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why does everyone look at a teen having a baby like the end of the world for them. i mean i know its hard but I've seen tons of people work through it,and live successful lives. so its a challenge. but worse can happen. i mean if the person can be a good monther and somehow support herself and her child isnt that enough?
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That has always been a question that bothered me. When a girl is youn (under 21) she is not mature and smart enough to know what is good for her let alone baby. I am not saying that she does not or will not love her baby, I am saying she has to figure out what decisions are right for her and work on that before rushing into making her childs life miserable.
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im not quite sure what your question is here, but im guessin its along the lines of "whats so wrong with teen pregnancy"?
older more mature people who "look at it like its the end of the world" are more shocked than appauled, simply because these types of things werent happening when they were in highschool, and even if they were, not NEARLY as often as they are these days, as the generations go on things change and the kids get more daring and experimental even faster. its every where in a childs life these days, so they dont see it as "wrong" as kids used to in the old days"
theres nothing wrong with it really, as long as you can control it and take care of the situation...if its going to make the parent/s drop out of school and devote thier whole life to the cild, then i dont think its a good trade off. but if the parent/s are able to manage school and taking good care of the child, and pull through all the hardships and tough times, then there is nothing wrong with it, and it prly just makes the parent/s even stronger.
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ya that is enough i think...but other people think that its a disgrace because the person is soo young and probably doesnt know what they are getting themselves in too.
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Being a mother as a teenager is difficult. That said however, being a mother is difficult and life changing at any age. If you as a woman who is pregnant want to raise this child and are determined to support both yourself and the child, then you should probably stick with your instincts and do just that. It is your body and your child, and if you can love this child and raise it, it shouldn't be up to anybody else whether you do so or not.
Of course it will be difficult, but it is not the end of the world or your life. You are not cursing your child to a terrible or more difficult life just because you give birth to it as a teenager. You might find it more difficult as a young woman than other mothers might, but it simply isn't the case that young mothers are always bad mothers. It is difficult being a young mother because you may not have completed your education, or be at a stage where you have a job that can easily support you and your child, and this may well mean you have to do extra juggling to keep yourself going, and rely on your immediate family more than older women might do, but if you can do that, there is no reason to think you won't be good enough just because you are young.
Have faith in yourself. It is difficult, but you are being brave and taking charge of your life, and you will get through this. All the best.
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yES THAT'S ENOUGH. AS LONG AS yOU LOVE yOUR KiD AND CAN SUPPORT HiM/HER THEN THEiR'S NO DiFFERENCE iN BEiNG 25 OR 14..OR HOWEVER OLD yOU ARE!! iT DOESNT MATTER WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THiNK..AS LONG AS yOUR BEiNG A GOOD MOTHER iT SHOULDNT MATTER.
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Hmm. Not everyone looks at a teen having a baby like the end of the world...because if they all did, then it wouldn't be happening as often as it is, whether it is intentional or not. For the sake of arguement, lets leave the age range to girls 13-17. To most, it doesn't seem like anyone that age would have experienced enough to raise a child of their own, when they are still in the middle of being raised...or maybe should be. Some may be capable to raise their own child and themselves at that age, as well as support themselves. Probably one of the problems that personally I do not like about that whole situation is the option of getting an abortion. To me thats wrong on too many levels, even though I am a guy and some girls think that guys have no say in it...but I won't get too into that.
Unfortunately, I can't answer for you if that is enough or not. Instead ask yourself, what would lets say...a 16 year old girl not have that say... a 26 year old girl would. For one, it would seem that for the most part, thats 10 more years of experience, but not necessarily good either. I would see it as too much for a teenage parent mentally and emotionally to handle that. Not just keeping up with their own life, but also that pressure of knowing that theres someone out there who is dependant on you. Then theres family...just them alone finding out and giving feedback on it might not always be too comfortable, whether its positive or not. People at school probably would put in their thoughts on the situation as well, which might end up being really rough. It could be...well actually definately will be stressful, at any age really. Besides, how do you know if you or anyone else will be a good mother or not? I guess you really won't until you are put through the test...and not just the first few years either, try maybe the first 21.
Sorry about going off topic...but as to why everyone sees things that way? Well I guess some is because of the media: the popular TV shows, magazine articles, talk shows, etc. Not all people who are older see us [teenagers] the way we see ourselves. For example a 21 yr old might see a 16 year old smoking the same way we would see an 11 year old smoking...sorry if that doesn't make sence. I guess most people just see it as something wrong, others see it as not right but not wrong either...and then other people just don't care. Hope that helped.
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If you're still in highschool, I don't care what you say, you do not have the means to support a child. Teenagers generally don't have the mental capacity to handle everything involved with childbirth. The rate of mothers of such a young age dying during pregnancy or the birthing process is much higher than if you were to wait. You need to go to school. If you don't finish highschool, you've barely got a chance to have a decent job. You may say "Well I can get a job after school", no, you can't. Not one that is going to support you and a child and you cannot depend on your parents for that.
If you're the same person that has been asking all of the questions about being 16 and having a baby, please stop. You've gotten your answers, and its polluting the database.
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Teenagers aren't supposed to have babies. Why can't they wait until theyre an adult?I dont think its fair to the child because teenagers can't give their babies what adults can.its not that far away it can wait.. its alot of money to support yourself (a teenager) and a baby.its tough.. buying diapers and formula every month, clothes, food for you, car payment, house payments, and not to mention all your time.its stressful, and hard work.
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Yeah, I don't get why everyone is making such a huge deal.
It's HER decision.
It's not the end of the world for us---we're just trying to help her to understand the consequences and the responsibilities.
YES, if the person can be a good mother and somehow support herself&her child..then that should be enough. But at age 16, how can you really support yourself& another human being when you are trying to learn and grow yourself?
I think everyone should just backoff and let this 16-year old girl make her own decisions/mistakes.
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A teenager being thrown into an unfortunate situation that they are not prepared for emotionally, finically or socially is just that, unfortunate. It is not the end of the world, and they could be certainly be a good mother. But the odds are against him or her, and more importantly, the odds are against their child.
That is why a teenager actively choosing to have a baby is perceived as an act of complete selfishness, one that totally disregards anyone's feelings or opinions but their own, and one that will forcibly drag an innocent child through difficulties that are unnecessary. If a person truly wished to support and raise their child you would think they would wait until the best possible time, when they would best be able to provide for the child, and not just have one because they want one now.
Someone who is more obsessed with their own interest in having a child, rather then being able to give the best to that child, is being selfish, and will be disappointed with parenthood, which is a fundamentally selfless pursuit.
Accidents happen, and people do their best, and sometimes their best is really good, and often it's not. When you are a teen parenthood is a gamble, and who would choose to gamble when their child is involved?
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Why is fucking everybody fucking acting like that one girls post is a big fucking deal.
get the fuck over yourselfs && ask real questions.
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A lot of teen mothers DON'T know how to deal with it and they aren't very good mothers. I'm not saying all of them, I'm not even saying the majority of them. But for many people, it can ruin their life. Say you are working realy hard to get a scholarship because your parents can barely afford to pay your college tuition. Then you get raped and end up pregnant. It's not really the end of the world, if you can rise above it and start out fresh, but it sure seems like it. And some people don't know how to start out fresh. One thing happens and then another and they end up having to be prostitutes just to feed their children. Or maybe the teen in question doesn't really have the greatest parents, and they'll flip out and kick her out of the house and have nothing to do with her if she ever got pregnant. It's a very emotional thing, to be pregnant, and it's worse when you're still basically a child yourself. I don't blame them for feeling like it's the end of the world.
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it deffinetely is . i dont know why people make big deals about it either .
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