about

Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

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k, i know if 13 but i WANT bigger boobs, i hate waiting! i'm always being called 'flat' and i hate it, can i eat something or do something to make them bigger without stuffing or implants?!

Padded/pushup bras are a girls best friend. Other than that, nada.

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I don't think there's enough questions on advicenators that mention abortions. I assume there's more females on this site then males, so why does it seem like there are mainly pro-life supporters? We're women. Women with so many choices and laws that allow us those choices. I agree in having your own opinion, but never force it onto someone else. If someone is considering an abortion, why talk them out of it, bringing it up as a sin and disgusting? I'm proud to be pro-choice & you'd think nowadays more women would be. Why aren't you?

1) That's not even a question, that's your opinion.
2) This site is not about opinion.
3) You can't say there's not enough questions about ANYTHING. We get what people have problems with. Would you rather have people make up questions that they don't need the answer to.

And maybe that's why there aren't many of that type of question.

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I don't think I entered this right before, so here it is again...

This is a long one...bear with me!

I have been with my fiance for 5 years. Last year I was feeling a little restless, and needless to say I left him for another guy. About a month later my fiance and I got back together and things were great. Now they are back to the same old thing again. (being treated like crap) And I have been thinking about "mr. fling" a whole lot lately. I think that I may be in love with him. Even though it was a short time we were together, we really connected. I miss him a lot, I dream about him, I really want to talk to him but I know that I can't. We live seperate lives now (him and his girlfriend-and myself and my fiance)

I just need some advice...on anything!!!

Confused 24 female

Even if "Mr. Fling" isn't available, you need to end the relationship with your fiance- it's not fair to either of you. Wait things out, and chances are mr. fling will become available sooner or later. Even if he doesn't, chances are you will meet another great guy...that you actually care about.

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15/F
Today in health we watched "the cycle of life" or something, about babies being born. Well ..I know how they are and stuff, but in this video they showed EVERYTHING, like and, I think I'm scarred, I always wanted to have kids before this, but now I'm thinking I dont want to, since it grossed me out so much, and my health teacher said it hurts a lot. And from what I saw, ew.. and blah.

Do you think I will change my mind later in life? Because I want kids, but blah it seems gross..I'm young, so I will most likely change my mind about kids later right?

Yeah, you'll probably change your mind. And they give you medicine (epidural) so it won't hurt. Besides, if you're really scared you could probably just have a c-section, but it's likely that in a few years you'll feel differently (and if not, you could adopt).

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I'm in really bad pain. My head is stuffed up, so is my nose. I've been achey all over, my head hurts. I've been so cold, yet so hot at the same time. I also have no appetite and my throat is killing me, feels like I have a ball in the back of my throat. I'm light headed and dizzy, I don't now what's wrong. Do you? Please help.

It's either a cold, strep, allergies, or a sinus infection. Take some advil or cold medicine...if nothing works it's probably a sinus infection. Even if you can't go to the doctor, sometimes they can diagnose you over the phone.

Also, the dizziness could be from not eating so try to force something down, even if it's just a smoothie.

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so story is me and my boyfriend were having unprotected sex saturday (27). yes i know, very bad, but we were just trying it for a second. he kept going and finally pulled out and was like oh shit. i looked down and the cum was coming out. i asked him if he pulled out in time but he didnt know. now im freaking out because i havent gotten my period. i was due the 27-30. we looked ovulation up and it said the days before your period your infertile. could it just be stress that is keeping me from getting it or should i go to the doctor? please help. i rate 5's

You are never really infertile. Get a few pregnancy tests from the drug store and see your doctor immediately.

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Okey, here's the thing. I can't sing.
No really, not that I don't sing GOOD, it's just that I sing...really bad. Like, really.
It sounds awful. Not that I think anyone would make fun of me..but still, I need to ask this question.
I've always been the shy quiete girl. And I don't want to be anymore. I want to be seen as a happy & loud person! So my class is doing this kareoke thing, and I want to be happy 6 up for anything 6 justa fun loving girl..but I can't sing!
So is there any fun or cool way of saying no to singing in front of the class? If I just say no everyones going to be all "c'mon, don't be like that.." not that they're gonna pressure me, but I'm going to feel like the boring girl who doesn't know how to have fun.
So can I say it in a fun way and turn this to my advantage?
Or atleast in a cool way so people will keep talking to me,. or atleats find me interesting??
Thank you.

Make a joke out of it...something about why they realllllllly don't want to hear you sing. And try not to worry too much about what people think- I understand why you care but it's pretty unlikely that people would stop talking to you because you didn't do karaoke.

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i have an interview with academy sports and outdoors tomaro @ 11:00. is it okay to wear jeans? or should i go for something a little nicer?
thanks.
♥BLAiR

It's better to be overdressed than underdressed. If you want to wear jeans, maybe jeans, a blazer, and a teeshirt...but I think slacks and a nice blouse would be better- you don't want them to think that you're a slob.

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okay so my boyfriend is a little younger than me and hes not a virgin .. and hes cheated in the past .. but i just found out about all this today from his bestfriend .. so what should i do? .. i really dont like the fact that hes not a virgin .. and he just turned 14 .. so HELP !!


thnks chasity x

You can't be mad at him for not being a virgin if he wasn't a virgin when he met you. His past decisions are irrelevant. Besides, there's no way to be sure that his friend is telling the truth.

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I'm so messed up I'm agnostic thinking about turning back into a christian or turn into an athiest.. I'm so scared if I turned into an athiest I'll go to hell If there really is a god... If I turn into a christian I'll be believein in something that may not be real? I cried about this.. Should I just turn into an athiest and if there really is a god go to hell for it.. Or should I turn into a christian and believe and god and maybe go to heaven if god is real?

Don't become Christian just to go to heaven. Honestly, being agnostic sounds like the best choice for you...you don't seem to really want to be a christian or atheist.

But keeping in mind...if there was a god...and he really did love people and forgive them, etc etc...why would he send them to hell for not being Christian?

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14/f. I have ants in my room, and I already vacuumed as many as I can, but they keep coming back.& We don't have raid because it gives my mom a miagrane. Anything non-chemial that I can use to keep them away?

Clear out all food, drinks, bath products, perfume, etc. from your room then put in ant traps (the kind where they eat the stuff and die) in the spots you see them coming from...if you need to do something right now, you could put like duct tape over the spots they're coming from, but the traps work better.

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ok. so.
well. this is sort of embarssing.
but is there any way to like slow down the amount of discharge in my underwear?
its kind of gross and embarrsing. some times it feels like i peed my pants of something. i dont know if something is wrong with me or what.

soo pleeease help!

No, but use pantiliners- they're really cheap, you barely notice them, and they don't have wings so no once else will notice. I think it's like two dollars for a pack- Always makes really good ones- purple package- really thin and easy to hide in a pocket or purse.

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hi i'm irish, and i burnnn super easily.
but i realy want to get tan this year.
any suggestions? other than self tanners?

Put on some sunscreen (SPF 15 or 20) and lay in your backyard for a while (or a tanning bed)- but no more than 15-20 minutes. If that makes you sunburned...I know you said no self tanner, and I understand that completely...but maybe try a lotion that has a really subtle tanner built in, like Jergen's Natural Glow- you build up instead of turning brown in a day- and they make a face one too.

But remember, even if you have sunscreen on, if you're in the sun long enough you probably will get at least a slight tan.

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What product can I use to get the chlorine out of my hair and restore it's natural oils after I go swimming this summer? My hairs naturally dry, and swimming and the sun isn't helping. Please help!

Always shower after swimming. Also shampoo and condition with moisturizing products- there are some that are made for swimmers but any made for dry or damaged hair should work- i like Garnier Fructis. Deep condition once a week. If a shower isn't available, bring a spray bottle of water and spritz your hair down; if it's really dry, bring a spray-in leave-on conditioner (Herbal Essences makes a good one.)

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I'm a 16 year old girl and a sophomore in high school. I'm so concerned with my appearance and it bothers me that theres something wrong with my body that i cant do anything about. i have a birthmirk on my neck and its very noticeable. i always wear my hair down and constantly am fixing it to make sure its covered. i feel so different and selfconcious than everyone else. i just feel like its not fair. i cant enjoy life like everyone because im always concerned with my birthmirk showing. putting my hair up is a definite no. which is why i hate having to wear it up for sports. i feel like its slowing me down and im too concious of it to just let loose and have fun and be outgoing and talk to guys without being worried about whether or not they notice it. and to make it worse i did something so stupid... i tried to scratch it off with a nail file one day because i was so frustrated and i wound up making it darker and more noticeable because now theres a big cut that wont go away. ugh. i just dont know what to do anymore. thanks for your help.

There's a few things you can do. First of all, makeup. Foundation the exact shade of your skin, and powder on top (otherwise it'll rub off). Depending on where you live, if it's cold out, turtlenecks will let you put your hair up. Right now there's a lot of scar removing products out there that you could try...maybe something with cocoa butter. If that doesn't work you need to see a dermatologist- there's probably some kind of treament he or she can prescribe.

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i love to sing and i have a really nice voice. but i cant get over my fear of singing. i want to be in my Spring Musicals and definatley Sing for my 8th grade year at the talent show. i joined chior so that can help and it has. i had a solo to do but it wasnt infront of alot of people. im afraid if i will freeze up infront of tons of people. any ideas on how i can make sure im over it and how to get over it just in case im not. i also sing with my instructor but its easy not singing infront of a little bit of people. so if you have any tips please tell me. i want to do this and not freeze up.

Start by singing in front of one family member (if you're self-conscious, don't face them at first or put a book in front of your face), then a few, then maybe your friends or extended family. Also ask your voice instructor for some ideas...breathe deeply, picture something relaxing, try to tune out the audience and pretend you're singing by yourself in your room. If you have a good voice there's nothing to be afraid of. Besides, you're more likely to mess up if you're scared and freaking out!

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I will try to make this as simple as possible. Im a 42 yo male, however I do not feel like it nor do I look like it or act like it. Most all my friends are 20-25, I can hang with them and act just as crazy( with out being ingnorant) but I can also be the adult when I have to be. My question: Is it wrong for me to enjoy the company of the younger crowd, meaning, I am attracted to a 20yo female, Im not like some sexual preditor chasing/hunting down the teen hotties, Im just more attracted to them.Part of me feels totaly wrong for having these feelings.Give it to me strait and tell me how terrible I am. Sincerly mndfrk

Honestly? That does seem kind of wrong. Those women could be your daughters...It's okay to have friends of all ages but younger women (a) typically go for younger men and (b) could think of you as a pervert. As long as all of your friends aren't 20-25, it's fine but try to stick with women your own age. It's harder to have a relationship with someone younger anyway...less in common and some younger women only are looking for older men if they have money. Again, as long as you are able to socialize with people your own age, it's okay to have young friends and realize that young women are attractive...but don't try to persue a relationship with one.

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what's the difference between a "Tampon" and a "Tampad??" I'll rate accordingly.

There's no such thing as a tampad. There's "tampax", which is a brand of tampons.

Tampon- goes inside you
Pad- sticks to your underwear
Pantiliner- keeps your underwear clean when you know you're getting your period soon or it's almost over.

That's all there is.

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ON THE SITE, someone answered another question with a girl who got bad stomach aches and they said it might be leaukimia. well i get stomach aches (and usually cramps like on my ribs though) but not horrible ones. also, along with that i get head aches. but doctors say its all in my head and i have to go see a physcologist cause its not improving. is it leaukimia?? :( i don't care if it is just tell me

People on this website are not always right and chances are whoever said that is a 13 year old girl who was bored, not a doctor. It is impossible to diagnose an illness, especially leukemia, online. There is a 99.9% chance that you do NOT have leukemia. Lots of people get stomach aches...most of them don't have leukemia.

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Hi. I'm Kaylee and I'm just turned 18.

My problem is my Mom, Emmy, who posts my pictures all over the internet. Mom cybers with men from all over the world. Its sort of her hobby and she meets some of them too. But she has started posting pictures of me and my sister and they have fallen into the wrong hands. People are seeing me in my new black dress and making comments.

If I tell Mom not to post my pics she tells me to mind my own business because these people are her friends. But I dont like them.

What would YOU do to stop Mom posting your pics in your new black dress. If you had one. A dress, not a Mom?

Keep your pictures out of her hands if you can, and if she tries to take pictures of you cover your face. You really need to tell a relative or someone you trust...that's really wrong of your mom to do that, and something needs to be done.

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