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if i get fingered am i still a virgin?

By the technical sense of virgin, there is a possibility that you're not. By a moral sense of it, yes. You don't lose your virginity until a penis penetrates your vagina. There is always a chance your hymen can get broken doing A LOT of things, even as simple as using a tampon. So while you might have had that happen, you're still a virgin by society's standards.

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Well i have this friend Kac(thats what i''ll call her) And she best friends with this other grl melodoy( That what i'll call her) She such a drama queen. If it's not her way thers no way! Kac if thicks that. She's costily rude, she interruos me when i'mm talking to kac. And if you say you like a guy she likes him too. Me and kac like this guy named aaron, she kinda knows him and she likes him to its getting so annoying. She brags a lot. She says i like love my fabolus outfit don't you. She tells me well i went with kac at the mall for along time. We bought tons of things. Kac bought fabulos enrings you should see them. She's nice and everything but she gets preety annoying!!!!
What should i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Candychick1

You should learn to ask coherent questions. I really don't understand what the question was. You started to talk about Melody, but then you started talking about Kac's fabulous earrings. So please, edit the question and actually ask one so I can help you.

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ok well im like one of like 10 black gurls in my city. most of the other oens r mixed though but i still count them as black.well anyways ive lived here for 2 and a half years and the whole time ive only had 2 boyfriends. y is it that white bois dont wanna go out with black gurls? a lot of guy flirt with me and say they wanna do stuff with me but they wont ask me out. what should i do becuase im always sittin around watchin all my other friends hook up with guys and im just left all alone.

love,
lonely black gurl

Maybe it's your personality. Maybe they aren't interested in being with you in general. Maybe you give off a slutty aura. Maybe the guys (bois isn't a word) are just stupid perverts and only want sesx. There could be many many reasons as to why, so please don't automatically assume that white guys aren't into black girls (once again, gurls isn't a word).

Report me for what, giving you some advice on how to spell? Oh no, that must be a crime in this country. Please, threats like that are pathetic and are only going to cause more people doing it. Maybe guys don't want to date you because you pull stuff like this.

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what can i do for my birthday and about how much $$ will it cost how long should i have it for too

Whatever you and your friends enjoy doing, however much you are willing to spend, and do it for however long you want to.

I don't even know how old you are, I can't really give decent advice.

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Hi,

I have this friend that's a boy (i'm a grl) and i've liked him since the day i met him. We're now best friends and do everything together on the weekends and whenever we have spare time. He has a gf and talks about marrying her (even tho he's only 13), and i try to be a supportive friend, but really he's just ripping my heart out. I've tried to drop hints that i like him but i know how he gets when ppl tell him that they like him when he already has a gf...it's not a good site. I guess i just want a way where i don't have to listen to the full on details of his relationship w/ his gf cuz it really does kill me inside. thanx 4 the help

~broken heart

Explain to him that you do not like hearing these details. If he really is a good friend, he will stop. You should also try and avoid hinting at him with the motive of him leaving her for you. If things were meant to be you guys will end up together.

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theres this boy that i fell really really hard for in the third grade. now we're both in the 11th grade and I'm still madly in love with him. But I recently found out that he suffers from severe ADHD. He cant control a thing he says. He thinks it and it just flys out of his mouth. i feel bad for him but he says such jerky things like your ugly and your fat. I really want to be with him but its hard when he says these things. I want to slap the crap out of him but i know its not his fault! its so hard because i know thats not who he is! underneath his disability he is so sweet! i remember what he used to be like before high school. he asked me to be his girlfriend and i dont know what to say because i dont really like the emotional roller coaster he throws me on but i love him! please help me!

I'd personally say no. He needs to deal with his mental problems before they start to affect the lives of others.

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For my birthday my boyfriend did the most amazing thing. I am in love with the broadway musical Phantom of the Opera and he took me to the city as a suprise thennn took me out to dinner then suprised me with tickets. His birthday is in 2 weeks and Id had an idea but its nothing compared to what he did for me. Now im trying to come up with something to do for him and am in a complete bind! Money isnt an issue, but I dont wanna give him something I wanna do something for him.

I live close enough to New York City that I can do something there, and his birthday is close enough to Halloween that I can also do something related that way.

Some things he likes are
-cars
-hockey
-the city
-animals
-amusment parks
etc


some things ive considered are taking him to a New York Rangers hockey game but I cant find amazing tickets for anytime soon
Ive considered taking him back to the city maybe for a different show if I can trick him into telling me 1 he wants to see
and what Im thinking right now is going to six flags for fright fest the saturday before his birthday and getting a hotel that night then go to point pleasent (my favorite boardwalk in NJ) which is very close by, the day after for his bday before driving home. (one problem though is he lives an hr and a half into NY. Id have to drive and a half to pick him up, and hr and a half back into jersey. then 1 1/2 hrs down to six flags then the next day have to drive 1 1/2 hrs back to my house then 1 1/2 hrs back to his. I dont mind but my car may not take it...plus I just turned 18 and hes 19....idk how well my mom would take the whole hotel thing)'

anyway if you have ANY ideas im up for hearing them
thanks!

It doesn't have to match up exactly in cost, surprise, ect. He knew one thing you really liked, and took the oppurtunity. So, instead of giving us broad topics to go off of, just think of things he's done that he enjoyed, or talked about wanting to do and do it. Make it something he knows he wants you to do, but would never do it.

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i really want to go because i haven't gone before but i have no date and no guys wanna dance with me so i'm a loner..i can't ask anyone to go with me..i'd probably be rejected..if i do go, i will feel sad during the slow dances and shy with the fast dances..all my friends go there to dance and hang out..i can't just hang out..everyone has a date except for me..i'm sad and im confused..i don't know what to do..:( people make fun of me..esp. the guys

If people make fun of you, just sit at home in your room and play your computer. Computers cannot make fun of you.

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Ok so my name is Tilly and I came in late for biology class. I look in my chair and there was a note with my name on it..I opened it and it said "Tilly, will you go out with me-your secret admirer"..obviously, they were joking because it was written very MESSY and..if i wanted to say yes/no..how could i tell them? so i was being mocked and embaressed..should I get over it? I wanted to cry so bad..this made me feel even more horrible because people have been calling me ugly for 5 years!

Well maybe you should.......ugh......ignore them and just be the better man.

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okay so 2 nights ago i gave my boyfriend head for the 2nd time. the first time he was wearing a condom bc i was to scared of risks. but this time he was not wearing one. he busted in my mouth but as soon as it went in my mouth i spit it into the sink. i didnt wash my mouth out but i spit as much as i could out. i knew what i was doing since i did it once b4 with him & he said it felt really good this time cause he wasnt wearing a condom & all.

Facts::
-ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year!! =)
-we are both virgins
-im the only one hes ever done oral with
-we DO love eachother

Well, you are fourteen, and therefore you are risking a lot by preforming sexual acts. You should wait a few years before getting into that stuff.

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what are sign of pregnacy

A baby.

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(im 19 female)Im just asking, there is this guy i like a lot he liked me, soon as i told him i wasnt a virgin he simply lost interest! and he belives that the one he is going to marry should be a virgin.i feel like SHIT! he has told me he is not a virgin - ofcourse its ok for a guy not to be one isnt it! but anyway, then i told him that i was joking and that i didnt quite have sex.i really like this person and i regret loosing my virginity to this ONE bf" overseas, now if i was to get close with this guy could i live a lie and never tell him? or should i tell him? or should i forget him and move on! but i cant! nicest person iv ever met! what do i do!? is it good to keep it to myself and NEVER tell him.- i feel so guilty

This guy is obviously lost in some sort of weird fantasy world where he thinks he's actually going to find a girl over the age of eighteen that is still a virgin.

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well im like 16teen and when i was younger like about maybe 5-7 years old i experimented with somebody who was only like 2 yrs older i mean he didnt even go through pubity yet and i didnt feel anything so does that make me still tight like a virgin

You probably are, especially if he didnt have an erection.

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i am 13, and my boyfriend is 14. we are both goth-like, and we love each other. we do have sex, but all my friends say i should go to the counselor and tell her about it. but i have nothing to tell. can anyone think of why i should or should not go the counselor?

You should go to the counselor because you're gothic, not because you're having sex.

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Okay I really need help with this. In 7th grade, I always felt so alive. Then when I was in 8th grade, I still did but my energy/ fun and being active,hyper,outgoing started to decrease but it was still there. Now I'm in 9th and I just don't feel like I used too. I want to go back to my old self but everytime I try I just feel out of place. I want to feel more confident like I used too. I just don't know what to do and it is hard to explain. But I want to know if anyone has been in this situation and how they changed or if anyone has any advice? Thanks!

Maybe you're maturing into a fat, lazy American!

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what the virtue of modesty?

Learning how to spell properly.

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ok well how much is your cell phone bill every month and what kind of cell do you got.ok i want to get a cell phone with very little bills. ok well i want aim and a phone but also i was wondering if theres sumthinkg like as small as a cell phone but it is like a lap top if there is can you give me a site of where its at. when i had my cell phone before i was getting charged even when i dont even really use the phone what would be best tp have a share plan. is there a phone that i just can buy it and theres no bills at all and if so can you tell me the site where i can find it. PLZ HELP I RATE 5

I spend $40 a month for 400 minutes and 100 text messages. Aim usually costs a bit more, with Sprint you pay $15 a month for internet and all that stuff comes with it. The closest thing to a cell phone and a lap top are those PDA's that are cell phones, but unless you're organizing all your big business meetings, there isn't really a point to them.

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alright . so the cold it coming again .. and i hate wearing clothing for the cold weather.
because . i like to show a little . like maybe a little of my stomach . or low cut shirts.
does any one know of any cute things i could get/wear for the cold/winter time?
links and ideas will be great

Well, if you wear all warm clothes, I'm sure you'll be showing your face and hands. That is a little.

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i have a bf (well close friend) long story .. he is in the navy he is almost 21 i will be 16 in a couple weeks .. i want to know if this is okay that we are like in love with eachother when our ages are kinda far apart? also think about the future too when im like 24 he would be 29. he means everything to me. -Nikky-

I personally think it's very wrong, a guy who can legally drink shouldn't be dating a girl who isn't even able to drive yet.

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I wrote a question yesterday about being accused of something i didn't do.. Hope you guys remember that... Anyways, the principal just told me that I am suspended from the bus for 2 weeks and I have to clean all the stupid busses on Monday. I think that that is child abuse. He blamed me for something I didn't do. I only ripped a tiny bit of the window film.. Thats an unreasonable reason to suspend me. This other guy cut the seatbelts, ripped the air freshener and he's going to do the same thing as me. 2 weeks of suspension and community service.

He also called my parents about it. I'm already through with my mom, but now comes the hard part. My dad. I really don't know what to tell him..
What should I say to my dad and tell the principle it's a stupid reason to suspend me??

That is not child abuse. You only want to think that because you got in trouble. The reason you both got it, is because he couldn't really give one of you less punishment when you were both doing stuff. I do NOT think you should tell the principle, and I think you should apologize to your dad and make sure you learn something from this. You need to take responsibility for your actions.

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