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Heyyy, I'm Mary:)
I've been on here for over four years--Ask me anything, and I'll try my best to help you out. :)

Alpha female, always tries her hardest, analyzes the situation too much, overthinks what the other person says, tries to please others, stresses easily, high achiever, loooooves to laugh. I'm still learning the facts of life, but I can always share my mistakes and lessons learned. :)

I'm always willing to listen/lend a helping hand. Inbox me and I will be sure to get to you as soon as I can.

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Hi everyone,

My hair is somewhat dry and has split ends at the end of my hair. I straighten it almost every day because if I dont I become a giant ball of frizz and hideous waves. Does anyone know of any products that could help me moisturize my hair and conceal split ends? I heard Biosilk is very good. I'm trying to avoid cutting my hair since I want to grow it long for the summer.

Thank you =)
Jacki

I use biosilk AFTER I straighten my hair to make it look smooth and silky...but what you want to use is CATWALK! ((you can get it at Tony&Guy or Trade Secret, etc)) I promise you..It works WONDERS! I used to straighten my hair all all all the timeeee! no kidding..every single day. Because of that, I got split ends on every strand of my hair..but then I started using Catwalk (Fashionista-Smooth & Shine) after I took a shower/then blowdry/then straighten..I got amazinggg results! However if I were you, I would get your split ends trimmed first so you could have a head start when you start using the catwalk (price: around 15 dollars a bottle..but it's worth it!)

*Hope I helped!*

dude someone just asked a really mest up question on my account about being fat and wearin tight clothes,it wasnt me, what should i do?

Tell dangernerd that they're spamming..that way, he can warn/ban them. :)

hey i was just nairing my arms and i think i got a burn on them..is that even possible.

p,s= i only had it on my arms for like 4 minutes

Yes it's possible..aghh I hate Nair! It burns so bad. But if you like it, then you should follow the directions on the box..that way, next time, you won't get burns.

ok i am not one of those girls who cares about there wieght but i was just wondering is 127 over wieght even if i am really really muscular and i am 5ft and 8in o and i am 13/f
i rate really high

No, no that's not bad at all. That's actually perfect for someone your height. :)

Please do not delete Im honestly 100% want to know this.
Do you believe in Aliens?
Life on other planets, Aliens.
Thank you.

I don't believe in aliens. I think that idea is just silly. However, there may be growing bacteria, etc. on other planets..you never know. :)

My grandpa died about one year ago, and the only time I cried about it is when i recieved the news on the phone. Not even at the funeral/wake..=\. But it's sort of hard to believe that I didn't because I used to have a diary and i wrote about how close i was to him and how much i loved him and such. Now for the past few days, all I have been doing is crying about him because I miss him so much. I mean i can't even watch certain shows on tv anymore because we used to watch them together, and songs that sing about relationships make me cry. My question is, why am i just starting to miss him and crying now? What should I do? This is the first time i've cried about him being gone.
Thanks for any advice. And btw, I dont have any other grandparents, and my parents and i arent that close so i cant get help from them. Thanks.

I think this is totally normal...maybe your grandfather's death is just now hitting you.

It's ok..grief is a part of the process..even if it comes one year later.

Just try to get all of your emotions out.
Try talking to your counselors/your close friends, etc.

Sorry for your loss
and I hope I helped.

i recently went to the optometrist and he said i should wear my contacts less but i hate wearing my glasses as they make me really self comsious. if my eyes are getting worse what makes a difference if they get worse a bit faster? why are glasses better than contacts except for infections?

I wear contacts!...and I also have a pair of glasses :) I usually wear contacts because it doesn't get in the way of anything..and you don't feel like you have something on your face..lol! However, when I get home from school and usually on the weekend (if I'm not going anywhere) I wear my glasses. Contacts make your eyes suffocate :)..uhh well if you wear them for a long time..(which I don't because it's really annoying when it dries up and aaahh..you know what I mean))

As for your question, I would listen to your optometrist because after all, he knows best. :) You don't want to be wearing bifocals soon, do you?
Here is a site that tells you the bad habits you should DEFINETELY avoid when wearing contacts::

http://www.tsogalveston.com/contacts/badhabits.html

It will help you alot.

Glasses are better than contacts because your eyes aren't being shielded by a round piece covering your eyeball all day.

And you don't want your eye sight getting anymore worse because that would really suck..because theeennnn you would get like bifocal glasses soon..and that's not very pretty. :)

Alot of the time I wish I could me more glamourous; more well-liked; more respected. I guess you could say popular.
Not like the bad popular, I just want more people to like me. I have a bunch of friends but I want to be friends with everyone. Not just a few cliques. I want to be self-confident; A girl all the guys like; a girl that would make a great friend; a girl thats always got plans to be with someone. I hate being alone and unliked. Anyone got any ideas?

First off...even if you're not confident, ACT confident...but not conceited! If you act like you're confident, you will soon BE confident..
I know it sounds confusing but trust me. It works!
Makeup can go a loonnnggg way. If you don't already wear makeup, maybe start wearing like a bit of eyeliner, etc.
Be FRIENDLY! Everyone loves a friendly person :) But don't overdo it.
Compliment the people you want to be friends with; Find something you have in common with them.
I know all of this is easier said than done, but try it.

Here are what some good friends should be like:

*are good at giving compliments without going overboard
*go around with a pleasant expression on their face
*laugh at people's jokes
*are kind
*ask, not demand, to join in
*offer to help others with work or carry things
*invite people to do something
*hang around places where other students are
*are welcoming to new students
*are good at thinking of something interesting to do
*are willing to share

No one wants to be "alone and unliked." I'm sure you aren't...but with a boost of confidence, and a great smile, you'll have 93584976843 in no time! haha..not really..but somewhere close to there. :)

Here's a site on how to make friends OR reconnect with old ones:

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa090900c.htm

im in love with the james blunt song "you're beautiful" does anyone know other songs by him?

OMGGG I love that song, too! I heard it on Beauty& the Geek last night...it's so cute!

Here's a link with the list of his songs:

http://www.google.com/musicl?lid=HzIrEI6MmgM&aid=-jDzrDyU3f

Hope I helped!

Is it underweight for a 5"2 13-year-old girl to be 87 lbs?

You are emaciated. Consult your doctor or dietitian!

just incase you didn't know..

emaciated:

To make or become extremely thin, especially as a result of starvation.

www.am-i-fat.com/body_mass_index.html

whats..
WAY TO FAT!
FAT.
normal.
a little under normal.
skinny
to skinny

I really don't understand what you're talking about.
Do you mean--How is fat too fat? ((Even that doesn't make sense!))

OR..are you asking what is...(way too fat, fat, etc)

"Way too fat" is called obesity.
"Fat" is..I guess a little overweight
Normal is..normal?
Skinny is thin.
Too skinny is ultra thin?

This question is a BAD question.
Either you don't know how to spell OR you don't know how to speak English.

If you need help with weight loss/gain-I recommend Naimee.

Dell insperon 1200 Laptop.
Comcast Cable Internet
AOL Exploar && IE
Newest version of Aim 5.9 (5.9.123?)

OK Many many problems

When I try and watch a viedo. Mustic viedo or anytrhing on the internet the screen goes green (the video screen)

and on Aim, I cant display smileys, or file trnafers

No firewall is blocking it and i tried re installing all this stuff and it wont work

any ideas?

I have no idea but I recommend asking Dangernerd.
He's good with computer questions.

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why does everyone look at a teen having a baby like the end of the world for them. i mean i know its hard but I've seen tons of people work through it,and live successful lives. so its a challenge. but worse can happen. i mean if the person can be a good monther and somehow support herself and her child isnt that enough?

Yeah, I don't get why everyone is making such a huge deal.
It's HER decision.
It's not the end of the world for us---we're just trying to help her to understand the consequences and the responsibilities.

YES, if the person can be a good mother and somehow support herself&her child..then that should be enough. But at age 16, how can you really support yourself& another human being when you are trying to learn and grow yourself?

I think everyone should just backoff and let this 16-year old girl make her own decisions/mistakes.

My boyfriend has had dreams about us having sex lately. of course I'm not ready for that. I have to get on the pill first but I don't know if I really want to do it. He wants me to come over to his house. Yeah his room can be locked and well, it's kinda isolated from his house...and he's usually alone. We've been going out for almost a year. I'm just...afraid. He wants to make out with me in my underwear. What should I tell him or do?

Don't do it if you're not ready.
Don't get on the pill just to have sex with your boyfriend.
Also, if you're afraid..It's a sign that you're not ready.
Tell him how you feel.
If he TRULY cares about you, he won't force/persuade you to do anything you're uncomfortable with.

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when answering a question why does age play such a big factor. like for instance that 16/f that wanted a baby. i saw that everyone was like your too young,but who says that she wont make a great mother. and know one knows her living situation or money or anything.. it really doesnt say people just assume they know. it tells her to wait till shes 18. i bet there are 18 year olds out there that are much worse off than she is or wont be as good as of mother as she is. so maybe she is 16.. do you think we should just make assumptions about people like that? or would it better to know more about the person before answering?

It would be better if we knew more about the person but..we don't. It's wrong of people to jump to conclusions..but she is 16. I'm not surprised that people would tell her she's too young or immature..even if she isn't. She may be the most mature 16-year-old..or the complete opposite. We don't know..So wouldn't it be best if we gave her advice on what to do and try to influence her decision..(maybe she could change her mind)..INSTEAD of criticizing her..If you criticize, what good will that do? It'll only make her upset..and confused.
So the answer to your question::
Yes, I do think that people should put age aside and stop making assumptions. However, it's really hard to do that because most 16-year olds aren't ready for a baby..So I can understand why most people would want to convince her out of it.
Whatever she decides to do is her decision.

okay well this isnt a question but i wanted to thank you for what you said on that question about how to get through to people or whatever then talked about a 16/f wanted to be pregnant

well idk who that was.. but i think i might (not personally) and that whole preggo thing was about me and i think you told him/her good advice and sorta stood up for me

Aww no problem! Although I really don't think you should have a baby at a very young age, it is your decision to make.
I wish you the BEST of luck on whatever you decide to do.
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Ok guys, Im somewhat at a loss. Most questions on this website tend to be at least somewhat mundane. Stuff that, while it could be very important to the poster, isnt life threatening or seriously life altering.

However, every once in a while, we come to the ones that ask a question about something where they stand to screw either their own, someone elses, or both lives.

Case in point, Ive just answered the second question from a girl who is 16 and wants to get pregnant when shes single, living at home, and basically incapable of supporting herself, much less a baby.

Now, this is not the only example, just a very recent one. Worst of all, many of the questioners in these cases are completely opposed to opposing points of view. They are determined that theirs is the right course of action, and are determined to screw themselves and others in the process.

So, my question to the masses, is does anyone know how to get through to idiots like this? Does anyone even think its possible? Im asking mostly those 18 and up, anyone can respond but Im looking for viewpoints from people who are at least looking back at the high school perspective, not in the throes of it.

Thanks, and sorry for length.

-The Spirit Fox

Hey..Well, I'm not 18&up, but in my opinion,
I don't think you can tell anyone what to do on this website since we don't know their background...but we can help them and influence their decision.
On the question where the 16 year old girl asked how to tell her parents she wanted to have a baby, I responded by telling her about the responsibilities of parenthood.--The decision is hers to make.
All we can do is give advice and try to influence them..if they'll even listen. Whatever mistake they make, it's their mistake..not ours. We can't say we never warned them.

how do you make the heart things not like this

& hearts ; (without spaces!)

okay well i have something really big to tell my parents and im not sure how to tell them. well i really want to tell them that i want to have a baby (16/f) everyone says i should but i really dont get along with my parents.. well its not that we dont get along its just that we arent that close. should i tell them now or should i wait till have a bf that i have been dating for a while because i am currently single. i know eitehr way they are going to flip but i dont want to screw things up. so how do i tell them and when?

In my opinion, I think you should wait and tell them AFTER you get into a loving, committed relationship.

I am not here to talk you out of having a baby..because if that's what you really want..then go for it..BUT, you must know that it's not as easy as it seems.

"Though most teen girls are able to produce healthy babies, whether they do often depends on whether they receive adequate medical care - especially in those critical early months of pregnancy.
Teens who receive proper medical care and take care of themselves are more likely to have healthy babies. Those who don't receive medical care are at greater risk for:

**fetal death
**high blood pressure
**anemia
**labor and delivery complications (such as premature labor and stillbirth)
**low birth-weight infant" Source: http://kidshealth.org/parent/positive/talk/teen_pregnancy.html

Having a baby will CHANGE YOUR LIFE.--no more parties, drinking, smoking, hanging with friends, going to the movies, etc..etc..She/He will be YOUR LIFE.

Have you considered that having a baby means MORE RESPONSIBILITY..are you financially stable?

----Incase you've already thought this through, and you're 100% sure you're ready to have a baby at 16..then good for you..I really don't know anyone that is mature/stable enough to have a baby at this age.

How to tell your parents..There is no other way then sitting them down..and saying, "Mom, Dad, I want a baby.."..and then wait for their response.

I really hope you've thought this through. Having a baby isn't fun..especially when you're 16.

What happens if you take too many sleeping pills?

It can kill you..unless you're REALLY lucky..then you MIGHT get another chance at life.

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