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Should I just suck it up, or leave him?
My boyfriend have been dating for almost 10 months now, and he's amazing... so funny and respectful and sweet and selfless. He does everything for me and pours out his heart everyday for me. He cried over me once and I felt so horrible for hurting his feelings because I've never really heard a guy cry before...
Lately I've been getting so annoyed with him at things I'd usually find hilarious and cute. I am so irritated at him today that I've almost said, "I'm done" several times... but I get all teary eyed when I think of being without him. I really do love him, I just can feel that I haven't been myself lately and he's annoying me...and I feel so bad because I know he would never say anything so hurtful to me.. I told him he was irritating me so we could talk it out, and he got so upset.
I'm just sick of fighting with him over every little thing. Sure, I'm neurotic and he puts up with me, but this is just aggravating. I love him so much, but I feel like I don't deserve him and I'm so close to the point of leaving him because of how mean I am to him sometimes.
What do you think I should do? Stay or go?
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Life is short. If you're unhappy just get out. Go work on yourself for a while...
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Well, if you really do love him, think about if you could deal if you left him. If you get into a fight don't yell, but sit calmly and talk normally. Don't raise your voice. You can work things through. Hope I helped!
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Do you both spend all your time together? This could have a huge effect on a relationship.
Nascar is right only you know whether it is time to leave or not. There are always going to be ticks in your relationship as no relationship is perfect.
My advice is to try and spend sometime apart, go out with friends and let him go off with off with his.
A relationship does not mean you have to be around one another all the time. This will cause stress and aggrevation and soo enough you will run yourself into boredom or just simply crazy. Sometimes being apart for a few hours a day is what keeps the spark. I dont think you need to leave I think you both may need to breathe and chill out.
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Only you can answer that. Let me tell you right now from experience. I've been with my man for almost 2 years, and it hasn't been easy; but I think back and its been worth it.
After so long, approximately 6 months, the honeymoon stage disappears. Which means its normal to become irriated with one another. The more you spend with someone, the more likely it is that they will get on your nerves. Try only seeing each other a couple of times a week for maybe an hour or so? I'm not sure how much you guys see each other, but if it isn't alot, than try not to talk that much. Go a weekend without talking or seeing each other. Give yourself time to see him.
Think about the things that annoy you about him. Can it be changed? Is it little? Is it worth being with out someone you love so much??
I live with my man, and let me tell you, even before we lived together, HE GOT ON MY NERVES! Everything I thought was so cute about him, instatnly annoyed the shit out of me.
But I got over it. He still gets on my nerves, but more so when I'm about to start my period. I have my mood swings, and since we talked about it, he understands that although I can be mean to him, he knows its because I need my space, and he knows I still love him. He has also toned down a bit with the things that does annoy me.
Sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel, and tell him that you feel like you should leave him because you feel so so bad for being mean to him when he annoys you and see what he has to say. I'm sure you being mean to him doesn't bother him enough for you to leave him. If you feel bad about being mean, than take a day to yourself and figure out how to change your feelings and fix it.
A relationship takes two people, and I know you love him, from all the sweet things you said about him; I don't think its worth leaving something that means so much to you. It can be fixed, but only if you BOTH work on it, ya know?
If you wanna talk more, and explain what it is that annoys you, inbox me. I've been there done that, and like I said, 2 years strong.
Please don't heistate. I'm here to help, and I want to see you guys last!
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