Question:
ok well for some reason im extremely worried about getting pregnant. and i always think i am or i could be i let it interfere with alot of other things in my life...i even told my fiance that we shouldnt have sex until i get on birth control or wait til we get married but sonehow we always get in the moment and i cant help myself...i mean we dont use condom b/c i dont really like them even though i know we should and he pulls out everytime....but idk what to do to get over this...or to get it off my mind besides not having sex or using a condom...is it rare to get pregnant if he pulls out??? any advice??

My Answer:
Well, to begin with, the withdrawal method (or as you call it, the "pull out" method) put you at about 14% to 19% risk of pregnancy, 17% to 22% if he is inexperienced. This is because during intercourse (while he's in heaven) he may secrete "pre-cum."

"Pre-cum" is a fluid secreted from the Cowper's glands. It may contain sperms, too, though as much as the final "Big Bang" (if you know what I mean, hehehe).


And as for sex without much worry about pregnancy, you two can try and do that while you are on "the pill" (Combined Oral Contraceptive Pill). Birth-control pill's failure rate is only 1% to 3%, depending on whether you are a perfect user or a typical user. (Most people are typical users).

Birth-control pills' down side is that you cannot use them if you are a smoker or over 35 years of age. If you have high blood pressure or cholesterol, you cannot use it either. And of course, if you have cancer or if you are pregnant, you cannot use it.


Besides condom and the pill, there are also a few more not-as-common methods such as vaginal contraceptive ring, but they usually require visiting a doctor so . . . whatever float your boat or whatever you think is convenient for you two.


As for how to get the "sex" idea off your mind, I don't know. Another columnist will have to answer that, because, you see, when the mood is right and you got horny, it takes a punch in the face to get your reasons back into your mind again (if you know what I mean).

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Question:
ok when i open up quicktime player a porn website just pops up and i am wondering how i can stop it plz help!!

My Answer:
I would say that you may have an adware on your computer. Adware, spyware, and virus are within the category of malware.

If you are not good with computers and don't know how to manually remove it, then I recommend you to download, install, and run the following program:

SuperAntiSpyware (free version): http://www.superantispyware.com/download.html

It works very well for me when I tested it (by infecting my own computer with about 10 adwares). I must say that it among one of the bests free anti-spyware and anti-adware available today.


Of course, there are cases where the program doesn't detect the adware. In such situation, you need to manually remove it. To begin with, recently, did you install any software into your computer? You might want to check on that and attempt to manually remove the adware yourself. Removing an adware is a lot simpler than a virus, or worse, worm.

TendMicro HijackThis: http://www.trendsecure.com/portal/en-US/tools/security_tools/hijackthis

It will help you in pinpointing where the problem lies. But to use it, you need to have some understands of your system.


If all else failed, then try a system restore. If you have been creating at least one restore point on your computer each month (like you should), then this process should be a piece of cake. If you have never created a restore point, then . . . well, keep trying to remove the adware =)


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Also, the person below me recommended you CCleaner. Well, CCleaner is a good freeware that erases your traces of activities on your computer, but it is NOT (NOT as in "NO") an antivirus or antispyware program. It's NOT going to remove or report any malware on your computer.

If you want a free anti-virus and anti-spyware program, then I would recommend you to use one of these:

****NOTE: Pick ONLY ONE because if more than one anti-virus software run at the same time, they might interfere with each other.

Avast! Home Edition: http://www.avast.com/eng/avast_4_home.html

Avira AntiVir Personal Edition: http://www.free-av.com/en/products/1/avira_antivir_personal__free_antivirus.html

Both are just good as each other and both are free. Just pick the one you like.


Hope this helps,
=)

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Question:
i have more than one question but i just want to give some backround info so maybe people wont call me a murder and such.

im 17, no job my parents are getting a divorce(moms 2nd husband) and were moving into a one bedroom apartment me and my mom, my boyfriends family are drug addicts and dont care about there kids or anyone.my boyfriend, 19 years old condom broke and we didnt even no it and i got pregnant i found out at 6 weeks we both are having horrible problems and things going on in our life im not graduated from highschool or anything yet, and i had an abortion i was already as it is an emotional wreak from everything going on my grandfather just died and everything was going wrong and we were moving into a one bedroom apartment .. and i had to get an abortion i was extreamly upset and still am crying everyday but i know we didnt have what we needed in life to raise a child. i asked these questions on yahoo answers and all i got was i am a murder and that is extreamly hard to here after everything so, whatever call me what you want.


my first question is i got it done saturday and its thursday, how long should i expect to bleed, and is this considered my period?

and i noticed when i exercise that i bleed more.. should i stop excessing ?

My Answer:
You can expect for about 3 weeks to 5 weeks of bleeding, depending on how well you take care of your body during this period . And the bleeding should not be worse than your worst period.


And yes, you should stop exercising for about 3 weeks. Here are basic things that you should do after an abortion:

---Drink a lot of water
---Eat healthy food and try to sleep at least 10 hours a day.
---No exercise for at least 2 weeks (3 or 4 weeks is recommended).
---Do NOT let anything go into your vagina. That includes anything from a penis to the water in the bath tub, and even tampon (you can use a pad instead)
---Did your doctor prescribe you antibiotics? If he did, then take them.


Things to watch out for:

---It is possible that you will have a fever during this period. If you do have a fever, go to a doctor to check on infection as soon as possible.

---If you have an infection, an incomplete abortion is also a possibility (either that or you just did not take care of your vagina well during this period). Normally the doctor would do this, but just to double check, after about 12 weeks, check if there's a placenta attached to the fetus (it supposed to look like a flat, meaty piece of tissue).


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Well, about the murder part, I don't know. People who are not in your situation cannot understand you, and I am no exception. I can argue why abortion is wrong as well as why abortion is right, too. So to be honest, I must say that it is depend on the situation.

If you had not done the abortion already, I may say something, but you have already done it. What is done . . . is done. There is nothing more to say about it. Don't feel too bad because of what people said, all right? Right now, just focus on recovering from the abortion--not just physically, but mentally as well.


Hope this helps in some way,
=)

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Question:
I was wondering how people can take a color pic, make it black and white, and have one thing left that is still color.
& anyone know of any photo editing softwares that i can download straight off the internet??
thanks in advance

My Answer:
Free softwares that you can use:
(absolutely free, no advertisement, no trial, just free)

Photoscape: http://www.photoscape.org/ps/main/index.php
Paint.NET: http://www.getpaint.net/
GIMP: http://www.gimp.org/

Photoscape is for beginners, Paint.NET is for intermediate users, and GIMP is for advanced users.

I recommend you to use Photoscape because even if you download GIMP, you probably won't be able to use it anyway.

Photoscape is a good basic image editor that you can use add text, border, frame, and simple effects to your image. You can also make animated images (GIF images) on there. And of course, you can make a color image becomes black-and-white.


If you still unable to do it, then you can send the image to me and I'll see what I can do with it =)

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Question:
about 3 1/2 weeks ago i missed 2 consecutive birth control pills.. i took 3 in one day bad idea i over dosed im fine now but i had unprotected sex 2 days after that day. now im suposed to get my period in a day.. and for the past week i keep getting head ache i feel nausious at night.. im extremely hungry.. and i have bad mood swings.. i took a pregnancy test yesterday came up negative.. but i dont think i waited long enough to take it. what do u think the likeliness of me being pregnant is?

My Answer:
So from the day before the day you had sex to seven days after you had sex, did you take the pills daily?

So basically:

2 days before---the sex day---until 7 days after
took the pills on every single day (10 days total)


If you have taken birth control pills like that or more, even if he ejaculated inside, you only have 3% to 5% chance of pregnancy (for typical use of the pills) OR 2% to 0.1% (for perfect use of the pills). I don't think you are a perfect user so expect about 3% to 5%.


As for the pregnancy test, the basic of the test is to detect hGG (human Chorionic Gonadotropin). It is a hormone that only appear in your urine or blood when you are pregnant (that's why some people call it "pregnancy hormone"). Here's a time frame:

Sex--->7 days later (or less)--->Sperm merges with egg (fertilized egg)--->Egg implants on your uterus--->hGG hormone is presence.

So it typically takes about 14 days (could be as little as 4 days and as long as 18 days) after the day you have sex to get a correct pregnancy test using HPT (Home Pregnancy Test).


Hope this helps,
=)

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Question:
SO many times i have heard over and over that you cant change people. Women cant change men, men cant change women... yet I've seen it happen. Right before my eyes. How is it possible that some of us are exceptions to this rule and some of us ARE the rule???? and how would one know...

I guess I'm just looking for some insight on how this psychology of changing occurs... I would like some opinions. How is it that no matter how stubborn a person is, someone comes along that can change them...and why is it that only that person can, nobody else...
any opinions, personal philosophies, that sort of thing?

My Answer:
Personal philosophies, right? Then . . .

(****No Guarantee of Accuracy****)

In my opinion, people change mainly because of 3 reasons: maturity, environment, and emotion.

1. MATURITY
Kid--->Teen--->Young Adult--->Adult--->Father--->Grandfather, and so on so on. Yeah, you know what I mean.

---Example: Me! I am still a stupid teen right now. In the future, I still have a lot of changes to go through.

---Another Example: You! Right now you are 18 years old; take a look back at when you were still a 13-year-old girl and compare that to the current you. So many differences that you hardly recognize yourself, right?


2. ENVIRONMENT
Sometimes in life, we may encounter situations that are beyond our control. And when such times come, we oftentimes do our best to adapt. Influenced by our environment, we change--whether by choice or forced to.

Example: A child who has never seen both of her parents' faces, whose only guardian is her grandmother! Her environment forces her to know and face what others--those of her age--shouldn't . . . yet, and in turns changes her.

Another Example: Yourself! Your parents, how you were raised, your friends, your peers, etc.--all have contributed to make the you today. Now, if (this is just an "if-then" example) you were to hangout with "bad" friends, you will turn bad too.


3. EMOTION
Humans . . . are fragile fragile creatures. When we are in doubt, our minds are easily manipulated. Emotion could twist our heart. We, as creatures born with fragile hearts, could go through drastic changes when painful events (such as losing someone important) or joyful events (such as winning millions of dollars in the lottery) swift through us.

Example: Love! Have you ever been in love? You know, when one day, one day a person whom you have always look at as a close friend--a close friend that is no different from any other close friends--say something dumb to you then do something stupid to you--like saying "I love you," and then kiss you. All the sudden you feel like all of your knowledge, your strength and your martial art have left you, leaving your body wriggling like jello in the refrigerator and your mind as blank as a white sheet of paper. And then that night you feel like everything is messed up, like a simple "maybe we should be just friends" cannot fix anything at all; you start to wonder this and that and so on so on . . . bleh.

Another Example: Yourself! How strong do you think your mind and heart are? How much do you think you would change if your current lifestyle is lost?

(***Oh, and speaking of heart, just a fun medical fact: a broken heart CAN KILL. Yes, that's right, and it has been proven.

So if you want to kill someone, get that person to fall deeply for you, and then BAM! Break his heart HORRIBLY. He's a goner, hahaha.)



So . . . long story short, external influences cause internal changes in a person--sometimes positive, sometimes negative. How much a person changes is depends on how powerful the impact is.

That's my thought,
=)

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Question:
i used my mom's credit card to participate in some bargain offers on chooseyourcolor.com, i only needed three more offers to partake in receiving a free laptop(once signed in as a member). i assumed this was a trusted site because it's different than the usual fraud websites. now i'm not so sure because when i was about to make another transaction, the bank rejected the credit card. i'm scared now because now i'm wondering what if more than i agreed to was taken out of my mom's account. she'd kill me and i don't want to disappoint her to that extent. it's bad enough that i borrowed her credit card without permission. i just really wanted that macbook and it seemed so easy to get that i couldn't resist. hindsight is always 20 20 exspecially when there are consequences. i don't know what to do, what to tell my mom. i walked in on her talking on the phone with the credit card in hand. i left the room but it sounded like everything was fine. of course i have no idea what the conversation was about, so that doesn't ease my anxiety. i need some answers.

My Answer:
chooseyourcolor.com as a trusted site? Well, let's see:

---You must sign up for a total of six offers--two from each tier of offers: top, prime, and premium).
---In its Privacy Policy (at the bottom of the page), it stated clearly that it will SHARE your information with its partner and SPAM YOU WITH ADVERTISEMENTS.
---Also in its Privacy Policy (at the bottom of the page), it stated clearly that the product that it send to you may NOT BE AS YOU EXPECTED.
---And do you need me to point out the ridiculous points in the Terms of Service, too?

Doesn't sound very good to me.


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Anyway, just for the sake of convenient, I just went through the offers myself and see what is in store for you. Well, here they are:

Remember when I said that you have to sign up for a totally of 6 offers--2 from top, 2 from prime, and two from premium?

Well, all of the offers in the premium section cost over $900 USD. That's right! Over 900 US dollars.

****That means if you had completed all 6 offers, you would have spent ABOUT $2000 USD.****


All right, now take a look at the real price of the MacBook Air: http://store.apple.com/us/browse/home/shop_mac/family/macbook_air?intcmp=AIC-WWW-NAUS-K2-BUYNOW-MACBOOKAIR-INDEX

The MacBook Air cost just about $1800 dollars.

Is this enough proofs for you that the site is a scam?

Remember: On the internet, if something seems too good to be truth, it probably is. Don't believe them.


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And about the credit card, I don't know. I have a fake credit card to use for "fun" (yeah, really "funny" stuffs, hehehe) so I've never run into these kind of trouble. Not to mention that I don't believe in these "too-good-to-be-truth" kind of offers.

If you feel guilty enough, and you have enough courage, then you should tell your mom about this and let she speaks with the bank, and they'll do something about this.

But do you have the courage to do that? I mean, after all, you did stole her credit card and then, like a moth attracted to a fire, you fell for the scam. It would be really difficult so . . . sorry, I don't know.


But hey, looking at it on a positive side: you've learned your lesson. And you won't make the same mistake again in the future! We learn from our mistakes, don't we?


Wish you luck,
=)

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Question:
I'm on birth control and my boyfriendand I when we had sex he ejaculated inside of me. How big of a chance do I have to get pregnant when that happens? I take my birth control every day but not the same time everyday. I really need to know.

My Answer:
1% to 5%, depending on whether it is a "typical use" or "perfect use" (assuming that you are not a smoker).

And with the description that you've given in your question, you are on a "typical use." So expect about 3% to 5% chance of pregnancy.

You might want to make it a habit to be a perfect user. That could decrease the chance of pregnancy to less than 1%.

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Question:
In church this morning I was kneeling down when all of a sudden i got really dizzy. I felt like i was going to puke, the dizziness got so bad that everything was just a blur then it wwent black and i couldnt see anything. i felt so sick. then i could feel my hearing going. i sat up on the pew a little bit but i still couldnt see or hear anything. i remember my mom looking at me, asking me if i am allright then telling me to sit up but i had to keep asking her wht she was saying because i couldnt hear her clearly. then she asked me if i was going tp pass out. i then got up and went outside for air and everything was better although i had a headache. my parents say it was most likely from the heat because it was hot in church. but i just find it weird because i have never fainted before. i dont know. what could have been the reasons for this?

My Answer:
Before today, did it happen before? And that morning when you wake up, did you feel unusually tired?

Anyway, I don't want to make you worry but EXPECT SOME MORE of that in the future, maybe the next one would be within the next 3 months, and all of them will happen when you are standing up from a sitting or kneeling position.

The next time it happens, immediately measure your heart rate. See if it is increase to somewhere close to 90 or 120 beats per minutes.

If it does go over 100 beats per minutes, or if this happens every single week, then I suggest you see a doctor and tell him the symptoms.

And, well, some doctors might check teh MRIs of your brain, but if that yields negative result, then tell your doctor to check on your SCM (sternocleidomastoid) and check for the possibility of POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome), too, just to make sure.


Then again, it was probably just caused because your body was reacting to the heat. But, uh, you know, just giving you a head up of what might possibly be in store.

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Question:
So I was reading a question here about IP addresses and I started to wonder what one was, and then I looked up IP address and a website told me mine, and I tracked it all the way to my house!

My question is, how can people find MY IP address, and if they can, can't they find out where you live?

My Answer:
Think of IP address as your computer's address. Just like how your house has an address, so does your computer. No two computers have the same IP address. If for some reason they do, then neither of them will be able to connect to the internet.

So, with that in mind, let's move on to your two questions.

Whenever you visit a website or chat room, that website or chat room got your IP address. It's that simple. Your IP address can be track by some plug in, scripts, or PHP codes.

Even I, a 16-year-old noob who knows very little about computer and internet, can get your IP address if you visit my website or chat room. (If you want to test this, inbox me and I'll give you the link, but I don't think you should though.)

And about figuring out where you live, the answer is both yes and no.

Yes, with your IP address, people can figure out who your ISP (Internet Service Provider) is, what country you are living in, and what state or province you are in.

But it stops there. There is NO WAY to figure out your exact (and by exact, I mean to the city and the street), location. Only your ISP has this information and your ISP will not disclose it to anyone except yourself and the government.

Alternatively you can mask your real IP address by using a proxy. But most proxies slows down your internet connection by 50% to 90% so I wouldn't recommend it, not that you need to anyway. I don't think there's anyone that have that kind of time in his/her hand to do this kind of useless thing. Heck, we barely have enough time for a 4 hours sleep to begin with. No one would waste their time on such thing, don't worry about it.

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Question:
First i want to say thank you to everyone who gave me advice to my last question! But i have more. So as i said before i had sex and im a thirteen year old female. But the guy i did it with is telling everybody. Now all kinds of guys are comeing and asking me for sex and of couarse im saying no but they make fun of me to and just wont leave me alone! What can I do to make them stop? Also the guy i did have sex with is asking for more and he knows he hurt me already from breaking up with me but just doesnt seem to care and now hes threatening me. He is very intiminating and im really nervouse! What am i gonna do?

My Answer:
Black mail him!


Here's how:

Since things have come to this, it's time for vengeance. Let's laugh some evil laugh and slowly send him to hell.

It's very simple. The very fact that you're a girl under 18 years of age is your distinct and irreplaceable advantage over him. The law is protecting you, the people will protect you, and your tears will also be your last-resort protection. You have already won the battle.


*******VERY IMPORTANT*******
Yes, you have already won the battle, but the question is: can you win the war?

Please take that into consideration. I'll elaborate on it more at the end.
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Anyway, first: The Impending Doom

---Tell him that you would tell his parents, the teachers, the police, and if he push the matter any further, you would take the matter to the juvenile court.

---Most likely, he would respond with some sort of "do you dare?" kind of line. Affirm that you mean it, and you are not joking, and you are not afraid of him either.


Second: Charge Forth the Impending Doom

---If he still does not stop what is doing, and ignoring your warning, go tell your favourite teacher about this. If you are currently on summer break, then go tell a neighbor.

---What the teacher/neighbor would do is act as a "mediator." Ask him/her to accompany you when you tell your parents about this.

---Your parents would most likely go "lions protect daughter" (if you know what I mean) but you have a shield right there (the teacher/neighbor) so you would be fine. Tolerate your parents' language and reaction at that moment though, because such news would cause them to feel as if the whole sky has just fell down on them. Also, be mentally prepare for a whole week of awkward dinner.

---Your parents would contact his parents, and his parents would probably go "tiger protects mountain" on him. He doesn't have a shield like you so . . . consider him dead.


Third: Lingering Doom

---So, you have proved that you would do what you said. Threat him that you would take it to the court if he continue. The table has turned. Your weakness is now your weapon.

---Don't push him to the wall though. Dog will turn back and bite you if it has no more place to run. Not to mention that he does have a few laws that protect him.



Also, you have a cell phone, don't you? As you may have already know, cell phones are very convenient recording devices. (Are you seeing what I am coming at now?)

Yes, yes, yes, you guessed right. Try to place a few "conversation traps" where you play the role of a good girl who is being intimidated by him. Record the conversations between you and him then. Most likely he'll say a bunch of things taht are unfavorable to himself, which, in the future, will be your proofs of his harassment to you--those records will be one of your weapons.


Tears: well, a girl's tear could calm a storm. If you cry in front of your parents or his parents, you're the one that's right. Sympathy kicks in and they all the sudden feel like you should be protected. That's another move that you can pull.


*******VERY IMPORTANT*******
So, after reading all this, have you noticed one major flaw of this plan?

Yes, you are right. It's the war itself. You have waited too long to make your move, and the news has spread. One last question:

Do you have close friends whom you trust and are willing to support you? If yes, then you've won. Heck, if you've got some close friends, you don't even have to do all that. Dealing with matters alone is hard, but with support, it becomes easy.
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Question:
Okay, well I wasn't really sure where to put this but uh here goes. So I'm 13/F and he was 14/M. He is an awesome friend but he's always been a perv. Anyway, he took it too far this time and I flipped out. We were walking in a group and some other guys that we were with were making fun of him about how he "can't get a girl" and he says "I can get any girl I want!" so he grabs me, pins me against a wall, and sticks his hand down my pants. I freaked and kicked him in the balls... He looked like he was in severe pain. I almost felt bad but not really cuz what did he expect? But now he's super pissed at me. I don't think he has a right! Does anyone else think I was out of line?

My Answer:
Well, no, I cannot say that you were out of line, but next time, I suggest you hit him in the solar plexus instead. That would be a little bit better (I think, hehehe).


Also, there is one good news and one bad news, which one would you like to read first?


--How about we go with the good news first? =D

The good news is . . . that you have done no permanent damage to him! There is a MYTH that said that getting kick "where the sun doesn't shine" (hahaha) may possibly sterilize a man (making unable to have children) or kill him.

Well, that's a MYTH! Unless you are a girl who has some sort of iron leg that can break a person's bone with one kick (which, hopefully, you are not), the damage that you did to him is close to none--only temporary pain.

It's not as bad as breaking a bone, to be honest.


--And the bad news? =O

Well, the bad news is . . . that IT HURTS LIKE HELL! It's a pain in the lower-abdomen area that is sharp enough to make the person stop breathing for a few seconds--could be several seconds, depending on the power of the kick--and immobilize him for almost a minute to a few minutes. The pain would last anywhere from a few minutes to over half an hour.

Anyway, I got hit by a soccer ball during practice so it might be different from getting a direct hit from a kick but . . . well, should be similar enough.

As for girls, try compare that to when you get punch in your breast (or boob) and multiply it by about 5 times.


So . . . good girls . . . and bad girls, too . . . don't try this at home on a guy (or boy): http://imagechan.com/images/cc441a1e9f602658accd9d2c15940bd6.jpg

Just like how a guy could never understand a woman's pain when she is giving birth, a girl could never understand the pain of a man when he got kicked in the groin.

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Question:
ok, the game my little sister plays is webkinz.com. since you can't get on it from buying a pet from a real store, its like a little kid game, and its interactive/multiplayer/whatever you call it. i've checked it out, and it seems like a pretty safe game, i don't think its dangerous to open up ports or whatever. whats going on with the game is, when she goes into one of these 'clubhouse rooms (where they like talk and trade or something with eachother..) she gets an error message. i've tried calling them and everything, and they said that they new they were having a problem with that, but now it shouldn't do that. but, its still doing that for us.

also, we just switched our internet, like right around when it started happening, we have internet from AT&T and its wireless.

here are the instructions again, that they gave me.:
Please make sure that all of your pop up blockers are off. If you have a router,
please make sure that the HTTP port 80 is open and the FTP port 21 is open.

If this still does not fix the problem, contact your internet service provider
to check that your security settings on your modem are not set too 'high'.


ok, i tried doing the popper blocker thing, and that failed. the game is still getting the error message.

to be honest, i really am not sure what a router and that stuff looks like. i mean, i think i know what a router looks like.. is it that thing that flashes lights and well on mine its called speedstream.. so yeah. i think that is a router.

and then when we got our new internet, we had a wireless adapter, but we got bad connection and so they replaced it, and did something else. but i don't see anything, i've looked at all the cords and everything, but i can't find anything that looks like a router or anything.

so, i'm assuming i don't have one?

i know my IP? but not ISP. i tried finding it, but i couldn't find it on at&t website. because someone said if you go to the internet website, and go to about us, you can find it. but i could not. so yeah.

if you could help me any further, that would be great.

My Answer:
So . . . have you checked for your open ports yet?

If you haven't, then
---open RUN
---Type in "cmd" (without the quotes) to activate Command Prompt
---in Command Prompt, type in "netstat -an" (without quotes)

You should see something like this:
http://img13.imageshack.us/img13/7244/commandpromptport80.jpg

If port 80 is there, then that means it's open.

If it's not, then to open it, you need to first figure out whether you have a router or not. And if you have a router, then you need to know the exact version of it. There are many steps to be done. I suggest you go here for a detail tutorial http://portforward.com/

But still, I honestly don't think the problem lies in your port.

Why don't you check if it's your firewall that's blocking it? Go to
Control Panel--->Windows Firewall--->Turn off Windows Firewall

Once your firewall is turned off, clear your ALL OF YOUR INTERNET CACHE and try again.


If that doesn't work, uninstall your current flash player by using Adobe's uninstaller:
http://kb2.adobe.com/cps/141/tn_14157.html

Then try download a new web browser. Choose ONE of the followings then download and install it:

---Google Chrome: http://www.google.com/chrome
---It is the fastest web browser as of now. It offers you stability, security, and speed.

---Mozilla Firefox: http://www.mozilla.com/firefox/
---It has many available add-ons--highly customizable. It offers you security and extendability. It is faster than Internet Explorer.

---Opera: http://www.opera.com/
---It is the most stable web browser as of now. Its speed is faster than Firefox but slower than Chrome. It has add-ons, but not as many as Firefox.


After that, install the latest flash player: http://get.adobe.com/flashplayer/

(remember to close all web browsers before you installing it)


Clear ALL of your internet cache and try again.

If this doesn't work either, then it's a problem on their site. You will have to contact them.


If you have problem performing any of these step, you can email me or inbox me again.

By the way, just some suggestion, do you think your sister could use these sites while waiting for that problem to be fix?

http://www.buildabearville.com/
http://www.myepets.com/

Those sites seem pretty girlish to me -_-


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ABOUT ROUTER

To begin with, both modem and router "flashes" lights. It's kind of . . . hard (if not impossible) to rely on the lights alone to determine whether it's a modem or router, hehehe.


Anyway, by your description, I am pretty sure that you have DSL connection, which means that you DEFINITELY have a modem.

A router looks like a modem. If you see two modems, then one of them is the modem and the other one is the router. Yeah, try that.

If you have a router, your connection would go like this:
Computer--->Router--->Modem--->Internet

If you DON'T have a router, your connection would go like this:
Computer--->Modem--->Internet


And it's not your IP address that matters here. It's the address to the set up page of your router or modem. It's not the unique IP address of your computer; it's the IP address of the router or modem.

---For example: my IP address is 75.169.238.240
---but my router's address is 192.168.1.1
---and my modem's address is 192.168.0.1


Also, ISP stands for Internet Service Provider. That means your ISP is AT&T. Yes, you do know who your ISP is =)

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Question:
ok, on this game my little sister plays she was having problems. so this is what the game told her to do:
Please make sure that all of your pop up blockers are off. If you have a router,
please make sure that the HTTP port 80 is open and the FTP port 21 is open.

If this still does not fix the problem, contact your internet service provider
to check that your security settings on your modem are not set too 'high'.

I'm pretty sure we don't have a router because i have wireless internet.. so i don't think i do?

i'm guessing that the modem is set to high, or something.

do i have to call my internet? or does anyone know how to do this??

My Answer:
Yes, if you have wireless connection, then you might have a router. 70% of wireless networks have a router.

Check if there's anything between your computer and your modem. Alternatively, on your computer, view the network devices and check for the presence of the device.


To check all of your open ports, go to Run, and type in "cmd" (without the quotes).

In Command Prompt, type in "netstat -an" without the quote.

You should see a list of your open ports there.


But why do you need to have port 80 open anyway? What kind of game is that? Your port 80 SHOULD NOT BE OPEN, unless you are running a webserver; and port 21 is for FTP server. (I don't think you're running a server here so don't open those ports.)

Opening port 80 means opening yourself to more security risks. If this is to run some necessary program or service, then yes, it's all right. But for a game? I don't think it worth the risk. You might want to reconsider this.l

Could you please send me the link to this game that your sister is playing?


Anyway, to open those ports, go to the following website for a detail tutorial:
http://portforward.com/

You need to know what kind of router you have though.


As for your modem, in case you don't have a router, most of the time the default setting is good enough. I suggest that you don't mess with it just because of a game. And yes, this you will have to talk with your ISP, unless you know the link to the setup page (for example: 192.168.0.1), which I don't think you do.


I suggest you to look over your pop-up blockers first.

In Firefox, go to Tool--->Option--->Content
and uncheck "Block pop-up windows"

In Internet Explorer, go to
Tool--->Pop-up Blocker--->turn off pop-up blocker.

You can always enable them back =)


And sorry for not being able to give you a more detail answer. I don't know your OS and what kind of router you have. I don't even know what game that is.

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Question:
16/F

Anxiety and depression runs in my family.. My mom, dad, and brother are all on depression medicine. I was once diagnosed with deperession about 3-4 years ago, but I overcame it. I now have realized that I am starting to feel major anxiety. (always wondering what my boyfriend's doing, why won't he text me back, what if something bad happens to my family, etc.) I overthink everythingg. I AM SO SICK OF THIS! I'm a happy person, but this anxiety is turning into depression.

I've tried a lot of things to fight this. (praying, learning how to not be so senstive, and now I'm going to try meditating.) I really do not want to take medication like the rest of my family, but I'm afraid it's come down to that.

What are some tips for fighting anxiety and depression? What medications are helpful?

Thanks so much!

My Answer:
First of all, good choice.

Some antidepressants and anxiety medications come with nasty side effects, especially on females. Of course some are better than others, but the doctors could never know for sure which is best for you. It's not very rare to see patients request their doctors for a medication change. Attempting to overcome anxiety and depression without the help of medication is a good choice.


Also, be careful with your meditation. Stay absolutely still for an extended period of time is extremely difficult for a human. It will be hard, uncomfortable, and quite annoying. Once you are used to it, meditating will help you keeping your emotion in control, but during your first week of doing that, make sure that you sleep after you have meditated.

Else, your "uncomfortableness + annoyance + anxiety" would turn you into a machine gun that shoot jealousy bullets at your boyfriend.



Getting counseling and medications are popular methods of fighting clinical depression and anxiety. These are treatments that use external influences and materials.

What you are trying to do here is the opposite--influence from within, or self-help.

So I suggest that you combine the two of them together. You will meditate and exercise every morning, as well as drink a lot of water and eat well; but at the same time, you will also get counseling and support from close friends.


About exercising, I would suggest that you wake up as soon as 4:00 AM and job for at least 30 minutes, if possible. If not, try 5:00 AM or 6:00 AM; the latest is 7:00 AM. Well, it's depends on whether your neighborhood is safe or not and whether your martial art skills are decent (whether you can take on one or two armed men or not), but strive for the earliest possible, counting from 4:00 AM. Remember: safety comes first.

Don't forget to drink a lot of water and take a nice bath (or shower) after you've done jogging. It's a perfect way to start off a day--very refreshing.


When you feel like you are over-thinking too much, try lying on your bed and have your left arm lie over your forehead. Close your eyes and relax your body for a while. It will help somewhat.


Counseling and supports from whom you trust and love are definitely necessary. It's tough to go through those "I wonder" and "what if" games alone. . . .

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Question:
14/f
sophmore

I am trying to start to plan my career. I orignally wante to be a vet but I believe that that would be to much school. I want a job in medical needs or medicine that pays well. So I started talking with my family and they told me that Pharmacist get payed well and you only need to go to school for 5-7 years. I was wondering of what should I focus more in school for. I know science and math but is there anything else that I can do. Also if you know anything else about studying to be a pharmacist if you could please give me links or information about this occupation. Thanks.

My Answer:
While you are still in high school, besides math and science, I would recommend you to take health and medical classes so that you would have some base knowledge in the field.


Also, in your junior year (11th grade), I would definitely recommend you to take a Medical Terminology class, if your school offers it. Medical Terminology is a half-year class that give you college credit--it's a concurrent enrollment. Don't worry, even though it's a college class, it's fairly easy, just a lot of medical terms. Devote about one to two hours each day looking over those medical terms and you'll breeze through the course without much trouble.

In your junior or senior year, I also recommend you to take Medical Anatomy and Physiology.

You should DEFINITELY consider joining HOSA (Health Occupations Students of America) and become a HOSA officer, too. Ask your school about this. Most high schools in the US have a HOSA club. I am aiming for a career in the medical field, too, and HOSA has provided me many valuable information and experience.

More information about HOSA here: http://www.hosa.org/


In your senior year, you should attempt to get a pharmacy technician certification. If your GPA is above 3.0 (this is different depending on you school), your school WILL PAY FOR YOUR TUITION FEE. Pharmacy technicians are people who assist licensed pharmacists. (You have to be 18 years old to take the certification test though, you should talk to your school counselor about this.)

This will help you get some hand-on experience of being a pharmacist. And while at that, you'll make about $10 to $15 per hour. It's a win-win situation.


Also, while in high school, if possible, you might want to take a few AP classes, too. If you pass the final exam, you'll have college credits. In my experience, AP English is fairly easy; AP US History is not too bad either; but AP Chemistry and AP Calculus are serious pains in the neck. This will help you finish college faster.


Another thing, if you think you can handle it, ask your health teacher for a chance to go to a cadaver lab ("cadaver" means dead body). It's a lab where you get a chance to touch real ("real" as in REALISTIC!) human brain, human heart, etc.; where you watch a professor dissect real human body.

You have be mentally ready though, because the last time we (50 students who are interested in the medical field in my school, including me) went there, one student passed out during the lab, and another walked out. That's only 1% though (2 out of 50), but, you know, make sure you're not within the 1%.



As for links, the followings are some good ones:

http://www.bls.gov/oco/ocos079.htm
http://www.pharmacy.purdue.edu/students/prospective/
http://www.aacp.org/resources/student/pharmacyforyou/Pages/default.aspx

Those three websites will tell you pretty much everything you needed to know about becoming a pharmacist.


Hope this helps,
Ng2491 =)

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Question:
how long does it take for the body to shut down completely without eating at all?

My Answer:
It depends on many factors:

--Whether you're a healthy person! (obviously)

--The amount of muscle and body fat that you have! When you are starved, your body will find other "stuffs" to survive off of. And apparently it finds that muscles and fat are some good "stuffs."

--Your metabolism baseline! Starvation slows down your metabolism. So basically, if your metabolism is already slow, you've got some advantage.

--And then there are some other factors such as your location and temperature (e.g. a desert vs. your room), what you have to do, etc.

--Last but not least, your WILL POWER!!! (Question is: what kind of will would you have then? The will to survive? Or is it the will to enjoy your last moments of life to the fullest?)


Anyway, depend on those factors, a person may live for about 4 to 6 weeks at minimum, and about 25 to 30 weeks at maximum. Of course, this is only an estimate. No test (that I know of) has been conducted yet.

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Question:
The icon for MSN has disappeared from my computer. I have looked everywhere and I can't find it. It's been gone for a while but I'd managed because I was using Guest account because MSN comes up automatically on there. But I've gone back to my normal computer account and it's still not here. I recently lost everything on my computer (due to step-dads knowing nothing!!!!! :@). I can't reinstall it because its not in Programs/Features where I can uninstall it. So I can't install it again from msn.com because it says I already have it downloaded.
But I do know it hasn't gone, just the icon or anything just to get onto MSN.

Any ideas??

My Answer:
Do NOT unplug the computer and turn it on again like the guy below me told you to, unless you want to risk breaking your computer. There are always better alternatives.

All right, since you know about Program/Features, then I will assume that you know quite a bit about computer and have checked your "Program Files\Windows Live\Messenger" ("Program Files (86)\Windows Live\Messenger", if you're running 64-Bit Windows) folder and still unable to find msnmsgr.exe

And you've also check Start--->All Programs--->Windows Live--->Windows Live Messenger but still unable to find it.


So, to uninstall your old one, in your Program/Feature, look for "Windows Live Essential" and run it.

Screenshot: http://img22.imageshack.us/img22/4116/windowsliveessentials.jpg

Windows Live Essential will run you through the uninstall process where you can uninstall your old MSN.

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Question:
I heard that Billy Mays (inventor of mighty putty, oxiclean, orange glo, etc. & was famous for those crazy infomercials) died at age 50 on June 28, 2009 (yesterday). Somebody posted it on MySpace and when I logged in I saw it and was like, "Billy Mays died TOO!?" I mean, Michael Jackson just died a few days ago! What's with all of the celebrities dying and stuff, right?

Anyway, is it true that Billy Mays died?

How did Billy Mays die, if so?

My Answer:
Question #1: Yes, he did died.

Question #2: His cause of death is, as of now, unknown. Hypertensive heart disease and arteriosclerotic heart disease are suspected to be the causes of his death.

Also, He DID NOT died of head trauma like the other three columnists on here claimed.


More about his death (if you really wish to know):

According to the autopsy report of Dr. Vernard Adams, a medical examiner of Hillsborough County, there were signs of hypertensive heart disease and arteriosclerotic heart disease. So they probably are the cause of his death.

Hypertensive heart disease: any heart disease caused by high blood pressure.

Arteriosclerotic heart disease: fat build up in coronary arteries and interrupt the flow of blood to the heart (hence: arteri--->artery and scler--->hardening).


Here's the link to the video: http://www.cnn.com/video/?/video/us/2009/06/29/sot.mays.autopsy.results.cnn

But--note this--as of now, this is just merely a high possibility. Nothing is sure yet.


Again, there were signs of hypertensive AND arterioscleriotic disease of the heart.


Apparently a toxicology test (a standard test for drugs) will be conduct and it will be complete within six to eight weeks. Also, histologic studies (using microscopes to examine the tissues) will also be conduct.

Let's wait until then before we jump into any conclusion and risk spreading false news.


Again, the cause of his death is NOT YET KNOWN, at least not until the final results of the histologic studies and toxicology test are revealed. Hypertensive heart disease and arteriosclerotic heart disease are the top suspected causes of his death as-of-now.

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Question:
Somebody told me that Billy Mays died of hypertensive heart disease (is that true, by the way?) and he didn't really die from hitting his head in the airplane. What is hypertensive heart disease, out of curiosity?

My Answer:
Hypertensive heart disease: any heart disease caused by high blood pressure.

If you want extensive definition with a lot of medical terminology then go ahead and check out the following link:
http://www.webmd.com/hypertension-high-blood-pressure/guide/hypertensive-heart-disease

(But if you go with my definition, it's still correct.)


And about Billy Mays, according to the autopsy report of Dr. Vernard Adams, a medical examiner of Hillsborough County, there were signs of hypertensive heart disease and arteriosclerotic heart disease. So they probably are the cause of his death.

But--note this--as of now, this is just merely a high possibility. Nothing is sure yet.


Again, there were signs of hypertensive AND arterioscleriotic disease of the heart.


Apparently a toxicology test (a standard test for drugs) will be conduct and it will be complete within six to eight weeks. Also, histologic studies (using microscopes to examine the tissues) will also be conduct.

Let's wait until then before we jump into any conclusion and risk spreading false news.


Again, the cause of his death is NOT YET KNOWN, at least not until the final results of the histologic studies and toxicology test are revealed. Hypertensive heart disease and arteriosclerotic heart disease are the top suspected causes of his death as-of-now.



Source of Information: autopsy report from Dr. Vernard Adams, a medical examiner of Hillsborough County:
http://www.cnn.com/video/?/video/us/2009/06/29/sot.mays.autopsy.results.cnn

(I highly recommend you to watch the video. It'll tell you all that you wanted to know. Another reason is that because so far, about one-third of the news that I've read about Billy Mays are either FALSE or INCOMPLETE. You should be able to distinguish what is false and what is right after watching that video [and maybe explain to that "somebody" about what really is going on, too].)


Feel free to inbox me if you have any more question on this,
Ng2491 =)

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