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okay so my boyfriend is a little younger than me and hes not a virgin .. and hes cheated in the past .. but i just found out about all this today from his bestfriend .. so what should i do? .. i really dont like the fact that hes not a virgin .. and he just turned 14 .. so HELP !!
thnks chasity x
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ok first you cant do anything about him not being a virgin most boys arent. but just cause he cheated in the past dosent mean hes going to cheat on you trust him and it will turn out for the best.
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Hiya!!! If you are uncomfortable with the fact that he's not a virgin at such a young age, then he's not the one for you. Your perfect boyfriend or mate should be someone you are comfortable with. Also, how do you know if your best friend is telling the truth? She could just be saying that because she is jealous that you have a boyfriend, who maybe she likes.
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You can't be mad at him for not being a virgin if he wasn't a virgin when he met you. His past decisions are irrelevant. Besides, there's no way to be sure that his friend is telling the truth.
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How reliable is his best friend? I'm not sure you should believe everything he says. There's a chance he's telling you BS about your boyfriend to try and put you off him, or to screw things up.
However.. if his friend is telling the truth.. I can understand that you're bothered by the fact he's not a virgin. It's not something anyone likes to know about someone they're with. The fact that he is so young too probably makes it worse. Obviously, there's not a lot you can do. A lot of people lose their virginity at a young age and then regret it later. It probably didn't mean much to him.
As for the cheating thing.. well, don't know what to tell you there. I hate cheating more than anyone, but if you really like him then maybe you can put his past behind. Have you spoken to him about this? Maybe you should ask him all about this yourself, rather than his best friend.
You can't change the past, but you can learn from it. Hopefully he has, and won't repeat his past mistakes.
Good luck.
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Well if your not comfertable with that maybe try confronting him about it. If thats all he wants a girl for is to use her than i would say give him the boot! Find out from the aactuall sorce not the scorses friend you never know if they switched things up or not. I had somthing similar happen to me one time except my boyfriends bro tryed to get us to breake up because he liked me. But anyways if you truly like him talk to him about it or go with your heart as I like to put it. I can't make the decision for you but i can try and help There are plenty of guys that will respect you for you and that are vergins don't go out with any body to just "go out" with them. Hope I helped and Good Luck
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I think he's rather young to have sex, and if he's already had it with some other girl, sooner or later he might want to try it with you. You probably won't be ready yet, and it might be an awkward stage for you. So you have to decide what you would do if he ever brought up sex with you. If you can't even decide how you would respond to him, he may be a little too "advanced" for you. And don't worry that's NOT a bad thing! But of course, if you love him that much, then you shouldn't care if he's a virgin or not. Maybe it was a mistake he made in the past, and everyone makes mistakes and you shouldn't judge your relationship on one bad judgement.
And you say he hasn't cheated on you, am I correct? Well, how do you know for sure? Once again, you can't tell if a guy is cheating on you because obviously, he wouldn't TELL you if he was cheating. Like they always say, once a cheater, always a cheater. I'm not saying he's cheating on you or ever will, but you should give it a second thought. I would advise having a one on one talk with him. Tell him you're concerned that he's cheated on other girls and you don't want him to cheat on you. If you say it in a nice, orderly fashion, he should give you a good answer. People say they won't cheat again, but it's a hard habit to break. Over 75% people who have cheated on someone else, will do it again several times in their life.
Well, I hope I helped! ♥
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Well you need to talk to him about it.I think cheating means that this person doent love you.
You either need to sit down and talk to him or get out of the relationship
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I understand why you are bothered by him not being a virgin. It's normal and people who tell you to get over it, remember that it's ok to feel this way and it's not easy to just forget and move on.
The thing is that the past truly can't be changed, so if you do want to continue a relationship with this guy, it's something you'll have to deal with. It's not easy to deal, but if you find yourself unable to, then maybe this guy is not right for you.
What you should really do is work things out with him, talk to him. Not his best friend. Ask him about this stuff because you'll want to hear what happened in the past directly from him and not someone else.
His past isn't good, but he can change what happens in the future, so maybe this guy could be worth a try if you really want to try.
-TheTeenGirl
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oh hes a man ho if hes not a virgin when hes 14 lol. i mean, theres nothign wrong with that, its his personal choice. i dont see what is upsetting you about him, if he'll pressure you into sex or what. if you feel uncomfortable talk to him (this would probably work better over im or the phone) and tell him that you want to wait for sex
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If you like him, what he's done in the past shouldn't destroy your relationship. I know he's young to have lost his verginaty but it was his choice and it shouldn't effect you. Just talk to him about it and ask him anything you want to know. Like I said, if you like him you wouldn't let it destroy your relationship. Good luck. :]]
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I wouldn't date a guy younger than me. Especially if he's not a virgin and he's that young. Why would you want to be with him if he's cheated? This situation doesn't look good to me. As much as you might like him, it might be better to break up.
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