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Everybody in my school and everybody in the world knows what sex is and all the works of art that goes with it, right? I know most of it since I'm only 14 and my family doesn't talk about it. If I say the word sex at home and my dad is near, he'll yell and me and start saying, "Go to your room or wash your mouth out!"
I don't get why, but I ignore it. I actually think sex is like art and that it's normal, so say people I meet and things. Well, I was searching on the computer for something and I got this pop up. For some reason, my computer only blocks pop ups of laptops and things, but not porn pop ups. So I got this porn video as a pop up as I entered a site searching for a certain guy from a TV show. So, anyway, the pop up scared me. I freaked out and started whimpering and trying to turn off the computer screen. I was a dark red color when I looked in the mirror! I wasn't feeling any kind of turn on, either! Just freaked out! I don't get why! I swear I could handle that kind of stuff, but when I saw it, it freaked me out! I didn't know what I saw, but it was kind of scary! Luckily, my speakers are broken and I couldn't hear anything, but it was scary! Why did I suddenly have a change?
Then, today it happened again! A pop up came up when I was going to my friend's profile on a certain site. Well, I got this pop up of a guy and a girl, but mostly the guy's genitals. I was confused at first, but then that thing started up again. I started getting terrified and I snapped the computer off. I keep telling myself that it's nothing, but then I started thinking about it. I can't possibly be immature about it. I mean, at school when someone says penis, I don't laugh. I just listen to the teacher, then ignore it for the rest of the day. Someone says 69, I don't laugh. I mean, if you say it a hundred times, then maybe I'll laugh then, but that's different...
Anyway... My question is: Why do I get so scared and nervous when I see a guy or even a girl's body?! I have things a girl has, duh, because I'm a girl, but I still get scared and panick. Then my next thought was: How the heck am I ever gonna have sex when I'm married if I freak out like that?! I might end up smacking my own boyfriend! Can someone please help me?! I'm so confused and kinda freaked out! > (link)
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I just want you to know that porn bothers me a lot too :) You're not the only one who gets way freaked out by porn!
There are many reasons why porn might bother you so we can't really pinpoint the reasoning, but maybe you can if I list off a few things that COULD be the reason why. You can take some time and think about all of the possibilities as to why you get so weirded out and then go from there. Some reasons could be:
You feel deep inside that females aren't suppose to watch/enjoy porn.
You have never seen sexual acts and it's shocking to suddenly view them.
You have been sexually violated previously and associate porn with such things.
You feel that mature people do not view porn and that you are quite mature (which it does sound this way).
You view sex as a very serious activity (it should be viewed this way but hardly anyone does now) and are shocked that someone takes it so lightly.
Deep inside you'd like to remain sort-of a complete virgin--mentally along with physically--and feel that seeing porn is corrupting your innocence.
You have been sheltered from sex your entire life and the new information is frightening when thrown directly in your face.
You simply have no interest in sexual activity.
It does not seem appealing in any way and you view it as repulsive to do those sorts of things with another being (rare, but a few people do think this way).
So, it's just fine to not want to watch porn as long as you're comfortable with that. Many people do not watch porn for various reasons. I'd guess that the percentages are fairly one-sided with more people liking to view porn than not.
I panic too when attempting to view pornographic videos. I even go as far as to cry because I'm so freaked out by it. Of course, I've had sexual education classes and am sexually active so I haven't been "sheltered" from such acts in life. I still freak out though when seeing video of those sorts of things though!
I know a lot of people enjoy it but it just isn't for me. Maybe it just isn't for you either, but don't worry too much about it right now.
You're young and shouldn't be worrying about sex right now anyway. It sounds like you have your head on your shoulders about things so don't even bother about pornography if you're happy. When sex becomes an issue later on down the road (hopefully when you're married) then you and your partner can discuss your repulsion toward pornographic material. From there you two will hopefully be mature enough to handle the situation properly and when it's time for sex to come you'll be secure and not frightened.
Talk to a parent and let them know that when you were surfing around online that pornographic ads came up. Ask them to fix your pop-up blocker because it bothers you that porn is coming up. It could be that you have a virus of sorts on your computer that is causing these pornographic pop-ups so you may need to purchase a virus detector and eliminator to fix this problem.
In regards to not laughing at sexual comments in school--good for you! Sexual activity is not a laughing matter because serious consequences can result. Making light of sex only worsens the problems with promiscuity--which leads to increased problems with STDS and underage pregnancies. People your age shouldn't be dirty and corrupt enough to throw sexual slang around like it's nothing. The fact that your peers find it amusing is quite disturbing, and I truly hope you have your eyes opened enough to see that.
Any way it is, I just wanted to let you know that it's just fine to not want to watch porn.
I hope you relax and stop worrying about being weird--because you're not. If you have any questions regarding this please feel free to ask me :)
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whats a really good way to keep your hair healthy?
whats a really good product(s) i can use?
Is Purology a goood one?
I have damaged hair, how can i repair it without spending 100!!
please gimme more hair damaging treatment tips (link)
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I read in a book (like a guide to vitamins and stuff) about an ingredient in some shampoos and conditioners that is really important to look for.
It was called panthenol. It is suppose to be the B5 pro-vitamin and helps to strengthen the hair by filling in damaged areas, leading to less breakage and a smoother feel. It is suppose to help retain moisture (helping to keep it shiny) and thicken hair strands as well. Look for all hair products containing this.
In addition, the book I was reading suggested finding a leave-in conditioner that had panthenol in it (some are even labeled on the front of the bottle) to help repair the hair follicles. The book claimed that this was the best method to repairing damaged hair and, if used properly for an extended period of time, would eventually "heal" the hair completely. Some brands have special leave-in products that also help against heat styling so you may want to check them out.
In addition to leave-in conditioners, there are also shampoos and regular conditioners especially made for people who use a lot of heat-styling products. I have some super duper great shampoo from Charles Worthington called Results Moisture Seal (it says, "Revitalizes dry, damaged, brittle hair with re-hydration, gloss, and protection from heat-styling.") that helps to protect against heat.
So, if I were you, I'd head to the store and look for some products containing this--a lot of times the things you are looking for are right on the front of the bottle. Remember to pick up a good leave-in conditioner with it as well. A good leave-in conditioner is your friend! In addition, always use products that help protect against heat styling products (like blowdriers, curling irons, and straighteners) to help prevent more damage being done.
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hi guys, i've had my nose pierced for about two years now, and it gets infected constant. i clean it with rubbing alcohol everyday, sometimes even multiple times a day. does anyone have any suggestions to help prevent this or know why this could be happening? help would be muchly appreciated. (link)
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Do not ever use alcohol OR hydrogen peroxide on a piercing, especially an infected or healing one! I can't believe people still say that crap!
Seriously, I've had many, many piercings and I promise I know what I'm talking about. Many people now are misinformed on proper care of a piercing and are leading such busy lives they don't have the time to sit down and research how to handle the new metal in their bodies.
You need to purchase some saline solution first of all. You can find something called Wound Wash Saline from wal-mart that is a good choice, or you could go to your local pharmacy and ask for a saline or salt water solution for wounds and they should be able to help you out (I got a giant bottle for like $1.35 when I went to the pharmacy for such items). It's fairly inexpensive and easy to find.
Next, you take that solution and rinse off your piercing once a day, twice if there a whole lot of buildup on the area. If you do it any more than that, you're going to dry it out, just like you're doing now. When the skin around the piercing gets try, the metal rubs on it and irritates the skin easier. It also leads to natural human reaction of scratching the dried area, leading to more metal rubbing against the (dry) skin.
Next, you need to simply stop messing with the piercing. Nose piercings get infected very easily the more you mess with them and change them out. Leave it alone and things will calm down. Rinse if off (do not twist or pull the stud/ring) once a day and leave it at that. Any time mine got infected was when I pulled on it a lot or changed the stud out so, please, just leave it alone for a couple of weeks to let it heal properly.
When you change our a nose stud, it usually actually rips the hole larger and may bleed if you haven't noticed. The little "ball" end on the inside is larger than the bar (of course, to keep it in) and that ends up doing a lot of damage to your nose, believe it or not. So, pick one stud you can live with for awhile and change it out now and then leave vow to leave it alone for awhile.
Never use alcohol or peroxide on an unhealed (or possible infected) piercing. Both of these solutions sound like a good choice; however, they tend to kill off the cells that are currently helping to health the area. These cells are what takes the infection away from the area to be dealt with and if you kill all of the good cells off, nothing can carry the dirty cells away.
Again, they also dry out the skin and cause the metal to be harsher than it is. All in all, both choices are not good and should be avoided at all costs. As a note, any sort of soap is also a BAD idea for the same drying out reason. Please avoid everything but the saline solution.
This piercing aftercare guide is actually pretty good, and has some neat tips that may be beneficial to you:
http://www.bodyjewelleryshop.com/body_piercing_information/body_piercing_aftercare.cfm
Even if your piercing is not new, you must treat it as a new piercing because of the infection. DO NOT REMOVE THE PIERCING. You can end up with a pocket of infection in your nose that will need antibiotics if you're lucky--and lanced if you're unlucky. Leave the stud in and care for it properly and everything will turn out just fine.
I hope you figure out what has gone wrong with your piercing and you're able to fix it with the right solution. If you have any more questions regarding this, please feel free to ask me :)
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okay it has been about a week and it has felt like i have been thought my period and when i go to the bathroom there is only a little drop of white stuff do you know what it is??? (link)
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It really sounds like discharge to me as well.
During different times of the month you should experience different discharges. Sometimes you'll experience a very little amount to where it's barey noticeable and sometimes you will experience enough to discolor your panties. It's a natural process your vagina goes through to clean itself out. :)
Discharge is to help cleanse your vagina from bad bacteria and to help provide lubrication for sperm to successfully make it to your egg to fertilize it. Every woman has discharge.
Different Discharges:
Before ovulation- There will be a small amount of clear discharge.
Closer to ovulation- Discharge is moist/sticky and is white or lightly cream colored. There is some mucus but it isn't as stretchy as it will be during ovulation.
At ovulation- There will be a lot of discharge at this point. It will be like egg whites and is stretchy. You are most fertile here (high risk pregnancy) and sperm entering your body at this time will be able to survive slightly longer than normal. You will notice this discharge lasts for a couple of days and your internal temperature will raise slightly.
After ovulation- Discharge is sticky but not stretchy. Mostly clear and will dwindle back to the "before ovulation" state.
Also, vaginal infections, medications, and birth control can all change the appearance of your discharge.
Vaginal yeast infections can cause itching and burning, the white discharge may look similar to cottage cheese, there could be pain during sexual intercourse, and some swelling of the vulva. The discharge smells somewhat yeasty from what I've read but not always.
Yeast infections are caused by a disruption in the balance of good bacteria in the vagina. Sexual intercourse, antibiotics, using too much soap, tampon usage, and even wearing tight clothing can all cause a yeast infection to occur.
Sometimes women mis-diagnose themselves with a yeast infection when they really have something else wrong (such as a bacterial infection that can render the woman infertile and cause a lot of pain for the rest of their lives).
As a note about discharge, you can become pregnant at any point in your cycle, not just when you are ovulating. In short, you are equally as fertile throughout your whole cycle, but when you reach ovulation you are a bit more fertile than usual. This means you should ALWAYS be using some for of "protection" if engaging in sexual activities.
In addition to the ovulation information, you ovulate, roughly, halfway through your cycle if you have a normal cycle. If your periods come whenever then you cannot really even guess when you would be ovulating. If your period comes exactly 28 days then you ovulate, roughly around day 14 (though this can alter by a few days too).
If your discharge is bothersome you can always wear a pantyliner to help your clothing not to become moist. Many women wear pantyliners so they don't have the discharge on their panties. If your discharge also includes itching or pain then you need to see a doctor immediately.
I hope I've helped you learn a bit more about your body! If you have any more questions like this please feel free to ask me! :)
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Okay to make a long story short...
I am on Lithium and Depekote (Anti Depressants) I have not taken my medication in about a month. I recently got a back injury at work and went to the doctor and he put me on some medication one being a anxiety pill. Okay, Well I took my medication (Lithium and Depekote) along with the Anxiety pill...About an hour later I ended up having a seizure. I don't remember much of what happened, However my blood pressure was 90 over 99 and I remember my entire body feeling weak and my pupils were dialated and I could hardly stand up. I was just wondering if anyone knew how close to death I possibly was? and how dangrous exactly is a blood pressure that is 90 over 99?
Thanks so much
BahaiMa22 (link)
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If you haven't already, you need to seek our medical attention immediately to evaluate your situation, medications, and overall health.
Optimal blood pressure is less than 120/80 mm Hg. Hypertension is defined as a systolic blood pressure of 140 mm Hg or greater, or a diastolic blood pressure of 90 mm Hg or greater. Systolic is the top number and diastolic is the bottom number.
I have found a few things about altered blood pressure and seizures but I'm unsure if any of it will shed some light on what happened to you. Please see a doctor immediately so they can properly diagnose you if you haven't already.
Malignant Hypertension:
"Though rare, malignant hypertension is the most threatening form of high blood pressure. It's marked by an unusually sudden rise in blood pressure to dangerous levels. Diastolic pressure often reaches 130 or higher. However, malignant hypertension may also occur at lower, less alarming levels, if the rise is particularly sudden. Unlike other kinds of high blood pressure, malignant hypertension is usually accompanied by dramatic symptoms such as severe headache, shortness of breath, chest pain, nausea and vomiting, blurred vision, or even blindness, seizures and loss of consciousness.
Malignant hypertension is an emergency. Anyone with malignant hypertension must be hospitalized immediately. It places people at immediate risk for heart attack, stroke, heart failure, permanent kidney damage, bleeding into the brain (hemorrhagic stroke) and brain swelling.
Malignant hypertension develops in less than 1 percent of people who already have high blood pressure. Rarely, the appearance of malignant hypertension is the first sign that a person has high blood pressure. The cause of this condition is usually unknown, but occasionally it can be a reaction of your body to a drug of abuse, like cocaine, or a reaction to stopping a blood-pressure medicine. Never stop taking blood-pressure medicine without your doctor's supervision; doing so might cause a sudden increase in your blood pressure."
from: http://www.intelihealth.com/IH/ihtIH/WSIHW000/8315/23999/366623.html?d=dmtContent
Seizures are fairly common and usually not dangerous; however, some seizures can be deadly so it's very important to seek medical attention after experiencing one for any reason. Seizures are an uncommon reaction from antidepressants, but can be a very serious adverse reaction associated with the use of these sorts of medications.
Overdosage of these sorts of medications can cause hypotension, seizures, cardiac arrhythmias, coma, and death. It could be that you ended up overdosing yourself if the medications were at a higher level than you initially began with when you first started them.
Lithium is associated with, "lowering the seizure threshold," which means it makes it easier for someone who has a tendency toward having seizures to actually have one.
"If you abruptly stop treatment with Depakote (divalproex sodium), withdrawal symptoms may potentially occur. The most significant symptom of Depakote withdrawal is a seizure. If your healthcare provider weans you off of Depakote slowly, withdrawal symptoms are less likely to occur.
Because of this increased risk of seizures when a person quickly stops taking Depakote, it is not recommended that you abruptly stop taking the medicine -- or that you stop taking it without your healthcare provider's approval."
from: http://bipolar-disorder.emedtv.com/depakote/depakote-withdrawl.html
Overdosage of Lithium has these symptoms:
Mild-to-moderate:
Generalized weakness
Fine resting tremor
Mild confusion
Moderate-to-severe:
Severe tremor
Muscle fasciculations
Choreoathetosis
Hyperreflexia
Clonus
Opisthotonos
Stupor
Seizures
Coma
Signs of cardiovascular collapse
This link here claims that lithium may increase seizures in certain people:
http://www.journals.elsevierhealth.com/periodicals/bps/article/0006-3223(87)90026-6/abstract
To briefly answer your question, if you did/do have the malignant [diastolic] hypertension then it sounds pretty darn serious to me! Death could occur even--wow, now that's scary!
Please seek out medical attention right now if you haven't. You are very valued on Advicenators and we'd hate to see something bad come of this. Please get yourself checked out and properly diagnosed by a professional so you are safe and healthy.
If you have seen a doctor and he diagnosed you then maybe you could add that to this question to help us find more information possibly. Just a thought! :)
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15/f
Whenever i wear a tampon (regular) i end up getting blood on my underwear even if i just put the tampon in 5 minutes ago. I make sure after i put one in i wipe around there so it won't but it still does. I don't want to wear a pad and a tampon because i don't like pads that much and that's why i prefer tampons but it keeps getting blood on my underwear. Why is this? (link)
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It may have absolutely nothing to do with the size or brand of tampon you are using.
I highly suggestion you see a gynecologist for an exam to make sure everything down there is properly formed. I know it sounds really scary to say you may not be formed right, but it is a rare occurrence that really does happen.
I had this friend years ago. She told me that she only wore pads because every time she put in a tampon she'd still bleed into her underwear in minutes. She said she had tried other sizes and brands and they all did the same thing.
Well, one day this friend went to her physical. She had never visited a gynecologist before and was pretty nervous. When the doctor was looking at her vagina the answer to why her tampons always leaked was VERY clear. See, when she was in her mother's womb her vagina didn't form quite as expected. Her body ended up growing a piece of flesh in the middle of her vagina, separating it into two vaginas. You see, when she inserted a tampon she only "plugged up" ONE vagina but the other one was still open and able to "leak" as much as it needed.
One side of the vagina is quite smaller than the other too so that's why it had gone unnoticed by her before. She wasn't sexually active at the time so nobody had ever noticed the extra insertion place. Her vagina looked normal at first glance, but upon further inspection she simply had a piece of flesh in the middle of it.
They ended up having to check if she also had a duplicate womb and two sets of ovaries instead of one set. In the end everything else was correct--just that extra bit of flesh is all! Some women end up having two of everything--or two uterus' but one set of ovaries. It happens.
I asked if she could have it removed and she said probably but that she wasn't going to risk her health because of that. She began to insert two tampons into the vagina instead of one then--one tampon in each section. Of course she needed to use fairly small tampons so they would fit properly, but it really did happen.
I definately do not suggest you insert two tampons into your vagina. Inserting more than one would be a major health hazard and may even cause damage, especially if there isn't anything physically wrong with your vagina. I really don't suggest tampons at all (and I'll get to that below), but I DO suggest you see your doctor to make sure everything is alright. Her doctor said it was rare but very possible so she isn't alone in the world, definately.
So, I would make a doctor's appointment if I were you for your annual visit. If you haven't gone to one before you need to anyway--you're really suppose to start those sort of visits once you begin your period. You are plenty old enough to be seeing a gynecologist, as you can probably tell from seeing a lot of girls here asking about their first visit.
I definately recommend pads for your menstrual cycle. Pads can be worn during light days, heavy days, and even simple discharge days. Tampons can only be worn during your actual period or your risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome increases dramatically. You also do not need to worry about waking in the middle of the night to change your pad if you're not a heavy bleeder; however, with tampons they MUST be changed every 6 - 8 hours or bacteria will multiply so quickly it can cause some severe problems.
Symptoms of TSS include high fever, vomiting or diarrhea, severe muscle aches, a feeling of extreme weakness or dizziness, and a rash that looks like a sunburn. If you ever have these symptoms while wearing a tampon, remove it and tell an adult immediately. Have someone take you to the nearest emergency room as soon as possible.
When I tried tampons I ended up passing out over and over again within seconds of insertion. My body was obviously screaming at me that something was terribly wrong although nothing was painful at all. I often wonder if some other women have experienced this and thought it was normal because it definately is not okay to experience. I really believe it dramatically shocked my body and that's why I passed out.
My first gynecologist I had actually told me that tampons increased my risk of cancer. My mother had cancer before in her vagina area and was told to NEVER wear tampons again because if there is any cancerous cells in there it will irritate them and cause them to begin multiplying if they aren't already. My mother was also told to tell her female children this too since we are higher risk for that sort of cancer. I asked my first gynecologist about it and he definately recommended not using tampons because of the increase cancer risk.
The longer you leave a tampon in, the higher risk of TSS you are taking. Bacteria begin to grow in the warm, moist environment of your vagina. These bacteria can grow within the tampon, enter the body from inside the vagina, then invade the bloodstream, releasing toxins that can cause a very severe, life-threatening illness.
Tampons also pull a bit of your vaginal lining out when being removed, believe it or not. This is why many women who use tampons aren't as sensitive as they once were inside of their vaginas and why many tampon-users suffer from yeast infections and bacterial vaginosis. The tampon also can leave particles behind from it, causing bacteria and yeast to grow on it. Another case is that women are frequently needing to purchase personal lubricant for sexual activities because their bodies have stopped producing enough natural lubricant to engage in such activities without problems.
Here are some good websites about why women should stay clear of tampon-usage. Theses sites are pretty darn interesting:
http://www.thekeeperstore.com/dangers-tampons/
http://www.thebody.com/content/art497.html
http://www.earthisland.org/journal/tampons.html
http://www.frontiernet.net/~ruthb/Tampons.html
So, in short, you really should see your doctor first before going to drastic measure and increasing risk of TSS. You should ALWAYS try to wear the lightest tampon available to decrease those TSS chances. I still suggest you invest in pads for your health, but, of course, that is your own decision to make.
As a very last note, you may want to check out menstrual cups. Here is a link to a question about some and my answer is pretty thorough when explaining them:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=533850
I hope things are healthy and you find out what your problem is. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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I am wondering why Planned Parenthood is telling me my tests are negative my period was 1 week late and then March 19th I got a spotting for one day then stopped. Ever since then I have been getting stomach pains not spotting at all.. Getting migranes and dizziness, My breasts are sore once and a while. Am I pregnant or Not? Ive been going to the Docters and they told me that they wont take a blood test because it was negative when they took a urine test. Can you please tell me whats up? I am going insane. Thanks. (link)
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Planned Parenthood did a pregnancy test on you and you came back negative for pregnancy. You did not have the hormone, human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG), in your body that distinguishes pregnant woman from non-pregnant women.
It could have been that you had the test taken way too early or that something is not right with the pregnancy. Sometimes tests show negative if the baby is actually forming in the wrong area of the body.
An ectopic pregnancy means that the egg was fertilized in the fallopian tubes and attached there as well. This can throw testing off dramatically and show you not being pregnant on urine tests for the entire pregnancy. This sort of pregnancy is highly dangerous and can cause the tube to rupture, killing you and the unborn baby. These sort of pregnancies usually cause pain/discomfort in the lower region because the baby begins stretching the tubes out. You may want to speak to your doctor about the pain and suggest an ultrasound be done on the area (pain can also be from cysts and such so an ultrasound is just a good safety measure anyway).
I'm not sure why your doctor refuses to do a blood test but try to make an appointment specifically for a blood test for pregnancy. You may also request for a pelvic exam, as it would surely tell if you are pregnant or not and it's typical testing procedure anyway.
After you have sex you actually do not instantly become pregnant--it can take days before the sperm find and fertilize the egg and then another 6 - 10 days for the egg to actually attach to your uterine wall. Sperm can live in your body for a long time--they've even been some found alive in a woman 2 weeks after being ejaculated inside of her!
This being said, it could take weeks to actually become pregnant after one sexual encounter. It could be that you were so early into pregnancy that your body had not produce enough of the hCG hormone yet.
If your period is usually exactly on time then you should be concerned, but some women have unhealthy periods where they go months in between them. If you usually have a long time between periods then you should speak to your doctor about that as well.
Purchase a home pregnancy test and test yourself occassionally if your period does not come. Some home pregnancy tests are better than others. According to a couple of studies done, First Response and Early Result Pregnancy Test are the two best kinds to purchase because they are slightly more sensitive than the others. You may want to pick up a couple of those for home usage.
Again, make an entirely new doctor's appointment for an entirely new pregnancy test. Let them know that you may have taken the other test too soon (or if you've had sex since then there is a good reason to have another one done) and would like another one taken. Request a blood test, but if you aren't actually paying it could be why they aren't doing it--blood tests cost more than urine testing.
It usually takes a two weeks or so for pregnancy symptoms to begin, such are sore breasts and such. Migraines may be coming from the stress you are experiencing over the late period. Stress can also cause dizziness, especially if you've changed your eating habits from so much stress. Your breasts may be tender because of the period upcoming.
It does very much sound like you had the implantation bleeding; however, it could have been something entirely different. Only a doctor can test you and find out really. If I were you, I would make an appointment with a doctor I had not seen before for a pregnancy test, and wouldn't disclose the fact that I recently had a pregnancy test at another clinic.
Stress can cause your period to be late for a few days so try to relax about it. You are very early into pregnancy if you are pregnant so give it a little time. Calm down and relax for a few days.
I hope things go well with you and you find a doctor to do another pregnancy test. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask me.
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me and my boyfriend had sex and we did do it protected and then we used 3 condoms and then the last time we didnt fully have sex he stuck it in to see what it would feel like and even pulled it out and kept checking for precum.... am i safe ughh i know that was really stupid but shouild i worry? he was really careful and kept checking and even pulled out before he got any hard that time.. im still worrying (link)
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I hate to add to your worry, but your boyfriend, undoubtedly, did release precum into your body. The chances of that precum having a large amount of sperm in it varies as to whether he had recently ejaculated or came close to ejaculation. Remember, it only takes ONE sperm to fertilize your ONE egg.
Precum is pretty hard to distinguish from a normal woman's lubrication during sexual encounters because there isn't a whole lot of it. Men cannot feel precum actually exiting the penis so many of them release the pre-ejaculatory fluid without realizing it.
Thrusting even slightly and actually pulling the penis out (even to check) helps the fluid seep out of the penis so each time he pulled out, there are high chances that a nice amount of the fluid also came out of his penis. It's also highly likely that, while pulling out, the precum actually "wiped" off inside of you, probably on your vaginal walls.
I am uncertain as to what you meant by, "...we used 3 condoms..." but I wanted to note that you should only be using ONE condom at a time. This means, if you are putting two or three condoms on the penis all at once then you are increasing the chances of condom breakage. Having more than one condom on at a time is not beneficial to preventing pregnancy.
When you engage in sexual activities you need to protect yourself in as many ways as possible. You were very unsafe and should be very concerned over pregnancy risk.
I would guess that one of the safest ways to NOT get pregnant during sex would be to use a male condom (88% pregnancy prevention with typical usage) and the hormonal birth control pill (92% pregnancy prevention with typical usage). Male condoms help to be a barrier from infections and diseases so it lessens the risk of contracting harmful infections and disease; however, it is not completely effective on that either so you should always take caution on choosing a sex partner. Anyway, using both of these types of birth control together would be a wise choice.
You should definately pick up a home pregnancy test if your period is late. It is good to take the test after your period is a few days late to get an accurate read out. Some home pregnancy tests are better than others. According to a couple of studies done, First Response and Early Result Pregnancy Test are the two best kinds to purchase because they are slightly more sensitive than the others.
Always put on a condom before allowing a penis to come near your vagina.
I hope things turn out well. Hopefully you're worrying for nothing, but only time will truly tell. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me :)
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Ok so ive never been to the gyno..... im scared idk what to do or to expect..... I havent had a period in over a year and well i just dont know what to do... mine is a guy and I DONT TRUST GUYS so any advice...
Thnx Military45 (link)
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I answered a question about the procedure right here:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=538830
My answer basically tells you everything you need to know about a pap. I took the time to write down a step-by-step appointment pretty much.
You may want to speak to your mother about being uncomfortable with a male doctor. Your mother may understand and help you find a female doctor if there is one around your area. In smaller towns there may not be another gynecologist to see so you may HAVE to see this doctor to get your annual.
Calmly let your mother know that you are nervous about the doctor's appointment because of the doctor's gender. Let her know you're uncomfortable with a man in your personal region and were wondering if she could set you up an appointment with a woman doctor instead. Don't demand to change doctors if your mother says she'd rather you see him. Just let her know what you're feeling so she can comfort and reassure you.
Talk things over with your mother. She may know this doctor very well and wants you to see him because she's exceptionally good. Trust me, seeing a GOOD male doctor is better than seeing a BAD female doctor, and I'm someone who prefers female doctors too.
Men are just as good as women gynecologists. They are also very professional so you don't have to worry about them violating you or doing something wrong. They are in an occupation where if a patient claims they touched her inappropriately they will lose their license--so they are VERY strict and professional during the procedure. They went to a lot of schooling to get their degrees so, trust me, they're not going to lose it because they wanted to play fondle with a patient--especially a young, underage patient.
Relax and don't worry. Things are going to go smoothly. Talk things over with your mother in advance so she knows why you're nervous.
I hope your visit goes well and you're found to be healthy. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me :)
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Hi, you answered my question about my using pictures as a sort of goal for myself. Well, I had another question. I put part of it in the feedback I think, but wanted to elaborate more because I think I need another answer to this slightly different question.
Well, I'm trying to eat healthier to make a difference and stuff like that. But the thing is, when I eat something, I feel guilty about it. Not guilty enough to throw the food back up, but guilty enough to not feel like eating for a very long time. Today I tried just eating two meals, and I still felt bad about eating.
What should I do? I'm kinda getting a little scared at this point because no matter what I do...eat 2 meals a day or eat nonstop, I can't make myself feel better. I'm never good enough.
I've had a really rough year full of people just being mean (for lack of a better term) and people ditching me or just walking out my life. I'm never good enough, ever. Not for them, and not for me. I don't know what to do, I've tried changing so many things and this is one thing that I can have control over you know? I can control what goes in my body and I can control it. Maybe then I'll be good enough.
It's really hard to find the words to describe what's going through my head, so I tried my best...
If you do get around to answering this, I really appreciate it. Thank you =/ (link)
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I completely understand how you feel.
I think a lot of people, including me, have been in a similar situation where we've been left to "fend" for ourselves in life. What I mean is, we all lose friends and such throughout the years and sometimes something happens and we lose the important people and it turns out entire lives upside down.
It really sounds like what is happening to you. You are young and peers mean a lot in your life. It is human nature to want/need to be accepted by others. When others don't accept you, of course you're going to turn to drastic measures and feel completely out of place.
My mother left me a few years back. I was so attached to my mother at the time. I thought we were best friends even. We went out shopping every day, had lunch every day, and made lots of neat memories. One morning she put me on a bus for a school-trip and when I returned she was just gone. She had packed her things and completely left me (along with the rest of my family, of course). It was devastating. My own mother didn't want me, and she couldn't even stand to be around me apparently.
I bet you feel the same as I did, though. Your friends walked out of your life when you thought they'd be there. You thought someone would ALWAYS have your back. You thought someone actually cared about you and then suddenly they vanish from your life. You immediately just "know" it's your fault in some way and that if you had been different, things wouldn't have turned out the way they did.
See, you're not alone ;)
And I want you to know, I care about you. I have your back and I won't just disappear on you when you need me. I'll be on Advicenators for a long, long time and I'd even be willing to exchange emails with you for supportive reasons.
That may not seem much right now, as I'm a complete stranger, but it's honest and I really do want things to turn out the best for you. If you need me--ever--just let me know.
Anyway, what it sounds like has happened as you have blamed your own appearance on why people have left your life. We all blame SOMETHING, and appearance is one of the most "obvious" things for teenagers. Our society tells us that appearance is EVERYTHING, and I'm sure you've heard such things before.
My suggestion to you is this:
Sit down and talk to your mother. Tell her what you're telling me. Tell her all of your deepest things you've locked inside so she knows just how serious you are. Let her know that you need her to help you. Don't be afraid to cry or have a very long conversation--show your emotions so she knows you're not just kidding around.
Get help now before things worsen. I promise they will worsen. Maybe you can't quite see it now, but things are going to be really bad if you don't get the help you are so desperately needing. I can see it. You NEED help.
Go to your therapy and tell them everything that they want to know and things they may not even want to know--everything!
Keep trying to eat healthy. I know it's hard right now, but if you keep in the habit and you go to therapy to work out these issues you have then things will get better and you won't feel as guilty as you do about eating.
Eat. Make a week plan of EXACTLY what you're going to eat and when. Try to get all of your food groups in adequately. This is your "homework" assignment from now on. You HAVE to eat. It isn't your choice any more. This is what you HAVE to do. You are controlling your HEALTH.
So, make out a healthy week's meal plan and stick to it. Try to have healthy snacks during the day--celery, carrots, small salad, apple, etc. I'm definately not saying have cakes and cookies, but turn to healthy foods and try to get as many of them as you can right now.
Pick up a multivitamin. You're, most likely, lacking a lot of nutrients that your body really needs, especially at this young age. It isn't a substitute for good eating, but will help out a little while you're trying to get healthy.
Control your body's health, not it's destruction. Do things to build muscle. I joined Curves to help me stay fit (and I can most definately tell you about that if you'd like). Try to find the healthiest foods possible--organic foods are pretty darn good and some are hard to find. Focus on health not thin.
If you are weighing yourself obsessively, then stop. Weigh yourself once every 2 weeks--once every month is even better. If you have been exercising, expect to weigh more because muscle is heavier.
It really sounds like you're on the road to anorexia. Please don't follow that path. It is very hard and so hard to recover from. Please get help while you're young. Eating disordered people are miserable. There was even one here on Advicenators that was having such a hard time stopping her disorder, it was really Hell for her. This isn't something to mess with, please don't harm your body like that.
If you have any more questions, PLEASE feel free to ask me. I really want you to be happy and healthy.
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Okay, I was watching LOGO a long time ago. And I remember watching a movie on there. I'll try to describe as much as I remember.
There were these two friends. One was a girl and the other was a guy. The girl was blonde and the guy was a really pale guy and he always wore black. The guy was gay. I remember there was a part where they were sleeping in the park. And the guy was in the bathroom. And earlier that day, they saw a bus filled with football players. So anyways, he was in the bathroom & one of the football players walk in the bathroom. And I think they have sex. And I remember in the end they decide to move on. And I think they were at a cemetary when they were saying goodbye to each other.
I need to know this movie. Please help me! (link)
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I haven't watched the LOGO television station; however, they have an online website of their listings of shows and movies they have shown.
Here is the link to their list (you may need to scroll down):
http://www.logoonline.com/sitemap.jhtml
Maybe by looking through the list of titles one will pop out at you and you'll remember it. If not, you can also go through and read the small synopsis of each title to get an idea of the film.
Also, if you know what month you saw the movie in then this may help you a lot:
Take the schedule link below and change the month to which month you think you saw the movie in. The dates of show times actually start in May 2007 and go all the way through September 2008 so there is quite a span of time you can look through. Remember to change the year if you need to as well. Remember to hit enter after fixing the link to which month/year you are looking for.
http://www.logoonline.com/schedule/pdfs/Logo-Schedule-May-2007.pdf
(If I was unclear as to how to do that link please let me know in feedback and I'll alter my response to help you out some more.)
If you figure out what the movie title was please let me know in feedback and I'll add the answer to this "answer" of mine. This will help other people find out what the movie title is if they are also searching or if you have made them curious.
I hope you figure out which movie you are looking for. :)
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Okay, so I am not fat. I know this...sort of. Just I get self-conscious sometimes because I look in the mirror and see flab and grossness. This is all recently. I feel unworthy I guess for so many reasons so this is just one more.
I weigh 103 pounds and I am 5' 4", and I'm fifteen years old.
So last week I put up pictures of skinny people on my wall as a kind of goal I guess you could say. Well, then I sort of felt guilty about it. Because I'll never be skinny or pretty as them.
Is it bad that I'm using pictures of super-skinny people? Do I have a problem? I don't know. I think there's gotta be something wrong with me that I keep judging myself over everything. But I'm too embarrassed to tell my mom because I told her once that I wanted to talk to someone (like professionally) and she just nodded and never brought it up ever again.
Ugh. (link)
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I completely agree that you need to remove the posters/photos on your wall instantly. You do not need to be staring at photo-shopped women in hopes of magically transforming into something they aren't even.
It is good to be motivated to be HEALTHY but it is not good to be motivated to be thinner and thinner. The models you see do not truly exist, and if they do they are severely malnourished and ill.
According to your BMI (body mass index) you are actually considered quite underweight. Trust me, you are plenty thin enough and you should be trying to gain muscle mass (for weight) instead of losing pounds. You simply do not have fat being this underweight.
Being underweight does have serious health risks as it is. These risks include things like:
Infertility
Osteoporosis
Amenorrhea
Anemia
Type 1 Diabetes
Nutrient Deficiency
Heart Irregularities
Increased risk of Alzheimer's when aging
Depression
The thinner you become, the more likely those things will occur. You may also experience hair loss, fatigue/fainting, color loss, severely weakened immune system, body temperature irregularities, poor physical stamina, headaches, and plenty more symptoms.
Instead of losing weight to improve your physical appearance, gain muscle mass. Muscle will help to tone and firm areas of your body that you may feel has no definition. You will gain weight when gaining muscle because it weighs a lot more than fat does so you shouldn't be concerned when the scale starts to rise a little.
Try to have a well-balanced diet each day, managing the healthiest foods you can find to do this. Take care of your body.
I also highly suggest that you tell your mother again that you feel you should seek professional help for health reasons. You have an unhealthy self-image of yourself that can turn into something horrible very quickly. Sit down with your mother for a long conversation about your concerns and try to help you set a date for an appointment with a therapist before things worsen. I'm sure that if you take the time to express serious concern to your mother about your body-image then she will help you find someone to talk to more seriously with.
Please remove the photos of sickly women for your bedroom walls. You feel bad for a reason--your conscious is screaming at you that you are doing the wrong thing. Please seek help immediately before things worsen dramatically.
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I want to start doing random acts of kindness to the people around me each day (basically my community). I know they are important to my life and I really want them to know that I appreciate having them around.
Some people I'd like to do these acts for don't really know me at all, but they are constantly around me (like coworkers and acquaintances I see daily but don't really talk to). I want to brighten their lives a little though so they know that somebody out there appreciates them being around.
Anyway, can I have ideas for random acts of kindness to various people in my daily routine?
Some ideas on how to remain anonymous would be nice too. (link)
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I think this is a great idea and we should all be doing these things. Even the smallest "gift" can really turn someone's day around for the better.
I found this website that many people have entered information on about this very subject:
http://www.helpothers.org/
For anonymous idea, I would definitely find a way to send a note to each person you want to thank. You can type them to conceal your handwriting and leave each note in a place that he person checks frequently (like in their locker, on their chair, in their mailbox). Make the note bright and cheerful so for some added niceness. For neighbors and stuff, well, mailboxes and doorsteps would probably be great places to leave nice little things.
This link on that site gives you lots of ideas on how to show kindness in various ways:
http://www.helpothers.org/ideas.php
http://www.helpothers.org/ideas.php?op=theme#workplace
Such as:
Make cookies and bring them in for break time. Remember to offer everyone one/some.
Send flowers to your co-workers (even just one coworker at a time would be nice and make them feel extra special)
Leave a piece of candy/fruit/snack/etc. at every co-worker's desk before they arrive
Leave a cake central area anonymously with a Thank-You note
Send a nice email to the people you know emails of
Drop enough money into someone's mailbox and a card attached to let them know that lunch is on you
Help serve dinner at local soup kitchen.
Leave flowers on your neighbor's doorsteps before they get up in the morning
Visit elderly in your neighborhood to give them some company (or help them spruce up the yard even)
Pick up some fast food ($1 menu burger even) and give it to homeless people on the streets
Leave an extra tip after lunch out (remember: 15-20% is normal tip)
While out to lunch, pick up (pay for) somebody else's bill when you pay for yours--even if you don't know them.
Bring out cold drinks for neighbor's mowing their own lawns
Visit the local animal clinic and ask to pay so much on a random person's vet bill
Volunteer at various locations (animal shelters, nursing homes, women's shelter, etc.)
Leave a note in your mailbox for your mail-carrier
Leave enough change at a phone booth for a call or two
Here are a few other sites for kindness acts (some are inspiring stories) that may give you neat, unique ideas:
http://www.actsofkindness.org/
http://schools.hpedsb.on.ca/smood/kindness/ideas.htm
http://www.daretobeanangel.com/tasklist.php
http://www.noogenesis.com/malama/kindness/Stories/ideas01.html
http://www.noogenesis.com/malama/kindness/
http://www.angelscamp.com/rak.htm
I think it's a great idea to help out various people so I wish you luck on this!
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How soon after intercourse can you get implantation cramps?
And breast tenderness?
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Implantation typically occurs at about 6 to 10 days after the actual fertilization of the egg. Once fertilization occurs, the egg remains in the fallopian tube for about 3 days. It will then enter the uterus where it gets very close to the lining of the uterus and begins to implant itself. This is usually a very gentle process. Some women do have slight bleeding at the time of their missed period, but that is after implantation.
There is usually no kind of cramping or physical signs that implantation has actually taken place actually. Internal temperature may give you a clue as to whether you are pregnant or not, but there are really not reliable physical signs that we are aware of at this time.
Implantation bleeding may occur shortly after the egg has settled into place. There will be very light spotting and won't last more than a day. It's usually a brownish color but sometimes can be red. Approximately one in four pregnant women will have some bleeding early in pregnancy.
An ectopic pregnancy can also cause early bleeding, cramping, and discomfort. This is when implantation occurs somewhere other than the uterus (usually the fallopian tube), and is a very dangerous situation.
You must remember that bleeding during pregnancy, regardless of how slight, is never considered normal.
Remember that sperm can live in a body for days (there is even a few occurrences of finding live sperm in women TWO WEEKS after they engaged in sexual intercourse). This means that you won't know exactly when your egg was fertilized and when it would be implanted.
Breast tenderness seems to vary from woman to woman; however, many women claim to experience tenderness as early as 2 weeks after conception. This tenderness usually only lasts for the first few months (3 to 4) and will fade off by the end of the pregnancy.
If you suspect you are pregnant you should purchase a home pregnancy test from your local pharmacy or wal-mart; however, you must know that just because it says negative it does not mean it's correct. Some of them will show false-negatives (no such thing as a false-positive; if it shows that you are pregnant then you definately are) so it may be more beneficial for you to go to your doctor for a for-sure pregnancy test.
I hope I've helped you figure out what's going with your body. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me :)
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I recently lost my virginty with a guy who was my boyfriend at the time but now ex! But when I was supposed to get my period I didn't. I was just wondering if your period turns "irregular" after your first time or not. Please help!! (link)
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In short, it doesn't matter if you lose your virginity or not--your period is not affected by such. A lot of women experience late periods after losing their virginity because they begin to stress over a possible pregnancy, thus delaying the period a few days.
First, the hymen usually has a small hole in it as it is. A hymen is made of very thin tissue and it is fairly easy to tear or stretch. It's located at the entrance to the vagina so, actually, it isn't inside of the vagina. The hole is there to allow menstrual blood to escape the body and is usually too small to accommodate an entire penis to enter the vagina without being stretched.
If you do have vaginal intercourse and you do not completely break/tear your hymen it will stretch out and create a larger hole, just as your vagina will naturally stretch out to accommodate the penis. Some hymens are elastic enough to permit a penis to enter without tearing, or they will tear only partially, and there may be no bleeding at all.
The blood that comes out of your body during your menstruation is actually the lining of your uterus being expelled because of an unfertilized egg. Your body does this, in short, to rid itself of the waste (egg that can no longer be used). Losing your virginity has nothing to do with this part really and you should still be experiencing your regular cycle (maybe a couple of days off because of the stress of worry).
I explain the entire "hymen" thing because some people get confused about bleeding during sex and it involving them having their period but they aren't related at all. So, if you weren't aware already, now you are! :)
So, no, your cycle should definately not be affected by you losing your virginity. If your period has already been irregular than it may be that, but it's usually on time then you have every reason to be concerned.
Now, you may want to drop by your local store (Wal-mart, various pharmacy, etc.) and pick up a pregnancy test. When you're late by a few days you should be able to get a decent read-out from the test. If you're truly concerned (since these sort of tests can show a false negative--and no, there is no false positive) you may want to make an appointment for a pregnancy test in your local clinic.
I hope things settle down and there isn't anything to worry about, but it really doesn't sound so great to me right now. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me :)
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When I was at Wal-mart I was looking through their dental care and hygiene section and noticed a lot of toothpastes (Colgate, Arm and Hammer, Aquafresh, Crest, etc.) have something called fluoride in them. Can you tell me what fluoride is and what it does for us? Why do we need it in toothpaste? (link)
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Fluoride seems to be promoted to us in unhealthy ways. It is usually in our toothpastes, mouthwashes, and most tap water. Fluoride is actually a hazardous waste product (actually it’s referred to as a Nuclear Waste Byproduct) that can be very harmful to us, causing us serious illnesses such as bone cancer. The fluoride added to public drinking water is actually fluorosilic acid, just as a note.
Florida phosphate fertilizer smokestacks actually happens to be where fluoride comes from in the end. It was found that cattle and crops nearby where dying in insane amounts from being so close to the wastes from these smokestacks so filters were enforced to lessen those issues. People now are hired to go and scrap off these filters and use that byproduct for what we know as fluoride--yes, the same thing that was causing the death of plants and animals!
This link shows you the dangers of fluoride usage and how it’s caused some serious illnesses:
http://www.fluoridealert.org/health/index.html
So…that is some things like:
Joint Pain
Brain Damage (lowered IQ impairment of learning and memory)
Skeletal Fluorosis
Bone Cancer
Osteosarcoma
Kidney Disease
Infertility
Hypothyroidism
Fluoridation was first advanced in the US at the end of World War II. There was claim that fluoride in water and toothpaste would help to protect teeth and prevent decay. Over the following decades, fluoride was added to public water supplies across the country, and now only a handful of places in the United States are un-fluorinated.
It turns out that fluoride may have serious adverse health effects, including infant mortality, congenital defects and IQ as well. It is a fact that it’s more toxic than lead and marginally less so than arsenic.
On a less serious note (apart from the cancer and overall destruction of your body) it is the leading cause of fluorosis. Dental fluorosis is characterized by black and brown stains, as well as cracking and pitting of the teeth. It’s caused by an OVERDOSE of fluoride, according to wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dental_fluorosis
Usually a person ends up needing their teeth removed and dentures made because the process cannot really be reversed. It also usually happens only to adult teeth, but sometimes younger children develop it very early on. Here are some photos of people suffering from fluorosis:
http://www.equinox-products.com/images/FluorideMaster/DentalFluorosisMottledTeeth1.jpg
http://www.zerowasteamerica.org/Images/MildFluorosis.jpg
http://homepage.eircom.net/~fluoridefree/images/Df.jpg
http://www.nofluoride.com/tooth.gif
http://www.donaldrobbinsdmd.com/images/fluoride_02.jpg
Here is a link to a short documentary called The Fluoride Deception:
http://www.guba.com/watch/2000963110
Which was based on the book The Fluoride Deception by Christopher Bryson. According to him, “Fluoride is an essential component of atomic bomb production and was declared a 'strategic and critical' material by the government after World War II, With fluospar, the usual fluoride source, in short supply, they turned to Florida's phosphate industry to recover the industry's captured fluoride. Florida held the world's largest geological deposits of natural phosphate which contain 3 - 4% fluoride.
In a sweetheart deal these phosphate companies are spared the expense of disposing of this 'fluosilicic acid' in a toxic waste dump. Instead, the acid is sold to municipalities, shipped in rubber-lined tanker trucks to reservoirs across North America and injected into drinking water for the reduction of cavities in children. (So toxic are the contents of the fluoride trucks that, in the aftermath of the September 11, 2001, terrorist attack, authorities were alerted to keep a watchful eye on road shipments of the children's tooth-decay reducer.)
There was yet another potential cold-war reason for disposing of fluosilicic acid in public water supplies. The Florida phosphate beds were also an important source of uranium, harvested for the Atomic Energy Commission. Because uranium is only a trace mineral in the phosphate deposits, enormous quantities had to be processed to glean worthwhile amounts of uranium. So, large amounts of waste fluoride were also produced. Permitting that fluoride to be dumped into public water supplies - rather than being disposed of as toxic waste - reduced the cost of such uranium extraction and provided a supply of fluoride.”
Fluoride is being added to our waters, despite the fact that is not beneficial in any way. It’s even being added to a bottled water especially for infants called Nursery Water. It was once said that fluoride causes less tooth decay, but it’s a fact that: “New York City children have more tooth decay than the national average, despite fluoridation,” and, “Second-graders who live in non-fluoridated Long Island, New York, are more likely to be cavity-free than second graders nationally.”
http://fluoridedangers.blogspot.com/2005/11/fluoridation-does-not-save-money-or.html
Fluoride keeps dentists in business with fluorosis and products being marketed with fluoride in it. We’re told that fluoride treatments are only to help our health, but, in reality, it ends up causing us to seek dentistry more often.
It’s really scary when you think of the warnings on products contain fluoride:
"Keep out of reach of children under 6 years of age."
"If you swallow more than used for brushing, get medical help or contact a Poison Control Center right away."
"If more than used for brushing is accidentally swallowed, get medical help or contact a Poison Control Centre right away."
"Never give fluoridated mouthwash or mouth rinses to children under six years of age, as they may swallow it."
"Use non-fluoridated toothpaste or no toothpaste for young children."
There are some really nice toothpastes (and other products, obviously) that are fluoride-free. Tom’s of Maine seems especially popular. I like to use a product called Dr. Ken’s maximum care toothpaste:
http://www.drkens.net/products.asp
…but when searching for products you must read the labels to see if it specifies “fluoride free.”
So, try to purchase products that do not contain fluoride for your own safety.
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Ok so I am suicidal and have been for a while now. I go around reading about other people and everything to gain as much knowledge as possible. I notice that a lot of times people say it's not worth it and dumb. Well try being in our shoes once then tell someone that. It's not so easy as you make it seem. You may actually hurt somone even more by yelling at them. But anywho....
I am going back down hill wanting to die. I am at my wits end with life and dealing with people from this world that are ignorrant and mean to those in need of help. I have gotten help and am on pills yet I still want to die. Why is life worth so much to people? I am so confused at this point and wanting to perish. I just want to be happy without things always going to shit instantly and getting worse everyday. I would love to find somewhere I fit in. If anyone knows where I would fit in besides with the people in the mental Hospital let me know. (link)
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Make your life meaningful.
Many people seem to be having this sort of problem now and I truly think that it's because we have lost the right path in life.
I don't mean this to be bad but I'm not sure how to put it: you need to start focusing on other people other than yourself all of the time. If you make your time useful and helpful to others, you will gain a sense of care about yourself. You will soon realize that you HELP others and that other people need and appreciate you.
Many people now are so busy with their own lives that they lose sight of what it is to be loving and caring. You see, knowing that you are helping others does great things for the self-imagine. You soon realize that you aren't useless and just a blob of flesh bobbing along through life.
"Well try being in our shoes..."
Many people are in those exact shoes. They work their hours at work, come home to a hectic house full of seemingly careless people who, unknowingly, feel the same way they do inside.
It really seems that the problem is our current lifestyles. We no longer "have time" to help others. Nobody volunteers now because they feel that they should be paid money for their time. Nobody goes out of their way to show care for others because that time could be used for something else. Both of these are common and we're taught (it's drilled into our heads) that we are the most important in our lives. This is not true at all: the people surrounding us are the most important.
The people who surround you create your sense of belonging though. Those people help you to see yourself as useful. Those people are the ones that can show care back for you. Without those people, you aren't anything anymore.
The media keeps telling us to only worry about ourselves. Sure, it's find to tend to your own needs--but what happens when everyone is too busy with themselves? What happens when everyone stops worrying about caring for others? They become depressed, wondering why they don't belong somewhere and why they feel lost in society. That is what is happening to you, most likely, whether you realize it now or not.
What's strange is the more we focus on ourselves and stop helping others, the less we feel good about ourselves. As humans, we NEED interaction. We NEED acceptance. We NEED to know we are important in life. Most of all though, we desperately NEED to help others to gain all of that plus more.
I highly suggest that you stop focusing on yourself. Yes, still continue to get help but try to put your excess time/energy/efforts into others. Find places to volunteer regularly at.
Am I right in this? I bet I am...:
You feel worthless, unimportant, and useless.
You feel like you simply cannot do anything right.
You do not feel needed, and maybe not even loved.
You feel like people wouldn't miss if you if you disappeared, or that they would get over your departure quickly.
You feel empty inside--like something huge is missing but you cannot pinpoint it.
You feel like your best will never be good enough because YOU are not good enough.
You feel like nobody is genuinely interested in you and what you have to offer (though you may feel that you don't have much to offer)
All of this is exactly what I'm talking about. You need to make more of your life. By giving to others, you are creating your sense of worth. You will soon realize that YOU DO make a difference and that people appreciate and care about you. You will realize that when you have to skip a volunteer day for a doctor's appointment that many of the people you have been helping will ask what happened to you--Ah-hah, there's your sense of belonging! You will begin to realize that being involved with the care of others can be very fulfilling spiritually.
Spend time at soup kitchens helping the hungry, volunteer at shelters, visit the elderly in homes so they're not as lonely (not everyone has visitors and just about everyone has neat stories to tell), read Bible passages to younger children, volunteer at local animal shelters, donate your time to what needs you, and do whatever you can with that time.
If you feel like you don't have time now--make time. Alter your daily schedules to fit a few hours in for volunteering. Instead of being on the computer for an hour, log in only for 15 minutes and do what you NEED to do. Instead of sitting at home for dinner every day, take one day a week to eat at the soup kitchen after volunteering there.
Focus on who needs you. In essence, this is all for YOU so this is important. Helping others will help you.
I suggest you grab a phone book and make a few calls. Sit down with a calendar and set up one or more days a week to volunteer your time at certain places. Don't stress yourself out trying to fit things into busy schedules, but move things around so that your schedule won't be hectic but will have the fulfilling volunteer time in it.
It isn't your fault that you feel this way. You have just been fooled all of these years into believing that you are number one. Relax and focus on taking time for others and you will eventually find what is missing, trust me.
I hope you take my advice and improve your life before things get worse. If you have any further questions regarding this subject please feel free to ask me!
P.S. Anywhere you volunteer your time at, you will happily fit in :) I promise, you'll see.
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13/f -------- i've begun to develop a slight double chin. :(( like, when i look down, the skin under my neck like comes out under my chin into a double chin, and i never used to have one. this happens to some of my friends who are skinnier than me, but it never really happened to me. i've begun to feel self-concious about it. i think recently i may have gained some weight, not enough to be really worried about, but my face appears to be a bit rounder. is there any safe and healthy ways for me to lose the double chin and go back to the way i was? any help is appreciated; thanks! (link)
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I've heard that there are sort-of chin exercising balls that can be purchased that help you to exercise the area.
Here is the facial exerciser I was talking about:
http://www.faceexerciseball.com/
I also searched for how to rid yourself of a double chin and I found some really interesting exercises you can do:
" * Press your palm to your forehead for 10 seconds while resisting with your head and neck. You should feel your neck and chin tighten. Repeat the movement with your hand on the back of your head, then on each side, with your hand cupped over your ear.
* Lift your chin up and open and close your mouth as if you're chewing. Feel the muscles under your jaw and down the front of your neck tighten.
* Sit up straight in an armless chair, holding the bottom of the chair with your hands at your sides, tilt your head back and alternately close your mouth pushing your chin forward and them open your mouth as wide as you can.
* Lift chin slightly upward. With flat point of index and middle fingers press against indentation (hollow) formed by the two upper nodules of the larynx located at the curve from chin to neck. Do not be concerned in the beginning as to the precise location of pressure which you will discover through practice. Regard finger pressure as the resistance against the working muscles. Now press your back teeth firmly together and while maintaining this position, press the tip of your tongue against the inside of lower front teeth (gum line) increasing pressure with the tip of tongue in 10 or more gradual and definite steps (Count to 10). Hold end position of pressure for 6 seconds (count slowly to six). Release muscle work for 10 gradual steps (count to 10). Remove finger resistance. Repeat 4 more times.
* Slap under the chin with the back of your hand. When slapping, start gently and build up speed gradually. Do this for a couple of minutes each time, two or three times a day.
* Exercise the muscle called the platysma whose function is to pull down the corners of the mouth and pull down the jawbone. Open your mouth wide, and then pull up your bottom lip over your bottom teeth. Move your jaw up and down as if you're trying to scoop something up with it - imagine the movement of the shovel on a digger scooping up earth or debris on a building site. Perform ten repetitions of this exercise each time, and again do this two or three times a day.
* Say "NO": Lie flat on the floor, lift your head SLIGHTLY (such that it is not in contact with the floor) and look to the sides one by one without letting the head rest on the floor. Will look a bit like you are saying "NO." Say "YES": Again, lie flat on the floor, and bring your chin closer to your chest and bring it back making sure your head does not rest on the floor. This will look like you are saying YES. You will see the difference within a couple of weeks. No need to over do this. Just once a day...say, 20 reps."
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_get_rid_of_a_small_double_chin
This link also has some really good exercises you could try, including how to substitute the actual name-brand facial ball with something around the house:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/234613/chin_workout_for_double_chins.html
In addition, overall body weight-loss would also probably cause your face to lose some weight if you're pudgy so you may want to incorporate new/more exercise into your daily regimen. There is no need to do any "unhealthy" method to lose weight--watching what you eat and finding the healthiest foods to choose to put int your body along with daily exercise is good.
I hope you get your double-chin taken care of so you don't feel as self-conscious. :)
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In Pink's Video Most Girls what type of Karate is she doing?? Anyone have a clue? Also if anyone does karate what style do you recommend??? Also what are the differences between one karate from another. (that you recommended.) (link)
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To me, it looks like some basic martial arts moves in the beginning, but I would definately assume it is Karate since I read that P!nk has taken such courses.
Although, it may just be her doing a few moves of this-and-that of things she's learned through the years--like boxing or street-fighting for all I can figure out. There are scenes in the video that she is boxing in, which makes me believe that the moves have more to do with boxing than martial arts (but in boxing you don't kick your legs up so there is a touch of martial arts, apparently, with what she is doing).
Here is the video on YouTube if you want to check it out again:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPPjwDiy0vc
There are many other methods of martial arts other than karate like tae kwan do, kung fu, jujitsu, and the list goes on and on. Here is the Wikipedia page on various listings of different martial arts, if you are interested in checking those out:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_martial_arts
Here is the difference between karate and tae kwan do:
http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Difference-Between-Karate-and-Tae-Kwon-Do&id=123005
Here is the difference between karate and kung fu:
http://www.freespiritactivewear.com/martialartsartkaratekungfu.htm
Here is a link claiming to explain the differences between the various forms of martial arts:
http://www.streetdirectory.com/travel_guide/45613/martial_arts/difference_between_the_various_martial_arts.html
You'd probably get a lot better answers if you ask this question about the difference between karate and other martial arts since I don't know too much about martial arts and am not sure what to search for in Google. I'm positive that many Advicenators are well-knowledgeable about such things though! :)
I hope I helped somewhat at least.
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okay so I need cosplay ideas, I might be going to Youmacon this year and Im drawing blanks, I need something thats not too complicated.. I can sew, but I'd be a tight budget either way.
http://s91.photobucket.com/albums/k305/Wahaneta/photos/?action=view¤t=S6308406.jpg
I'm 17 with an average build, the tricky part is my curly hair... I would really prefer not to mess with my hair, but most characters have straight hair.
I was thinking Hana from fruits basket...but thats a bit toooo simple, I do want to do something fun!
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First off, you can ALWAYS look into some wigs to use for the cosplay. Many people invest in a wig or two for certain anime characters, as they do tend to have pink or blue hair :) So, that is always an option, especially that you can find outrageous colored wigs for fairly cheap now.
As for specific anime characters with curly hair (taken from various websites for wide selection):
Molly and Mimette from Sailor Moon
Mihoshi from Tenchi Muyo
Hinaichigo, Shinku, and Kanaria from Rozen Maiden
Mitsuki and Full Moon from Full Moon O Sagashite
Mila Rose from Bleach
Oruha from Clover
Reira and Junko from Nana
Juri from Utena
Yuzuki from Chobits
Charlotte from Golden Age
Hiro from Hidamari Sketch
Anti-Spiral Nia from Gurren-Lagann
Himawari from xxxHolic
Aoi Futaba from You're Under Arrest
Shimako from Maria-sama ga Miteru
Alexiel from Angel Sanctuary
...as you may have noticed, some of them have different colored hair than yours so that also may be a problem for you if you're not willing to dye yours. You can probably get your hair dyed fairly cheaply though, but in the end a good wig might be a better choice for that sort of thing.
Another suggestion from a website I saw was to have your hair braided to match that of a specific characters. SO, if you know of any characters with braids that may be a good option for you too.
I hope you figure out what you want to do for your cosplay coming up :) Have fun!
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