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This is for anyone who truly considers themself punk, no one who isn't.

I'm kind of interested in starting to listen to punk music but I have no idea where to start. What are some good punk groups? But true punk, not poser bands at all. And if you could kind of stay away from any band that frequents pop music radio stations, that would be great.

try http://www.joshspear.com/item/your-scene-sucks-silly-silly-scenesters/ they show what diffrent emo/punk/goths listen to.

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What are some similar stores to places like dELIAS, Alloy, American Eagle, Forever 21...
stores with teen clothing that's stylish and not overly expensive?

you could try
-gadzooks
-charlotte russe
-sometimes you can find cute stuff at target
-hollister
-the buckle
-hottopic has some really cute accesories

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I haven't made out before but I think that I will soon with my boyfriend. So this is exactly wht I need,


1) when you made out for the first time was it awquward, did you mess up

2)Exactly how should a girl make out with a guy (I don't want to mess up)

3) tips for making out

4) where should arms go so its not awquward

5) anything else helpful

thanks

Everyone Has a First Time.
First of all, don't worry if you are not an experienced kisser. Guys can't tell if you have kissed before. Since everyone kisses differently, you always "start from scratch" when you kiss a new person. Plus, in most cases a guy will be so thrilled that he's locking lips with you, he won't be judging the way you kiss! So never be embarrassed that you're not a kissing pro. Kissing is easy - and fun - when you know a few basic rules. Let's move onto them now...

Are You Kissable?
Let's start with your kissing equipment: your lips and mouth. Keep your lips soft and kissable by applying lip balm every day. It's especially important to keep your lips moisturized in the winter months, when drier air can make them feel scaly. Don't neglect your breath either. Good breath is one of the most important ingredients in a good kiss. Keep yours fresh by brushing and flossing twice a day. Keep sugarfree mints handy in your purse or pocket, for situations when you need to freshen up fast.

Take it Easy.
When it comes to the actual kiss, keep your lips soft and gentle. Think of kissing something very tender. You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Go with the flow, and let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going. When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each other. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing.

Tongue or Not?
Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing... if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips. When you are comfortable kissing your partner, experiment with different ways to taste and nuzzle his lips. Nibble his lower lip lightly (DON'T bite), caress his lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of his mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner's lips. Notice how good his lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better!

The Eyes Have It.
As for your eyes, keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss. Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. A valuable Jellybean tip: guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material.

The Most Important Lesson.
That's all you really need to know about kissing... except for one more, very important reminder. ENJOY THE KISS. Staying in the moment and enjoying the experience has a lot to do with what makes a memorable kiss. The best way to kill a kiss is to dwell on how you're doing, concentrate too hard on getting the "right" kissing technique down, or let your mind wander to what your partner thinks about you. The single most important thing to remember about kissing is to BE IN THE MOMENT and enjoy the kiss for itself. This is what it's all about... the simplest and greatest of pleasures, the soft friction, the tender wetness, the heat of his face so close to yours... kissing is great. Possibly the greatest. So kiss with confidence... and have FUN!

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i wanted to send my old bestfriend a scrap book. ANd i wanted to put poems in there not sad ones but poems saying what happend and why did we grow apart ya know.. So if anyone has any good poem sites or ideas it would be very great thanksss

there are a ton of cute qutoes on xanga.com on the top theres a few tabs..click on blogrings and then search quotes.

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ok. i have a friend and all the boys think she is sooo hot and cute ect. she stole my crush that i had on since the 3rd. gr. and on. whenever i am around with her i get really mad and frustratied. what do i do? and don't think she is a bad friend or anything.. she is so nice and sweet.
P.S.-i am in 5th grade, if that helps
P.S.S- please don't tell me "oh. just tell her your real feelings":i would be teased the rest of my life.

okay well it seems like you really like this guy but if he hasent already made a move yet im guessing he might not have the same feelings for you, but if your friend knew that you've been crushing him and still went out with him then she's obviously not as good of a friend as you think she is.

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This guy has been going out with his girlfriend for a long time. I just moved to a different city a couple months ago,and i made a lot of friends, including him. he's like one of my best friends, nad i hug him like everyday. i'm not the one who'd mess around with another girl's boyfriend, ecspecially when she's one of my friends. that's against my morals. but recently, his hands have been wandering around where i feel is inappropriate since he has a girlfriend. he'll try to touch my butt, or he'll hug me a little too close(i can feel some things that i shouldn't if you know what i mean...). i tell him to stop or will push him away, but he keeps doing it. he even asked me out when he's still going out with his girlfriend! should i tell his girlfriend that she needs to watch him a little more closely? i don't want her to think that i'm trying to break them up, because she's knows that we're real close friends, and i don't want to seem jealous.

Alright well obviously this guy likes you more that just friends but i wouldnt nessesarily worry his girlfriend about it..because if this guy finds out you told her it will probally ruin your friendship..i would just talk to this guy and tell him how you feel, you dont feel comfortable messing around when he has a gf and your not intrested in him in that way..and after that i would avoid hugging or flirting with him it might give him mixed signals and i bet it probally worries her..hope i helped deff. keep me updated and tell me how it goes

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There have been rumors at my school that there will be a school shooting tommorrow, as it is the anniversary of Colombine. I know that many schools are having rumors such as this circulated, and that it probably won't happen. However, I don't feel safe going to school tommorrow. I'm terrified. My mother is making me go; she refuses to listen to me when I say that I'm scared. How can I convince her?

i would seriously do anything you can to stay home..it might be nothing, just rumors but it is possible that something could happen..and if you still cant get her to let you stay home try saying something like
"what if i went to school tommarow and got shot, how bad would you feel" lol
hope i helped

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okay so theres thys guy and me and him made a promis a long time ago. tht when he and his gf broke up he would go out with me. once they broke up he broke his promise to me. but after a while i forgave him and wwe hung out and everything. anyways to get to mah point i like him again. but im going out with thys guy that i kinda like. The first guy though is single now and i really like him but the thing is hes a kinda of person tht alot of ppl think is ugly or dont like him. i personally dont care but im just so confused on what to do. hes all ive ever wanted but i cant break up with mah boyfriend cuz i do like him...ughh any help??

Okay it sounds to me that this guy deff. doesnt deserve you, if he's putting other girls before you then he's obviously not very serious about you two having a realationship. He obviously doesnt deserve a second chance..and if you dont really like the guy your going out very much with right now then you should break up with him..even if your not gonna go out with this other kid because its no fun to go out with someone your not attracted to, you wont be happy and the longer you date him the more it will hurt him if you do decide to break up with you..hope i helped

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I use to gossip and back bite alot. and even tho i have said sorry to all those i have hrut i know they still hold it against me. im trying really hard not to do it agian. i want to make it up to all those people i hurt and gain back trust. how do i do that? FASTest way possible!? i am trying really hard now. the only thing is when i say sorry they say its fine but they dont eman it. they say stuff behind me about how i was!
sorry about the randomness!
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It can be very difficult to gain someones trust back after they have lost trust in you but i think you should maybe call or im them and try to be as sincere as you can and really mean what you say..also it would hurt to add that you felt really bad about it and say something like your really trying to change..hope i helped :)

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if you have braces and kiss someone else with braces, is there a possibility you can get stuck together?

no..they deff wont get stuck together but if you are making out with someone that has braces also, you have to be soft and slow...because you can get cut if they have broken wires..have fun :)

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So I like this guy in my class that im friends with, but i also have a boyfriend that i rly cant break up with due to complicated reasons i dont want to get into. I just cant break up with him. not now anyway. Problem is i REALLY like this guy in my class, a lot and i want to go out with him. i just cant break up with my bf.i think the guy likes me and im afraid if i wait too long he's going ot get over me. what shud i do?

okay well you say you deff. can't break up with your boyfriend and im guessing its because maybe he's going through something thats really hard for him right now and you dont want to hurt him any more than he already is..but the truth is it sounds like you really like this other guy and the longer you wait the harder this is going to get, trust me. It will be harder for him to let go of you the longer you guys have been going out also your not going to be happy and he might be able to tell..so i personally think you should probally break up with him..good luck keep me updated

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I have been single for about four months and it is starting to get old. There is this guy I have liked for awhile now but Its not getting anywhere. We have had sex with eachother even tho I know we shouldnt have because its just a tease. I want to make him want me but I`m not sure how. Please give me some ideas? I want him to want me as much as I want him.

I will rate high for good detaild advice!

well first of all, there is no way to make a guy want you. but you can start by asking him how he feels about you and telling him how you feels about him, its possible that he already does want you as much as you want him he's just afraid to show it..good luck hope i helped

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ok so I love my b.f, I do, we have our issues, like majorly but I'm still, for some unknown reason, crazy about him. Now, there's this senior (I'm a freshmen btw) and I've fallen completely head over heels for him. It's not just another one of those "oh he's older and he's so cute" crushes. He is extremly intelligent, cute, helpful, and sweet. He is unlike ne guy I've ever met. We talk every single day and seriously, he can make me smile just by looking at me. I don't know what to do! Every one else can tell I like him but I deny it and I don't know if he knows but I hear it's kind of obvious and even my bf seems to know but he doesn't care at all, he thinks it's funny! I am soo confused!! I like the senior so much it hurts but Idk how to stop liking him. I'm soo confused, Please help!

I think you should see how this senior guy feels abouy you before you break up with your boyfriend (if your planning to). because if he just likes you as a friend then you dont want to screw things up with you and your boyfriend..but if the senior does feel the same way about you...you should go for it, it seems like you like him a lot more than your boyfriend.

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I fell in love this year. We were together for a while, but he wasn't happy so he broke up with me. It's been 3 months, and I'm still not over him. People are like "try to get to know other guys" That doesn't work. None are interested at all. I'm extremely upset. I keep myself occupied with track and such, and it's not even like I have many friends to turn to, because they all tell me the same thing, since none of them have been through this before. What should I do? Please don't give me something stupid, I'm really hurting here.

well moving on isnt something that happens over night you have to make sure your really ready to let go. but untill you are its okay to think about him and miss him theres nothing wrong with that he had a big piece of your heart and obviously still does. so dont throw yourself at every guy trying to replace him because then your just forcing yourself to see how impossible he is to replace. and then when your ready you'll meet someone knew and hopefully then you'll be able to give your heart away to this new guy;; hope i helped

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of so i have a problem... prom is coming up in 23 days and i don't know who o ask... theres one girl who invited me to a baseball game on friday and we really get along good, but then there's another who i just cant stop thinking about and i've already tried to make a list of pros and cons and it ends up being the same for both...plz help

alright well i personally would go with the girl you cant stop thinking about, you obviously have chemistry with her and if you go with the girl you just get along with you might find your self wishing you were with the girl you really like..hope i helped

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i always say i love you first to my bf and when we're like hanging up the phone if i dont say it then neither will he. how can i get him to say it without actually telling him to? or does this mean that he doesnt love me because he doesnt want to say it?

it sounds like your boyfriend is maybe a little shy but it depends how far you are in your relationship if you've only been going out maybe a month or so..and you were the first to say i love you he might feel obligated to say it back. I would talk to him and see how he feels and tell him that its something thats bothering you..hope i helped keep me updated

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so technically, im not having too many troubles.but i can never think about anything to talk about on the phone iwth my bf.we just started going out and on the phone, we're always silent.i get the feeling im makin him bored when i dont talk.we get into subjects every now and then but on for a few minutes.and im always thinking, "should i talk to him about my day?maybe i should ask him random questions?" and its so confusing.i hate my self for being shy

Okkay well i used to have the same problem..but i learned that you just have to relax and act like your talking to one of your friends yea i know it is really hard at first but its going to be at first ..be random...act silly and say wierd things and make up little inside jokes..once you guys break the ice and start talking about stupid stuff you'll be able to talk to him about things that really matter..dont feel like your boaring him if your not talking because its not like hes bringing up a conversation either..just relax..hope i helped :]] keep me updated;;good luck

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which is the best hairstyle for guys?

spiky,skinhead,mohawk,liberty spikes,ponytail,long metalhead,shaggy skater,emo combover,flat and short,center parted,side parted?

also,is there a difference between emo hair and skater hair?

like both styles usually cover the eyes,but i heard that skater hair is more flippy and messy,while emo is just covering the eyes but combed to the side and looks more "prepared" if you get what i mean.can someone pls help to clarify.

thanks for reading

kk well emo hair is usually like just long but really straight..but yea i thinnk skater hair is the cuutest but it depends what kind of hair you have soo yea

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This guy i like, ive known for years. I didnt start liking him until about 3 months ago. Hes really cut and funny and nice. Im afraid that if i tell him, it'll be awkward around eachother. Or worse, what if he gets freaked out by me!! I seriously need advice ASAP!!
-jANE

Okkay well i was just in the same situation i starting liking like my best guy friend. I was really nervose that if i told him it would make things awkward and that if he did like me back things between us wouldnt be the same. Soo I kinda of hinted it to him like that i liked him so i started flirting with him alot..he flirted back so i kinda had an idea that he liked me too but i still wasnt sure..soo i asked afriend to ask him if he liked me and he said yea, and now were going out..yea sometimes it is pretty wierd like in the beggining cause i was like kissing and holding hands with my bestfriend and i was like wow..is this really happening haha but yea i would try it..keep me updated.hopefully everything works out :]] hope i helped!!

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What is everyone's favorite songs?
I need to add more songs to my ipod, since it was stolen. List about 5 of your favorite songs, with teh artist. please? Thanks!

uhm..
theres a good reason these tables are numbered honey, you just havent thought of it yet--Panic! at the Disco

Everything I'm Not --The Veronicas

Breakdown and Hey there Delilah --Plain White T's

Irreplaceable --Beyonce

I'm not missing you --Stacie Orrico

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