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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

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I've come to realize it over the years. I won't get into too much detail because I don't see the point of describing all the abuse that has been endured. What I will say it that it has become very difficult to leave. I feel as though I cannot end things. The idea of ending the relationship makes me feel very anxious and afraid. Why is this? Why can I not leave, even though I have come to terms with the fact that I am being abused.

Advice and wisdom is appreciated.
27/f

I’m not a psychologist and I do not know you. To properly answer your question would require knowing you and asking a lot of questions to get to the true reason as to why you cannot or will not leave this abusive relationship. In general many women feel that even with the abuse the relationship offers some type of security they feel they cannot survive without. This reason is only true if this is a real feeling they have. Fact is that security can be found with the right type of help.

There are two organizations specifically designed to help women like you. They are the House of Ruth and RAINN. The house of Ruth, if one is in your area offers a safe haven for abused women. If there is not a chapter of the House of Ruth they will offer other assistance such as a local Crisis Center that can help you. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network. RAINN works through local Crisis Centers to get you the assistance you need which for you would be finding the security you need and a safe haven. I have listed below the phone numbers for both organizations.

House of Ruth – 1-877-988-5559

RAINN – 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

What does it mean when a person says “kids these days think that the world owes them something”? Is that rude?

A shorter answer is: That persons attitude is they feel they should be given everything and not have to work for anything. In a more general term young people who feel this way are referred to as the "GIMME GENERATION."

Bernie Sanders was appealing to the Gimme Generation in his run for the White House. What he didn't tell his supporters is they would eventually be paying for the freebies when the went to work in the form of higher taxes.This form of government is called Socialism. Socialistic form of government is supported by tax rate of as high as 90%.

Think of it you work hard at your job for 30 to 40 hours a week and take home only 20 to 30 percent of your earnings. The government supplies everything you need other than food or clothing, or cars. You get in return free medical, though waiting times to see a doctor can be months long. Free education,subsidized housing in the form of small apartment.

I'M INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CALIFORNIA HOME CARE AIDE AND I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW CAN I WORK FOR TWO FAMILY MEMBERS ONCE I COMPLETE MY TRAINING ( I.E. GRANDMOTHER, AUNT)OR AM I ALLOWED TO HELP ONE FAMILY MEMBER ONLY I.E. AUNT? IM BEING PAID BY THE AGENCY

This is a question that only someone in California licensed to do home health care can answer. Also it will depend on the agency holding your license as to how you practice.

Growing up I’ve always struggled with friend groups and keeping friends. So for years I’ve been searching for that friend group where I belong but no luck. Today I was hanging with a couple of my work friends and some of them are already best friends and consider themselves sisters. I was in the car with them and I almost started crying (obviously I didn’t) because it was so nice seeing a group of friends and it looked like a movie. I’ve never had a group of best friends like that and I just feel like I don’t belong anywhere what do I do?

I am not a doctor as such I cannot offer a diagnoses. While you didn't give a lot of information I think you may suffer from low self-esteem. This is not something that can be fixed with a pill but it is fixable.

There are a number of different reasons a person suffers from low self-esteem and I would only be guess as to the why so I won't. What I will suggest is therapy with psychologist.

Most of the time the problem is buried deep in you sub-conscious which is why it is important to find a psychologist you are comfortable with as he or she does become your new best friend. A friend you can tell your deepest and darkest secrets to. If you are not comfortable with your psychologist ask to be refereed to someone else. There are different methods psychologist use in their practice. As such different psychologist will treat patients differently.

Start by seeing your family doctor for a complete physical to rule out any biological problem then ask for a referral(if needed).

Does being a PCT mean that you are able to actually DO MORE than a CNA??

Yes as the Patient Care Tech works closer with the nursing staff.

I just turned 26, and my two closest friends are only 2 years younger. I wish I could throw caution to the wind and spend all of my hard earned money the second it hits my bank account like they do, but I cant. I treat myself here and there but there's bigger things I want to do. Trips I want to take. A place of my own. I respect the fact that my friends can throw away money like it's nothing because they don't have any responsibilities but the ones to themselves and theres nothing wrong with that. The issue and question is why cant they accept the fact that I don't want to? I'm just tired of being picked at for not dropping hundreds (sometimes thousands) of dollars just because they want me to and because I can. What do I do?

Stay the course. You have good financial direction and goals. To spend money frivolously is not reproducible and in the long run will end up in debt. To save fro things you want and will enjoy for a long time is responsible.

Tell your friends you work to hard for your money to spend it just for the sake of spending. Tell them that because you save and spend responsibly you won't have to get in debt to have something your really want when it becomes available. They won't understand until one day there credit cars are maxed out and they can only afford Ramon's for dinner.

I'm 16. I consider myself straight and had never done anything with another girl until this summer. My friend persuaded me to experiment and I found I really enjoy doing things with her. Part of it is because there's no worrying about getting pregnant. We can just have fun.

We've had a couple sleepovers this summer. We told her parents we were just gonna stay up late and watch movies and stuff. But after they'd gone to bed we would have sex.

I'm struggling with what all this means. Am I really not straight but gay? Or bi? Should I bother worrying about it? Or should I relax and just enjoy it?

I also worry about how her parents and mine will react if they ever find out. They're really conservative.

What do you think I should do?

Not knowing your age complicates my answer a bit. I am guessing since you are having sleep overs you are in your early to mid teens, still in school probably high school. Should I be correct then I would say just relax and enjoy yourselves you are perfectly normal.

It is very normal for young people to experiment sexually within there own sex, meaning both boys and girls do so. You are not gay or even truly bi. As a teenager going through puberty you have sexual urges that need relief. You can relieve these urges through masturbation or sex. Being female having sex with a male has the danger of pregnancy. Having sex with another female allows you to relieve the sexual tension you have and explore your own sexuality. Meaning finding out what you like and don't like and you remain a virgin even if you use dildo's.

As for parents finding out? Not knowing your parents I can't answer for them. As a father and an adult my feeling would be,if I found my son or daughter having sex with someone of the same sex I would not go all ape over it. Then again when it comes to sex my views are very liberal. I would expect and prefer my son and daughter experiment within there own sex. I would and have encouraged masturbation for sexual relief. Most parents would not encourage masturbation thinking it leads to wanting actual sex.

I would not want my son getting some girl pregnant nor would I want my daughter becoming pregnant. Should your parents find out and have a massive fit over it just ride out the storm and them comely explain that experimentation is normal and you are not bi. This is just a safer means of finding your sexuality with out the fear of pregnancy.

25/f

I left my teaching job mid-year so I could search for a job that I loved. My whole life, I have had jobs that I have hated. It took 4 months of unemployment to find my current job.

And I love my current job. However, I am in a financial crisis. I am in debt and I am trying to pay it off. I am trying to move out of my apartment and get my own (because I am not happy in my relationship), and I will need a new car, or a new-used car.

Based on my calculations to pay off my debt, and to get everything I need, if I stay with my boyfriend and keep my current job, it will take YEARS.

If I break up with my boyfriend, I will definitely be struggling and the only way I can do this on my own is if I quit the job I currently have and love to go back to teaching (which is the job that I hate).

What do you think I should do?

You need to find a debt consolidation loan. You can use a search engine to find companies that offer debt consolidation assistance or ask your bank to recommend who they work with.

By consolidating your debt you will have a smaller payment at a better interest for less time than paying credit cards monthly.

I would them look for someone looking for a roommate. Sharing with someone is not the ideal solution but half the rent or even a third of the rent leaves money left over for the car you need.

Good luck and let me know how you make out.

we went for ice cream and the park....i had fun...but ....i know not everyone wants to screw after the first date but then again...why ask me to his place.... same shyt, diff guy....will it ever end....smdh, everybodies isnt a hoe ...there are a handful of folks who have some type of morals....this is a HUGE dating turn off for me....and why I like to turn down dates when dudes ask me out

my friend replied to my question with the following

No, it will never end. If you're going to date guys, then you're going to get asked for sex. Adults have sex, that's reality. Having it on the first date would be too soon, though, IMO.

Hon, refusing to have sex before marriage doesn't make you "moral" or better than anyone else - it simply makes you someone who doesn't want to have sex before marriage. I think you'd have better luck dating guys who are very religious. The whole "purity" thing doesn't make sense to most people who are not religious.

I replied
I don't think im better than anyone else cuz ive remained pure and moral by choice, I am not a toy...sex after the first date or the 10th date and not married is whorish....

whos right or wrong here

Your morals are your morals and they are good ones. Guys can either accept them or find someone else.

My suggestion is; if you want to find someone with your morals you should use a dating site like Christians.com. Most every faith has a dating site so people of the same faith and believes can find each other. You can also look for guys to date at your Church. Guys that are members of the men's club or church fellowship program may have your moral up-bringing.

A bit of backstory, me and my dad were never close. He has anger issues, and he throws tantrums quite a bit. I'm much closer with my mother, and tend to spend the most time with her. Since we moved about a month and a half ago, I've been avoiding him slightly, choosing to do things with only me and my mother, and not mentioning him to any of my friends. He'll cuss in inappropriate places, such as a school meeting, when he got mad and told me I need to get the fucking paper, even though I already had one. Or when he cussed out a fast food employee for the restraunt being closed. He constantly interups me , and has broken things without apologizing for anything. He also says some pretty racist stuff from time to time. Point is, I don't like to be around him. So, me and my mom are planning a camping trip with her, me and her brothers, not including my dad. He seems really upset about this, since we don't do stuff with him much anymore. I'm really starting to feel guilty about this though. My mom doesn't want him to go, and I don't either, but this guilt is eating me up inside. I don't know what I should do.

There is an old saying which says; "You can choose your friends not your relatives." I would say this saying fits your problem.

Nowhere is it written that a child must be on friendly terms with their parents. We get many letters like yours so you are not alone and should not feel guilty. I myself cut all ties with my father when he in a letter insulted her and refused to apologize. Among many things he missed was not seeing his grandson accept his diploma and awards for being an Honor Graduate from College. Do I feel bad about this not in the least.

There is no reason to include your father in anything if he is unwilling to change. There is no reason for you, your mom or Uncle to have your trip ruined because of issues your father has.

Long story short, part of me wants to become a mom pretty soon, but the other part is terrified that I'm gonna be a horrible one. I don't know if the fears I'm having are common and normal or if they go beyond the typical doubts people tend to have about their competency as a parent.

Until a couple years ago or so, I didn't doubt that I'd be a good mom and having children was by far the thing I wanted most from my life. I was raised by the best mom ever and I've had other good role models whose example I can follow, but I have learned things since then that make me think I might not be cut out to have children.

My sister had a baby (my nephew, Lane) back in August 2015. Since then, I've been around Lane for about a week every Christmas, two weeks every summer, and various other visits throughout the year. I feel bad saying this, I mean I really feel like the worst aunt in the world, but although I love Lane, he drives me absolutely nuts, crazy, out of my mind, bananas sometimes.

Everyone else loves my nephew and loves being around him, but not me. He throws huge fits constantly and goes to crying hysterically and screaming over NOTHING. He throws first a lot of the time just to get attention. Other times, He might throw one because he actually does want something, but giving him that something rarely calms his fits. We'll go to a restaurant and he'll throw a fit because he wants to sit in my sister's lap. She'll put him in her lap and he'll continue crying because he wants back in his seat. She'll put him back in his seat and he'll keep crying because he wants back in her lap. Or, we'll be at my mom's house and he'll cry because he wants some milk. My sister will get him some milk and he'll continue crying for a while because he didn't get it fast enough. Once, He, my sister, my mom, aunt, cousin, and I were at a pool and out of nowhere, Lane starts wailing. My sister took him out of the pool and offered him absolutely anything she thought he might possibly want at that time, but he continued screaming his head off. My mom leaned over in my ear and made a joke saying, "I guess it's just time for his three o'clock fit." I laughed, but honestly, this is really what my nephew's like. I once counted how many meters meltdowns he had in a day, just while I was around him, and the number reached close to 30 (no lie). And that didn't even include the minor fits that I chose not to count as meltdowns. His whining and crying have become like nails on chalkboard to me.

Aside from that, my nephew is mischievous. He likes to do things he's not supposed, disobey orders, and cause problems because he thinks it's funny. He likes to get a rise out of people. He also has a tendency to be a little bit mean. He'll slap you across the face, kick you, or bite the check out of you when you haven't even done anything to him. And he tends to break things, which could be an accident or intentional.

He and my sister are coming to town Wednesday for their annual two week long summer visit with me and my mom and I'm dreading it more than I can express, but it's true. I find myself wishing I could trade places with people who aren't gonna have to be around my nephew for hours each day, everyday for the next two weeks or that I could rewind time to before my nephew was born and my sister used to come by herself for a week or so long visit each summer. I feel like the worst aunt in the world for feeling that way and if I have in in me to be the worst aunt, I could have it in me to be the worst mom as well.

I know I'm gonna cause some people to hate me by saying this, but sometimes I look at other kids and think, "Why can't YOU be my nephew?" My cousin has an absolute adorable, sweet, charming four year old son named Eli. I want to make it clear that I'm not wishing Lane away, but there are times when I wish Eli was my nephew and Lane was my cousin. When I was in high school, using had a teacher women was obsessed with her three year old nephew, Austin. She'd show pictures of him and tell stories about him. He was a very, very cute kid and from what she said about him, he was sweet and well behaved too. Austin would be about 17 or 18 now. Way too old for this annoying little kid stuff. Sometimes I wish I could trade nephews with this former teacher of mine and be Austin's aunt and be like a family friend of Lane's who lives him, but doesn't see him much. If I have it in me to be that cold hearted about my nephew, how can I expect to be any warmer towards my kids?

The thing that prompted me to come here (other than my nephew's upcoming visit) is that yesterday I took a nap and had a dream that I had a baby. I dreamed that my mom had just had surgery and my baby and I were in her ICU room waiting for her to wake up. The baby was a boy. He had brown hair and brown eyes and an absolutely adorable face. His name was Jude (one of my favorite boy names) and I adored him..I was actually a little bummed out when I woke up and realized it was just a dream and Jude didn't actually exist.

This wasn't the first dream I've had that I had one or more children. I had another once that I had two teenage sons named Aaron and Joe and another one where I had a teenage daughter named Belle. I love these dreams. One of my favorites was a recent, half awake-half asleep kind of dream where I had a son named Nathan who looked exactly like Nathan Lane (I love Nathan Lane). These dreams make me feel good, which I strongly hope is a good sign, but I don't know whether to take it as one or not.

Is there ANYONE out there who had a strong distaste for their niece/nephew and was driven insane by them, but turned out to love their kids and be able to say with confidence that they are a good parent?

I apologize for the length of this question, but thank you for reading.

I’m one of the lucky Uncle’s who’s nieces were and are a joy to be around. This is because my sister raised them correctly and taught them how to behave. Yes there were times they missed behaved and times they were mischievous; all children get this way. This does not make for a bad parent or a bad child. A good parent will take the appropriate action to let the child know that their actions are unacceptable.

As for tantrums; once again this is normal childhood behavior. Some parents chose to let the child throw a tantrum and not give into the child. I took another approach with my son. He would throw himself on the floor, scream, kick his legs and pound his little fists. We tried letting him have his fit and just ignore him. It worked in so far that he eventually got tired and stopped. One day when he threw a fit I got down on the floor and threw one with him. He stopped his crying and screaming and looked at me. I did this each time he had a fit, he didn’t get his way and eventually he stopped throwing fits. I guess it was no fun with daddy lying next to him screaming as well.

All of us to one degree or another wonder and worry as to what kind of parent we will be. Just remember that no matter how closely you bond with your child; “YOU ARE THE PARENT FIRST FRIEND SECOND.” You discipline when needed and reward good behavior when appropriate such as behaving at a restaurant, dentist, shopping with you or visiting relatives.

I believe to worry as to what kind of parent you will be is appropriate and makes you a better parent. When that bundle of joy is placed in your arms all those worries go away for now you are a parent and it is like you have read the handbook.

I think they should keep it real and wear black or even dingy...

I see your point but times have changed. Wearing a white wedding gown no longer means the bride is q virgin. When a white wedding gown did mean purity the bride and groom spent their wedding night at the parents home of the bride where they would consummate their marriage. In the morning the brides mother would take the bed sheet and off the bed to look for a blood stain. Mom would then hang the sheet out the window to tell the village that her daughter was indeed a virgin. That is no longer done anymore as times have changed.

So I have a bit of a problem. I'm 27 years old and about a year ago I had sex for the first time. Considering the fact I hadn't masturbated for a few weeks before I lost my virginity, it was easy to get hard and I didn't last very long. After that, however, it was pretty much impossible to keep an erection when putting on a condom! The girl would give me a blowjob and I'd get hard, but by the time I put the condom on and change position, my penis would go soft! We tried to do it several times in one night, but just ended up having oral sex and I came every time. I thought maybe I didn't have enough stamina considering it was my first time... Or perhaps it was a mental block because the girl was kind of married so I was afraid her husband might come home unexpected...
However, a few weeks later I had sex with a different girl (she was single) but I had the same problem.
Why is this happening? I definitely felt aroused and I was attracted to both girls... I consider myself to be healthy and I was able to keep an erection during oral sex...

After all of this was over, I tried to put a condom on while I was alone and masturbating, but I had the same problem! I'm kind of worried.

I want to blame the condom... but I think guys usually have no problem keeping an erection during the few seconds it takes to put the condom on, right?

So what should I do?

Thanks in advance.

I'm not a doctor and cannot make a diagnoses. As far as masturbation being the cause of your problem I don't think so. According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate.

You have some form of Erectile Dysfunction. The fact that you were a virgin until the age of 25 leads me to believe the problem may be more mental then physical but this is just a guess on my part. The was a reason for you not to have sex until this age. Possibly a belief in the fact that sex is only for married couples. Something you parents and church may have instilled in you.

My suggestion is you see your family doctor for a complete physical including a complete blood work-up to include a testosterone count. If nothing is found to be an organic problem then I suggest you see a psychologist one who specializes in sexual dysfunction.

hi, how good is swinging? is it only for a couple who are in a relationship or anybody can do it? why is it if my ex boyfriend is asking me if we both could go swinging with the other couple? I have reminded him you're my ex boyfriend and we're not even a couple but instead he says it's just a sex. we're still in good term and we're still friends as we both were before we dated for a few months as he knows I'm single still and he's not. he says it's something to spice up and I know you'll love it because you're an extremely sexual girl. please can anyone explain why is he saying all this? we do love each other and he does say he will love me and think of me forever and I love him too. what did he mean by 'sexual'??? going to swinging as a couple good or bad for an exes? just thinking would he asked all this if he still didn't have any feelings for me or am I wrong? why these thinking and all these questions? he's 30 and I'm 28. please help!
thank you. I appreciate all the answers

The red flag for me is this sentence you wrote. "I'm single still and he's not." Does this mean he is married or in a relationship. What matters is he wants to have sex with you while in a committed relationship with someone else. That is wrong with this situation.

The second red flag is this sentence; "he says it's just a sex." He sees you as a friend with benefits. Someone just to have sex with so he can explore a fantasy or just some kinky sex he cannot get from his current partner. He does not love you and I'm not sure he even lusts for you.

what did he mean by 'sexual'??? This is something I can only give a generic answer to as I do not know you and this statement different by individual it is directed to. To me it means a girl that is sexy in nature meaning she is open top new thing in the bedroom.

My advice is you tell your ex to find someone else. There is nothing wrong with swinging for those in a committed relationship and both parties are willing. If either party is not 100% in agreement to swing then you don't try for it will break up these couples who commit just to satisfy the other.

I need proof of address to get my license. Will this work?

It is usually up to the agency or company asking for proof of residency to say what they will accept as proof residency. Most will accept a utility bill and a second form of ID such as a drivers licence. It is best to ask the agency or company what forms are acceptable.

So when I shave my armpits i get these little red, itchy bumps and I have no idea how to get rid of them! I'm new to shaving and have pretty much no experience and none of my friends have the same problem. Is it something that I'm doing wrong or do I just have sensitive skin. To go more into depth here is my shaving routine
-shaving is the last thing I do in the shower
-I put conditioner on the area I'm going to shave
- I press lightly on the razor in downward strokes up to 3 times to make sure I get all the hair.
-after I get out of the shower I usually put lotion/ cream on.
- put on pj's and then go to sleep.

What you’re experiencing is called razor burn. Skin conditioner does not protect against razor burn; you need to use a shaving cream and press lightly. If your arm is stretch out and the pit skin is tight you should only have to make one or two passes. The less you pass a razor over and area the less likely you will experience razor burn.

At this point in my relationship, I pretty much figured out my significant other is never going to change and probably does not care about me at all. Unfortunately we just moved in together signed a 14 month lease, i'd have to move back in with my parents which would be hard. And can't afford to break the lease. But i can't do this anymore, honestly i barely want to have intimate moments with me because he makes me feel like shit all the time, he is angry all the time. Literally every conversation with him is an argument to him where he feels like he is always right and has to win even if we are discussing our opinions. It's always his way and at this point I feel like he doesn't need me in the relationship, he just needs someone to control and i'm tired of it. Is it worth it when the person is constantly trying to cheat or has possibly cheated and talks to you like shit all the time? I feel so dumb, and after yesterday where he pretty much said nothing you ever do is right, i realized he is pushing me into falling out of love with him and it's working. So i guess my question is should i just abandon ship and deal with the financial burden of it or just grin and bear till the lease is up?

Love,
25 and Stuck

Don't let what happened Dragonflymagic happen to you. To stay in this relationship is worse than any financial hardship you might experience then not moving out. Advise the landlord you are no longer cohabiting and the apartment is all his. Do it before he does it to you.

i'm not exactly happy when i get what i've been wanting from a long time, be it a material thing or just ordinary stuff like my favorite dish that i've not had in a long time. i noticed this often and i don't expect much satisfaction before getting it and yet i kinda feel empty inside.
things that were/are special to me doesn't feel much special anymore
like a song that i like a lot and haven't heard in a long time doesn't feel the same when i hear it
the intensity of it's effects that was before is now gone,and it's not just a song it's about most of the stuff
i wanted something from like 2 years and i recently got it and i wasn't exactly happy
i was like "oh.. ok..."
i mean i wanted it so bad and when i got it it felt empty !
Thankyou for taking your time in reading this !

While we are not doctors and cannot make a diagnoses. What I suggest you do is make an appointment with you doctor for a full physical with a screening for depression.

What you have written hits several of the symptoms for depression. For a proper diagnoses you need to be tested by your doctor. The physical is to rule out any organic problems. The test for depression just your doctor asking you some question. Answer them honestly for a proper diagnoses.

I'm almost 15, will be a Sophomore in September. I've heard conflicting views on sex; I heard from these two Seniors it isn't supposed to hurt if a guy warms you up for it, like how when you exercise you warm up first you don't just run a mile. I have a friend, however, and the older kids she knows say the first time around it hurts and you even bleed because you're still tight. I don't really get that because to me that sounds like if you have enough dicks shoved up there your vagina spreads out, but women's vaginas go back to normal size after childbirth. And I put tampons in just fine without any issues-the first time I put one in it felt weird, is it something like that? I don't really understand the concept of a tight vagina. I told that to my friend (whose a virgin) and she just kept going "nooo you bleed bc you're tight." So does sex hurt the first time and do you bleed?

Will first time sex hurt? That depends on several factors.
1. Is you Hymen still intact?
a. Even though you use Tampons you may not have ruptured your Hymen. In first time sex you are not only stretching your vagina for the first time you are also having a piece of tissue torn from you. There will be some pain, how much depends on the following information and how well you tolerate pain.
2. How much will you be able to relax?
a. Foreplay, warming up will help you relax. Problem is most boys your age up through early twenties do not know what proper foreplay is. He might suck on your nipples, stick his finger in you and if your real lucky maybe a quick minute of oral sex. Most boys do not know from love making. Most boys your age do not know the difference between lust and love
Boys your age are lustful; they want to put their penis in your vagina and get off, preferably without a condom. Never even your first time have sex without a condom until you are in a long term live together type arrangement, if not for pregnancy protection then from many of the STD’s and the HIV/AIDS virus.
3. Where your first sex takes place.
a. Part of relaxing is having sex in a comfortable and safe place. When your grandmother and I were your age many of us lost our virginity in the back seat of our parent car. It wasn’t very comfortable and not safe from intrusion either. Then there was always the worry some cop would find you mid sex act. You need to find a place that is safe, comfortable and secure from discovery or intrusion.
b.
Last but certainly not least you will most likely miss you next period. Not because you’re pregnant and even if you used a condom you will worry about getting pregnant. That worry is very stressful and stress will cause you to miss a period.

My advice is this. At 15 you are too young to be having sex. As I said the boys your age are not in love. They use lines like, “If you love me you will have sex with me.” They lust for you as I said earlier. The chances of you and this boy marrying is slim and almost none. After high school you will all go in separate directions and most likely never see each other again. I know puberty is causing you to feel things you have never felt before and sex is a way of dealing with it.

Stick to masturbation, giving handjobs and letting boys finger you. The longer you wait the easier it will be to have a perfect first time sex when all the conditions are right and you can relax and enjoy it. Masturbation is healthy and not sinful. Just go in your room lock the door and get comfortable. Can’t lock the door to your room, start taking baths in the evening and comfort yourself in the bathtub with the bathroom door locked.

I and my bf had sex twice on 9th and 10th may. We had protected sex. On 9th. We were naked. And his penis was touching my vagina. He didnt come. But there was some precum. I felt it. Not directly in touch of my vagina but near it. And after i felt it. I drew myself back. Now he had peed before all of this happened. And i googled and founf that peeing removes any sperms present from previous ejaculation. I maintain a app for my periods. And my periods have been coming as predicted by the app from past 2 months. So acc to the app i was supposed to ovulate on 17th which makes 9th and 10th as safe days. But also during that time i had my exams and i was under huge stress because of a bad paper. Also on 7th june i had watery discharge. My periods were supposed to come on 31st may acc to the app. But till now theres no sign of it. I sometimes get the feeling of getting period but it doesn't come. Please help me.

Stress is the biggest reason for missing a period. You have been under the stress of exams and worrying about possible pregnancy. If your app is correct you were in your safe period and should not be pregnant.

The best way to relieve the stress of being pregnant is to take a home pregnancy test. I know you don't want your parents to know. Purchase a test kit and put it in your purse. In the morning when you go to shower take your purse with you and test. Then after the test is complete put everything back in your purse and dispose of the kit at a mall or any open garbage bin not near home.

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