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19/f Most people think that you have an eating disorder when you're waay to skinny or really big. But the thing is that I'm quite normal sized. I weigh around 112 pounds and I'm 5'4".
I was quite big as a kid and started losing a lot of weight when I was around 10 years old. And ever since then my relationship with food was never normal. Even when I was big I always ate to make me feel better cause I didn't have any friends. After I lost weight I gained some again and then I continued starving, then I gained weight and then I starved again and so on. And that cycle never really stopped until today. I either eat way too much or nothing at all. I dont know how to eat normally. I don't really enjoy food. Either I shove it down my throat or I starve. And right now I have days where I starve and other days where I eat way too much. So I pretty much stay at the weight that I am now cause I'm constantly gaining and losing. Thing is I hate my body. I want to be thin so badly and I dont think that I am. I look at myself and I could cry. Sometimes I dont even shower cause it discusts me. I hate myself so much after I eat. And i have the urge to continue eating even though I'm full. I think about food all the time. When I'm starving I watch cooking shows so I can "eat" with my eyes which actually helps me (weird I know) And when I eat I hate myself all day for eating. I dont throw up my food though and I dont have anorexia. So do I have an eating disorder? Or is this a normal thing women go through? I have talked to my mom about it but she doesn't really bother. I think she thinks that it's normal or not a big deal. I mean she sees me eating and I'm not too skinny so why should she worry right? Is there something wrong with me? Or am I really just overreacting about this?
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Yes, you do have an eating disorder.
I think you could possibly have a binge eating disorder. Although most just keep eating and eating. Like then get upset when they eat, then they turn to food to make them feel better.
I looked into it a little more and these are the symptoms..
Eating unusually large amounts of food.
Eating when you're full or not hungry.
Eating until you are uncomfortably full.
Frequently eating alone.
Feeling that your eating behavior is out of control.
Feeling depressed, disgusted, ashamed, guilty or upset about your eating.
Experiencing depression or anxiety.
Feeling isolated and having difficulty talking about your feelings.
Frequently dieting.
Losing and gaining weight repeatedly.
Pretty much it turns into a cycle.
So I'm no expert on it, but that would be my guess. But no matter what it is, you need to see a doctor. This can get even more serious. It is better to get help, feel better about your body, and eat normally without feeling like crap.
Your mom probably doesn't see it as a big deal because you aren't anorexic looking. You look normal. And she sees you eating.
You don't want to always be thinking about your weight and hating yourself when you look in the mirror so definitely go get help for it.
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I just started speaking to this boy and at first conversation he was extremely nice! And he said he would speak again with me he said i was hot too, we agreed to do silly stuff, like he'd teach me the break dance and stuff like that but after like 3 weeks he never popped up again.. We started speaking again when I moved to the same town like 4 days ago, I go out and 'hang' out with my mates and stuff around the street but they don't live in the same town so they get a bus home, and I have to walk home every time, so I was walking home and him and 2 friends were behind my on bikes because he lives close to me, but he started saying my name in a high pitched voice and slowly and his mate was like 'stop being a pedo' and the next day, he said 'hi (insert my name here)' from across the street when he was with his mates and we started speaking after that, he says talk later, but he doesn't I had to start the conversation and I hate that there's nothing I hate more than that, but I might have gone into too much detail but I just need advice ! Whether he wants me to speak to him or not ! Please I don't know what to do? :/ and he's 2 years older so I really don't know :( help please! :'( thanks for the answers in advance!:) (link)
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I think it's kind of in the middle. He might not like you, like have feelings for you but he is definitely interested in you.
When you talk to him, does he sound distant or bored? Or does he actually keep the conversation going. If he keeps it going, then there is a good chance he likes talking to you. So even though you hate initiating the conversation, maybe that's what you'll have to do to get what you want.
When most guys are interested, they'll talk to you first every once in awhile too. So hopefully he'll start a conversation with you soon as well.
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Well this boy that I talk to on Facebook everyday told me he likes me and I like him too. I have only known him for a month though. He lives very close to me and Ive hung out with him a couple of times. Should I ask him out or wait a little longer? (link)
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You should hang out with him some more. Since you've only known him for a month and you've only hung out a couple times, it's better to get to know someone in person.
I don't know if you meant ask him out as in a date or as in being boyfriend and girlfriend. If you mean a date, go for it. Maybe somewhere fun where you both can enjoy each others company and still be doing something. If you meant asking him out to be your boyfriend, maybe wait for that.
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I met this guy and he's really cute and funny and nice when he wants to be. And he started acting like maybe he could be interested or just interested in a hit it and quit it. Well we drank together a few times and he was flirting and brought up kissing me and if I'd kiss him back and I said why did he want to kiss me and he said cause he thought I liked him. And I played it off by saying no I don't like you why would you tjink I like you and stuff then he all of a sudden got tired and went and layed down being in a position of a guy having a fit I thought I'd go appologize. Well I ended up saying I did like him I just don't want to have feelings if he only wants sex cause that will screw everything up and he said it wasn't his top priority if it happens it happens and we just continued talking bout that kinda stuff then we kissed a bit. We layed down to go to sleep and then he left. I guess he had a panic attack and started throwing up and I fell asleep. Well the next time we drank he was being so sweet and everything and was asking for a blow job and just being real noce. And I was going to do ot but something was said that made me mad. Me and him fight like an old married couple I guess. We drive eachother crazy. Well today he was talking about how he had a panic attack and was throwing up the night I was with him and his brother said ya cause someone can't handle the truth or his feelings or something. I don't know what he meant by that. And my sister talked to him today and he told her I'm hella cool but he can't be with me in that way cause I'm too emotional (which I'm really not) and we have different morals and we drive eachother insane. She explained I'm on my period and give me time I'm cool. And if he would at least hookeup with me. And he said im hella pretty but no cause then I'd want more and she said I just wanted to have sex and he said no I want more than that. But ove come to the agreement with myself that I do just want to have sex. What does all this mean?? I'm confused by this guy. Please don't say talk to him cause I'm trying to show I'm not too emotional and I just want to know why guys do this or if he does like me and he doesn't want to waste his time or get hurt. Cause he's really negative about the relationship stuff like he's had his heart broken a few times. When were in a group he talks to everyone. But I've noticed hell constantly cross eyes with me as he's sauing somrthing or after. Some of his body language shows he's interested but I have no idea what to do. Sorry this is way long. I appologize. But I know you can help better with more detail. Thankyou (link)
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I think he just doesn't know what he wants.
He clearly isn't looking for a relationship. You straight up told him you don't want sex because it will ruin everything. So he doesn't want to get involved physically with you because you'll end up wanting more from him.
You said you did come to the agreement with yourself that you do just want sex. But if you do go through with that, you have to remember that he's not going to want more from you. So if you have feelings for him, don't get involved because you'll end up hurt.
So if you're going to just mess around with him, then I think the only way to make that clear is to talk to him. I mean how else will he know? Unless you have your sister go talk to him again but he probably won't believe it until you actually say something to him.
All girls are emotional to some level. Not all the time, but every once in awhile. So bringing that up, it won't be a big deal.
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I wanted to know how young is appropriate to get engaged (link)
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Most would say it's not a good idea to get engaged young because most end in divorce.
It definitely depends on how long you have been dating the person. It's probably a good idea to date for a few years. Maybe like 4-6 years of dating. In age range, probably in your 20s. Most women these days are getting married in their late 20s and early 30s.
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So back in May my boyfriend and I broke up. I've gotten over him and now have a new boyfriend. I sent him a friend request back a few weeks ago on Xbox but he declined. We go to the same church but I don't go there often. I really want to be his friend again and I know he might too. How can I work this out. (he has a new gf btw and I just want to be his friend) (link)
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If he doesn't want to be your friend, then you can't make him. You already took the initiative and tried adding him but that didn't work. The only other thing would be to talk to him face to face.
But honestly, why do you want to be his friend again? I'm big on not being friends with your ex's. Only because it's unnecessary and it causes drama. It's ok to be nice and you don't have to hate each other, but to be friends is a different story.
In my opinion, the past should stay in the past. Most people who stay friends with their ex is when they are single, never really cared for each other and dated each other briefly, or can't let go of the relationship.
I think the only time they should stay friends is when they have kids.
Anyways, you can do whatever you want to do. But he might not want to be your friend since he has a girlfriend too.
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So my boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago after dating for 8 months but knowing each other for 9 years and he started dating someone else shortly after. I knew about him dating someone and it kinda made me jealous to the point where I texted him and I told him I missed him BIG MISTAKE. His gf at the time saw it and was completely immature about it. Anyway we started talking again last week and are back together. However, I don't have facebook but a friend of mine looked on his profile and it still says he's in a relationship with her. Yet we hang out all the time, he calls me on every break, and tells me he loves me and only me and realizes now that im the only one who can truley make him happy. If he was dating her still I don't know when he'd have time to? I'm so confused I don't wanna confront him cause I don't wanna seem like a stalker but it's bugging me not to know! (link)
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I would sit down and talk to him. Tell him your friend was on Facebook and she saw that he still said he was in a relationship with his ex.
There could be a chance he's still talking to her. Because if she hasn't taken him off as her boyfriend either, I'm sure there is still something going on.
So talk to him and see what he says. If it seems like a lame excuse, then just end it and move on.
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I need help with my crush. I have known her for 5 years and shes shy around me. I asked her out but she never replys. But she just ends up hating me even more. It just makes things awkward. Should i give up after 5 years or keep going. (link)
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So you ask her out, she doesn't reply? And then she hates you?
Yeah, you should probably move on. If she doesn't respond to you when you ask her out and then she ends up "hating you even more" then there is no point to keep trying to pursue her.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 Months. In the beginning of June he came to me and said he wanted a break because he wasn't feeling as happy. We had so many tears and talked and talked to see if there really can be changes made. He kept saying " I feel like I met you too early because you're the woman I would spend the rest of my life with" We have did have a little break like he wanted I would say about a week. We normally see each other everyday. It was so devastating to me. I had no idea what I have done so wrong. We did talk and worked it out and pulled through. On July 4th I saw a conversation between him and his ex. Which I knew they talked but I didn't really feel comfortable. They were friends for quite sometime after and before the break up. 3 years all together I would say. I saw he was saying to her " The more and more we talk the more and more I like you" Her response she acted very surprised. But I saw this conversation occurred while he wanted a break. I brought it up to him and he said " I told her I don't think you and I should talk anymore because I don't want to hurt you anymore" But I feel Like the damage was done. Am I stupid for forgiving to some extent. Even though he said he is sorry and he said He feels so horrible for what he has done. He said he was stupid for doing any of that. He said he is now truly ready for us and to start our lives together. I love this man but am I stupid for wanting to forgive him. There was also another incident I saw him asking a co worker to hangout through text. Before all of this happened. He said he will just tell me he is at work or something to this girl. She felt like he wasn't being so faithful. I asked about that also and he tried to flip it on me that I freak out if he is talking to a girl. But now do you blame me? I absolutely am head over heels in love. I know I am. I am also scared now to rebuild this trust for the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. (link)
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Well this is complicated. What bothers me when he said he wasn't happy, that he also said, "I feel like I met you too early because you're the woman I would spend the rest of my life with." He pretty much said he wished he met you later in life when he was ready to settle down and be faithful. So why wasn't he happy? Did he ever say why?
He shouldn't be friends with his ex. I know that it's been pretty common but it's really unnecessary especially when you're in a relationship. It just causes drama. He can be nice to his ex, like he doesn't have to hate her, but there is no reason to be friends with them.
Then the fact that he said he would lie to you to hang out with this girl.
I would be so angry, I don't know how he could try to flip it on you.
You may love him, but you can't be in a relationship with someone you don't trust. You are willing to rebuild the trust but sometimes you might be wondering when he's gone if he's talking to another girl.
It's your call. I wouldn't get back together with him. You deserve someone who doesn't pull all this crap and then think he can just apologize and have you back.
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So there is this guy who I like and i'm not sure if he likes me. We are strangers but we see each other almost everyday and everytime we look at each other, we look into each other's eye and only the eye.
Twice we looked at each other in the eye on different days and it lasted for quite a while.
Does it mean anything? (link)
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There's a good chance he's attracted to you. I mean you don't normally stare into someones eyes unless you are into them.
You should try talking to him. You never know where it could go.
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my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months, he just turned 18 and I'm almost 16. before we had sex we went through all the smaller steps, which was good, and we've had sex a few times now. I'm not on birth control and I've tried to go on it for other reasons but my mom and doctor didn't think it was necessary unless I was sexually active which at the time I wasn't but now I am. we use a condom every time, I wouldn't do it any other way and neither would he. should I be taking a form of the morning after pill or something? I just don't want anything to happen. please any advice helps, thank you! (link)
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You can see a doctor without your mom being there, since you're over 14.
It's good that you're using condoms but you should definitely get on some form of birth control. It's better to be safe than sorry.
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what do you do when the guy you like is a total dick? (link)
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I want to know why you like that guy then. I'm assuming you don't like him because of his charming personality?
You obviously don't want to date a guy who acts like a jerk. He might be nice to some people but if he's in general a jerk, then you probably shouldn't date him.
If you like him because of his looks and that's it, then if you date him, the relationship probably won't go well.
You didn't give much detail soo..that was just a wild guess.
Find a guy who is nice and treats girls right.
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I'm extremely terrified of going to public school because of all the people there. I was bullied (I've told people, trust me) and I just don't want to go back. I'm not..
I also can't focus. I think it would be better for me if I was homeschooled by my parents (Or by computer..). How can I talk to my mom about this? I was planning to talk to her when we go out on vacation soon. But... What can I say? Please tell me what to tell her so she can say yes for sure. I'm scared of going back. (link)
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What you should do is figure everything out. Like look up everything you need to know about homeschooling, like different types of homeschooling. Look into the computer ones, the online ones, the textbook ones, ect. She'll know you're serious and you really want it if you know all about it and make her know that you will be dedicated to it.
Homeschooling is hard though. I did it when I was younger for a couple years and I didn't like it. So you really have to work with it.
I did the homeschooling where we used CDs on the computer. I had to read through different subjects and take quizzes and tests.
My brother did an online one where he would do some work online, some through textbook and was also involved with other kids who were homeschooled. He had to turn in his work to the school once a week and sometimes they'd have field trips and homeschooled kids get to go.
So just look into it, know things about them and hopefully your mom will look into it as well.
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14/f So a couple of weeks ago I got into a fight with one of my "best friends". Now we had been really fighting a lot over the past 2 months and this time she called it quits. I had given up on her in early June after she said some nasty things about me on Twitter and basically confronted me with yelling. This past fight was about how I didn't have enough time for her (lets call her carmen)and my other friend (lets call her Tia) because Tia was moving to Stratford,Ontario and Carmen was going on vacation for the whole summer and I wasn't going to see them for awhile. However, my mom wanted to cut both of them off because Tia would always take Carmen's side and saw nothing wrong with her nasty temper and screaming.So basically whenever Carmen would call I would tell her I was busy but she would hang up on me and that angered me. And on Friday the day Carmen, Tia and I were supposed to hang out, I continously ignored their calls because when I picked up the phone the first time Carmen started screaming at me and accusing me of having no plans all week but I was actually busy. I couldn't hang out with them because I had made prior engagements with other friends. Tia and Carmen continously kept calling me so I blocked the number and Carmen on Twitter. On the car ride to the party with my other friends I got a call from a private number and was Tia and I hung up. They continously harassed me by calling to point where I had to turn my phone off. Then my other friends (let's call them Katie and Elissa) told me Carmen was tweeting some nasty things about me on Twitter and made some nasty vines about me. So Katie called Carmen back twice just annoy Carmen by using a blocked number and Carmen and Tia assumed it was me. So long story short, I am no longer friends with Carmen or Tia and I have no qualms about it because they weren't good friends in the first place AND they stalked me on Twitter. But now 3 weeks later I'm having bizarre dreams about Carmen and Tia where they're both yelling at me or something. What does it mean??? (link)
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Your dream doesn't really mean anything. You're just dreaming of the situation that has been happening. Dreams are a mix between things you see during the day or week, faces you see, and experiences that happen to you.
For example, my mom used to be drunk all the time. Even though she's not like that anymore, I still dream that she is. So since you still think about them and what happened, there's a good chance you'll dream about it.
It's good that you stopped talking to them and have better friends. You don't need people like that.
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Female, 16 years old. Okaay, i live in the state of New York, and i hate my parents so much, Well my mom, and her boyfriend. They don't do anything for me, but spoiled my brother. anyways can i run away ? I've been thinking about it, but i don't wanna get in any trouble. (link)
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You can get in trouble. You'll be reported as a runaway and then you'll be brought back home to your mother.
My brother was always running away, he started when he was 15. He just always got brought back home and would keep trying to go and live on the street but eventually got arrested and put in juvi.
It's best to just wait until you are 18. Where would you even go? Friends, other family members? Either way, you'll be brought back to your mother so just wait till you are old enough to leave.
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my name is Rachel. I just got saved November 25th 2012 about 8 months ago if that helps you to answer my question. my problem is i am having trouble reading and understanding the bible but I was raised with the old fashioned church of God beliefs some of them are crazy I know but here is the main one I want to know about whether if it's true or a bunch of nonsense is that it is a sin to read any other version besides the King James because I have been trying to read the King James version but I just don't understand it at all it's confusing to me but my Granny who died at the age of 92 years old always told me that I would go to hell if I read any other version besides the King James . I mean I don't think I will was it her just being old fashioned or is it actually a sin ? my other questions are about not wearing makeup and Jewelry and pants this is just what my Granny taught try to take in consideration of that . I just want to know for sure .my cousin who is a preacher tells me that was just her being religious and old fashioned that it doesn't say that anywhere in the bible but I am just double checking . Thanks . (link)
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Both of the people who answered are just throwing their opinions out. Like saying religion is nonsense and the other saying their religion is the only true one.
That's just their beliefs.
My beliefs are different from theirs as well. I'm a Christian and I go to an old fashioned church as well.
It's not a sin to read any other version besides King James. The reason why your church and your grandmother used the King James version is because it's closest to the actual version. Other people use different kinds because they see it as easier to understand. Your grandmother was probably against it because they do make some changes in it.
In my church they never brought up make up or jewelry. The pants was because in a verse (I can't remember which one) says something about modest apparel on women. And your grandmother and church take modesty as dresses and skirts.
I've always understood the King James version. I heard it was at a 6th to 8th grade reading level. Even if I do struggle, I can look it up or ask someone to explain what something means.
But it doesn't say anything in the Bible about using a different version..they only had one version back then so it really wouldn't make sense for it to be in there. If you really are struggling then try a new Bible. My dad recently got saved and he's been using a study Bible, so you can try that out too.
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Yes, you should definitely download an app if you want. I mean that's the benefit of having technology right?
I also read the comment on one of the users below that said the whole lack of belief thing. I was just saying that they believe there isn't a God or they believe that religion is nonsense..it can be about beliefs if you look it at it that way.
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I am 14 and my bf is 16 he proposed to me and I said yes but Ian a bit worried about what everyone keeps saying online about it being too young please help. (link)
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Well first of all, you are too young to get married. It's not even legal.
Are you planning on staying engaged for years and then getting married after school?
If so, then I really don't know why you'd bother getting engaged rather than just staying boyfriend and girlfriend.
That's just my opinion. You could just start with promise rings to promise yourselves to each other or something rather than actually getting engaged.
I'm 18 and I still am not ready to get married. It's a big commitment. Plus since you are young, you don't really know each other until you live together and see how he is when he's not in high school, if that makes any sense. Does he have a job? Does he have enough money to support you? I mean when you get married, your parents stop taking care of you and then it's his job. You'll most likely both need jobs and he'll have to pay for your food, finances, ect.
Anyways, you should probably move a little slower. You can stay with him and be committed to him but you don't have to be engaged so early in life.
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alright heres the thing ill be 14 soon i weigh from 113 some days and 120 others i wanna loose weight and this summer i was down to 108 but my parents and everyone find out i was doing it the wrong way i love not eatting it makes me feel so much better is it wrong to do something i enjoy? (link)
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In some cases, it is wrong to do something you enjoy. For example, drugs or alcohol. Some people enjoy stealing, that doesn't mean you should do it. Some people are crazy and enjoy hurting people, and it's wrong.
It doesn't sound like you are overweight. It really depends on your height and muscle though. It just sounds like you are an insecure young girl who is not ok with how you look.
Your body doesn't deserve what you are doing to it. You are harming yourself by not eating.
You can lose weight by eating the right foods, enough meals a day and exercising.
I studied about eating disorders and have seen some horrific things. You can die from this disorder.
I don't think you realize what things can come from not eating.
-Dehydration
-Hypokalemia (Low blood potassium)
-Hyponatremia (Low blood sodium)
-Heart Attacks
-Heart Arrhythmias
-Irregular Heartbeat
-Kidney Stones
-Kidney Failure
Low blood pressure can result in anemia. You can easily bruise, and then of course there is fainting and dizziness.
And besides the hunger, you can experience constipation and bloating.
If this goes on for too long, you will lose your menstruation and if you don't get help it can effect your future with having children. You'll either have miscarriages or your child will be born with a low birth weight.
Then there is the psychological effects..
-Difficulty Focusing
-Decreased Attention
-Insomnia
-Depression
-Mood swings
-Anxiety
-Low Self Esteem
And then there is your looks. Besides becoming ridiculously thin, you could possibly lose your hair. Normally your hair and nails will turn brittle.
Anyways, those things happen to girls who stop eating. So you really need to get some help and find a way to work on getting to your weight goal more healthy so you'll be pretty and healthy.
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My boyfriend asked how u feel about him what' should I say I'm lost of words?? (link)
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You say how you feel. Do you love him? Do you like him? If you do, then that's what you say.
Whatever feelings you feel when you're around him or think about him, that's what you should tell him.
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I've been told to try to look at positives of the situation. What positives can you see that can
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That she is learning from her mistakes. I think that's pretty positive.
And that you are also learning new things about those kinds of situations and that nothing worse happened.
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