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I fell in love this year. We were together for a while, but he wasn't happy so he broke up with me. It's been 3 months, and I'm still not over him. People are like "try to get to know other guys" That doesn't work. None are interested at all. I'm extremely upset. I keep myself occupied with track and such, and it's not even like I have many friends to turn to, because they all tell me the same thing, since none of them have been through this before. What should I do? Please don't give me something stupid, I'm really hurting here.
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well moving on isnt something that happens over night you have to make sure your really ready to let go. but untill you are its okay to think about him and miss him theres nothing wrong with that he had a big piece of your heart and obviously still does. so dont throw yourself at every guy trying to replace him because then your just forcing yourself to see how impossible he is to replace. and then when your ready you'll meet someone knew and hopefully then you'll be able to give your heart away to this new guy;; hope i helped <33
alright i already answered this ? but after i did i found this thing and my magazine for you
start small--
ine day this week take yourself off the market and do whatever you want to do without even thinking about the guy relating ramifications will your outfit get his attention who cares you like it so your wearing it will more guys be at the skate part of the mall who cares you fgeel like lying out on your deck and reading a book by bedtime you'll realize that the day wasnt a total wash just because you didnt flirt with any guys and you'll remember how fun it is to tune into your random impulses and favorite habits without worrying about anyone else..aka your bf
reconnect with friends--
hanging out with your girls actually releases maegadoeses of oxytocin a bonding hormore in your brain that helps you feel connected sure you see your friends every day but its important to make time for those super intense sessions where you really talk to eachother about something other than boys so get dressed up and split appetizers and desserts at a chichi resturant and go ahead and order extra onions on your quesadillas- no boys to kiss tonight so its okay!
see guys as people--
of course you dont have to cut guys out of your life altogether your next step is to begin thinking of them as more than just date material start by giving your gull attention to whomever your talking to regardless of wheather its someone who could be a crush or someone you'd never consider going out with. now that your just simply being friendly you dont have to limit yourself to the guys that are your "type" and when you do meet someone you like which is bound to happen since youve gotton to know your senf bettwe and youve washed off the stink of desperation there is no reason the two of ou cant becomre better friends give it a few more weeks and if it turns out your really into him that is breaks over! when you feel like you want a bf rather than feeling like you need one its a good sign that your ready for love again So once your happy with your own like your next relationshop doesnt seem so stressful because you know if it doesnt work out you can still be content with yourself...
alright i really hope that helped because it took FOREVER to type lol so u better keep me updated <33
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Hey!
Don't worry you're in great hands. I know all the tricks for moving on.
This is a tough time for you, and you need to start slowly and move up to likeing other guys. Not the other way. You dont start by riding a two wheeler, you start with a trike right? Start slowly and move up to that phase.
So heres what you have to do, you start by keeping yourself busy, which you are doing. Good job, but you need to find something new. I mean by all means continue with track, but you need to find something totallystrange and new that you have never ever tried before, this will be like a landmark in the moving on process. With every achievement, its a stepping stone.
Then spend more time with friends and family. Try to set up a family movie night with your parents and siblings. Try to set a night each week where everyone goes to the mall as a group (with your friends). These types of things will help you to keep your mid off of him, and it will also help you to have fun with your friends. As soon as you feel yourself feeling down tell yourself that this is time to be happy, and you can mop around when you get home.
write about it. Get a journal and try to write regularly. Talk about your feelings as well as what you did that day. Write about anything because it will help you to get your feelings out and make sense of how you are coping with this situation.
Set goals for yourself. Make sure you have about ten and write them down. Also, beside each goal write what you are going to do when you achieve it. Like say you plan to clean your room once a week for six weeks straight. Then when you achieve that goal you are going to take two of your friends out for dinner. Then when you do, follow through with it. Make them Realistic, goals with realistic rewards.
After you follow through with those things, then you can start to find new guys. But if you get through all of that and you dont feel like you're moving on, let me know and I'll give you a few more tips.
I hope I helpped, I know this is tough for you, but you'll get through it, and if you want more help, let me know. Love ya,
Angie91
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I knw how you feel... There isnt really that much you can do since you cant help who you love. The only thing that can help is time. I think that you need to talk to your friends and tell them that you understand what they sre saying but that its not that easy and you would appreciate their support. And i have a suggestion about trying to get over him.... try goingout and hanging with some other guys.It doesnt have to be a date, all it would do is let you get to knw some new guys and see that there are more oppurtunities.. I really hope you feel better!!!
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