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am i a slut ??
well here goes.... this guy n i have been flirtin alot l8ly i know he has a gf and have to say was abit upset however he pays me alot off attention he is 5 years older than me but that has never seemed to matter, we have become sex buddies do u think this is a good thing or bad ? i feel sorry 4 his gf but there is no strings attached its just sex. ???
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Personally, I think that is a very bad thing. It can't be healthy to have a simply sex relationship with someone that is 5 years older than you and that also has a girlfriend. This could lead to commitement issues later on in your life. I think you should get out of it and find a nice boy that you really like and begin a good relationship, that may in turn, lead to sex.
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Just wanted to add my two cents...women are supposed to stick together. even if you do not know that girl, there should be an unspoken respect between you two because you are both females. you may not think it is wrong because you are not in love with eachother, but i guarantee you would feel bad if it was the other way around. Believe in Karma, or believe whatever...do onto others as you want them to do to you. Do a little soul searching and you will see what I mean. Good luck
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honestly it is a bad thing. because if his girlfriend were to ever find out she would not only be hurt but she would probably freak out on you and her boyfriend. then she would go and tell others and they would think that you are a slut for sleeping with another girls boyfriend. they might end up thinking that if you slept with her boyfriend, then you'll sleep with everyone's boyfriend. it may be just sex to you, but to the girlfriend its heartbreaking knowing that her boyfriend is out having sex with another girl.
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I think you know if it's slutty or not and you really need to reach inside of yourself to discover this.
Obviously, it feels very wrong to be doing this or you wouldn't have been concerned about being perceived as a slut. From here, you should take the time to decide if you want to do the right thing and discontinue these activities or if you want to disregard your gut feelings and pretend it is acceptable behavior.
It is a fact that when people feel slutty/dirty/whorish they reach out to people they feel will accept their actions and tell them that they are not doing anything wrong. The fact that you are questioning this tells a lot and I hope you do understand that. I also want to note that just because someone here claims it is not slutty behavior does not make it alright--YOU know what is really going on. To put it simply, your conscience is screaming at you.
You obviously have been jumping into some things you are not well-prepared for and your conscience knows it. I suggest you take time to look at yourself and where you are now headed in life. It is not healthy or intelligent to rush into sex knowing that your sex-partner is attached to another person. It is not right to help someone betray their partner, of course.
What I'm saying is, the next time some guys says he really likes you or loves you it doesn't mean that sex needs to follow. It doesn't matter if he gives you attention or not because this is the WRONG type of attention you need to be able to blossom into a wonderful human.
Prostitutes have sex every single day with various men/women and never feel any emotion for them so that alone tells you that sex doesn't mean anything.
When you interact sexually with a person without getting to know them at all then it does put a stigma on you. The person will perceive you as sexual and empty. They see that you will make them feel good physically but have nothing else to really offer them. Most, if not all, of these sort of relationships burn out quickly.
So, yes, it is slutty behavior. Yes, you should discontinue sleeping with this guy because it is totally wrong. Yes, you should start listening to your conscience and following what you KNOW is right and not what the media and your peers try to feed you. Yes, if you are questioning your actions then they are, most likely, very wrong and you should discontinue them.
In addition, people do care if you're a slut. I care. I don't want you to become a statistic. I don't want to see you here feeling worse about yourself, falling deeper in the hole. I want to see you grow as a person and KNOW that you are better than these activities.
You'll feel better about yourself when you know you have changed. Work on yourself and don't fall into this dark hole of having sex whenever a guy seems interested and pays attention to you. You are worth something right now, don't make yourself worthless to others. Resolve this with yourself, make sure it never happens again, and learn your lesson from these experiences. With all of those met, you will be able to overcome this and will only carry it as a burden to tell others about your experiences--to help enlighten them on what you had to learn through heartache.
For a very last note, how would you feel if you were the girlfriend? Pretty betrayed, I'm sure.
I hope you do what is clearly appropriate for you and take steps to work on yourself. If you have other questions like this, please feel free to ask me! :)
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Hey, my name is Faith42 and I think I can help!
I think that is bad, because he is currently in a
relationship. How would you like it if you were the
girlfriend and he had a sex partner? I think I would feel awful knowing my boyfriend is having sex
with some one else when we are in a relationship.
I'am not judging you but , "Sex" means diffrent to
people. Maybe for him it means to be cheating, maybe
for you means flirting , and it doesn't mean anything. I really think you should hold up, intill
maybe their relationship ends.
I hope I helped,
Faith42;)
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I don't know if i would call you a slut, but what you're doing is wrong!
It depends what age you are, but if you're too young, and he's 5 years older then it could be illegal!
I think you're attracted to this boy, or else you wouldn't be "sex buddies." But what you need to think about is the fact that he's using you! He's using you just for sex, and he's still with his girlfriend. If he were to really like you, he would leave his girlfriend [sorry].
Not to mention, when the girlfriend finds out the truth it will be hell! She'll feel awful about herself, and if you know her you'll never be friends.
In my opinion this isn't the right guy. He's taking advantage of both of you because he can; you like the attention you're getting + that's why you keep doing it!
I would tell the girlfriend the truth, and then she can break up with him, the way it should be!
He's taking advantage of both of you, and he should be punished!
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Everyone has a different opinion on what a slut it. Even if someone says you are not a slut, it is still a pretty messed up thing to do.
There is no such thing as "no strings attached sex." Sex is sex, and doing it with someone who has a partner already is helping him cheat, and will turn into a whole other ordeal when his girlfriend finds out. Try being on the other end of this, being his girlfriend. How would YOU feel if you found out that your boyfriend has been having "no strings attached" sex with some other girl? It would not matter how you say it, it is all the same.
What are you even getting out of this? Sex, cool. But you could be one of the many sluts of the world and have sex with OTHER guys that do not have girlfriends, sparing their feelings and yours. You need the blunt truth, and the truth is that this is very wrong and you need to stop it, now.
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It's bad to help someone betray thier partner.
Nothing can make it okay.
It doesn't matter if it's just no strings attached sex, or even if you love eachother. It's still betrayal and it's still bad.
I don't think it makes you a slut, but it doesn't make you seem like a really nice person either. A nice person would realize that the reason they feel bad for the girlfriend is because they are helping this guy betray in her one of the worst ways possible.
Stop it. It's wrong. It wont make you a better, or a happier person. It will almost definately make everything worse.
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