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teenage relationships
i need some opinions...do you think teenage relationships are pointless? me and my boyfriend are 17 and been together for a year. i'm not the kind of girl and he's not the kind of guy to throw around the "l" word, but we honestly love each other.
he's my other half and i honestly can't remember life before him...we tried breaking up once because we were afraid of getting too attached before college, it didn't work to well since we ended up getting back together....however, this is why i'm worried...
i know its bad to get so attached, especially when college is around the corner...we both don't really know whats happening next year.
so my question is, do teenage relationships actually last? or are they just another thing to get upset about when you have to break up for college :/
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Every relationship is not pointless, but every relationship is unique. I think what you guys have is special and unique not pointless. I have heard of many many relationships ending insuccessful marriages or long term commitments. I know it hurts to think youll be away from each other but distance is not the important thing. what is is that you both care and love each other. thers nothing with attachment what is wrong is obsession. is it wrong to be attached to a family member dad, mom? no its not. i thik you guys will do fine just dont let the distance thing tear your relatioinship apart. I hope this helps
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Let me share my feelings through a personal experience.
My girlfriend and I started dating the second semester of senior year. Both of us were 17. After summer ended, she moved to San Angelo for college, about an hour and a half drive away. That was the hardest time for us. We broke up and got back together three different times that semester. She was so homesick that she moved back and transferred to my university. Was it solely because of me? No, she missed her family and friends, and the friends that were supposed to be moving there with her bailed out and she went at it alone. Because she was so depressed, she couldn't make any friends over there.
Not long after she moved back, we moved out of our respective parents' homes and got our first apartment together. Since then, we've shared 5 birthdays together, lived in three different apartments, and we're now renting our first house. So, do I think teenage relationships are pointless? Honestly, I don't think any relationship is pointless. If nothing more, it serves as a lesson for future relationships.
My point is, before she moved away for college, we comtemplated breaking up to avoid the pain of a long-distance relationship. Had we agreed on that, we would not be together today. As it has been said before, if it is meant to be, it will last through whatever hardship life throws at you.
We've survived long-distance, financial troubles, more fights than any non-married couple can usually bear, being "separated" and the subsequent "seeing other people", etc. etc. If I listened to a friend and they listed everything in a relationship I'd been through, I'd tell them to turn tail and break up with the crazy bitch. But it's hard to put into words...you must learn to forgive and forget. Anyway, I've gone off onto a tangent. You have my answer. Do with it what you will.
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I understand where your coming from but i look at it as your going to be upset either way. But if you were to break up sooner then going away for college all you did was take away the chance you gave your relationship. And no i don't think high school relationships are pointless. I know its rare but its possible to marry or spend your life with your high school sweetheart. And even if you don't you still learn from your mistakes and know what to expect in future relationships. My advice is to stay together, its seems like your in a good relationship and i don't think being scared of graduating is a good reason to end it
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If your meant to be, you'll stay together. I'm 17, and I was dating this guy, who my family & friends (friends that are in their 20s) did not like. I'd always be like, whats the big deal? i'm just dating him. & they'd be like, before you know, you will be engaged to the guy. I have friends in their 20s, and they have all married high school boyfriends/girlfriends. I think two met when they just finished high school.. & my parents met in high school, along with a lot of their friends. I think once you find the right person, you just get attached, and stay with that person.
I don't think teenage relationships are stupid or whatever. Things happen fast.
I hope that helped. :)
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Some do, some don't. You really cannot stereotype all relationships. While it may be true that "most" teenage relationships do not last (as in the ones do not get married and stuff) there are plenty cases where they do stay together. It all depends on your feelings for one and other and fate I guess. My mother and father have been together since ninth grade, now been married 34 years. My friend from highschool is engaged to her boyfriend from 11th grade (they are 25 now). And myself and plenty other people I know broke up with our significant others after highschool and moved on. That does not mean those relationships were pointless though. It is all part of our lives that made us who we are. So I say follow your heart, break up if it is not working out, but if you both love eachother enough try to make it work through college. good luck
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