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Help Consoling My Freinds with Grieving
How do you help sumone grieving or preparing to say good bye to a loved one. My bff just lost a girl she used to know at her school and its been really hard for her. I keep telling her its ok and to let herself grieve but then heal and help her school heal cause they are all grieving. and telling her all of our prayers are here and stuff. i think shes getting to be ok. but now my bgf who well we both love each other romantically but arent dating yet. but we are close enough we practically are. anyways he just told me they are going to see his uncle and say bye cause he has stage 4 cancer and its getting pretty serious. he almost never shows a lot of emotion but today he just wanted to talk. sumtimes we didnt even say anything he just wanted me there for him. and i understood but it hurt me so much too to know he was in so much pain and i wasnt actually there. anyways i think im gonna see him this weekend. but he was almost crying and thats HUGE for him. i was there for him and i felt like that was pretty much all i could do but i wish i could do more. i really do. i told him my prayers were with him. we are both strong Christians. and my bff said to tell him her prayers were with him too but i want to help him MORE. i think i should really try to hang out with him this weekend because then im really even more so THERE. we dont go to the same school but we talk like everyday now. any ideas to say sumthing or do sumthing to help him> when i see him im gonna look at him and tell him everything happens for a reason and hug him. sumthing i cant do on the phone. :) thanks so much this advice is really appreciated and i will rate everyone for helping me :)
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in addition to the other advice i would like to mention one thing. dont be super sad around them. try being a little cheerful because thats what you want to do, cheer them up. :)
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You're doing exactly what you should be doing: helping your friends through the pain which they're experiancing and telling them that everything will be okay. Listen to them and consolodate them.
Be there for your friend during the weekend if he wants you to be there. Stay and talk with him. Losing somebody close to you can be heart renching and you just need to be reminded of the happy times you spent together. Talk to him about those happy times and get him to relish in them. Do this with your other friend as well.
Good luck with the future
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Well, you are already doing the best thing you can do- being there for him.
He needs your kindness, your support, your shoulder to cry on, your ears to listen.
Ask him if there is anything you can do for him and his family during this rough time, and if he needs more than you standing by his side, he will tell you.
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