hey I have always been known as the understanding person, and also have always given decent advice. I think that I have worldly experience and have seen a lot for my years. always try to give the best advice possible--no judgements
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Hello, I want flawless skin fast! I have red spots, mild acne, and mild black heads... It's probably not as bad as i think but i need something that works... Something that shrinks pores, clears up acne and blackheads, and makes my skin ONE color and look great. I know there has got to be SOMETHING out there (or a couple things) that can do this! I use Skin essentials 3step thing and it says it's better than pro-active and i use a mint julep mask and wash my skin regularly, but apparently that's not enough! Where can i find it and how much does it cost? Not toooooo expensive plz! And, do you know what kind of acne stuff celebrities use? They seem perfect, even without the makeup! Thank you, and any answer is appreciated! Any help! :) (link)
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Less is better. Fancy cosmetics are overrated in my opinion. beauty starts from inside so make sure you drink plenty of pure water daily and eat lots of fresh fruits and veggies. I use plain soap on my face once a day and moisturize daily. I use plain coconut oil on damp skin. Must work because my boyfriend always tells me his favorite thing about me is my complexion
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My boyfriend says he wants space, yet he has been calling me and texting me an we used to live together so when he needs something he texts me an calls me to come over my parents house to get it, like the slightest thing like today his trimmer and to show me his new dog, like the whenever i ask him or other people ask him what we arehe says he doesnt know yet he needs time & space, okayyy so why if you need time & space do u keep calling me and texting me an then why would he want me to tell him what i thought of this new dog he got? im so confused please i need advice
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well, it sounds like he does not know what he wants at all. He likes to keep strict tabs on you obviously, and that is why he calls and texts and wants to see you all the time. he is probably scared you might move on. it is pretty silly that he says he needs space and then his actions show the complete opposite. he maybe is afraid of where the relationship was going and thought he needed time away from you and is now realizing that he does not really. If i were you i would stop seeing him and answering his calls. if he asks why, just tell him you were respecting his wants of time and space from you. tell him that when he is ready, and he actually comes out and says it seriously, then you will be there for him, but you are sick of being jerked around and your head being played with. good luck
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Iam a 20 year old female and I got invited to this Halloween party and I need a costume that fits the dresscode something not to skimpy becouse it's a party at the mental health center I go to. (link)
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alice in wonderland, vampire/witch, cat, super hero, fairy
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so me and my crush were streaking (yeah i know, it's like not right or whatever) but it was in his backyard hahaa. anyways so it was the first time he seen me naked and i don't have the biggest of boobs. i have like a 34b..
and i have a good body, i'm in shape. it's just self-conscious about the boobs thing. well me and him were at our friends house and my friend was like he's talking dirty about you! and then i was standing there in like a tank top and i could hear him doing gestures to his friend about me but i didn't know if it was good or bad.
i'm really self-conscious he thinks i have small boobs. he didnt say anything. i know he wants to get with me and thinks im really hot but my boobs look bigger because i usually wear a push up bra.
i just don't know if hes talking good about me or not!?
by the way i'm 19/f (link)
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I am pretty much positive that he was talking good about you. It definately sounds like it, and I honestly don't think he would think your boobs are too small...at least you have some lol and your not a a cup or below. Most guys won't base everything on your boobs anyway
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i need some opinions...do you think teenage relationships are pointless? me and my boyfriend are 17 and been together for a year. i'm not the kind of girl and he's not the kind of guy to throw around the "l" word, but we honestly love each other.
he's my other half and i honestly can't remember life before him...we tried breaking up once because we were afraid of getting too attached before college, it didn't work to well since we ended up getting back together....however, this is why i'm worried...
i know its bad to get so attached, especially when college is around the corner...we both don't really know whats happening next year.
so my question is, do teenage relationships actually last? or are they just another thing to get upset about when you have to break up for college :/ (link)
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Some do, some don't. You really cannot stereotype all relationships. While it may be true that "most" teenage relationships do not last (as in the ones do not get married and stuff) there are plenty cases where they do stay together. It all depends on your feelings for one and other and fate I guess. My mother and father have been together since ninth grade, now been married 34 years. My friend from highschool is engaged to her boyfriend from 11th grade (they are 25 now). And myself and plenty other people I know broke up with our significant others after highschool and moved on. That does not mean those relationships were pointless though. It is all part of our lives that made us who we are. So I say follow your heart, break up if it is not working out, but if you both love eachother enough try to make it work through college. good luck
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I got a new kitten while I already had another cat. She is normally a very sweet girl, and I know that cats don't adapt well to newcoming kittens in the house. I've heard they get the feeling they're being replaced or not getting enough attention.
I've been sure to give her enough attention, I've invited her into my room while the kitten was here (he can't leave my room yet). I've petted her, then as soon as she saw the kitten, she freaked out, hissed and as I tried to comfort her, she scratched me.
I don't understand why she won't adapt; she's been given good attention and is allowed to be in my room - but I don't understand why she's being so bitchy about this to me when I'm trying to comfort her .. maybe it's just that cats don't even realize it?
How much longer may this adaption take? Or may she never like the kitten? (link)
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It could just take a few weeks. I had a similar experience a few years ago and my cat took a few weeks of "bitchiness" to get used to having a new kitten around. BUT, I got new kitten last year and my adult cat still won't come around the other one and hisses and freaks when he is around and its been over a year. Just keep paying attention to the old cat, let her eat out of her own bowl, make sure she has her own sleeping spot etc. She probably won't want to share anything with the kitten for awhile if not ever. good luck
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how do you put a finger through a flame and not get burned? (link)
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just let it pass through sorta slowly and it will blacken your finger but not burn it
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Okay so I was/am pregnant, and yesterday me and my boyfriend has anal sex and he cummed inside of me. (I am not sure if the cum helps) But anyway, and now when I pee, its like tissue stuff. Like the color of tan tape, and when I look its like all in the bottom of the toilet and floating and everything. Is this a miscarriage or is it something because of the anal sex? Please help I am very concerned :(
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I agree, see a doctor. I don't know how far along you are, but I am 26 weeks pregnant right now and when I was about 5 weeks pregnant I did have some of that tissue-like stuff in my pee. I thought I was miscarrying but i was not. See a doctor to be sure but it could be normal and I doubt it has anything to do with anal sex.
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Okay me and my boyfriend had sex about 4 days ago,and im spost 2 be on my period this month.my boyfriend came in me ALOT.and when i say alot i mean ALOT!.if i still get a little period does that mean i could still be pregnet??
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If you do not want a baby then use protection and/or do not let your boyfriend come inside you. I am assuming you are very young since you cannot spell "pregnant" and "supposed to" so you really need to not reproduce at this time. Be smart.
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My family has been telling me things about ghosts lately that relate to my house. No, they're not joking with me. And it's little things, not like they're TRYING to scare me (like my sister said she saw our door open and close on it's own once, while on level foundation). I believe in that sort of stuff. The problem is, ever since I was a kid, I've been VERY paranoid of that.
I'm a really creative person, and I can turn almost any situation into a very scary one, especially if I'm alone. It's usually really gruesome stuff, too. (Too many ghost shows as a kid, maybe? :P). For example, I'll just be sitting downstairs and imagine seeing a person walking down the steps (I'm not actually seeing things, just freaking myself out). Or like, imagining seeing someone be hanged. It sounds dumb, but stuff like that. I hate that I'm this paranoid, but I can really freak myself out.
What can I do to get over this? I used to use humor and writing to get it out, but it's not really working very well. Plus, this isn't my genre to write. I want to feel comfortable in my own houes. =/
16/F. Oh, and I believe in God if that helps at all? (link)
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The one thing I can think of that may help is to try and block these images from your head. I used to see these freaky figures and ghosts when I closed my eyes at night, but I just kept on putting different pictures in my head and eventually they went away. Also, you should talk to your family and tell them that you would really appreciate it if they did not talk about ghosts or scary things around you because it frightens you. Stop reading/watching horror books and films as well. Hope you can turn things around in your mind!
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Ok im 13 and in 5th grade i got my period once then it spoted and then i got it again around september and then last february it stoped and i have not goten it this march. I have never had sex but i am worried is there something wrong with me? Is it going to come back soon? Also im getting all the cramps and etc. Please help im very worried! (link)
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I would not worry too much. Most likely it is because you are still young and your period is not normal yet. Give it some time and your period will begin to be more steady, although some women never really have a predictable period. Another reason could be change in diet.
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What hand does the engagement ring go on?
What hand does the wedding band go on?
Thanks (link)
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they both go on your left ring finger. that is the finger next to your pinkie
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Ok.. so lately I have been feeling lightheaded a lot and like I'm going to pass out.. I'm also dizzy when I like lift my head up and standing up.. What could this be?/ And how could I fix it? I hate feeling like this.. (link)
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It could be a number of things. You could possibly be not getting enough water. you could be not eating enough. you could be pregnant. you could be not getting enough rest, or overly stressed. think if any of these things apply to you, then try and fix it, or if not you may need to see a doctor.
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so i have a science fair in the end of may. my project is about. do chemical or natural fertilizers work the best? i need 3 different kind of chemicla fertilizers and 3 different kinds of natural fertilizers..but thats not what i need. i want to know what kind of plant should i use? i need a plant that grows fast and that can grow a warm temperature inside my house. (link)
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spider plants are very easy to grow and grow fast. also different kinds of indoor climbing ivy.
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I decided that I wanted to be one of the managers for track. Then, I changed my mind and wanted to try track. :] so if I want to stick with it, my coaches/teachers said they would let me. Today was my first track practice though. At first, I felt like I was gonna die, pass out, or throw up! Then later on, it was ok I guess. I'm kind of sad though, because everyone did the 400 meter. (I think it was meters?) The problem was, I couldn't keep running because this was like the second time my calf or leg like started hurting. It just felt strange... It felt like my muscles were cramping up. Then again, I don't really know much about fitness. Whenever I lifted my foot, or walked, it felt like my muscles were tightening up or something. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Or does anyone know what this is called? My friend said it might be "Charlie's Horses"? I've heard of it, but I don't know much about it. I was so bummed, because I really wanted to keep running, even though I felt like dying! This was also my first practice, and I haven't ran like "that" in a whileee. I think I'm out of shape. I believe I can get better though! I just hope this won't affect me in the future. =\ I had my physical done, and I don't think i had any problems, or abnormal things about me. As I started running the 400m, I could feel myself getting slower, because my leg started to hurt. I had to stop halfway... I'm still bummed now. I've ran before today, without my leg being all weird. The first time was to warm up, but I just got very tired, and my legs and butt felt crazy, if that makes sense. Then we were running straight across my school's field. So does anyone know what I should do about my leg? Does anyone know what happened, or if it's a serious danger to my health? I would like to maybe try it for another day or two, maybe I'll start getting used to it. Stretching would probably help me a lot. Also, if anyone could give me ANY tips and advice, it would help SOO much!! I know some basic things, but it wouldn't hurt to repeat them. Maybe advice or tips on how to control my breathing (I know that I have to breathe through my nose, and breathe out of my mouth), to have good stamina, how not to get as tired quickly, to not feel like I'm going to DIE, throw up, or faint, how to control my legs or arms, how to become motivated, and just "KICK IT" in full power so that I don't stop running and start to walk, just ANYTHING that could help me improve, and become better at running! Please only answer this question if you know what you're talking about, or if you run track or have ran cross country yourself! I would love to NOT HURT or have bad feelings during practice. I just wanna have fun and feel comfortable, but not die and suffer as a result or during the process lol. xD (yes, I know it may get painful sometimes, and that it'll be worth it.) Thanks!! (link)
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I don't think there is anything seriously wrong with you. since you have not ran in a long while, it is natural for your body to respond that way. You need to start stretching before track practice then again afterward to get your muscles loosened up. try calf stretches, hamstring stretches, quad stretches and also stretch your shins (that is a little trickier, try moving your ankle around and putting pressure on your foot with your hand until you feel a good stretch in your shin). your track coach should be able to show you how to perform all these different stretches. Keep in mind you will probably be very sore for the first week of track or so, but gradually your muscles will become accustomed to the new routine and you will feel great. Also don't worry about not being able to run far right now, it will take time but eventually with enough training you will be able to go farther and faster as long as you are patient. good luck and have fun.
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25/F
I've been single for about four months... And now I think that I'm ready to start dating again.
My problem is... I don't know where to meet an available guy. I tried bars and clubs in my wilder days, but the 'party' phase is over for me... So that's out. At work, I'm in a position of authority, so that's out. Church is not an option. I'm spiritual but don't tolerate dogma very well. So that's out.
Most of the guys that I have dated in the past, I met via the internet. I've tried Eharmony, Match.com, True.com, Plentyoffish.com, Myspace, and some other dating site that I had never previously heard of before. And I'm sick of internet dating. I receive tons of emails from guys that are inappropriate... Some of the guys that I have met post old photos and then look completely different in person. Some guys are only interested in 'hooking up.' And others... Are either socially awkward or just plain lazy.
Can anyone suggest a good place to meet people that doesn't involve alchol or a computer?
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Just being out and about puts in a position to meet people. You could hang out at coffee shops once and awhile or internet cafes. I've found if you have a dog and take it to the local dog park or beach or lake area you can meet a lot of guys. Having your animals connect is a good excuse for the humans to connect. If you have spare time between work, you could volunteer somewhere that interests you, that way you could meet people and also not have the problem of being their superior. Bars and clubs can get old, but if you reserved those nights just for special occasions that you would really enjoy, like your favorite local band playing, you could meet someone with similar likes. even just being open to being approached at public places works, like supermarkets, libraries, and movie rental stores. A little eye contact and a smile goes a long way. hope this helped somewhat
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My boyfriend and i have been together for 4years and have been haveing sex since July 08,(hes my first) And have been haveing sex with no protection sice Novermber or December 08. He just pulls out. We have a great relation ship. And wouldnt mind having a baby if it comes to us but i dont think its the time. Anyways I thought the pull out method didnt work! is he just really really good at it or is there something wrong with one of us. or are we just not doing it enough. We usally do it once or twice a week. (link)
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It works for some, and some it does not. I don't think there is anything wrong with you. I have used the pull out method for most of my sexual life (10 years) and i have one child and another on the way, both conceived at the right time of month and only one instance of not "pulling out." It is obviously working for you but i would not take much stock in it because accidents happen. If you are not completely sure you are ready for a child, i would probably use a condom to be on the safe side or some other method of birth control
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Can any of you advicenators share your stories of your first love that ended because of distance? Like, either one of you had to move away and thats the only reason why your first love ended. Do you regret it? Are you still in touch? please leave as much details, as well as how you dealt with the situation, because right now im finding it to be unbearable. (link)
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My first and even to this day only love and I were torn apart because of distance. We always had a long distance relationship...the closest we lived was 200 miles away and the farthest was 3000 miles. we planned on being married when we were both at a point in our lives that we could move closer together. after five years of on and off relationship, we agreed to see other people but not get too attached because one day we would be together. Well, I got pregnant with the guy I was seeing. My love continued dating his ex girlfriend and now I just found out that they are engaged and buying a house together. we are sorta in touch still...and i know that we still love eachother but life put us in different directions. On one hand, I wish I would have married him and just moved to be near him years ago, but then again I would not have my beautiful two year old son. I met him when I was 17 and I am 25 now. It hurts me way deep down even now to think he is marrying another woman, even though I still live with my son's father.
My advice to you is that if you are sure you love someone, do not let that person go. true love can be rare and it does still hurt after years. good luck
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My boyfriend and I were driving to his families house on saturday with my son. For a late Thanksgiving dinner thing. Well two seperate flocks of birds came together over the car and and went with us for a little bit. Does that mean anything? (link)
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I would say yes. All things on this earth are connected and nothing really is an actual coincidence. The very fact that you noticed the flock of birds and made the connection probably means it was symbolic in some way. Thats what I believe
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im 18 years old. about 5'5 and currently lost weight, out of no where? i now weigh 109 lbs. i've been trying so hard to gain it back but i keep losing it, probably because my eating schedule is messed up. i was just wondering though, does fast food make you sad and depressed? or can it? because since i don't like alot of stuff, my mom never knows what to buy and she will just get me fast food because i love it haha. i eat it probably 2-3 times a week, but i don't know how i'm losing the weight. i know it's bad for you but i'm always tired, always feeling down and never happy, never feel motivated and i don't really drink soda, i drink alot of water and juices. i don't know what to eat though, because i'm always hungry! thank you :) (link)
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Fast food does effect your whole body, and can definitely be the culprit of you feeling sad and depressed. The term "you are what you eat" is pretty right on. Fast food has basically no nutrition and is filled with sugar. Your body and mind needs certain vitamins to thrive and sugar gives you a quick high and then you crash. As to you being thin..you probably just have a really high metabolism and those "empty" calories get burned right up. My boyfriend eats more fast food than you and still goes through periods of losing weight from his already stick thin frame. Start trying new foods, eating three meals a day with snacks. you could get healthier fast food too. You could have your mom pick up sandwiches from a sandwich shop, or get take-out from a healthy Mexican or Thai or Indian restaurant. Many grocery stores have salad and soup bars. That is, if you do not like to cook. Hope i helped a bit and hope you feel better soon
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