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Should I ask him out or wait
Well this boy that I talk to on Facebook everyday told me he likes me and I like him too. I have only known him for a month though. He lives very close to me and Ive hung out with him a couple of times. Should I ask him out or wait a little longer?
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You should hang out with him some more. Since you've only known him for a month and you've only hung out a couple times, it's better to get to know someone in person.
I don't know if you meant ask him out as in a date or as in being boyfriend and girlfriend. If you mean a date, go for it. Maybe somewhere fun where you both can enjoy each others company and still be doing something. If you meant asking him out to be your boyfriend, maybe wait for that.
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INternet friendships can turn tricky once you've met in person. But you already did. You said you have hung out a couple times. It only takes a couple times to know if there is an real chemistry to the person besides meeting of minds. Either he was more like Dad or brother, or he was attractive to you like a boyfriend.
You are at stage two of a relationship...talking to find out if there's enough interest to start dating.
Dating is NOT a commitment. It is only a time to get to know each other better in person. There are things about a persons behavior you can't pick up from talking on net or phone. Right now in this stage, you are looking for things that help you learn what you like and don't like in a guy...same as you did in conversation...it's just a bit more indepth.
Communication stage and date stages can be very short...no need for lenght in time spent at that stage. Where you do want to invest time is the next stage which some used to call
Going steady...its the closest thing to the next stage which is life long commitment.
Going steady now means instead of dates to dinner, dancing or movines...the time you spend together is more 'real life' stuff. You are getting to know what he's like 24/7, how he handles good days and bad days, his inner codes, morals and ethics. At this stage, those old enough, start to live together which is great. its the best way to truly find out what the person is all about. If the person still sounds perfect, you decide to be together forever. Or if finally something comes to the surface where his behavior weakens who you are, then you let him go.
You both do well at communication stage and not turned off by each other so there is no reason to wait to go on to the next.
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Hang out more than a couple of times just to be sure.
In fact, just ask him to hang out more often, just you and him alone... and see if you can flirt, and get a good response. If youre sure he had fun with you, definetly ask him out again, and make it more of an "official first date!"
But don't be too clingy and desperate. If he says no, just play it cool, and don't ask again. ;) You'll still have got his attention by asking, and who knows, he may ask you later.
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