overcome this and will only carry it as a burden to tell others about your experiences--to help enlighten them on what you had to learn through heartache.

For a very last note, how would you feel if you were the girlfriend? Pretty betrayed, I'm sure.

I hope you do what is clearly appropriate for you and take steps to work on yourself. If you have other questions like this, please feel free to ask me! :)


So, how many eggs does a typical human female have at birth?

If you figure a woman begins menstruating at the average age of 12 and finish at the average age of 51 then that's a good 39 years between of menstruating. If you take those 39 years and say you have 12 periods (one per month, of course) each year, in which you release one egg each cycle, then that'd be about 468, right? So, are we born with 468 eggs or there about? (link)
According to:

http://www.healthology.com/focus_article.asp?f=fertility&c=fert_drugs#Introduction

"Women are born with a finite number of eggs. At birth, a woman has around 1 to 2 million eggs. However, throughout her life, a woman loses eggs through a destructive process called atresia. At puberty, only around 400,000 eggs remain. Throughout the reproductive life span, from puberty until menopause, women lose about 1,000 eggs each month. Of these thousand eggs, only one is released. Once released, it is picked up by the fallopian tube. If a couple has sexual intercourse around this time, fertilization (the joining of the egg and sperm) may take place."

So, actually, we're born with one or two million eggs in our ovaries. When we go through menopause that simple means we have used those eggs up and there is nothing left to be fertilized. Some women begin menstruation earlier than others just like some women go through menopause earlier than others.

It is pretty neat to find out that we lose a whole bunch of eggs between birth and our first menstruation though.


sorry but i should put more detail in my question.

frist i did not say i think same sex kissing is gross. second i do not push her to be with me.

i was saying that my friend always hates kissing scenes and usally they are men and women kiss scene this time its two women kissing and she didnt react in a gross way to it.

i didnt look at her just in a blurr of the corner of my eye i see her trun to me. i smiled at the scene and i think she did too.

i have a crush on her for 7 years. i told her my feelings and that i am bi sexual. but i am just curious at the monment because i never been with a women and she is my frist girl crush. i never get close to her or lean on her or show any feelings to her. she is the one who flirts with me and leans on me sometimes. thats why i ask her if she likes me more than a friend. she reply "not as of now i see you as a sister"
but she still flirts with me, we both talk about how we are both sexaul confused and she said she is bi curious.

i ask this question to get a opinion of why she trun to my way after that kiss scene. i think she wanted to know how i would react to it and she might be cuirous to know how it would feel to kiss a women. but i dont want to me a "try out" if i kiss her or she kiss me it will screw me up because i would never move on and get over her. thats why i dont want to kiss her but if she wants to kiss me for a "try out" she should look at some one else. or if she wants to kiss me because she might like me then hell thats great.
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Alright. I understand what you're saying; however, I think you're being unreasonable.

I honestly think that if the girl does like you that she would have said something by now. I mean, the scene would have been the moment that she made a true move forward from a friendship to something more.

I really think the look didn't mean anything and you should just let it go. If it's really getting to you then you honestly need to talk to your friend and see what was going on in her head. Communication is key in any relationship--including friendships.

I understand about not wanting to kiss her because you'd be stuck on her; however, if you're interested in a relationship then you need to realize that you may already be in that situation--not being able to get over her. I mean, her looking at you during a lesbian kissing scene really got to you very much, and this indicates that you are having more feelings for her than you may want to admit.

I'm sorry to let you down but if your friend said she wasn't interested and only saw you as a sister then you're going to have to move on from her and find someone else. She is in a confused state apparently since she isn't quite sure of her sexuality, and this means it's time for you to step away. It's really better to leave her to figure out her own issues before you step back into the picture--once she figures out if she really is interested in girls or not you'll know if you honestly do have a chance somehow.

In other words:

Stop hanging out with the girl so much if it's really causing you this much stress. It's wrong for her to be leading you on (flirting) and then claim she isn't interested in you. I know she is confused and you're just going to have to give her time to find out her own self before you can pursue anything more.

I think the look was just a look. I think she just glanced over to see your reaction to the scene. Again, she is confused about herself right now and maybe she was just trying to see if you felt the scene was acceptable so she knew if she could enjoy it or needed to say she did not like it.

Her statement of, "Not as of now..." means she is NOT interested in you right now, but may be in the future after she has figured herself out. Leave the relationship idea behind right now and let her do what she needs to do to figure out what she is going to do in the future regarding boyfriends/girlfriends. You can always step back into the picture once she decides what gender she enjoys being with more.

I'm sorry this is a hard situation you've been put in. Please take time to relax and focus more on yourself rather than a girl who seems to be unsure of herself.


i just got a new dell inspiron 1525 laptop with windows vista. i've only had it about a month, not even that. anyway, when i'm on the internet (facebook, myspace, etc.), sometimes the pictures won't show up- the boxes with red x's in them replace them. i try to right click and select 'show picture' but it doesn't work. maybe it's my internet connection? i have no idea. anyone know how to make them show up all the time? (link)
Many people have problems with the dreaded "red X," so you are definitely not alone!

One of the main areas that people see the red X is in their e-mail.
If you use Outlook Express and are having trouble seeing pictures in your e-mail, open it up and go to:
Tools
Options
and choose the Security tab.
Make sure the "Block images and other external content in HTML e-mail" box is unchecked.

Now, if you are sending an e-mail and people have been complaining to you about the pictures not showing up, try this:
Open up OE and go to:
Tools
Options
Send tab
Under the "Mail Sending Format," make sure HTML is selected and then click on the HTML Settings button. In there, make sure the "Send pictures with messages" box is checked. That should solve your e-mail issues.
If your using Outlook, follow as above for Outlook Express, but after clicking on the Security tab, click on Change Automatic Download Settings and make sure the box beside Don't download pictures, etc. in unchecked.

If you are having trouble seeing images in Internet Explorer, go to:
Tools
Internet Options
and click on the Advanced tab.
Look for the Multimedia section and make sure the box that says "Show Pictures" is checked.

For Firefox, go to:
Tools
Options
and click on the Web Features icon.
Make sure the "Load Images" box is checked as well.

Another cause may be that your browser security settings are set too high, which prevents you from accessing the Web site that handles the images.

In IE, go to:
Tools
Internet Options
Security tab
and click on the Default Level button.
Make sure your settings are somewhere around the medium level.

Another cause could be your anti-virus or firewall settings. I had this very problem when I set my anti-virus software to weed out possibly harmful images (in other words: porn). Look for a setting that says "Disable Web Bugs" and make sure it is turned off. This should allow all the images to pass through so you can see them again.

Also, when you're trying to view images on a web site or in your e-mail, make sure you are actually connected to the internet, or they will not show up because you're not really online to receive the images.

Hopefully one of these solutions will help you fix your computer issue.


In around a month i have something extremely important to me coming up.
I've recently had my Hair cut, and its jst abit longer than a bob.
I dont really like it to be honest.
Could my hair grow back in a month? n shoulder length?
Any ways to speed the process up..? (link)
Your will probably benefit more from taking vitamins orally than applying them to your hair for the actual growth. To strengthen hair, you'll need to purchase some products to apply to the hair shaft itself.

A good multivitamin might be the place to start. Here is a list of specific vitamins and minerals you're going to want to take though:

* Vitamin A
* Vitamin C
* Vitamin E
* Biotin
* Inositol
* Niacin (Vitamin B3)
* Pantothenic Acid (Vitamin B5)
* Vitamin B6
* Vitamin B12
# Calcium
# Chromium
# Copper
# Iodine
# Iron
# Magnesium
# Manganese
# Potassium
# Selenium
# Silica
# Sulfur (methyl-sulfonyl-methane or MSM)
# Zinc

You can find out more about dosages and such from:
http://hairloss.about.com/od/preventinghairloss/a/Vitamins.htm
&
http://hairloss.about.com/od/preventinghairloss/a/Minerals.htm

To strengthen your hair you should buy shampoos, conditioners, and leave-in conditioners that include pro-vitamin B5 (also referred to as panthenol). It helps to heal your hair, recovering it from split-ends. It may also help to thicken the hairs if they are thinning and breaking because of this.

Remember that leave-in conditioners are your friend when it comes to dyed, dry, and damaged hair. Also, try to use products that help to protect against heat products if you are a user of blowdriers, curling irons, and even straighteners.


everytime i go to the bathroom to go potty i have a clear gooey discharge in my undies and i was just curious what it was. so i went to go google it and it brought me to this web site. (link)
This sounds like the type of discharge a women gets when she is ovulating. This is a completely normal discharge and probably will last a couple of days.

"Ovulation occurs when a mature egg is released from the ovary, pushed down the fallopian tube, and is available to be fertilized [in the uterus]."

...which was from: http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/understandingovulation.html

The discharge probably resembles egg whites sort-of and is quite stretchy (or gooey like a booger as you said). Just so you know, you're high risk getting pregnant at this stage in your cycle.

Discharge is to help cleanse your vagina from bad bacteria (which is being secreted) and to help provide lubrication for sperm to successfully make it to your egg to fertilize it. Every woman has discharge.

Different Discharges:

Before ovulation- There will be a small amount of clear discharge.

Closer to ovulation- Discharge is moist/sticky and is white or lightly cream colored. There is some mucus but it isn't as stretchy as it will be during ovulation.

At ovulation- There will be a lot of discharge at this point. It will be like egg whites and is stretchy. You are most fertile here (high risk pregnancy) and sperm entering your body at this time will be able to survive slightly longer than normal.

After ovulation- Discharge is sticky but not stretchy. Mostly clear and will dwindle back to the "before ovulation" state.

Also, vaginal infections, medications, and birth control can all change the appearance of your discharge.

Vaginal yeast infections can cause itching and burning, the white discharge may look similar to cottage cheese, there could be pain during sexual intercourse, and some swelling of the vulva. The discharge smells somewhat yeasty from what I've read but not always.

Yeast infections are caused by a disruption in the balance of good bacteria in the vagina. Sexual intercourse, antibiotics, using too much soap, tampon usage, and even wearing tight clothing can all cause a yeast infection to occur.

If you have never had one before and you suspect you do now, then you NEED to see your doctor for a proper diagnosis. From there, you can purchase over-the-counter medication such as Monistat from your local store. The 7-day treatment seems to be the best of the bunch. It comes with the medication, applicator, and instructions so you can do it yourself in privacy.

Sometimes women mis-diagnose themselves with a yeast infection when they really have something else wrong (such as a bacterial infection that can render the woman infertile and cause a lot of pain for the rest of their lives).

Until you're able see a doctor, you may want to wear a panty-liner so you don't have wet underclothing/pants. Do NOT wear a tampon as it will further disrupt the balance in your vagina, and if you don't have an infection, you can get one then. You may also want to wear some looser clothing.




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