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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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i used to be best friends with this group of girls. the main girl in this group was very controlling and two of my closest friends broke away from us. the main leader of our group then starrting to say some rude and nasty things about them, and i felt that i should had told them so i did. then she accussed me of lying to her which was untrue. so we broke up and now me and my other friends watch out for each other. a week later i find out that she is spreading rumours about me and acting like she is innocent. she is now in control of a new group of friends and i want to warn them what she is capable of but im unsure of how to go about it? please help before she ruins more peoples lives.

The best thing you can do is let them learn from their own mistakes as you have done yourself.
Honestly, do you think they would believe you if you told them? Doubtful. They probably think she is sweet and innocent, just like she is acting.
I know that sucks, but that's just how it goes sometimes.

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Well the other night, I had my boyfriend over at my house and we were up late talking. I decided to model some really short shorts I have for him. I've never worn shorts before for him so I thought it'd be a nice treat. So I put them on and asked his opinion. He said they looked nice, but I could tell he had other ideas. I asked him what he really thought and he asked if I wanted him to be honest. I said yes, and he said I have a bit of cellulite which would put some people off but he still likes my "rear end." Of course I was very hurt by this and went straight to bed. In the morning he had written me a note saying he was sorry and he loved how I looked, he was just saying that some people wouldn't like it, but he still thought I was hot.

Yes.. I know he apologised, and it really is no big deal, but my boyfriend has a tendency to put me down [without realizing it at times] Like once he told me I shouldn't eat so much junk food. Also he told me once I could do with losing weight (I had asked him if I needed to) He did apologise for that saying he was wrong, but still. I guess I'm learning now not to ask him things I know I won't like the answer to!

What hurt more was today I asked if he'd prefer me to be more like this girl we know called Bessie. Bessie is the stereotypical teenage male's fantasy..blonde, tanned, tall, etc. (everything I'm not!) She did modelling for some sports mag. He had liked her previously. He said no he wouldn't, but then I asked if she had liked him back before we went out would he have chosen her over me? He said maybe he would've, but he said she'd never have been interested in him and he didn't like her enough to make a move. But still, he's with me, why aren't I good enough?

What do I do? Am I making a big deal? He knows I'm insecure. He does genuinely feel bad when he upsets me but I don't get why he keeps doing it?

19f.

He does it because he respects you enough to be honest. He just hasn't figured out that sometimes you would rather hear him omit the brutal honesty. Sorta like instead of commenting on your cellulite, just commenting on your rear end.
But most of all, you need to train yourself not to ask him questions that run the risk of having an answer you don't want to hear.
Asking him if you need to lose weight, if he would have chose so and so over you, etc, etc, is just you setting yourself up for the hurt.
Until you can do that, you need to be glad that at least he is honest and tells you the truth, and accept his apology. I mean, he knows you are insecure, yet he knows you still prod for an honest response.

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OK so I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and i always thought he was super good looking but I kinda got used to it.

He always compliments me and says i am the hot one, but lately i have come to realise that he is actually way better looking than me. I took him to a party and i had 3 seperate people comment to me on how good looking he is, and then the next day someone else did.

Just now I was talking to a friend of his on msn and she said something along the lines of, i am not surprised you enjoy showing him off, he is HOT!

I suddenly feel like everyone is looking at us and wondering what the hell he is doing with me??
Especially it also doesnt help that he has a more posh job than me too...

Any advice would be good. Thanks

If he says you are hot, that's all the opinion that matters when it comes to the opinion of others.
Take the compliments, and enjoy it. Just think, you got a guy that everyone wants- but he chose YOU. YOU are the one who is special.

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Ok is Halls drops and Halls Vitamin C drops still helping your throat?

My throat hurts so bad and I cna't eat those realyl hot ones cuz they taste gross so i got a pack of the fruity ones and then alter I realized this pack said Vitamin E/C.

Do they still help your throat too or are just just, vitamin candy?

The vitamin C drops are exactly that, but vitamin C is good to get plenty of when you are sick. However, you are better off getting it from a natural source, like pure orange juice.

If you want something to help your throat and kill the pain, Chloraseptic throat spray works great. Tastes nasty, but only for a few seconds.

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How do you help sumone grieving or preparing to say good bye to a loved one. My bff just lost a girl she used to know at her school and its been really hard for her. I keep telling her its ok and to let herself grieve but then heal and help her school heal cause they are all grieving. and telling her all of our prayers are here and stuff. i think shes getting to be ok. but now my bgf who well we both love each other romantically but arent dating yet. but we are close enough we practically are. anyways he just told me they are going to see his uncle and say bye cause he has stage 4 cancer and its getting pretty serious. he almost never shows a lot of emotion but today he just wanted to talk. sumtimes we didnt even say anything he just wanted me there for him. and i understood but it hurt me so much too to know he was in so much pain and i wasnt actually there. anyways i think im gonna see him this weekend. but he was almost crying and thats HUGE for him. i was there for him and i felt like that was pretty much all i could do but i wish i could do more. i really do. i told him my prayers were with him. we are both strong Christians. and my bff said to tell him her prayers were with him too but i want to help him MORE. i think i should really try to hang out with him this weekend because then im really even more so THERE. we dont go to the same school but we talk like everyday now. any ideas to say sumthing or do sumthing to help him> when i see him im gonna look at him and tell him everything happens for a reason and hug him. sumthing i cant do on the phone. :) thanks so much this advice is really appreciated and i will rate everyone for helping me :)

Well, you are already doing the best thing you can do- being there for him.
He needs your kindness, your support, your shoulder to cry on, your ears to listen.
Ask him if there is anything you can do for him and his family during this rough time, and if he needs more than you standing by his side, he will tell you.

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i think that i like this guy adam. hes really cute and hes my type of guy. but, i think i only like him for his looks, like, i only think hes cute. because, hes popular, and im not. and i havent really hung out with him to get to know him, but it seems like i only like him at school in my last hour class, cause he makes jokes in that class. is something wrong with me? or am i just confused about me feelings about him?

Well, there is nothing wrong with you- you just don't know the guy at all to like him for who he is. If you are really interested in getting to know him, then do so.

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Ok, i am new to a high school (freshman), and i really like this guy, who is also my friend, unfortunately, i did not yet kno which of my friends to trust...Practically everyone knows now, and a couple people don't stop creating drama off of the situation. It's ridiculous. I can't tell if the guy likes/liked me or not, but if he doesnt, i couldnt blame him. I sent him an email, which i think will help, but idk what to do about all of the people talking/perpetuating rumors. i would like to keep my new friends though....maybe just not trust them as much...I really like him, but i just dont know how to "have my cake and eat it too" Thanks

Well, you need to talk to that guy and clarify what is true and what isn't so he knows what to believe. It would probably be better if you talked to him in person so he knows you are serious.

As for your new friends, why keep a friend you can't trust? There is no point in that kind of friend, because you are supposed to be able to trust a friend.

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Now, I don't mean to sound like one of those whiny, overdramatic, angsty teenagers, but lately everything is well...sucky. It's my senior year of school and I'm having like noo fun. Well my best friend that I'm like with all the time got a new boyfriend, and well she is ALWAYS over his apartment, and when shes not around him, thats all she talks about. It's not that I feel left out, its just I envy her. I can tell they really love each other, and I just want what they have. I don't have even any guys lined up at all, and I guess its just taken a real affect on me. I'm always moody, gotten pretty close to the color black, and started listening to hardcore "emo" music. Not to mention, I haven't been eating at all lately. It's not on purpose, I just don't have any interest in doing anything anymore. I just never seem to be happy...

Why don't you talk to your friend about all this? If she is talking about her boyfriend, just tell her you have something very important to discuss with her. Maybe she can do something to help you out of your funk. Maybe she or her boyfriend know a guy you may find of interest.
What are friends for, right?

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ok so i was in a wonderful relationship for 1 year and 4 months. we recently broke up about 2 weeks ago because he really hurt me and broke my trust which is very hard to get. hes apologized so much and is trying so hard to prove he loves me and get me back but i just cant let it go so were currently not together.

last week, i met this guy at school and ive been talkin to him everyday since. i hung out with him yesterday and hes such a sweetheart. i barely know him, and i still love my ex, so i dont really have feelings for him, but hes such a gentlemen.. way more than my ex and the kind of guy i and my mom always wanted for me. he treats me like a princess already and hes just so caring.

now i dont know what to do. i dont necessarily want to be with him, but hes making me see what kind of guy i want. i love my ex so much, but i just wish hed treat me like this other guy does. he knows ive been talking to him, and he doesnt like it all, which is irritating because hes always guilt tripping me about it unintentionally or whining. but he is my first love and i cant imagine the rest of my life without him.. we were very serious even talking engagement.

what should i do about this? =[

You should explain to your ex why this guy has caught your interest. Tell him that if he were to treat you the way this other guy does, that would be great.
However, what if he doesn't want to strive to be a gentleman? Or if he only does it for a while?
You obviously know what kind of guy you want to grow old with. Right?
Why settle for less than you deserve just because he is your first love? Because if he can't treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and do things for you that make you feel good about yourself, then you are settling for second best.

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Mm'kays, so I like a guy, and we were so much closer last year...his best friend likes me but he's an ass about it, so there's no way I'd go out with him AND be happy. So, not happening.

So, with the guy I like, we're both shy, but I've gotten over that, and I'm very outgoing now and such. But like, arrg, now that I'm not shy towards him anymore--he's completely shy towards me!(I so said "shy" a lot right there) So, I swallow the butterflies and I finally start of conversations, but they fall limp and he's usually nervously looking around and...yeah..awkward situation. But it's not that I feel that he doesn't like me anymore...I often see him looking at me, and smiling when I catch him. There's many instances through the day when it seems he'll go out of his way to be closer to me...but when we engage in conversation, he seems bothered.

So...to my point..I used to watch his soccer games, but now that it's getting to be winter, he joined the swim team. I REALLY want to watch his swim matches, but I'm wondering if he would feel weird if I showed up to them. I'm hoping he'd feel flattered, but I really don't want to weird him out...he just doesn't seem like the type who would be...he's very friendly but I'm just concerned his friend's crush on me has distanced us.

Thanks =)

Just because his friend likes you doesn't mean you need to widen the distance between you and him.
I would go to his swim meets, because there is nothing better than having someone who is always there to show their support.

You should just come out with it and ask him why he seems so bothered when you try to talk to him. If he says it's because of his friend, then tell him the truth- you aren't interested in his FRIEND...

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Okay so I am 14, and so is my boyfriend. We are so in love with eachother, and I know that. I really think I'm ready to have sex with him, but I feel like I'm too young. Can anyone tell me how they knew it was time? And what it was like? Thank you (:

Everyone is different. Only you will know when it is the right time. If you are worried about your young age (which you are right to be) then you aren't ready.

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What exactly is adderall? is it as bad as crack? what are some side effects of doing it..

"What is Adderall?

Adderall is a central nervous system stimulant. It affects chemicals in the brain and nerves that contribute to hyperactivity and impulse control.

Adderall is used to treat narcolepsy and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

Adderall may also be used for purposes other than those listed in this medication guide."

From link: http://www.drugs.com/adderall.html

If you ask me it's bad news.
A friend of mine is addicted to it. Sure, she has lots of energy, but she also has huge, nasty sores all over her body.
She can't think like a normal person.
She is brain-fried.
And her DOCTOR gives it to her.

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Well I like this guy and he's in 1 of my classes and I have his msn (I got his msn from a friend who's also his friend). So far I've only talked to him once on msn and that's the only time we ever talked. I know it sounds crazy, but I'm a shy person and so's he.
Anyway, I need some conversation ideas like to start a convo cause the first convo was just a casual convo, but now what? My mind just goes blank..lol..
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thanx!

Ask him what kind of stuff he is interested in. "What do you like to do for fun?" Tell him what you like to do so you know what your common interests are.
Folks can talk all day long about their interests.

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Is it true if you get a physical for school since you have to do that every time you start a new school, is it true that doctors during the physical [or just in general by tests] can tell whether you're a virgin or not? Thanks [:

No.
Hymen can break for a number of reasons other than having sex.

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hi,
ok so this is a bit personal and awkward but i really need an answer...
i usually do personal examination by myself for breast cancer and also down under for any unusual signs...

recently i noticed that i have a light skin mole down there... the reason i checked is because i've been having an awkward feeling of pressure in that exact specific area and i thought it was just ingrown hair since i wax... then i noticed that the tips of the hairs are white or loosing color (my hair is black) and it's not just a couple....

could there be something wrong with me?

on a different note...
i've been diagnosed with PO and a slight mess up in my hormone levels (i get lazer treatments every two months for facial hair) since i've been having irregular periods ever since i had my first one (about ten years ago) but the meds didn't seem to work (after 2 years. i tried aldacton and birth controls) so i went to a different doc and he said to stop them ... my periods were still coming normally as they were with the pills but were back to being irregular in a matter of 6 months or so (a week late a month late a week early a month early .... you get the picture) anyway so now it's been about a month an a half or 2 and i still didn't get my period...

could it be my anxiety pills??
my weight?
cervical cancer? (i'm still a virgin btw)
the winter?
the change of countries? (lived in egypt for about 4 years then moved back home to vermont)

i am really worried because i think there is something seriously wrong with me but i don't want to go to more doctors before i have an idea of the possibilities are....

please help

I know you don't want to go to more doctors, but realistically that is who CAN tell you what is wrong with you.
To be honest, most of the columnists on here are teenagers, and folks like me who have search the internet to try to get answers to your questions.

Your best bet is to seek professional medical advice.

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how can i stop getting diariha? sorry it's kinda gross. what do i eat or nt eat to stop getting it?
thank you♥

Taking Imodium AD works great to make it stop. However, if you are having chronic diarrhea, then you need to go see your doctor. You could have a bowel problem that can be taken care of with a special diet, medicine, or both.

"Some foods can cause diarrhea, and others can help stop it.

Don't eat:

* dairy products (milk or cheeses)
* greasy or fried food
* fatty foods including butter, margarine, oils, or nuts
* spicy foods
* foods high in "insoluble" fiber. This includes raw fruits or vegetables, whole wheat bread, corn, or any fruit or vegetable skins or seeds.

Do eat:

* bananas
* plain white rice
* applesauce
* cream of wheat or farina cereal
* toasted white bread or plain crackers
* plain macaroni or noodles
* boiled eggs
* oatmeal
* mashed potatoes
* yogurt (This is a dairy product, but it's partially "digested" by the bacteria used to make it.)"

From link: http://www.aids.org/factSheets/554-Diarrhea.html


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Well I'm in love with piercings...but my parents say I have to wait until I'm 16. Fair enough.
I'm 15 in January.
We'll, a lot of people I hang around with and talk to, are getting piercings and I am so jealous and feel left out.
I only have my lobes and one at the top of my ear.
How can i convince my parents to let me get at least one more piercing before I'm 16?

Thanks :)

Your best bet would be to wait. It's only a year, and it could be worse- they could have told you 18 like mine did.

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I'm filing forms to get financial aid for college.
You have to send in your taxes so they can see how much of a grant you are qualified for.
Can someone tell me if my family seems to be qualified for a large amount of financial aid.
So my dad is the only one who works and he has a $93,000 gross income.
It is a family of 4.
We have 2 cars.
And mortgage payments.

Poor, average?

This link tells you what you need to qualify:
http://www.fullerton.edu/financialaid/appinfo/qualifications.htm

This explains about the expected family contribution:
http://www.fullerton.edu/financialaid/appinfo/efcCalc.htm

From second link:

"The Federal need analysis formula assesses income, expenses, assets and debts as well as the size of the family and the number of family members attending college to arrive at the Expected Family Contribution, or EFC. The EFC is the amount which the family may reasonably be expected to contribute toward meeting your college expenses. This process is called "need analysis"...."

So really the best you can do is apply and see what comes of it. It depends on your family's special circumstances as to whether or not you will qualify, and only they can really tell you if you do or don't, and how much you qualify for.

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Has anyone on here ever re-dated a guy and had a successful relationship? I want to know if a second try is always disasterous.

Third time was the charm for me.
I'm now married to the guy with a baby boy and another on the way.
But a lot of times, if it doesn't work the first time, it won't work at all.
I just figure we were lucky.

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My 'best friend' is quite the controlling bitch, and she knows it. She lies and minipulates everyone but I don't bother fighting her because I know I won't win. Everyone loves her, everyone wants to be her friend. She knows everything about me and she's hardly mean to me because we've been best friends for years. However lately, she's been getting more and more into drugs and drinking and I can't talk to her like I used to. She's gotten a bunch of her guy friends to beat up an ex of mine because she lied and said my ex beat her up when he didn't.

I still love my ex and we're considering getting back together, but I know she would make my life miserable if I did because she hates him so much. I'm not sure what to do. I'm stuck between the guy I love, my best friend, and our so called friendship.

Your happiness in this life is more important than all that. I mean, come now. She's acting like a stuck up bitch.
What kind of person lies about some guy beating her up in order to get a bunch of guys to pile up on him? Someone you should be reevaluating your friendship with, that's who.
Best friends for years or not, she has changed. She had a guy ASSAULTED for the fun of it, for crying out loud.
Assault is a crime. He could have been very seriously injured.
So how, exactly, can you honestly be stuck as to what to do? Are you seriously considering choosing this beast over this guy you love? And why? Because SHE doesn't like him?
Why should you give a rat's ass if she likes him or not? Maybe she should stop and care if you like HER or not.
I think I would tell her goodbye. If that is all the better she can act, then you don't need her antics in your life. You can try to pick up the friendship again once she grows up and realizes there are consequences for her foolish actions.

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