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what do you do when the guy you like is a total dick?
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Be a lot more careful and discriminating about who you like!!
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I want to know why you like that guy then. I'm assuming you don't like him because of his charming personality?
You obviously don't want to date a guy who acts like a jerk. He might be nice to some people but if he's in general a jerk, then you probably shouldn't date him.
If you like him because of his looks and that's it, then if you date him, the relationship probably won't go well.
You didn't give much detail soo..that was just a wild guess.
Find a guy who is nice and treats girls right.
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Im a guy and i know some of us act differently when we like someone i used to have the same problem as that guy. truth is he probably only acts this way around you. though il admit im still a bit of a dick
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Be honest with your self as to what it is that you like about the person because obviously, you can think of things you don't like about him.
Is it external:
things like his looks, his smile, color of his eyes, the clothes he wears??
Or is it internal:
his sense of humor, his way of encouraging and supporting you, his morals and beliefs, he is dependable, his word is his bond, his kind and caring acts for you, or the sexual chemistry?
A "Dick" as you describe him is not going to have all of the Internal traits I mentioned and that was only a small sample of what we should expect from a mature caring male who is ready to be in a relationship with a female.
If it is the outside package you like, great! write that down...We all get to have our personal tastes in looks. I happen to like brunette men with long hair. If you happen to enjoy a sexual chemistry, great! Sex is a very important part of a healthy long term relationship but it cant be the only thing or the relationship will be out of balance. The man must also be capable of being your best friend, of putting you first in all his actions towards you.
Maybe the only redeeming thing is that he doesnt feel boring. that is not a good reason to be in relationship with someone.
So it all boils down to how you view yourself. Do you feel you don't deserve anything better because you have a low self esteem and image of yourself, or are you discriminating, knowing that you deserve the best, you don't need to settle for less because you deserve the very best. If you love yourself enough, you will let him go, and keep in mind the few things you did like and look for that and a whole heck of a lot more good stuff in the next guy. Dating is exactly this. Learn to sift through the attributes of a man. It's like looking through a bushel of apples. There will be bruised ones, are those with a bad spot. Left alone, these apples, no matter how much good parts are still there, it will eventually be overcome by the spoiled parts until the whole apple is Rotten. Avoid the rotten apples. Next guy, look for anything like the bad traits of the last guy and the moment you see it, be harsh and stay away from him, do not approach to start a relationship, or if you've gone on a few dates before you see it, dump him the moment you see it. After a divorce, i was back on the dating scene and remember a guy I liked on the fist 2 dates, the 3rd one, he was letting down his fake persona because he thought he had me interested so he could be himsself. He spent a half hour going on about how lazy his maid was and pointed out her race and called her all sorts of racial names and was rather nasty with his speech. I dropped him like a hot rock. Thats the rotten part I am talking about. Look for it and back away from those sorts and you just might back into Mr Right.
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if hes a total dick y do u like him DERHHH
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