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Hi,
I am in a relationship with a guy form last 2 weeks. We never talk to have a sex in this period. In this weekend he calls me in and hotel for a diner. After diner I come to know that he booked a room in that hotel for us. I refuse to go with him. After that he can't make any call from last 3 days. Is my decision break our relationship? Sex is essential for any early relationship?
Leave him
The guy us trying to use you. I also agree with Razhie itis incredibly rude to go ahead and make reservations without your knowledge. This guy was just out for sex and if a man loves you he will respect you, he will treat you right and talk to you.
He was being inconsiderate if you and your feelings. At the time being this man was thinking about HIM and his needs. Yes, he is a complete waste of time.
I'm a 22 year old girl.( my question is long but your answer mean alot )
It's about 4 months that I entered a group of friends and I like one of the guys. He is 22 as well and has been so helpful to me and really kind and understanding. But I am so attracted to him especially because it was feeling like I've known him for ages even the first day I met him. We have the best time when we are together and He said that he thinks of me as a mature, strong and kind girl that he likes to show to others. He respects me a lot.
I am a very tough girl in a way and I have reacted to some guys when he was around and he knows no one should cross my comfort zone and flirting is not my way and he also knows that if I get offended that's the end of relationship.
By the way, I've talked to some of my friends about how to show him that I like him and I've suggested to open up with him. I am actually trying to let him touch me a bit or flirt with him in a very subtle way (it's all I could do basically).
However, I see the other girl in the group flirting with him really obviously and touching him without boundaries and being jealous to me. And I know that he is helpful and kind to her as well but he tends to not to talk about her in front of me so I can't say who he is more helpful or kind to. But he has told me that he thinks she is a playful child that he thinks of her as his little daughter!(it's strange because he is 22 and she 19!!)
The problem is that even when I am around he talks about other girls. Also, his friends know about his love relationships more than me (so I don't know if there is anyone else in his mind or not )and I hear random things from his friends or brother, like you're a loser and you have to wait for the girl to decide and him saying that he is not a loser and he is over it. Plus, he never stops the other girl from touching him, instead he stares at me at all the above situations :(
I am really confused and don't know what to do to see if he really is into me? or it's me judging everything in my favor?
From the sound of it she could be an ex that hasn't gotten over him or even a girl that also has feelings for him. I really do not buy that he thinks of her as a 'daughter' that is really strange and creepy considering they aren't far apart in age.
If he talks about other girls around you then I would start to wonder whether he is ready to settle down or not. This guy might not even be looking for anything serious at this time. I am not trying to burst your bubble but there must be a reason to why he allows this other girl to get touchy feely with him. Someone who considers someone a little sister or a 'daughter' would have boundaries. The best advice I can give you is to be friends awhile longer and get a better understanding of where he stands. It is better to know someone then to walk into something that isnt pleasent in the long run...
And how I could have done things better, so I wouldn't be this stressed out and unhappy. I basically have ruined my life. I feel like my life only progressively gets worse, because I allow it. I was happiest in early childhood, things started progressively getting worse after elementary school, all because I allowed it. I allowed myself to procrastinate and not participate in enough school events and have enough hobbies and that's been my downfall. I'm 18 now and i'm just so mad and I have dreams but how can I just forget the past?? but I want to but it's just so painful looking back, because as a kid I thought I'd have the typical teen experience with friends and everything and yet I didn't do that. I know some things are out of my control but I feel like I mostly could have prevented it. I just don't know how to move on even though I want to, but its like I'm just having this stupid mental block. I think this is due a lot to me being a perfectionist, and my parents basically expecting perfection even though they deny it (love is only conditional. now that i'm failing one subject they don't like me as much) and it just makes me like.. shut down, basically. i don't even have good social skills cause i've spent so much of my childhood on the computer. cause nobody really invited me for stuff and etc. and now i procrastinated applying to colleges so i'm going to community college even though my grades could have gotten me somewhere good, so now i have to do really good in CC and transfer. but i just need to get rid of this self sabotaging mindset and it's really hard cause i can't go to anyone, i dont have any best friends or anything, or even good friends. i don't think i'm this crazy weird person, i just have bad intimacy issues. i greatly fear getting close to someone and then them leaving me because they don't want to hear my problems so i keep my problems to myself. i've started going to a therapist but i hate how it's only once a week. i really hate being a human, i wish i could be more in control of my actions and not be led by emotions like I allow myself to be
Nobody can fix your life but YOU, You have to change it.
The more you dwell on the past the more it will haunt you. You need to move forward in your life and learn to except things. It is not going to benefit you to sit and pity yourself. Stop allowing yourself to drown. We cannot fix the past, We can only change our future. Do something productive.
Thinking about how your life hasnt always bee te way you wanted it too isnt going to make things better. You WILL overwhelm yourself.
My boyfriend lives in Florida and I live in Minnesota. We can only talk over Im and i doubt i will ever be able to visit him. We love each other very much and I would like to know what we could do. I don't have a webcam and there is no way i could see him without traveling to Florida..
Every time we aren't talking I feel sad..
Please give me your advice.
Thank you.
Ps. I am 14 and he is 15.
There are a few problems here
1, You both are young and as hard as it is for you to except 99% of the time young couples don't work out.
2, You both are in completely different states. From MN to FL it is about 1800 miles away which is impossible to just up and walk. That is over 24 hrs to even get there
3, You are not being realistic, Assuming to met over the internet, You do not know him. You know only what he wants you to know and as disappointing as is he may not even be a 15 yr old.
Internet relationships are not real. They are a fantasy. You cannot be affectionate or spend time with someone on a computer. All it is just words on a screen
If you want a boyfriend find someone you know, Someone that is real and you can actually have a relationship with. Not some guy that lives in another state.... The internet is probably the worst place to find someone anyway
12/f
my bf wants to get married as soon as we can,but am comfused about why?
he says that he never felt this about his other gfs. i feel the same but i dont deserve him that way,im not meaning this in a bad way,but he is all wrong for me.the day he asked me out my kindel broke,month later my dog dies,month later he starts to get lunch detention up to this day.
i dont deserve him and i dont know how to make him see this.
You are 12 years old, You are a kid. Your boyfriend is just a kid..
Stop worring about marriage. Marriage even sex is something that happens when you are much older. Also you wont e with him for the rest if your life. Hate to burst your bubble but your both nothing but KIDS
I just moved back in with my ex who has been physically abusive in the past. I've returned because the situations I fled to turned out to be worse. He has custody of his kids later this summer and expects me to be default babysitter. However, he is not committed to me long term and is saying he's leaving town next year, so I'm not sure why I should invest the time. The kids have behavior problems and their mom insulted me last summer when I made a genuine effort to be good to her kids. If I don't do it, he is threatening to hire a babysitter, and chances are whatever girl he finds to watch his kids will take my place in other ways as well. He also accuses me of not liking his kids. It's really the lack of appreciation from the parents I'm not fond of. I don't have the credit and income to get my own place. Living with family is out of the question. I'm trying to get my situation more stable. It's not terrible here, but I do want advice on how to set boundaries on my time. I pay rent to live here.
You owe your ex nothing, You also owe the mother of the children nothing.
Abusive people do not change unless they seek intensive therapy. Money is tight that I umderstand but this most certainly is not the way out. Abusive people do not deserve a favor nor any sort of friendship of any kind. If money is a n issue try to find a part time job perhaps try to room with a friend, look for ads of wanted room mates and sometime people will even be willing to rent a room out. Either way you need to get out and find a better oppertunity. The longer you allow yourself to live around it the longer you prolong your pain. Try friends, Relatives, Paper Ads but you owe it to get out. Also again you owe him nothing
I am 10. I am a male. I have an 11 year old sister. She would tell. My parents would kill me.(Litterly)
You are WAY to young to be thinking about having sex at age 10.
1. Having sex with family members is considered incest. Incest is almost illegal in many places. It is wrong and immoral to seduce anyone of relations in any way.
At age 10, You are not educated properly nor have you entered puberty. Your sister is your family, A relative and it is wrong. Incest is also a very serious crime
Stop thinking about sex, That comes when you are much older and more educated.
The age to even consent to sex is generally 16 years of age. In other words having sexual relations at your age a person can be charged with rape, sexual abuse and a whole lot of other things. My best advise is to leave yor sister alone. That is not only gross but very wrong. Thats incest, rape and even sexual harassment.
this sounds pathetic but i am a 16 year old virgin, and all my friends go out drinking all the time, and alwayd get new clothes, i dont know where they get all their money from, but i was thinking, i have the confidence! i might become a prostitute to earn some extra cash to join in with the things my friends do, what do you think?
Are you serious? I sure hope your pulling my leg on this one.
Being a prostitute is NOTHING to be proud of nevermind even thinking of becoming.
1. Its illegal and at age 16 your are considered a minor. That wouldn't just be prostitution that is rape.
2. Women get murdered everyday for this sort of thing nd some even get forced to perform sex acts among several individuals at once.
3. This is the best way to contract an STD more then have of prostitutes end up with some sort of infection. Aides, Syphilis, Herpes etc. Also many get beaten as well
If you need a money I recommend trying a fast food place for a part time job or even babysitting. Definately not something like this.
I also think you should check out the movie 'Human Trafficking'
Where can I buy a binder/scrapbook already decorated?
I need a scrapbook already deorated so I can put pictures & letters in it. Where can I find one?
Walmart, Staples, Home Depot
Don't worry, I'm not going to do it, as the cons greatly outweigh the pros, and I know suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem. but ever since I've put myself in more stress the more I think about it. I don't even have any methods planned or anything, it's just when I feel really sad and ashamed I want to just melt into the ground and not be seen, and not try and reach out for help. i've started seeing a therapist but I hate how it's only once a week, I feel like I have so much to get off my chest. I think all my problems revolve around me being a perfectionist, so it's like because I haven't been perfect I don't deserve to exist. I'm so much harder on myself than others. I accept others when they fail but I feel like I need to be extremely successful when I'm older, and know that I can, but being a perfectionist just gets in the way because it immobilizes me, makes me procrastinate, and then makes me feel guilty. it's an endless cycle. it's so hard to break out of it, and i know it's wrong but I still feel like I have to do even do more perfect work to make up for my f*** ups in the past. it's like i'm trapped in a hell of my mind. why can't i just let the past go so I can start working on reaching my dreams? why am I doing this to myself when it's stupid and doesn't get me anywhere? I want to be a high achiever instead of a perfectionist, so I can accept my mistakes and still work hard. but how do I do this? I still have many perfectionistic tendencies..
sometimes I'm afraid of a loss of control, though. like i have to go to the bathroom before going anywhere, like the bus or in a car, or i'll have anxiety over suddenly needing to use the bathroom. and train stations scare me cause i'm afraid something will make me want to run and jump on the tracks.. i don't know why i'm afraid of this when it's never something i'd want to do and yet it's like i'm afraid of myself. i also put walls between me and most people. one benefit is that they aren't close enough to really hurt me at my core, but the cons are a lot worse as it's prevented me from having meaningful relationships, really, if i can't even trust others with my problems. i like to help out others and am open minded with them and yet i think they'll think negatively of me and leave me if i tell them my closest feelings. ugh why have i allowed myself to be this stupid. i wish i could just snap out of it, maybe if i did a long time ago my teenage years wouln't have sucked so bad and i'd actually be going to a great college right now on full scholarship. now im going to community college and i want to transfer later with great grades but i need to get a drive to do it and believe in myself or i'll just end up doing the same BS I've been doing in high school. i know i'm smart enough to do well in this world, but how can i get out of my rut??
Hello,
Have you ever been diagnosed with any of these?
Depression, Anxiety or bipolar disorder?
The reason I ask is because people who think along the along the lines hopelessness, worthless or even suicide tend to have one of the following. Don't quote me as I am not a doctor but it is a known fact that mental disorders also seem to have a connection with suicide or if someone has a history of any sort of abuse.
Therapy unfortunately isn't a cure to our problems. It is a step towards working towards them but it isn't a magic wand. Sometimes it can take months before we start to see an improvement with any sort of counseling. If you feel you have many worries or things on your mind a great option is to keep a journal. I have been writting for years and it seems to be the best medicine. When you see your therapist then it gives you the oppertunity to go over anything you'd like to share or talk about. Honestly? You sound just like me! And I can tell you it gets better. Therapy comes with time
When you get a minute relax, If you are into it join a gym. Not sure if you have one but Planet Fitness offers a decent price of $10 a month. Exercise will help level you out even if its a 10 minute walk a day. ;-)
i rub my boobs every day like i had my piriod 3 times and im still in 34-a and i hate being teased and im in 7th grade but is it true if u keep getting a bigger size ur boobs will grow into it this are how mine growed
Who ever told you this one is pulling your leg. There is no way to increase the size of your breast without surgery. If you are in 7th grade then you have a long way before you stop growing. Women usually stop growing around age 18.
If my husband is cheating is that why we don't get along
Cheating come with looking for obvious signs.
Signs of cheating: ignoring calls, has phone on vibrate all the time, stays out late and seems to make excuses. Lack of interest in you, ignoring your calls.
These are only some hints, You should talk to him and go by your gut feeling. Like I alway say 'want dirt? You have to dig for it'
My boyfriend have been dating for almost 10 months now, and he's amazing... so funny and respectful and sweet and selfless. He does everything for me and pours out his heart everyday for me. He cried over me once and I felt so horrible for hurting his feelings because I've never really heard a guy cry before...
Lately I've been getting so annoyed with him at things I'd usually find hilarious and cute. I am so irritated at him today that I've almost said, "I'm done" several times... but I get all teary eyed when I think of being without him. I really do love him, I just can feel that I haven't been myself lately and he's annoying me...and I feel so bad because I know he would never say anything so hurtful to me.. I told him he was irritating me so we could talk it out, and he got so upset.
I'm just sick of fighting with him over every little thing. Sure, I'm neurotic and he puts up with me, but this is just aggravating. I love him so much, but I feel like I don't deserve him and I'm so close to the point of leaving him because of how mean I am to him sometimes.
What do you think I should do? Stay or go?
Do you both spend all your time together? This could have a huge effect on a relationship.
Nascar is right only you know whether it is time to leave or not. There are always going to be ticks in your relationship as no relationship is perfect.
My advice is to try and spend sometime apart, go out with friends and let him go off with off with his.
A relationship does not mean you have to be around one another all the time. This will cause stress and aggrevation and soo enough you will run yourself into boredom or just simply crazy. Sometimes being apart for a few hours a day is what keeps the spark. I dont think you need to leave I think you both may need to breathe and chill out.
My boobs have been sore for the past week or so now really bad. Wearing a bra hurts it's the inner bottom of them, and on the sides so if your looking at me, it's the bottom of each boob and on my right boob it's sore on the bottom up to the left side and the left boob on the bottom up to the right side. Idk why this is. I just can't wait to like get my bra off each day because of it. I'm not on my period or anything, idk what it could be.
Please help.
17/f
It could be several things
Possible pregnancy
Period is on the way
Even some birth control is known to have the side effect of sore breast such as Beyaz and Yaz.
None of us can really tell you why but only possibilities. I would make a appointment with you family doctor.
My boyfriend has called me his ex name three times what should I do?
Depends
Does he still seem hung up on her? Does he talk or compare you to her? If he does then maybe these are signs that he is not completely over her.
Also, how soon did he leave her? If he just got out of the relationship then that should be expected for a little while. When I got out of my last relationship I started dating someone eles right after and I was saying the name of my ex accidently
I suppose it all depends on if he still talks about her, How long ago they broke up and if he is always comparing you two
If he broke up with her 6+ months ago then well yes I would think he is still hung up on her and probably not over it.
Have you ever heard of some pregnant people not showing until like 6 months?
My friend just had her baby. When she was pregnant she didn't start showing a bump until she was like 6 months. She has always been really skinny so maybe thats why? Have you ever heard of people like this?
Yes, Some people go an entire pregnancy not even knowing they are pregnant. Everyone is different but it has happened maybe you should check out that show 'I didn't know I was pregnant' ;)
How many people think majority of healthy foods are just plain nasty tasting?
I hate eating most healthy foods, they have no flavor and some make me gag. I get tired of eating baked fish, baked chicken, canned tuna, health shakes, most vegetables, etc. The foods I have to eat to stay healthy. I know people are supposed to eat to live and not live to eat, but at the same time I feel like i'm eating nasty food that taste like I'm chewing on wood or paper.
I get cravings for soda, chips & candy
How do you eat healthy food without cheating on your diet?
The reason you find them gross is because you are not used to eatting healthier food. I disagree with the user below me, eatting soups all the time is not going to help you loose weight. You can always make a home made soup but canned soups tend to be high in carbs and sodium. You could try a stir fry and put a teaspoon of peanut butter with olive oil to make it taste a little like peanut oil which gives it a more enjoyable taste. Salmon can be maranated in teriyaki sauce and garlic if you like. Try making things you like mix it up
Example: I put croutons in my stir fry for a crunchy taste. I also enjoy eatting raw zuccini as a snack. Just find things even fruit is good!
Ok so in school I met this guy and I love him but I don't know what to do because he is deaf. I really like him and I know he likes me. But we are in high school which makes everything hard. What to do????
He cares about me and keeps me safe and is just so nice. This one guy called me a B**** and he MADE him apologize.
He is the best. But what to do next ? Oh he also got a heartless necklace( the same as my tatoo) and wears it every day. I am ready fluent in ASL and just need to know what to do.
I am hard of hearing and what I do not understand sometimes is why people act like we are so different from the average. Talk to him just like you would talk to anyone else. Start off with small talk and get to know him. If he is a great guy then go for it! Sometimes things can end up being rewarding ;-) maybe you can ask him to hangout sometime watch a movie (just put captions on the tv) and there ya go. There is always away around things. If there is a dance coming up at school ask him to go :) ( deaf people can feel vibrations to music)
Good luck!
Hey, this guy really liked me for a couple months and i didnt find out til a month ago. When i did all his friends starting flirting with me and wanting me for themselves. Then i got into a fight with this popular girl ( im one of them ) and shes trying to make them ask me out and dump me so that i come crying to her to say sorry. Now shes making the guy i like ( the guy that rly liked me) to ask me out as a joke and dump me after a while and I dont think he was okay with it but, shes gonna make him miserable if he doesnt do it. Another thing is that i think he might be ashamed to go out with me sinceshe hates me now and is trying to make my life a living hell. What do i do? and should I say yes when he asks me out and dump him b4 he dumps me? and I dont want to talk to him about this because hes just going to make something up so i got a couple of my friends to talk to him tomorrow maybe. What should I do?
I agree with Solid
People are in control of their own actions, If this kid chooses to go along with making a joke out asking someone out then not only is this girl immature but he isn't exactly up the chart either. He would proove he is easily influenced and maybe as much as you really like him he wouldn't be the best person to date. (least not right now) If he ask you out then try to make sure it is meaningful and not meant to be a joke. Perhaps play it safe by being friends with him for awhile. Once you both get to know one another then it gives you a better oppertunity to talk about it. Not only will he then get a chance to know you but he won't be so quick to judge you and the only one that lOoks bad in the end is the one that is out to make his life miserable. This girl may be 'popular' but popular girls dont need to make themselves out to be a catty bitch either. Obviously maybe this girl is a bit of a bully? Has some issues of her own so she makes others miserable? Sounds like I'm getting hot?! Anyway my friend try and play it safe that way you can't really go wrong and he can get to know you first. Maybe in the end he will end up resenting the other girl for making hom miserable.;-) (sorry for typos! It is really hard to type all this off a cellphone :-D)
BackGround: So I have a boyfriend of a year and a half normally get my period on time, been feeling a little under the weather, plus it's finals week in college. Anyways, my period is 2 weeks late and I just want someone to assure me I'm not pregnant. I am on birth control (take it daily at the same time), use condoms when I have sex, and took a pregnancy test that came back not pregnant. I'm just stressed and confused to why it's 2 weeks late.
Yep you pretty much answered it
Stress can play a big factor and even cause one to skip out a period depending on the amount of stress. Try to relax, finals are a real bitch but you WILL get through it. One day a time and if your period is a little late don't panick! If it were more then a month late then I would tell you to visit your OBGYN.