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i have literially all of the symtoms of pregnancy yet i havtn had sex and never have.I got fingered 2 weeks ago i really dont know what to do iv missed nearly 2 periods. If i was pregnant then i would deffinatly have an obortion without my parents knowing but what are the effects of this? also do you taske a pill for it? and its over with?
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Well, it's not normal to get pregnant if you get fingered. The only way you could be pregnant from him fingering you, is that his semen somehow ended up on his finger before he fingered you. I've had all the symptoms of pregnancy before, but I never was pregnant. If you was pregnant, I don't think you can get an Abortion without a parent being there if you're under 18. Abortion can be done by surgery or by taking a pill. ♥
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i would say get a self pregnancy test, tell the person taht fingered you, do what you think is right, if you are pregnant i really think that if you have not lived your life yet get an abortion, things happen & things go wrong so dont put yourself down about it.
good luck
hope i helped
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I suppose it is possible to become pregnant in this manner if your vagina had contact with the guy's semen so I'm not saying you're not pregnant or that you should not worry. However, I am saying that you should be more careful and cautious of your body and what happens to it.
In addition to taking home pregnancy tests you may want to schedule an appointment at your local doctor's office to have a pregnancy test done by professionals. Home pregnancy tests can show false-negatives, saying you're not pregnant when you are. (Note: There are NO such thing as false-positives so if it ever shows positive you are DEFINITELY pregnant). The doctor's exam won't be wrong, most likely, and you'll know for sure if you are expecting or not. Simply call your doctor or local clinic and ask to be scheduled for a pregnancy test and they'll get you all set-up.
I really, truly understand your fears about being pregnant; however, you really need to realize that this is your fault and that you should have been more educated than you were. You made adult decisions and now it's time to deal with the adult consequences that have trailed behind it.
Now, I definately do not think abortion is right for you. You are young and I really don't want to see you screw up your entire life because you felt a baby was going to cause you issues. The problem should be in finding the right ways to raise your child than trying to find a way to get out of the mess you've put yourself in.
Abortion can really harm your body just as much as giving birth to a child. I understand your body may not be mature enough to handle pregnancy but no woman's body is truly ready to abort a fetus. A baby can deplete your body of nutrients (which is why pregnant women need to take their prenatal vitamins) but an abortion can leave you scarred physically and/or mentally.
Women who have had abortions can experience problems later on. Many women suffer from major depression for years after having an abortion because, in the end, they come to realize that they have completely stopped another human life. The dates of conception, abortion, and the estimated day the child would have been born haunts many women for years. Some woman can't deal with this so much that they end up committing suicide. If that isn't enough, many women experience difficulty conceiving years later after an abortion--yes, it can render you infertile for the rest of your days.
I found a VERY interesting site for teenagers on abortion. These girls had abortions when they were your age and have gained courage to write about their experiences for other teens to read:
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Most of them regret that they had an abortion. Many of them cannot get over that fact and have the dates stuck in their minds. I'm sure that when that date passes each year they are reminded of what they went through to rid themselves of a life they were developing inside of their wombs.
I also want to direct you to a site that shows a live abortion. It's in different parts because the speaker gives you a lot of information on what the fetus and the mother will be going through. The video shows the ultra-sound as the procedure happens. It is important you see this before having an abortion so that you know fully what will be happening--it is best to inform yourself well. Before clicking the link to watch the video, prepare yourself because it is real life:
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...Part 3 really starts to show the actual abortion happening. The speaker does add that the doctor that did the abortion never did another one and that the woman filming it never spoke about abortion again, though she was previously for it.
Yes, that is a real baby, really feeling pain and maybe even fear during such a procedure. You can see that it was fully aware that it was being harmed and was not oblivious to the foreign object as many people would like you to believe.
Just as a note, some states will not perform an abortion past 4 months, most are done before the first 14 week mark. Abortions after 24 weeks are only performed because of health complications just as another note. The further along you are, the more expensive it will be. Here is also some information on how different types of abortions are done and what the baby is like during certain stages of development when these practices are performed.:
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Here are some REALLY, REALLY good videos that explain the different kinds of abortions:
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Abortion is also a very risky procedure for the mother of the fetus as well. The woman does not just pee out some blood and experience pain--the mother bleeds out the lining of her uterus as it contracts strongly to expel the fetus. The baby, placenta, umbilical cord, and the thick lining of the uterus will come out of the vagina. Even if the doctor suctions all of the "matter" out of the uterus, the woman will still bleed and may suffer some scarring in her uterus (preventing her from EVER being able to have children).
Many women have even DIED because of hemorrhaging, infections, and other complications. It's usually a very painful process for the woman and she is usually let in physical pain for days/weeks following. As another note, the woman usually bleeds for WEEKS after the abortion so it honestly isn't just a little blood in the urine.
Here is a super great website that has links to all sorts of abortion-related issues:
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...and they even have a section (and a couple of links) of women who have passed away because of an abortion:
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...as a note, MANY women are dying because of abortions:
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Please know that abortion is not your only option. Please give yourself plenty of time to decide what is the best choice. Even if your parents are upset that you are pregnant they will eventually get over it. Some parents can be really hurt in the beginning that their son or daughter disobeyed but, in the end, they still love you. Many parents later realize that the unborn baby IS their grandchild and help their son or daughter to figure out how to raise the baby when it comes.
Please do not put your body through the mess that is abortion. Please do not end a life that you have been helping grow. If both of your parents are not aware, take your chances and open up to your parents about what has happened. Like I said, even if they are upset they WILL get over it. If you're scared, there is help out there for you. You've learned the hard way about sexual consequences but it doesn't mean you can easily throw away the result.
Think about the life the child now. Yes, you were selfish and did not consider this major consequence (pregnancy) but you don't have to be any more selfish than you already have been. Even if you're not able to give him/her the best life, someone out there can. When couples look to adopt, they tend to look for infants anyway. By taking this child's life and ending it before it even gets started, you destroy what chance they had at being something. The baby did not do anything wrong here and should not be punished by death.
Adoption is always an option of yours if you are not physically, mentally, or financially capable of caring for another human life. Please look into it if you feel you can carry the child but not raise it properly. You can contact an adoption agency in your area or you can relinquish your rights of your child and place it in the custody of the state for adoption. I've read something about Volunteers of America for adoptions being really good but I have no personal experience with them myself. Here is a link directing you to their site:
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Just as another note, some agencies actually let the expecting party interact with possible parents to ensure they are giving their child the best chance at life as possible. You may want to look into those agencies to help find your child good, loving parents. It may even be possible for you to work out a way that you can still be in the child's life lightly as they grow so you're aware of their progress.
Please give your child the best life you are able to. It's so stupid and unreasonable for you to end a life because you were too scared about your own. You CAN find a way to let this baby live. Don't let others pressure you to murder an innocent life because they are afraid for you. Many women go through this same battle every day and are able to raise a child successfully.
I hope that you take enough time to decide what choice is the best before rushing into things. If you have any more questions regarding this subject, please feel free to ask me. :)
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if you haven't had sex then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. you can't get pregnant from getting fingered. you're period could be abnormal and just doesn't come every month. i have a friend whose period is like that too. she has it for a while then its gone for a while.
to have an abortion is a hard thing. you can either go to the doctor and ask for one. or there is a pill you can take. i'm not sure how to get the pill though
some people i know that went through abortions usually end up feeling terrible. they feel empty, regret, and sad. but then there are people who weren't effected that much by it because they did what they felt was right. my friend said the people at the abortion center told her that some people will come back on the day the baby was aborted.
* i'm not telling you all this stuff to make you feel bad. i'm telling you so you know in advance. but in the end it comes down your decision. its your body, its your choice. if you want more information you can just probably google abortion.
if you think you may be pregnant then you should take a test just to be safe.
hope i helped
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if you have never had sex..... your not pregnant!
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