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I had unprotected sex on December 23rd. He ejaculated already once before with oral sex and he ejaculated after he pulled out from sex. There's always a chance of pregnancy after unprotected sex, I'm aware of that but my question is how accurate will a pregnancy test be after these 3 days have passes since intercourse? (link)
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It won't be very accurate.
I think it's about two weeks after you have sex you take the test.
If you're not looking to get pregnant, I'd suggest getting on birth control and using condoms.
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I feel like there are a lot of things that I want to articulate but it is so much. I want people to understand my feelings and experiences so I can get the best advice. Well I guess I will start and say I was abandon as a child, I was mostly raised by my grandma. Unfortunately, I experienced some traumatic experiences. Fast forward to today I live with my mom and I know at times its been unhealthy. In addition, she does not want to acknowledge that she abandon me and she has expresses that she does not want to hear about the traumatic stories. Today, I am someone who still struggle with her self-esteem because I did not get that unconditional love from my mom. My mom has attack my personality and looks. I know I am a beautiful person inside and out but there are scars my mom has created with her criticisms. I am someone who aspires to be someone "BIG" but at times I think I am completely unrealistic. I try to figure how to better myself and maybe I can't to that until I get away from my mom. I love my mom, she is not all bad but I realize that she is not ready to acknowledge the things she has done and it upset me and sometimes I become angry. Right now, our relationship is better but I am still fragile from the things she has said and done. I have tried to talk to her several times but I am not heard. I know that she is not ready so I probably won't tell her how I feel until later on in life. So how do I begin to heal from the trauma (every time I think about it I cry and I become angry). How do I love myself (since my mom could not show love). How do I believe in myself when my mom never seemed to. (link)
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I took a class in college called personal growth. My teacher did talk a lot about things like this.
Your mom may never come around to the things she did and how she has hurt you. I think you need to move on from all of this, it will be hard.
Go to therapy. It's not for crazy people or anything, but it will help you deal with this because you won't be able to do it on your own.
How do you begin to heal from the trauma? Go to therapy. If you don't like the therapist, look for a different one. Find the right one for you.
How do you love yourself? Self love is important. It's not about who loves you. Parents are a big deal but you're older now and even though some really bad things happen, you can't blame your past anymore. Same with believing in yourself, you can't blame your mom for this anymore.
This was something my teacher talked a lot about.
First, you need to challenge your inner critic. It's all in your head. It's the voice in your head that says you're not good enough.
There's a term called the inner parent. It refers to the attitudes and beliefs we have about ourselves and others that are a direct result of things we learned from our parents. As we move through life, we tend to internalize messages we received from parents.
Anyways, you need to challenge your inner critic.
Being bombarded with harsh messages from parents can leave an impression on us, making it difficult to develop healthy self esteem.
One step is to notice things you do and avoid doing and ask yourself why. One example, suppose you avoided enrolling in a college class because long ago you categorized yourself as "not smart enough" You might tell yourself that you would never be able to pass the class, so why try? Instead of stopping at this obstacle, you challenge yourself. "Who says I'm too stupid? Even if my teachers have told me I'm too slow, is it really true? Why have I accepted this view of myself? Let me check it out and see for myself" Using this type of thinking, you'll begin to change your self perceptions.
So take care of yourself and learn to love yourself. Go to therapy and you'll see big changes.
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My boyfriend at the time and I were having sex, used a condom, but cummed twice in one session. I checked the cobdom to see if it would leak but it didn't. This was on November 2nd. I don't remember when I had my period last but it was weeks before that date. Now it's two plus months later and I still don't have my period. I have no signs of pregnancy. And my period is never on time. Am I just worrying to much (link)
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Well you said your period is never on time and it's been two months.
This might not be pregnancy, but there is something going on that you need to get checked out.
I'd first take a pregnancy test, make sure you're not pregnant. Then go see a gynecologist and get checked out and fix your problem.
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Me-23/F
Boyfriend-25/M
I took an at home pregnancy test which I purchased from a local drug store, which tested negative.
Around that time out of fear and wondering what was going on with my body, I decided to speak to my boyfriend's mother who I THOUGHT would be accepting and understanding. My sister was telling me one thing and my brother's boyfriend's girlfriend was telling me something else, they are both in their twenties so I thought that I would speak to someone older to see if they could shed light.
I chose this woman because the two of us have had such a great relationship in the past and she has been there for me many times. She texted me back, telling me that I was probably pregnant or there was something off with my cycle.
From that point on, she suggested that I get an abortion because my boyfriend and I are not financially ready and are both still in school, but told me that it was up to me.
After taking the test I went to an urgent care clinic, where a doctor saw me who gave me yet another urine test which tested negative. She suggested that I take a blood test to find out whether or not I am pregnant because she said that it is much more accurate.
I texted my boyfriend's mother with what the doctor had said, and she wanted to know the results of the blood test right away. I explained to her that it would take a while for me to find out, that it was lab work and that I would not know right away.
So the chances are very low that I am actually pregnant but it does not stop my boyfriend's mother from basically forcing an abortion on me. In her words, we cannot raise the child because none of us are financially ready and giving the child up for adoption (even though she gave a son or adoption 35 years ago, who she regrets giving birth to). Not only did she try to make up our minds for us, but she said that she hopes that I am not pregnant so that "WE" (my boyfriend, his mother, and I) do not have a decision to make.
Her perspective is that we can make any decision that we want but that she doesn't want her son to screw up his life. I am leaning towards accepting the pregnancy and raising the child, which I think is the best decision for me and my boyfriend. Every option seems to have a double-edged sword, but even though my family will probably kill me when they find out I know that by the time the baby's born that my boyfriend and I will have a place to go, as long as we get married (which we have talked about doing anyway).
I have no idea what my boyfriend thinks about this. But am I being unreasonable by strongly disagreeing with her, how do I get her to accept my decision and to realize that her son is a grown adult and she cannot make such a decision for him?
This all started because I asked my boyfriend if he wanted me to tell his mom the test results, or if he wanted to. He just said "don't tell her anything," as if this something that is just going to go away.
(BTW, if I am pregnant I think that my boyfriend would have conceived the child sometime in November. He only has one more semester of college left, and has experience as an accounting intern and I do not doubt that he is going to find a job in his chosen field.) (link)
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She needs to realize that this isn't her choice to make. It's not her baby.
Everyone will have an opinion. But your opinion is what matters. If you continue to update her, just let her know that you'll think about all options and you'll choose what you think is best for you.
I'm not sure what other advice you're looking for or if you were just looking for a place to vent.
I'm sure you've thought a lot about all your options and that you will make the right choice for you.
I also think that if she keeps trying to pressure your decision, that you should let her know that you will think about all options. And if she keeps doing it, I'd stop updating her and stop talking about the subject with her.
This might be why your boyfriend told you not to talk to her about it. That maybe he knew her opinions already and knew she would try to get too involved. Sometimes people don't need to get involved with something so personal, especially so soon and you don't even know if you're pregnant yet. Because it can definitely make you more stressed.
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My girlfriend of almost a year is the girl I want to and am planning to spend the rest of my life with.Shes perfect to me. But here's the thing, when we met she had a boyfriend, a fat, immature, poser(he's white and says the n word,wears a SnapBack,says eminem is the only good rapper alive,etc...).I convinced her to break up with him and we fell in love.Now I lost my virginity to her but she lost it to him.When I imagine that guy on top of her, I get insecure,mad,sad,jealous,etc..She says she regrets it,I believe her but still. Now the other day she told me this guy we both know was hitting on her and I laughed about it...then she told me "have you seen him in sweatpants ,looks like he has a 3rd leg or a really big water bottle in there.." Ever since then I haven't been able to look at her out of jealousy and insecurity, I mean why would she tell me that,was that really necessary,I'm confident with my size but it's not a damn 3rd leg.... So how do I get over it and just move on?plz help (link)
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I'm going to start off saying that I don't think it's right that you're holding her past against her.
It doesn't matter what kind of guy he is, he's in the past.
Some jealousy is normal, but it shouldn't be something that goes to an extreme or something that you always think about.
I don't think it's wrong of her to joke about that either. I think she's comfortable enough with you to tell you things like that. I mean obviously if she wanted him, she wouldn't make a joke about him.
If you don't want her making comments like that, then talk to her about it. You don't need to point fingers at her or tell her that she's in the wrong, just tell her that it's a preference for you and you don't enjoy hearing comments like that.
I read over Dragonflymagics advice and I liked it. I think you need to find where this jealousy is stemming from and if it's just because you're insecure and not confident enough yourself or if there's actually a good reason to be jealous.
The only good reason I can think of is that you said you convinced her to break up with her ex. So maybe you feel like she can easily be swayed. But if you know she's not that kind of girl, then you need to work on this yourself.
Because her comment about another guy isn't a reason to get like this unless you're insecure about yourself. And if you are insecure, then this is something that you need to work on yourself and not be holding it on her for this.
You do seem like a good guy and if you love her, don't hold her past against her. You obviously don't want to feel this way so just work on yourself and your insecurity and it'll go away.
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me and my ex are thinking of dating again but i kinda dont think its goin to happen any more cuz i told him he wasnt a gentleman and he got really pissed of and he said to forget about hugging and kissing him and i told him i was sorry over txt ,he wouldnt txt me back and i tried calling him but he didnt pick up and i really need some help on figuring out how to get him to not be mad at me and forgive me (fyi i dont actually think hes not a gentleman)please respond asap thank you (link)
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Did you guys break up because you told him that you don't think he's a gentleman?
Or was this after?
If you guys broke up over this, then he's not worth getting back together with because he gets upset over small things that shouldn't be the cause to end a relationship.
If this was after you guys broke up, just let him cool off. To be honest, I still think she shouldn't get pissed off over you just saying he's not a gentleman. If I was a guy and a girl told me that, I'd want to know why she didn't think I was a gentleman and then change that and fix it, not get mad and ignore her.
Ignoring someone is immature. But you guys are both still young and still learning. But I wouldn't even bother with a guy who was ignoring me, especially over something like this.
Either way, you've already apologized. The ball is in his court now.
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I'm 20 and I've never been kissed or even asked out. A few times guys have kind of joked about asking me out, but never clearly sincerely. being honest with myself, i'm not unattractive or anything, and i'm literally nice to everyone - it's in my nature, i'm not being fake. so i don't know what i could be doing wrong, or what's putting guys off. when i was younger i'd even go on random internet group chats and guys would often hit on me.. but how is that really different from random guys catcalling on the street, which also feels a bit creepy. i don't know.. i never saw this future for myself. even my mom dated when she was in high school, and here i am, in college, without even having been on a date. i'm not a prude at all, too, so i'm just lost at what could be the cause of this. i wish it didn't bother me, but it does. it's truly bothered me since about 17 or 18, when i was like... wait a minute. i used to eat up teen romance novels and now they are the death of me, cause they just appear unrealistic, as i can't relate to them, whatsoever. any advice? not sure what i'd do without this site, cause i find my problem very embarrassing. (link)
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It's most likely because there was no opportunity or the guys that like you aren't the guys that you like.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. And it's not like you're really old and never been kissed either.
I mean if you want to improve yourself, go for it. But don't change yourself around to get a guy. As long as you're happy with who you are, you're fine.
Plus there are lots of girls out there who don't have the best looks or have the best personality and they've been kissed. Then there are tons of pretty girls and girls who have amazing personalities who haven't been kissed either.
So I think it's just because the opportunity hasn't presented itself to you.
Don't worry and don't stress out about it.
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I know all the girls find me cute I don't think there is any that don't and my best friend said to me He had a crush on the college tutor and I took her away from him becuse I could and it was lose my best friend or keep the girl so I left him for the girl so them I wrote out my Christmas cards but only to the good looking girls nobody else but people seemed to be offended by it (link)
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Yeah you do.
You said you took away the college tutor that your friend liked just because you can.
You chose a girl over a friend. So yeah, you don't care about people. You don't care about your friends.
You seem to be a little too obsessed with getting girls? It doesn't seem like you are a real friend.
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I am a 17 year old girl, a senior in hs now and all through high school I have liked guys and everytime I have liked a guy I'd end up getting jealous at other girls they would talk to, and I would beat myself up for not being good enough for those guys and that I would never be able to compare to another girl, I'd never be number one if someone better came along. And I have grown tremendously learning that I am better than that and if they cannot see my worth then they are not worth my time...but I still have issues. I've been friends with this guys for more than a year now, and he is like my best friend. I have never thought of him more than a friend till recently, at the end of last year..and I have been convinced by other people and his behavior that he likes me too.. although I have been denying it and giving him every benefit of the doubt that hes just a nice boy lol. I used to be creeeped out at the thought of him liking me..and now thats just what I want. But I'm afraid if he doesnt like me im just going to get hurt and feel so stupid. And I have this gorgeous friend that he just started talking to and now I'm scared he is going to start liking her. And I just feel so bad about myself because its like I am never good enough and I know if he starts liking her its going to break my heart. And I just want to know why I can't just love myself and why I always have to go to guys to get attention and why I feel so damn shitty. I try loving myself and I do but then a guy comes along and treats another girl like he likes her or another girl thats better comes along and gets me worried and I just feel awful and I don't know what to do. sorry if this didnt make sense but please help ah (link)
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Before you try dating, you need to learn to love yourself. Because you won't be happy in a relationship when you don't love yourself or have much confidence. The guy will get sick of having to always reassure you that the girl he talked to is just a friend and things like that.
Guys don't want a insecure, jealous girlfriend.
You need to accept your flaws, accept that you aren't perfect and you'll never be perfect. Then you need to learn to love yourself and everything about you.
Because believe it or not, there are girls out there who will lean on a guy and depend on them for their self worth. That if a guy doesn't like them, they'll start thinking worse of themselves. Or they depend on their boyfriend to give them self confidence.
You need to depend on you and only you.
Everyone has their moments where they feel insecure but you can't let it always be that way.
I used to be this way too. I always needed to be talking to a guy to feel good about myself. And if I didn't have a guy, I'd feel like crap. But I put an end to that and I'm happy and love myself.
Now I'm annoyed when girls get jealous of girls their boyfriend or crush is talking to. It's even worse when they start hating on that girl because she's pretty and starting hating on themselves.
So don't be like that, don't go chasing guys until you've built yourself up.
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Please help me. I'm currently engaged to a man I've been with for 2 years but I really feel like I'm settling. I'm 20 and we've been engaged since I was 19, I met him at right after I turned 18 so I barely dated.
I feel like I want so much more out of my life and that if we ever get married I'll be settling for less than I dreamed of. Even our engagement although sweet was just "okay" in a discount hotel I paid for followed by a normal day at the beach. He fell asleep during dinner at a Carrabba's, I didn't even get to eat my food. Nobody acted surprised, it wasn't like I imagined where our parents cried out of happiness or where my friends were excited. I loved my ring at first but now I've found out bill collectors are coming after him for the money on it and it makes me sick now because it wasn't even a grand.
We live in a somewhat nice apartment. We struggle with money though even with a roommate. I want to move for better opportunity and he doesn't. Last time we went out of town he told me he didn't have enough money to pay for our dinner and so I had to make an excuse to cancel the order.
This isn't what I want with my life but we've been through a lot together and I do love him but everything is getting so old and I can predict everything he does before he does it. He's sweet to me and he's a good man but everything just feels "okay" there's no romance or whirlwind of emotion. I never feel wowed or amazed. Just okay.
I met a guy a few months ago just for a business dinner and we got along so well. He didn't know I was engaged because it was just business between companies and he didn't know me before. He told me later on how much he liked me though and that he really wanted to see me again. He's recently messaged me again wanting to see me and hoping to get back in contact with me and I think I want to see him too. I know he makes really good money, has a luxury car and a beautiful home. I feel like it would be stupid of me to say no and pass up the chance to a better life seeing as my current situation isn't the best.
Where do I go from here? Should I just go to dinner with him again and see how we both feel before deciding to really break things off with my current S.O.? What do I do? I don't want to throw everything here away if it was just some kind of wonder of something better. (link)
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You don't want this, so end it. You just sound like you're settling.
Don't go to dinner with him while you're still engaged.
I think you need to take care of yourself first before trying to find someone.
I don't know if you've gone to college, but if you haven't, you should. If you struggle with money in that area, there are grants and scholarships to apply for.
Because to me, it sounds like you're just looking for material things. It isn't bad, but it seems like you're looking for a man who can supply you with all those luxury things, when you shouldn't be depending on a man to do that and instead, get it for yourself.
It's not really love when you're saying "I feel like it would be stupid to say no and pass up the chance to a better life seeing as my current situation isn't the best."
So end the engagement, and go take care of yourself.
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here's my situation, when i started the 11th grade. i. met this boy named jean. jean is an honor student and a working man. i have school community service with him.every day . since ive gotten adjusted to seeing him every day we became friends. He very handsome and such a gentleman. i told him a month ir two later that i liked him he said " your pretty too" so i was happy all my friends said we should date so i am like hey what can go wrong. we flirted.for a few days and i felt like.he was taking to long to make the move so i made it. i wrote him a small letter expressing my.feelings ( and again this us all happening on Facebook because when were in school he always surrounded by his guy friends or female friends (alot of female friends 😭😭😭😭😓)) after i sent him the letter he said this "😍😍😍 you made my year but i wish we could be more than friends if it wasn't for my job skedual and school " ofcorse i was crying after that but then i got over it pretty fast. the following week were flirting again then he tells me he has somthing to tell me on Monday and im going like so im here waiting for the weekend to end because i though he was going pop out the question even all my friends but when i get to community service he not there but he comes the. last min . i ask him what he had to tell me but he rush out without saying a word i texted him on Facebook and he said " if you guess my favorite color then ill give you a prize " i am mad at this point so i played his little game and never won my prize. my friends say to keep trying so i made the move AGAIN . for the third time , i asked him on q date he said yes . i asked him 200 times are you seriously going through with this and he said yes as long as im paying. out date is set for two weeks from now and is either going be at a park or a botanical garden ( it pretty cold in New York) .
the moral of my.question is , Do you guys think he really like me? for a boy who rejected or as we teens say Dub (is like another word for rejection) more than once thens agree to go on a date thats pretty frustrating. (link)
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So Dragonflymagic broke down all the steps there is to dating, getting to know someone, and eventually a relationship.
Like she also said, guys can change their mind.
He seems a least a little bit more interested in getting to know you and dating you to get to know you.
But also remember that if you keep pestering him about the date and if he's really going through with it, it might turn him off and he won't be interested.
And who knows what's going on with his little game. Maybe he was just playing around trying to have a light conversation with you and you took it seriously that you'd really get some sort of prize. Or like Dragonflymagic said, he might want to try to get to know each other some more and is trying to somehow start it by mentioning his favorite things.
Just be cool about the whole thing, keep is casual and just see if you guys have things in common and if your personalities mix well.
If he's not interested after that, then you know it's time to move on.
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Hello,
Am writing to ask you all for advice. I met a guy while ago. From the first date I knew he's the one and I felt like he thinks like this too. He treats me like a princess, takes care of me , comes to visit me in my city spends weekends with me. Unfortunately, he came 2 days ago to see me, We went for lovely dinner had few drinks and than he said to me '' I know you have feelings'' I pretend that I dnt know what he's on about but than he said '' i think its the last time we should meet cause u have feelings and I will go to Scotland for 2 years and I do not want u to suffer and i dnt want to suffer , also I am happy single'' than i tried not to cry we went home were lyin in bed than the topic started again. I admitted that ya I do start to have feelings he said that Im better off without him. Was crying all night and he was huging me saying he will miss me and all. In the morning when I woke up was crying again while he was kissing me hugin and than suddenly i saw he was crying too. He said he really likes me and if we continue it his heart will be broken when he leaves, but he still wants to meet me and spend the last few weeks together eventhough it will hurt both of us. Later on he asked me '' would you be happy if I propose to u'' and i just took it as joke but he seemed upset ( but before he said he wants to b single!! ) Since than I dnt know what to do I know he has to go for college and all, but I would like us to be together and I know he has feelings too but just cause he has to go he said it all. Please help me what can I do ;((( I really care bout him so much and it hurts thinking that he will go away soon ;(
Now I am really worried... I wrote to him this morning got a message back but since dan I didn't get any respond :( Normally we were writing all the time even when he was at work ( like today). Any idea what is going on? is it possible that he just try to stay away from me or is it just dat he's busy ;((( (link)
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I think you need more communication about what's going to happen because he's giving mixed signals.
Because at first he said he's happy being single, then he asked "Would you be happy if I proposed to you?" But to be honest, it sounds like he said that just so you wouldn't be sad and not for the right reasons. More like pity and he feels bad for you.
So I think you guys need to have a real conversation with each other. Ask him what he really wants, if he doesn't want to continue what you two have going on, you should probably end it now and you can start moving on sooner.
Do your best not to cry if he says he doesn't want to be with you. Because it'll just make him feel bad and you'll probably just get what happened before. And right now, you just need honest answers.
I believe he has feelings for you, but maybe not enough to continue a long distance relationship.
You'll have to talk to him and find out.
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I was in a long distance relationship for almost six months. (I am pretty young, so that seems like a decent amount of time for me.) We were completely in love with each other, and he (we'll call him Henry) even came all the way from Indiana to visit me in Cali for a week. After fighting constantly over stupid things said and done, Henry broke up with me. He made it clear that he definitely wanted to start dating again after I matured a bit. I was heartbroken, but I was so hopeful that he would come running back in less than a month. Two months went by and he still hadn't asked me out again - or even talked to me at all. I decided to move on. I started dating a new guy who lives less than a mile away from me! He (we'll call him Jack) has liked me since sixth grade (i'm in high school now). I am exceptionally happy in this relationship, but I simply cannot get over Henry. Even though I never actually see or talk to him, I think about and cry over him almost everyday. I can't decide if I should ditch Jack, my current loving, compassionate, and "best friend forever" boyfriend, and sit here waiting patiently for a boy halfway across the country.... or I can stay with my current boyfriend (Jack) and try my best to forget Henry. Keep in mind that I believe I truly love both of these lovely people. Of course, there are so many details I can't list because of the character limit, but I stated the main ideas. :/ thank you! (link)
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I think you should take a break from dating. I believe you do love both of them and care about both but it's not fair to your current boyfriend if you're missing another guy and cry over him.
So don't go running back to your ex. But you also need to take a step back and give yourself more time to get over him.
It takes different amounts of time for each person to get over someone. You didn't give yourself enough time so you need to do that now.
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I met a guy online at a dating site. He only has 1 pic and barely anything on his profile. He pm me 2 weeks ago. We started talking and he only told me the basic things about him. I would tell him about my day and recent stuff going on in my life. He gave me his # and said we should text. I told him I want to wait. To get to know him more. I feel like he's holding back on me. He got offended. Told me he had a crazy ex stalking him that's why he doesn't want to put too much on his profile. He said he wanted something serious/long term and said if I want the same text him b/c he's not coming back on the site.
I'm being cautious b/c you never know who you're talking too. I feel like he's manipulating me by making me feel bad and give him my #. Got any advice on what I should do? (link)
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He could be telling the truth, but it's good that you want to be safe.
Don't text him until you're ready.
Plus if you feel like he's trying to make you feel bad, he might not be the right guy to date.
There are tons more guys on that site that are willing to wait to get your number. Some girls don't want to give out their number to random guys and that's fine.
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I love this girl nd m finding it difficult to lure her into my bedroom (link)
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When she's ready you won't have to "lure" her to your bedroom.
She'll willingly have sex with you without feeling pressure.
So just get to know her, spend time with her, talk to her and see where she's at with the two of you.
If she wants to have sex with you, she will.
But don't pressure her, that would be sexual harassment.
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If my bf breaks up with me and I kiss and give blowjob to another guy drunkenly and again me and my bf get along in relationship would it be considered as cheating? Should I tell my bf about this accident? (link)
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So are you broken up or no?
If you guys are broken up, he's not your bf. If you guys broke up and aren't exclusive anymore, then it's not cheating because you're not in a relationship.
If you guys were still exclusive, and you guys are still boyfriend and girlfriend, then it is cheating.
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I'm 13 to, attempted suicide 3 times and hit 6 veins due to self-harming. I tried everything to know what to kill myself with. Now I don't self-harm because I'm to scared of my Mum seeing it, I forgot how it felt like to live. Now I ask God/Creator why he made joy when there was so much hate. I've been asking him the same question for over a year, he has never once replied. I've asked him for help, for a grave, for a new beginning, I have none of that. If you ask God to kill you he won't listen, he never will... (link)
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I like what Dragonflymagic had to say about the whole joy/hate thing. God gave us free will, so pretty much, that's why there is a bunch of crap going on in the world. If he made us not have free will, we would pretty much be robots and we wouldn't go to him on our own. It wouldn't be "real" if that makes sense.
Sometimes it sucks a lot and it sucks that there is so many bad things in the world. But there is also so much good.
When you ask God questions, it seems like you're asking him to give you everything you want. That's not how it is. When you asked him a question, he listens, but his answer could definitely be no.
Just because he didn't answer yes, doesn't mean he isn't listening.
And I also like what Dragonflymagic had to say about all this. God looks at us like we are his children. Just because your child asked to be killed and is unhappy, you're not going to kill it.
If you want to find real happiness, go seek help for it. You're only 13 and you have so much more to experience. The situation and life you're in right now might not be what you want, but in a few years, you get to make your own choices and choose where you're going to be at and what you get to do, so hold on.
Suicide doesn't end the chances of life getting worse. Suicide eliminates the possibility of it ever getting better.
Go get therapy, and they'll help you work through your problems and find better ways to deal with them.
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I'm 16/f. I have a guy who I'm just gunna call my boyfriend because we are pretty much dating without the official title. So he smokes weed and I am the least bit judge mental about it but I'm genuinely worried about him. Like I want to try weed with him too one day but I just need to see what the hype is about. He has been doing it for several years. I have my own additions so I understand but he said that he was quitting and that was a long time ago when he said he was having his last smoke before quitting. I understand but he said he's in full control. Like I want to help him and be supportive but he just does more of it. How do I help him quit? It's better than smoking cigars or cigarettes like he used to but I still wanna help. (link)
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You can't get him to quit.
It has to be 100% his choice. If he quits because you asked him to, then he'll fall back into it.
In the end, you can be supportive if he wants to quit. But you can't make him.
So like the other adviser said, you chose to date a guy who smoked. You can't go into a relationship and expecting him to change to what you want him to be.
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What is the best why to get over and understand childhood abuse? (link)
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Go to therapy.
They help you work through your issues and problems and figure out how to deal with them.
Doing it on your own doesn't work. It'll always come back that way.
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Im 16/f. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I'm confident that I love him. I need to know the details of sex. What does it feel like? Should it be prepared or spontaneous? I need to know everything teachers don't tell you in sex ed (link)
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What does it feel like?
Most peoples first time isn't all that romantic. For most, it'll hurt a lot. It's usually the second or third time that it's actually enjoyable.
You should be prepared in a sense that you have condoms and are on birth control.
Do not have sex if you don't have condoms. And don't have sex if you're not on birth control.
Accidents happen and you don't want to end up pregnant.
Just be careful.
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