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okay well i have something really big to tell my parents and im not sure how to tell them. well i really want to tell them that i want to have a baby (16/f) everyone says i should but i really dont get along with my parents.. well its not that we dont get along its just that we arent that close. should i tell them now or should i wait till have a bf that i have been dating for a while because i am currently single. i know eitehr way they are going to flip but i dont want to screw things up. so how do i tell them and when?
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well like you said you don't want to screw things up but either way you will no parent wants to her that there daughter wants a kid at the age of 16.so if you have a boyfriend and if you tell them that you want to have a kid "they'll think is she having sex and if so I don't want her to be going at with him."then you'll just make them wonder even more.so what I'm trying to say is just tell them right now since your single.be like mom,dad this might be a shock to ya'll but I wanna have a baby.I'm sorry but thats what I really want."tell then how you feel that you feel like something is missing and that having a baby might not make you feel as empty.just lie or if thats how you really feel then tell them.
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Whether you've considered it for a night or several years doesn't make it any better of a decision.
Everyone says you should? Odd.
You're currently single? Well, that makes the baby situation just a tad bit more awkward.
I'm not finished answering this question until YOU tell ME why you want to have a baby right now.
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"i cant just say why well i can but its one of those things that you just can explain"
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Well, good luck explaining your reasoning to your parents. "It's just one of those things" probably won't fly with them (just guessing).
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I personally think your too young to have a baby right now,are you sure this is what you really want i mean really?... well if you are then i would suggest, if you know your parents are gonna freak out then maybe you should move out and live on your own, then you'll experience paying rent,bills, and all the other things that come with being a grown up. If you can handle that and you still want to have a baby, then start dating more and i guess have your baby. BUT! at the very least give your self another year or two and see if you still want a baby ok?
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You want to have a baby? You 16.
Thats pretty insane my dear.
You could screw up your life with that stuff.
Its not an easy thing. You need to finsh school, and be old enough to support a baby. And your not even in love with somebody? How much of an unfair life would that child have?
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You want to have a baby, and you're 16? Wow. Personally, I think you should think about what you're doing and saying before you tell your parents anything. A baby is a HUGE responsibility. It would cost a lot of money to support the baby. Keeping a baby, going to school, and having a job would leave no time for friends. You're only 16, take your time to grow up..Don't rush it. You're only a teenager for so long. You've got all the time in the world to have kids.
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You tell them when you're living on your own, have a job earning enough money to support a child, have the emotional maturity to take care of another human being for 18 years, you're in a stable relationship with a guy who's going to stick around to take care of his child and generally when you are in a position to not have to answer to your parents anyway.
I'm willing to bet this is not the position you are in at 16. You'll regret it if your rush into it.
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I don't really think you're making the right desicion even though before I said to decide for yoursef. But anyway I think it would be better if you told them before you get a boyfriend. If you told then when you had one they would never let you see him.
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You're too young..besides you don't have enough money to support the baby.Trust me its ALOT harder and more expensive than you think. My 23 year old cousin has a hard enough time..just wait
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In my opinion, I think you should wait and tell them AFTER you get into a loving, committed relationship.
I am not here to talk you out of having a baby..because if that's what you really want..then go for it..BUT, you must know that it's not as easy as it seems.
"Though most teen girls are able to produce healthy babies, whether they do often depends on whether they receive adequate medical care - especially in those critical early months of pregnancy.
Teens who receive proper medical care and take care of themselves are more likely to have healthy babies. Those who don't receive medical care are at greater risk for:
**fetal death
**high blood pressure
**anemia
**labor and delivery complications (such as premature labor and stillbirth)
**low birth-weight infant" Source: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Having a baby will CHANGE YOUR LIFE.--no more parties, drinking, smoking, hanging with friends, going to the movies, etc..etc..She/He will be YOUR LIFE.
Have you considered that having a baby means MORE RESPONSIBILITY..are you financially stable?
----Incase you've already thought this through, and you're 100% sure you're ready to have a baby at 16..then good for you..I really don't know anyone that is mature/stable enough to have a baby at this age.
How to tell your parents..There is no other way then sitting them down..and saying, "Mom, Dad, I want a baby.."..and then wait for their response.
I really hope you've thought this through. Having a baby isn't fun..especially when you're 16.
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BEFORE YOU HAVE A B/F JUST MENTiON iT TO THEM MAYBE..JUST SAY SUMTHiN LiKE..WHAT WOULD YOU DO iF i HAD A BABY..OR i DONT KNOW..SUMTHiN LiKE THAT! EVEN THOUGH THEY WiLL FREAK OUT, iT iSNT THEiR LiFE!..BUT iF THEY REALLY DONT WANT YOU TO HAVE ONE, JUST WAiT UNTiL YOU ARE 18..BECAUSE YOU ARE A ADULT THEN..BUT THE REASON YOU SHOULDNT GET A B/F THEN TELL THEM iS BECAUSE THEY WiLL PROBABLLY MAKE YOU BREAK UP WiT HiM THEN..WELL i HOPE i HELPED SOME!- -<3 MO
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