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Bitchy, controlling 'best friend'
My 'best friend' is quite the controlling bitch, and she knows it. She lies and minipulates everyone but I don't bother fighting her because I know I won't win. Everyone loves her, everyone wants to be her friend. She knows everything about me and she's hardly mean to me because we've been best friends for years. However lately, she's been getting more and more into drugs and drinking and I can't talk to her like I used to. She's gotten a bunch of her guy friends to beat up an ex of mine because she lied and said my ex beat her up when he didn't.
I still love my ex and we're considering getting back together, but I know she would make my life miserable if I did because she hates him so much. I'm not sure what to do. I'm stuck between the guy I love, my best friend, and our so called friendship.
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Your happiness in this life is more important than all that. I mean, come now. She's acting like a stuck up bitch.
What kind of person lies about some guy beating her up in order to get a bunch of guys to pile up on him? Someone you should be reevaluating your friendship with, that's who.
Best friends for years or not, she has changed. She had a guy ASSAULTED for the fun of it, for crying out loud.
Assault is a crime. He could have been very seriously injured.
So how, exactly, can you honestly be stuck as to what to do? Are you seriously considering choosing this beast over this guy you love? And why? Because SHE doesn't like him?
Why should you give a rat's ass if she likes him or not? Maybe she should stop and care if you like HER or not.
I think I would tell her goodbye. If that is all the better she can act, then you don't need her antics in your life. You can try to pick up the friendship again once she grows up and realizes there are consequences for her foolish actions.
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Ok if you love your ex, then your best friend should be able to except that you want to be with him. Plus i don't think she is really your friend if she treats you like that. I can be a bitch too but i wouldn't ever do that to my friends. So as hard as it is to hear this, i don't think you need to be friends with her at all. Even though the saying is chicks before dicks, i don't think it applies in this case.
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this girl is not your friend. i think you should tell her that you cant connect with her like you used to and maybe that you guys are growing apart. if you put it nicely i dont think she'd have much resentment. but you never know, she could still have resentment, and in that case you just have to ignore it all.
if you want to get back with your ex, its your choice not hers.
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How can your "best friend" be bitchy & controlling?? Is she really your best friend if she treats you that way?? Obviously you have seen how she acts towards other people. You might want to take that as a red flag. If she can become that mean at someone, what would happen if you guys were constantly fighting?? She'd most likely get that way towards you. I think you should decide who's worth more friendship & relationship wise. If you're in love with him & you know he'll treat you appropriately, then stay with him. You shouldn't have to fix your love life around a best friend that isn't treating you as one. You should still talk to her about it though. Maybe she thinks you don't mind so she continues it. You should talk to both of them & see how you feel about the situation.
-hope that helped!♥
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