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I kicked him...
Okay, well I wasn't really sure where to put this but uh here goes. So I'm 13/F and he was 14/M. He is an awesome friend but he's always been a perv. Anyway, he took it too far this time and I flipped out. We were walking in a group and some other guys that we were with were making fun of him about how he "can't get a girl" and he says "I can get any girl I want!" so he grabs me, pins me against a wall, and sticks his hand down my pants. I freaked and kicked him in the balls... He looked like he was in severe pain. I almost felt bad but not really cuz what did he expect? But now he's super pissed at me. I don't think he has a right! Does anyone else think I was out of line?
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No, you weren't out of line. In fact, I applaud you for beating the shit out of him. If that had happened to me, I would have continued beating the shit out of him. He's obviously a dick. And I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself. You go, girl!
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that is quite a nutty story by the way you explained it, DONT FEEL SORRY FOR HIM (im 18/m btw) you didnt want him there so you did what they teach all women in self defencee classes. aim below the belt. as it turns out your aim was swift and worked am i right?? haha
yeah, he's being the little crying whin'o about it let him be like that you have all the rights NOT HIM
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No not at all..what you did was nothing wrongg he touched you when you didn't want to be why should you have to take what he did?? I would've personally kicked him too and I would've done it HARDER. Don't let anyone touch you if you feel uncomfortable its your body and you shouldn't feel like you did something wrong because you didn't who cares if he's upset with you he shouldn't of touched you ! Let him be pist off he'll get over it and if he doesn't then forget about him don't ever let a man silence you from anythingg they do to you .
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HAHAHAHAHA
I wish I could have seen that. He got what he deserved, don't feel bad about it.
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You were not at all out of fine. He sexually harassed you to "prove" a point. For him to be mad at you because of how you reacted is bullshit.
Tell him to go fuck himself & stop hanging out with him.
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Hey!
You did the absolutely right thing to do, that's ridiculous he should have NEVER done that to you. You were not out of line, he deserved that! Something similar to this happened to me i slapped him across the face. ha ha. Well, wait until he cools off and tell him not to try that again. Good job! ha ha :) Talk to him about it, and he won't do it again.
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Haha, nice one. I would have done the same thing. See, some guys (not all) don't know what it feels like to be violated like that. They don't understand the way it makes girls feel and react. So even though he probably knows he was wrong he probably doesn't see why you it made you as angry as it did. Girls have it tough these days, what with the whole double standard of morality and all that. Some boys just don't get it. They were raised by society to embrace and be proud of their manhood and they just expect girls to feel the same. Well thats not how it works and I'm not saying he has any excuse whatsoever for what he did because his actions were completely unnacceptable and I think you had every right to defend yourslf like you did. I am only telling you that some boys don't and never will undestand what it feels like to be man handled or violated and they probably won't be able to sympathize. Yeah it sucks but I'm sure your delicious little kick will make this boy think twice before he screws with you again. Hahah, right on, I'm totally on your side.
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You were not out of line at all. If someone sexually assaults you and gets kicked in the balls...they should consider themselves lucky
thats all they got. You tell him I said so! LOL.
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Not at all. He deserved it. No one should be sticking their hands down your pants without permission, especially in public to prove a point. (And a lame point at that.)
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You go girl ! I would have done the same exact thing. Kicking him in the balls might hurt like HELL for the guy, but afer what he did, I would have wanted to get a wrecking ball and send it flying into his groin.
ahaha.. just kidding about the last part, but honestly, that's sexual harassment and he should NOT have done that. You were completly in the right and he was totally in the wrong ... the VERY wrong.
Hopefully he apologizes, but if he doesn't, at least you stood up for yourself :] good luck ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me xxo.
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You weren't out of line.
I am not a guy, but I have heard horror stories from my boyfriend about getting kicked in the groin area.
So, Yeah, It probally did severly hurt for him, but NO guy has the right to touch you where it makes you uncomfortable; unless you want them/tell them too.
Peace, Love, Happiness;
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You weren't out of line. If he apologizes to you for his unwanted feel you should apologize for kicking him in the balls, but if he doesn't, fuck him.
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you were not out of line at all. No man should ever throw you around and have his way with you like that. Thats sexual harassment and he deserved it. The other posters are right, it does hurt like hell but its only temporary and he hopefully learned his lesson. nobody should be stickin their hands in your pants when ur 13.
He shouldnt be mad at you, YOU should be mad at him. He made you look like a peice of meat and thats not cool.
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Well, no, I cannot say that you were out of line, but next time, I suggest you hit him in the solar plexus instead. That would be a little bit better (I think, hehehe).
Also, there is one good news and one bad news, which one would you like to read first?
--How about we go with the good news first? =D
The good news is . . . that you have done no permanent damage to him! There is a MYTH that said that getting kick "where the sun doesn't shine" (hahaha) may possibly sterilize a man (making unable to have children) or kill him.
Well, that's a MYTH! Unless you are a girl who has some sort of iron leg that can break a person's bone with one kick (which, hopefully, you are not), the damage that you did to him is close to none--only temporary pain.
It's not as bad as breaking a bone, to be honest.
--And the bad news? =O
Well, the bad news is . . . that IT HURTS LIKE HELL! It's a pain in the lower-abdomen area that is sharp enough to make the person stop breathing for a few seconds--could be several seconds, depending on the power of the kick--and immobilize him for almost a minute to a few minutes. The pain would last anywhere from a few minutes to over half an hour.
Anyway, I got hit by a soccer ball during practice so it might be different from getting a direct hit from a kick but . . . well, should be similar enough.
As for girls, try compare that to when you get punch in your breast (or boob) and multiply it by about 5 times.
So . . . good girls . . . and bad girls, too . . . don't try this at home on a guy (or boy): [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Just like how a guy could never understand a woman's pain when she is giving birth, a girl could never understand the pain of a man when he got kicked in the groin.
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Oh he was definetly out of line! He deserved that.
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That was a total invasion of privacy and completely out of line. He made you uncomfortable, why shouldn't he be punished by being uncomfortable too? He'll get over it. Don't let him make you feel bad about it at all!
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Honestly, you could get him into alot of trouble over that ; considering its sexual harrassment. I would just talk to him, tell him you don't want to be friends anymore that he was way out of line. You should let him know that your not sorry for what he did.
& you shouldnt be sorry. He was touching you, when you didnt want him to. He deserved to be kicked in the balls, no matter what JACK said.
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Okay,
Personally, I would of done the same thing. Not only has he disrespected you but wth! was he thinking? I say good for you! No guy should ever put his hands down a girls pants like that without her permission. It is completely out of line and shows ignorance on his part. Who cares if he is pissed, The fault is on him. It shows that you have enough respect for yourself to tell a guy to back off! Frankly, Someone who does such a thing I wouldn't concider them a friend anymore either. There are much better guys out there for friends than a complete idiot who has no respect.
-BahaiMa22
24/F
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I'm kind of upset at what the columnist below said, because never really "deserve a good kick in the balls", because girls don't understand how much it hurts. Like, imagine having an elephant step on you repeatedly, and it still hurts more than that.
Anyway, he certainly shouldn't have done what he did, but maybe next time a slap would suffice.
I would apologize for kicking him there, though he did deserve some sort of punishment for doing what he did. Be the bigger person.
--Jack
(17/m)
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Okay Jack, so it does hurt alot.
But like one of the other columnists said, he made her uncomfortable, so she made him uncomfortable. You shouldn't be upset that I said that because if he hadn't been being an immature idiot, he wouldn't have had that problem. And incase you didn't notice, I did say that she should talk to him about it and apologize for hurting him, but that she can't take all of the blame for his pain. A slap might have helped too but that was her first thought and she was protecting herself, he should have seen something coming. It's his fault anyway, so he shouldn't try to make her feel bad just because she hit him where it hurts. If he thinks he has the right to get up on her and stick his hand down her pants without any say-so from her, then she has the right to hit him where ever she just so happens to hit him, it really doesn't matter. It might hurt like a bitch, but he'll get over it. It doesn't change the fact that it was his fault she kicked him in the first place.
And it does show that you have respect for yourself because you didn't just stand there and let him do it.
P.S. I think the good kick in the balls made a longer lasting impression than a slap in the face would have.
And if he really is a good friend, he wouldn't stop being your friend or be mad at your for his bad. If he was a true friend he would admit he was out of line and let it go that you kicked him in the nuts, and that he asked for it.
If he was really a true friend he would still want to be your friend and get past that. If not, he is as immature as his act was.
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