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i am 13, and my boyfriend is 14. we are both goth-like, and we love each other. we do have sex, but all my friends say i should go to the counselor and tell her about it. but i have nothing to tell. can anyone think of why i should or should not go the counselor?
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you should cause you could get pregnant and your to youn wate till like 16
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ok well your friends are wrong... theres no reason to go to a counselor unless you have a problem.
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Well, an informed counsellor would be able to provide you with useful information about STDs, safer sex, etc. It's best to talk to someone, as sex at 13 is actually dangerous for your body. Having sex very young increases the chance of developing cervical cancer later in life. It also obviously means you've got a chance to pass/receive a disease or get pregnant.
At thirteen, it's hard to be able to look objectively at a relationship - but I would say that's true of most relationships. When you are involved in something, you can't necessarily evaluate whether or not it is the best thing for you. Sex this young isn't usual, and talking to a counsellor could help you figure out if it truly is right for you.
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Goth-Like.
Wow you're lame.
Anywho. It is kind of gross concidering you're thirteen and already have lost your virginity.
Don't go to a counselor, what can she tell you? "Don't do it again".
--Social Suicide
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I don't know why you would want to tell a counselor about it of all people?
Personally, you are too young. I think 16+ is a good age to start having sex (just as long as you are 100% ready). That's just my opinion.
You're 13, do you know the risks and proper procedures for protection? Do you have a backup plan if something goes wrong? Do you know how to handle STDs, infections, or pregnancy may they come along? If the answer is "No" one of those, then you should reconsider what you're doing until you're ready for the consequences. It would break my heart if my 13 year old daughter got pregnant. (I'm 18 myself, I mean that hypothetically. I don't really have a 13 year old daughter, haha).
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I'm 13, and in my opinion, it's too young to be having sex. Even if you do use protection, there are too many physical and emotional risks. You could get pregnant, get an STD, or get injured. (It sounds stupid, but you'd be surprised.) Also, it's unlikely that you're going to end up marrying your boyfriend because you are both so young. It's going to be devastating for you if you break up, because by having sex you bonded. Many people believe that you should wait to be married before having sex because it's such an important bond, and it hurts to lose such an important person in your life. See the counselor if you want to. Nobody can make you do anything, but I strongly recommend that you talk to somebody about everything that's going on in your life. I also think that you should stop having sex, but obviously I can't do anything about it. Just remember, that you may regret doing what you're doing now and be careful. Good luck, and remember, I'm always here if you need me!
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i think you should go to the counselor because you should tell someone that youve had sex and also YOU ARE TOO YOUNG!!!!!!!!!!! please you shouldnt have sex till your married or 18.
i dont want to make you mad but thats what everyone else is gonna say.
i sugest talking to the counselor and asking how to stop.
hih
dreamist16
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You should go see the counselor because you are a 13 year old child having sex. I doubt you're safe, or even educated properly on the dangers and risks out there. Sex is a very mature choice, that an immature person should not make.
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You should go to the counselor because you're gothic, not because you're having sex.
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I have no idea why you would need a counsellor. You are not being raped, forced to do this, or in trouble. If you use condoms every single time you are fine. Getting on the pill would be the best thing to do. As for counselling as you said there's not much to discuss. When you have sex does come down to your decision. Maybe your friends think you rushed into it (which I think may be the case either way). Just protect yourself above all else.
Personally, they as well as I think sex is for adults and there is a lot of trouble such as STI and STDs and pregnancy to consider. Maybe they think you are not thinking clearly which may in fact be true and know that boys will promise the moon for sex.
They want you safe. If you do not feel a counsellor is needed fine. Be careful nobody can stop you from it but they can all tell you having sex is better as an adult. It may be something new and wonderful to you both but getting pregnant sure is not--especially when the boy always leaves.
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i have read some things people wrote 2 you! but ma advice is diff. i think you do need a councelor because your r too young to have sex, 13 and 14 is really young! if you dont b carefull then you will become pregnant and that wont b pretty at 13! you wont have time 4 skool, or you bf, just b carefull and tell an adult before dis whole sex thing get 2 serious
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You shouldnt really need to see a counsler if you dont have a problem. Just remember all the risks of sex and have him where a condomn or something to protect yourself. If you feel nervous at all then go to a counsler.
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Wow you dont need a counselor why would you? your having sex!! big woop! you need to tell em that you love him & you dont need advice on ur love life.!! wow..good luck! and if you need a counselor then i deff. need one lol
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