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Make things right
I use to gossip and back bite alot. and even tho i have said sorry to all those i have hrut i know they still hold it against me. im trying really hard not to do it agian. i want to make it up to all those people i hurt and gain back trust. how do i do that? FASTest way possible!? i am trying really hard now. the only thing is when i say sorry they say its fine but they dont eman it. they say stuff behind me about how i was!
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It can be very difficult to gain someones trust back after they have lost trust in you but i think you should maybe call or im them and try to be as sincere as you can and really mean what you say..also it would hurt to add that you felt really bad about it and say something like your really trying to change..hope i helped :)
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Trust is a very fragile thing. Can take a lifetime to gain it and the blink of an eye to lose it. Getting it back from someone whos trust you've betrayed makes it all the more harder because it then becomes very hard to trust that person again.
You have seen that you were wrong though and have done all you can to fix this by saying you are sorry - there's not much else you can really do. People will talk, that's to be expected because it can be hard to leave the bad side of yourself behind. But in time that will change but for that to happen you have to change too which you've already taken the first step to doing. I'm afraid there's no quick ways to gain back trust though. It will take time and you may have to put up with some nasty stuff (people thinking twice about wanting to tell you anything and stuff) but show that you can be trusted and are sorry for everything you did and eventually you will get your chance to prove you have changed.
I think everyone deserves a second chance so you should be given one too and I hope that your friends will give you that chance since you seem to have learned from your mistakes.
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Its hard to earn back trust once its been lost. If you have already apologized, there is nothing else you can do. Be extra nice, and never gossip/be mean again. The littlest thing can make a person think you dont hold your promises.
Write a letter to each person. Portray how truly sorry you are, and name reasons why you are sorry (such as I lost your trust and our friendship slipped) and make a promise that you will be the best person and friend you can possibly be instead of promising never to do it again. Tell them how it hurts you when they talk about you behind your back (now you understand how they might have felt) and you just want to make things right. Hopefully your friends will appreciate the gesture, and start to gain your trust back. Time heals all wounds.
Good luck!
-Abby
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