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Can i run away at 16 ?
Female, 16 years old. Okaay, i live in the state of New York, and i hate my parents so much, Well my mom, and her boyfriend. They don't do anything for me, but spoiled my brother. anyways can i run away ? I've been thinking about it, but i don't wanna get in any trouble.
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It depends on what you call running away... It could be one of two things... Abandoning them and living homeless, or abandoning them, and going to live with a friend or relative. If you really feel it be necessary, do what your heart desires. But choose wisely. Think about what would happen in the longrun. Its like the zombie apocalypse. Its cool at first but it would be shit after a while.
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If you have a part-time job that pays well enough start looking for an apartment.At 16 you can be emancipated meaning you become a legal adult at 16 yrs old. Do it the right way. I am 17 i got angry like you did and i almost had to serve time for beating the shit out of my mom. now i live with my uncle and grandmother in ann arbor while my dad isnt really around. unless you do things the right way things just get harder from here on out.
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You can get in trouble. You'll be reported as a runaway and then you'll be brought back home to your mother.
My brother was always running away, he started when he was 15. He just always got brought back home and would keep trying to go and live on the street but eventually got arrested and put in juvi.
It's best to just wait until you are 18. Where would you even go? Friends, other family members? Either way, you'll be brought back to your mother so just wait till you are old enough to leave.
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As for running away. Given the new federal standards for age of consent. I would think you would be labeled a runaway, found by the police and returned to your mother. Not something you really want to do.
As long as mom, she is the one legally responsible for you and, dad may be as well; if they are divorced it depends on the divorce agreement, does what is legally responsible of her. You really have nothing to complain about. The fact that she spoils your brother and not you is not a legal requirement.
Legally she must keep a good home for you, properly feed you, clothe you, send you to school and see to your physical and mental well being. This does not mean she must provide designer clothing or she must provide steak every night or a different meal for you then the rest of the family; unless it is of a medical necessity.
If mom is doing what is required of her by law then you have no right to run away or seek assistance of the police or child service agency. If you are being abused, denied medical attention, food or proper clothing. Then you have reason to seek help. Running away is not the way to seek help.
Is there an Aunt, Uncle or grandparent you can talk too? If so I would suggest you do so. Mom may not realize how you are feeling. She may be spoiling your brother for reasons you are not aware of. There are times when things may not be as they appear. If there is someone you can speak to who can talk to mom for you then please do so. This could be just a misunderstanding on moms part thinking everything is okay with you.
It is not unusual for a girl your age and her mom not to get along. Mom just may be thinking this is a normal phase you have to go through. Speak up and tell her how you feel if there is no one else who can speak for you.
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If you don't want to get in trouble, then wait untill you're classed as an adult in the eyes of the law.
It depends what you mean by 'don't do anything'. Parents do not have to spoil their children, they have to cater for their physical and emotional wellbeing, that's all.
As you're 16, I feel running away would be the wrong thing to do. It will only mess up your education and to be quite honest that in turn will make your life very difficult in the future. Try to focus on good grades now, whilst you can and they're free. People usually run away because of abusive families-if you're running away because of jealously all what will happen is the police will find you and take you back home to be with your legal gaurdian again. There's no point.
Why not just stick it out and try to make your self happy. If they spoil your brother, learn that you don't have to depend on someone to spoil/treat yourself. I know its easier said than done, but get a part time job. Earn some money. Then you are able to fend for yourself, and this usally gains respect from parents.
You're safe, you're being fed and watered, and you have a roof over your head. Many kids in abusive homes would KILL for that kind of thing. In a few years time, you'll be an adult fending for yourself anyway. Smell the coffee, you're fastly entering the sometimes hash realities of adult hood.
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